Avoid trap of losing money to women

[Danderman123]

4 hours ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

Are you going to send them the money ?

How much would they want ?

I have to listen to their pitch when I get back. One is probably just going to ask for a “loan”, the other will likely have a business proposition.

[OneMoreFarang]

On 5/19/2022 at 6:21 AM, Danderman123 said:

I know a Mamasan who comes over to my place once a week for a sleepover.

Mama = Mother is the important part of that word.

In other words: A women who worked for many years as a bargirl and when she was too old to go with customers she trained the new girls.

I am sure she is happy she found a place to sleep for free.

[OneMoreFarang]

Interesting. A thread with the title "Avoid trap of losing money to women" and then posters who find reasons why they want to give money to some ladies.

[BritManToo]

3 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Interesting. A thread with the title "Avoid trap of losing money to women" and then posters who find reasons why they want to give money to some ladies.

You can't fix stupid!

[Danderman123]

2 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Mama = Mother is the important part of that word.

In other words: A women who worked for many years as a bargirl and when she was too old to go with customers she trained the new girls.

I am sure she is happy she found a place to sleep for free.

She has an interesting bio, which is nothing like you describe.

 

Does she go with customers? Sure.  She also owns the bar where she works. So, finding a place to sleep for free is not a priority.

Edited May 22, 2022 by Danderman123

[Danderman123]

2 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Interesting. A thread with the title "Avoid trap of losing money to women" and then posters who find reasons why they want to give money to some ladies.

I’m not going to give ladies free money, trust me.

[transam]

13 minutes ago, Danderman123 said:

I’m not going to give ladies free money, trust me.

Bet your birds don't.......????

[RafPinto]

8 hours ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

Are you going to send them the money ?

How much would they want ?

600 Baht to top up their phone to be able to chat to their other 20 boyfriends abroad.

[Mac Mickmanus]

6 hours ago, Danderman123 said:

She has an interesting bio, which is nothing like you describe.

 

Does she go with customers? Sure.  She also owns the bar where she works. So, finding a place to sleep for free is not a priority.

Does she really own the bar, or does she pay a monthly rent , 50 000 Baht or whatever the current going rate is ?

[YITB1980]

On 5/7/2022 at 9:57 AM, 2009 said:

You are best off staying single here.

 

Thailand must be one of the best places on Earth to be single, why do we make the mistake of getting hooked up? 

We are all a long way from home. Many of us try the “relationship thing” because we like the idea of someone on the ground here who seemingly cares about us and complements our lives. Of course, whether she really cares (or not) could be the subject of another thread.

[Danderman123]

4 hours ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

Does she really own the bar, or does she pay a monthly rent , 50 000 Baht or whatever the current going rate is ?

Same as any bar owner, she has a lease. 

[Mac Mickmanus]

4 minutes ago, Danderman123 said:

Same as any bar owner, she has a lease. 

So She rents a bar , rather than owning a bar 

[Danderman123]

14 minutes ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

So She rents a bar , rather than owning a bar 

The common term is "bar owner", but you are free to call people who operate bars whatever you like. 

[Mac Mickmanus]

8 minutes ago, Danderman123 said:

The common term is "bar owner", but you are free to call people who operate bars whatever you like. 

They bought the lease from the owners that allows them to rent the bar for  set number of years , they can sell the lease, but they cannot sell the bar .

   They rent the bar, same as I rent a Condo

[The Hammer2021]

On 4/29/2022 at 9:29 PM, Doctor Tom said:

How is any of this any different from western woman, men, failed marriages and relationships.?  If you have screwed up at home, you will screw up here, unless you have leant the lesson.  If you haven't learnt said lesson, and you need to have it explained to you again on a public forum, then good luck mate, for you will certainly need it. 

Absolutely- it's a kind of generalised anti thai racism and like most racist stereotypes often found  in ignorant  people who by no coincidence lose their money first to  a western woman,  then here to an Asian woman and look for answers  that don't include  their own culpability.

[formanth]

Every guy I know who lived in Thailand lost money. $100,000+ Married Thais and money went into family or taken by women or just wasted on randoms.

Now not rich folk either average people.

Whats the best way to avoid this?

