97 year old Thai grandmother abandoned on road by daughter, found soaking in rain

[snoop1130]

 

A 97 year old grandmother was abandoned in the middle of a road in the rain by her own daughter in Thailand‘s southern Ranong province. The elderly woman managed to crawl into the grassy area beside the road, where she was eventually found today by her distressed grandchildren. The road was in the middle of a residential area.

 

Security camera footage in the locality showed a suspicious vehicle dropping her off on the day of the incident. A woman was seen enquiring about the whereabouts of the 97 year old grandmother in the area before leaving her there.

 

The children of the elderly woman, who helped her when she was discovered, expressed their anger at her daughter for abandoning her. According to them, the grandmother, who had been staying with them for over a year, was taken to Phang Nga province by her younger daughter, who then returned her back, leaving her about 50 metres from her home.

 

By Nattapong Westwood

Caption: Photo by Khaosod

 

Full Story: https://thethaiger.com/news/south/97-year-old-woman-abandoned-on-roadside-by-daughter-found-soaking-in-rain

 

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[swm59nj]

Daughter is not the appropriate word for this woman.  I could think of some others but they would be inappropriate for the forum. 

[jcmj]

I don’t understand the mentality of this daughter, who would just drop off her 97 year old mother on the roadside 50 meters from the home. I hope that they ban her from the family and all activities. She showed no remorse or sympathy towards the mother who raised her. Disgusting woman. 

[milesinnz]

40 minutes ago, jcmj said:

I don’t understand the mentality of this daughter, who would just drop off her 97 year old mother on the roadside 50 meters from the home. I hope that they ban her from the family and all activities. She showed no remorse or sympathy towards the mother who raised her. Disgusting woman. 

"I don’t understand the mentality of this daughter".. exactly... Thai family dynamics are often a lot different to those of western families - and those western family dynamics leave a lot to be desired. In Thai society it is often seen as the daughters responsibility to "look after" the parents I think in the case of more than one daughter it is the older daughter - and they then get to inherit everything and sons get nothing. But this means that the mother then often treats the daughter as some sort of slave to be kept on a very short leash often destroying the adult life of the daughter - never marry, hand over any money she earns to her mother. I have seen it on more than one occasion. Now if you were a daughter in such a situation and had been conditioned to fulfill this role, how might you feel ?

[spidermike007]

We just don't know the dynamics of this family, and know nothing about the relationship between the granny and her daughter. It is quite possible the daughter was being abused and harassed by granny. It is not like she dropped her off in the middle of nowhere. 

 

These articles are so poorly written, they often result in a rush to judgment and condemnation. I have seen alot of parents here who treat their daughters like indentured servants. 

[Tarteso]

Heartbreaking story..

[hotchilli]

2 hours ago, swm59nj said:

Daughter is not the appropriate word for this woman.  I could think of some others but they would be inappropriate for the forum. 

From the link:

The grandmother has six children, including the father of one of the grandchildren, who has passed away. Two sons and a younger daughter, who are reportedly wealthy, reside in different provinces, but they are not involved in her care. Another son, who lives alone in rather difficult circumstances, struggles to look after the grandmother.

 

Maybe the rest of the children could share the burden?

[PeachCH]

Not 97 yet, but already 80. At this age you really can get crumpy and annoying, probably the daughter could take it any longer. 

Has to be seen, if my family choose the same way to get rid of me ????????????

[jacko45k]

3 hours ago, milesinnz said:

I think in the case of more than one daughter it is the older daughter

I was led to believe the youngest.... and so it would appear in the Thai family of my partner. Tell me about it.

[malibukid]

4 hours ago, milesinnz said:

"I don’t understand the mentality of this daughter".. exactly... Thai family dynamics are often a lot different to those of western families - and those western family dynamics leave a lot to be desired. In Thai society it is often seen as the daughters responsibility to "look after" the parents I think in the case of more than one daughter it is the older daughter - and they then get to inherit everything and sons get nothing. But this means that the mother then often treats the daughter as some sort of slave to be kept on a very short leash often destroying the adult life of the daughter - never marry, hand over any money she earns to her mother. I have seen it on more than one occasion. Now if you were a daughter in such a situation and had been conditioned to fulfill this role, how might you feel ?

it happened to me in America.  you soon become co-dependent and resentful.. driving miss Daisy.  

