Isaan sailor Posted May 7, 2022 Share Posted May 7, 2022 1 hour ago, OneMoreFarang said: I am sure many of us also like a lot about Thailand and not just one specific girl/woman. My question was not about moving away from Thailand but moving away from the wife's village somewhere up country. It seems lots of guys built a house, officially owned by the wife, in a place which the wife decided. With the wife's family around. It seems few people would have moved to such a place without their wife. So it is not too difficult to understand if they don't want to live in that place anymore without their wife. I am sure some will move on to another Thai village - with another wife. Possibly—unless you’ve spent a boatload of money building your home in the wife’s village. In that case, I would stay—and limit my search to women in the family living in the village—and it’s a very big family, with many good possibilities. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andycoops Posted May 7, 2022 Share Posted May 7, 2022 Absolutely I could. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Denim Posted May 7, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted May 7, 2022 If it were up to me I would continue living here in the boonies at the edge of the village overlooking rice fields and a high ridge. No issues with non grasping relatives and lots of friendly people to chat to. But its not up to me. As I understand , although I can inherit the house I cant keep it since foreigners not allowed to own the land. I believe I would have a 1 year grace period to sell up and move on. Secondly, my ageing mother is 88 and should she be unable to take care of herself I will have to leave Thailand to take care of her. The future holds some unhappy times so try to enjoy every precious day. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yankyoakum Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 Suspect I'd stay, we only 2 years apart and been together 46 years. Came back in 2019, now have a nice house in Bangsarae, secure Moo Baan. My worry is getting Thai will done.. we procrastinate and say man yana... thats going to bite us,, 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brianthainess Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 17 hours ago, Jotnar said: To the title, Yes, as wife is an added plus, but far from necessary. Live semi rural, so would have to improve my Thai vocabulary a bit more, maybe. Could easily get by with what little I know. Not fluent enough to engage in conversation, but enough to shop & order food. With translation apps (Google Lens) can read just about anything. I find my ATM card a good translator ???? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Isaan sailor Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 In order to stay in the village house you built for a wife now deceased —you will need either a pre-nup on the house or a renewable lease to live on the land—or both documents. Also possible in some circumstances—a business classification for the property. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brianthainess Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 My wife has already told me and her kids, that if she dies first then 'no ploblem tilak you can take new lady and stay in house i lub you nah?' I live in a beautiful setting on Koh Chang. I'm not sure how i'd feel staying in the same house, and her joy when the durians grow in our garden would remind me too much, or same village where she has many friends, walking around with a new lady i'd feel very uncomfortable, but i'd still stay on the island I think. hard to predict how i'd feel. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unblocktheplanet Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 Frankly, I think life would be hollow here without my wife of 30 years. She's my best friend & guru. But where else would I move? No clothes for the tundra & no room in the modern world. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hummin Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 (edited) 5 hours ago, brianthainess said: My wife has already told me and her kids, that if she dies first then 'no ploblem tilak you can take new lady and stay in house i lub you nah?' I live in a beautiful setting on Koh Chang. I'm not sure how i'd feel staying in the same house, and her joy when the durians grow in our garden would remind me too much, or same village where she has many friends, walking around with a new lady i'd feel very uncomfortable, but i'd still stay on the island I think. hard to predict how i'd feel. Koh Chang is a different setting than in a village, where it is only two atm’s, and thursday marked is the highlight of the week, and one and half hour to closest city with a shopping mall or makro. Edited May 8, 2022 by Hummin 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Speedhump Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 Weirdly this is on my mind. My wife has cancer and the prognosis is uncertain. Probably will be so for a few more months. She's my age, retired. I don't see any life without her and so I have no idea. Been together since teenagers so we're like one single person. No close family apart from her very old parents back home, so no real reason to leave Thailand if it comes to it. Will life fall apart? Who knows, watch this space. I don't see myself cohabiting with another woman of any nationality. Well, you asked. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Speedhump Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 2 hours ago, unblocktheplanet said: Frankly, I think life would be hollow here without my wife of 30 years. She's my best friend & guru. But where else would I move? No clothes for the tundra & no room in the modern world. Same, 45 years with mine, it doesn't bear thinking about. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Speedhump Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 10 hours ago, Denim said: If it were up to me I would continue living here in the boonies at the edge of the village overlooking rice fields and a high ridge. No issues with non grasping relatives and lots of friendly people to chat to. But its not up to me. As I understand , although I can inherit the house I cant keep it since foreigners not allowed to own the land. I believe I would have a 1 year grace period to sell up and move on. Secondly, my ageing mother is 88 and should she be unable to take care of herself I will have to leave Thailand to take care of her. The future holds some unhappy times so try to enjoy every precious day. Life is a continual process of loss. This is what I understand now. Buddhists try not to get too attached; to people, things, places. A bit late for me I'm afraid. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In Full Agreement Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 On 5/7/2022 at 10:25 AM, The Oracle said: She made it clear to her extended family that I was to continue to be allowed to live in this house if she died. Unfortunately such an oral promise isn't worth the paper it's written on. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mavideol Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 On 5/7/2022 at 6:08 AM, OneMoreFarang said: Could and would you live where you live without your wife? I can not answer because mine reads the posts 555 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brianthainess Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 2 hours ago, Hummin said: Koh Chang is a different setting than in a village, where it is only two atm’s, and thursday marked is the highlight of the week, and one and half hour to closest city with a shopping mall or makro. What on earth are you talking about ? Koh Chang is the 3rd largest Island in Thailand, with all major supermarkets ! water parks, cheap bungalows to luxury resorts. If you haven't been you are missing out on what I consider the best place in Thailand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hummin Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 (edited) 3 minutes ago, brianthainess said: What on earth are you talking about ? Koh Chang is the 3rd largest Island in Thailand, with all major supermarkets ! water parks, cheap bungalows to luxury resorts. If you haven't been you are missing out on what I consider the best place in Thailand. I think you misunderstood my post ???? Yes I know Koh Chang very well compare to a rural village in Isan ????, so therefor not compatible. Edited May 8, 2022 by Hummin 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DJ54 Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 Lived in the countryside village (3/4 from village) going on 7 years. I like it here at 68 next month i don’t intend to pull up roots anytime soon. Best to live on the happy memories unhappiness I believe can be found anywhere in the world. I’ve traveled extensively for business 25+ years and putting the wheels down is a comfortable feeling... think I’ll stay awhile 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brianthainess Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 17 minutes ago, In Full Agreement said: Unfortunately such an oral promise isn't worth the paper it's written on. I don't really care as I could afford to go rent somewhere if i needed to, If you were to talk to any 'Falang' who knows her you might find out how (yes i'm going to say it) different from most. Oh and oral promises are not written down. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KannikaP Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 (edited) On 5/7/2022 at 3:31 PM, Kwasaki said: If you think 74 is old then that's sad. If you are referring to my post, I said I was 74 years old, just as a teenager would say he was 18 years old. And when you do not know what LOL means after a post, that's also sad. Edited May 8, 2022 by KannikaP Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brianthainess Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 9 minutes ago, Hummin said: I think you misunderstood my post ???? Yes I know Koh Chang very well compare to a rural village in Isan ????, so therefor not compatible. My bad I miss read your post, I could never live in a rural village or Pattaya 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KannikaP Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 On 5/7/2022 at 1:55 PM, vinci said: old people getting grumpy, i understand, appreciate your advice GRUMPY, who the he11 is grumpy. LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In Full Agreement Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 9 minutes ago, brianthainess said: I don't really care as I could afford to go rent somewhere if i needed to, If you were to talk to any 'Falang' who knows her you might find out how (yes i'm going to say it) different from most. Oh and oral promises are not written down. LOL And Brits love to claim Americans don't get British humor or scarism. Sorry but you failed. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hummin Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 31 minutes ago, brianthainess said: My bad I miss read your post, I could never live in a rural village or Pattaya Both places can be entertaining, both in a different way, but to be true, the rural places gives alot of freedom if you thinking of bigger land, not cost all of your life savings, and also possibility to go to Koh Chang and get that holiday feeling for a few weeeks, or even a couple of months (did that des and january) and also miss home (Isan) as well. Contrasts 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparktrader Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 2 hours ago, In Full Agreement said: Unfortunately such an oral promise isn't worth the paper it's written on. Mouths arent made of paper 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kwasaki Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 2 hours ago, KannikaP said: If you are referring to my post, I said I was 74 years old, just as a teenager would say he was 18 years old. And when you do not know what LOL means after a post, that's also sad. I think LOL is childish, don't get so easily upset. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony125 Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 14 hours ago, Denim said: If it were up to me I would continue living here in the boonies at the edge of the village overlooking rice fields and a high ridge. No issues with non grasping relatives and lots of friendly people to chat to. But its not up to me. As I understand , although I can inherit the house I cant keep it since foreigners not allowed to own the land. I believe I would have a 1 year grace period to sell up and move on. Secondly, my ageing mother is 88 and should she be unable to take care of herself I will have to leave Thailand to take care of her. The future holds some unhappy times so try to enjoy every precious day. You are incorrect. If youy get say a 30 year lease on the property from the wife you have the right to live there till the lease is over. If you get a Usufruct on the property you have the right to live there till you die. Warning a Usufruct can be overuled in a diviorce court. https://www.siam-legal.com/realestate/Usufructs.php 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparktrader Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 3 hours ago, brianthainess said: What on earth are you talking about ? Koh Chang is the 3rd largest Island in Thailand, with all major supermarkets ! water parks, cheap bungalows to luxury resorts. If you haven't been you are missing out on what I consider the best place in Thailand. Yes awesome place 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denim Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 1 hour ago, Tony125 said: You are incorrect. If youy get say a 30 year lease on the property from the wife you have the right to live there till the lease is over. If you get a Usufruct on the property you have the right to live there till you die. Warning a Usufruct can be overuled in a diviorce court. https://www.siam-legal.com/realestate/Usufructs.php Nice. And my 88 year old mother ? Is there a fix for that too ? Thanks for the advice , I know you meant well . But whether or not I outlive my wife , my mother depends on me to be there when she can't manage alone. Our life here has already taken a drastic change when my wifes mother ( similar age ) lost the use of her legs 3 months ago. She now needs 24 hour care split between my wife and her sister next door. These things often happen a bit faster than was supposed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
San Fran Dan Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 (edited) Hell, No and No . Moobaan Nowhere No Way , you have to be a Real Chump with a ring thru your nose , I tried a lil in Korat , glad I woke up and ran Edited May 8, 2022 by San Fran Dan 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
San Fran Dan Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 On 5/7/2022 at 6:28 AM, grain said: No way, if we had a big row and split up, 30 minutes later I'd have my stuff packed in my car and hit the highway. Living in a little rice paddy village in NE was the last thing I wanted to do, but it slowly happened step by step. Yes it does and before you realize years have passed. In boredom 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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