Is there a way of living that results in fun without the downside? That is whilst still dating women etc.

People say rent dont buy but that costs. 

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Yes there is. But it requires getting rid of hills of societal programming given to you from well meaning family, friends, teachers, clergy, doctrines and so on...and "re-wiring" your beliefs and thought processes. This takes a lot of hard work and most people would rather not do what's hard but what's easy.  Outcome independence is one ingredient. Having personal goals and a mission in life to keep your occupied rather than busy worrying what so and so is doing, is another.

 

If you think men have "hills" of societal programming leading to all manner of difficult "consequences", women have mountains of it. You might have noticed how they change in their 30's with a few more rules, demands and expectations that younger women are not always so insistent on, generally speaking. ( yes there are always exceptions).                                              

 

One thing that many here will agree with is that you can't avoid the "costs".  You have to pay, to "play".

How much it all costs and if that is agreeable to you ( worth it) , is where many differ.

But one thing that many men prefer, as they get older, is pair-bonding, being with someone rather than going solo.

You don't have to be married to pair bond.  Be thankful Thailand give you choices when it comes to fun.

[CartagenaWarlock]

On 4/13/2022 at 6:50 AM, Sparktrader said:

Its still hard for most guys. The little head takes over. If only it was so easy. One bloke said he wished his willy was cut off at age 20 then he would be rich.

What's the fun of becoming rich if one cannot enjoy the sensual pleasures?

[Mac Mickmanus]

28 minutes ago, CartagenaWarlock said:

What's the fun of becoming rich if one cannot enjoy the sensual pleasures?

What time is it where you are ?

[CartagenaWarlock]

2 hours ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

What time is it where you are ?

I'm live in Las Vegas, USA

[Danderman123]

On 5/21/2022 at 3:55 PM, Danderman123 said:

I have to listen to their pitch when I get back. One is probably just going to ask for a “loan”, the other will likely have a business proposition.

Well, one of the ladies that wanted to “talk to me” this week got into a fight with her Thai boyfriend, he beat the <deleted> out of her, she fled, and now she is making noises about moving in with me. Which is worse than asking for a loan.

 

The norm is for her to be angry for 2 days after a fight. Hopefully, she will get over it by tomorrow and not think about moving in with me anymore. I can’t afford free sex, I would much rather pay.

[Danderman123]

On 5/23/2022 at 11:07 PM, Danderman123 said:

Well, one of the ladies that wanted to “talk to me” this week got into a fight with her Thai boyfriend, he beat the <deleted> out of her, she fled, and now she is making noises about moving in with me. Which is worse than asking for a loan.

 

The norm is for her to be angry for 2 days after a fight. Hopefully, she will get over it by tomorrow and not think about moving in with me anymore. I can’t afford free sex, I would much rather pay.

This lady fled her Thai boyfriend for a couple of days, went back to his place, and is now happy again. Hopefully, she will have forgotten whatever issue she had last week.

 

The other lady who wanted to talk to me has a buyer for her bar and wanted to talk about business issues.

 

So, no money requests, I dodged a bullet.

[Danderman123]

I have a lady come to my condo for massage once a week. About every two months, she sends me a photo of a relative in the hospital. I guess she wants a donation, but I ignore her.

 

I think she doesn’t know that I know about the 30 baht medical plan in Thailand. 
 

If I donated to every Thai lady with a relative in the hospital, I would be broke in a month. Thai families are large, and, in Isaan, they are in and out of hospitals.

Edited May 27, 2022 by Danderman123

[RafPinto]

43 minutes ago, Danderman123 said:

I have a lady come to my condo for massage once a week. About every two months, she sends me a photo of a relative in the hospital. I guess she wants a donation, but I ignore her.

 

I think she doesn’t know that I know about the 30 baht medical plan in Thailand. 
 

If I donated to every Thai lady with a relative in the hospital, I would be broke in a month. Thai families are large, and, in Isaan, they are in and out of hospitals.

And the bufallos with broken legs and on a waiting list for heart transplant.

[Danderman123]

I have a Mamasan bargirlfriend who lends money to bargirls and is always paid back. Because she also pays their salaries and grabs her money back first, with interest.