[David Whitemore]

What a disgraceful woman to treat her mother like that, I hope her family with disowned the daughter

[bignok]

4 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

We just don't know the dynamics of this family, and know nothing about the relationship between the granny and her daughter. It is quite possible the daughter was being abused and harassed by granny. It is not like she dropped her off in the middle of nowhere. 

 

These articles are so poorly written, they often result in a rush to judgment and condemnation. I have seen alot of parents here who treat their daughters like indentured servants. 

50m from home. It was a poorly written story. The old woman might be a horror. Not all old people are nice.

[herfiehandbag]

A terrible story. An indefensible act.

 

However I can, maybe, have some sympathy with the daughter. I spent 7 years in my early fifties as the sole ( no one else bothered or cared frankly) caring for my mother, in her 90s and stricken with vascular dementia. It was an unrelenting, unremitting, backbreaking task. Because I had an army pension there was no help available.

 

The only real practical help was from a couple of real friends. I ran my local branch of the Regimental Association. Some of the ex soldiers in the association, and more particularly their ladies, would get together and look after mum for a day, once every week or so, so I could get a break. I would go out for the day, come back to a sparkling house, laundry done, freezer stocked with prepared meals, and mum "entertaining" them with tales of her teenage exploits in the "Blitz".

 

Real friends. God bless them.

 

So to return to the point, I don't condone the action, I understand the desperation.

[stoner]

is this a new form of making merit ? 

Edited June 3, 2023 by stoner

[billd766]

My Thai MIL came to live with her daughter (my wife) for about 5 years in a small house we had built for her until she died.

 

Though she was several years younger than me she was the matriarch of the family and was respected, looked after and looked out for during her remaining years. She became a part of my family and I became part of hers.

[Pink Mist]

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[rudi49jr]

9 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

We just don't know the dynamics of this family, and know nothing about the relationship between the granny and her daughter. It is quite possible the daughter was being abused and harassed by granny. It is not like she dropped her off in the middle of nowhere. 

 

These articles are so poorly written, they often result in a rush to judgment and condemnation. I have seen alot of parents here who treat their daughters like indentured servants. 

Exactly, we don’t know the ins and outs of the situation. I took care of my mother for over 7 years while her dementia got worse and worse. There were times I would have loved to strangle her, or leave her somewhere, just to get away from her for a while. It can be very tough to take care of someone you love, but who is also - through no fault of their own - becoming a huge pain in the @ss. 
 

So please stop judging the daughter before you know the whole story. 

[thailand49]

We come into the world wearing diapers at 97 even before on the journey out we are wearing a diaper and start to act like children. 

Not taking sides but it take maturity and a great amount of patiences easy to say even tougher to do it. 

In 2016 living in Thailand my mother was that age living alone I already had her on a waiting list for a facility told to come home watch her until she is excepted if she falls hospitalize if her turns comes up and she is in hospital won't take her. 

First few days home while she slept I cried there were many moments she was a child a brat. There were always social workers visiting daily I realized after it wasn't to see my mom but to check I not gone off the deep end and started abusing her.

Six month later she was finally accepted the facility looked after her like she was their mother. 

When I returned to Thailand to my own family I slept near 36 hours straight toughest thing I ever had to do. 5 years later after she turn 103 she passed in her sleep. 

Whatever the story is here I hope both get some help. In my situation there were lots of family who questioned our decision myself and brother but whenever we needed even for small stuff no one was ever around. 

[Rhys]

The Daughter was not charged?

 

[roo860]

15 hours ago, swm59nj said:

Daughter is not the appropriate word for this woman.  I could think of some others but they would be inappropriate for the deleted 

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Edited June 3, 2023 by roo860

[stoner]

3 hours ago, rudi49jr said:

Exactly, we don’t know the ins and outs of the situation. I took care of my mother for over 7 years while her dementia got worse and worse. There were times I would have loved to strangle her, or leave her somewhere, just to get away from her for a while. It can be very tough to take care of someone you love, but who is also - through no fault of their own - becoming a huge pain in the @ss. 
 

So please stop judging the daughter before you know the whole story. 

no matter how much a pain in the ass my mother became i would never leave her on the side of the road in the rain. 

 

that's straight gangster.