What was your wife/girlfriend's employment when you first met her? And what is she doing now?

[ibjoe]

She worked in retail, selling hardware and appliances. When we traveled together she had to quit that job, I provided replacement support. When we finished traveling together her old job was no longer available for her. She tried a few things. Another "retail" job that was actually strenuous stockroom work with required long hours / no overtime pay, so not acceptable. A housekeeping job, also required long hours, hard work, no breaks, low pay, so also not acceptable. I paid for her to go to massage school for a few weeks, after which she got a job in an upscale spa, catering mostly to Farang. At first she liked it, but then again was required to work 12 to 14 hours a day, and only paid for actual customers, no hourly wage waiting for her turn. I encouraged her to quit that, and eventually she did. She suffered physical damage from doing that work, massage can be stressful for the practitioner's body. Now she is studying English, which will be useful when we finally get her USA CR1 visa and she can visit me and family in USA. Seems like Thai labor laws are non-existent? For example, not being paid if quitting without sufficient notice, for example quit the day before payday and loose several weeks of due pay. Required non-paid overtime. Etc.

[pomchop]

Why is it that so many men want to constantly brag about how many gals they have done but then want a gal who is practically a virgin or at least wants her to tell him that she isn't "that kind of girl".

 

Would these almost virgins be interested in marrying a guy that has slept with half of Pattaya and loves to brag about it?   

 

How many guys have had a gal ask you how many partners have you had?  Would you dare to tell the truth if you were semi serious about the girl?  Would you ask her the same question?

[swm59nj]

Unemployed.  Now for the past two years or so .  She works for LG Healthcare and Household Division 

[SAFETY FIRST]

On 7/17/2023 at 1:19 PM, Ralf001 said:

Soi 6 mid afternoon bar lockdown with me and a dozen mates.

We ran a train on her.

She is now in jail and is EX.

Oh dear, I hope you and your dozen mates have been to the doctors and checked for STIs. 

 

[tandor]

On 7/17/2023 at 11:00 AM, bignok said:

Ok then she worked for Nasa then worked as a brain surgeon. Now selling Somtam part time.

you're off to a flying start. (PS. its NASA), or a typo for a Nasal Spray Company.

[Lacessit]

16 hours ago, bignok said:

You won the smallest one award.

If you had the intelligence to understand my first post, you would have realized I was saying I never found any Asian women had larger caves because they were always quite snug on me. IME they tend to be tight.

OTOH, you can tell, which means you are too small for some.

Do I need to draw pictures for you, or are you going to continue with fatuous and ignorant posts?

[Ralf001]

1 hour ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Oh dear, I hope you and your dozen mates have been to the doctors and checked for STIs. 

 

Doctor confirmed, none of us own a Subaru WRX.

[bignok]

2 hours ago, Lacessit said:

If you had the intelligence to understand my first post, you would have realized I was saying I never found any Asian women had larger caves because they were always quite snug on me. IME they tend to be tight.

OTOH, you can tell, which means you are too small for some.

Do I need to draw pictures for you, or are you going to continue with fatuous and ignorant posts?

Your comments are very ignorant and your angry response says it all. It is actually difficult to have sex with an inexperienced woman but you wouldn't know being tiny. 

 

[bignok]

5 hours ago, pomchop said:

Why is it that so many men want to constantly brag about how many gals they have done but then want a gal who is practically a virgin or at least wants her to tell him that she isn't "that kind of girl".

 

Would these almost virgins be interested in marrying a guy that has slept with half of Pattaya and loves to brag about it?   

 

How many guys have had a gal ask you how many partners have you had?  Would you dare to tell the truth if you were semi serious about the girl?  Would you ask her the same question?

Because they are insecure. It is commical the theories and nonsense they come up with. 

[Lacessit]

1 hour ago, bignok said:

Your comments are very ignorant and your angry response says it all. It is actually difficult to have sex with an inexperienced woman but you wouldn't know being tiny. 

 

In God's kitchen.......

 

 

[bignok]

32 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

In God's kitchen.......

 

 

Keep digging.

[Walker88]

7 hours ago, pomchop said:

Why is it that so many men want to constantly brag about how many gals they have done but then want a gal who is practically a virgin or at least wants her to tell him that she isn't "that kind of girl".

 

Would these almost virgins be interested in marrying a guy that has slept with half of Pattaya and loves to brag about it?   

 

How many guys have had a gal ask you how many partners have you had?  Would you dare to tell the truth if you were semi serious about the girl?  Would you ask her the same question?

I remember having a few virgins back in my teens. A blockbuster porn movie it would not have made.

 

Sex is best when both players know the ropes, know their own bodies, and more importantly, understand the bodies of their partners. Toss in shared affection and you've got the Daily Double, though anonymous carnal pleasures can also be quite fun.

 

I do not care about a woman's past, whether she had one partner or 1000, so long as it's >0. I also hope that she doesn't care about how many women I have enjoyed. If we commit to each other, then all that matters is the present and the future, not the past.

 

I assume the purpose of this thread was to ferret out responses from men who married bargirls, so that someone could gloat and claim he never had to pay, something that would make him a unicorn in Thailand, or at least have more self-control and discipline than any man with normal levels of free testosterone. For the vast majority of men who visit Thailand, the old saw of Oscar Wilde applies:

 

"The only thing I can't resist is temptation"

 

Thai women are just too lovely, and for better or worse, a good many have chosen to offer their pleasures for a fee. The man who can avoid the temptation is either more under control than me, has low testosterone, or is simply lying.

 

Personally, I would have no problem marrying a bargirl if I fell in love with her. I'm confident enough in my own masculinity that her past is no issue. If I harbored any concern, it would be about catching something, but it's easy enough to make sure both of us are un-afflicted before we get truly intimate.

 

The adage about 'can't take the bar out of the bargirl' is, in my opinion, nonsense. I have met couples who met in bars who are both exclusive and loving. Maybe some stray, but plenty of non-bargirl women stray, too.

[Lacessit]

49 minutes ago, bignok said:

Keep digging.

Like most trolls, you present your opinions as established facts.

[bignok]

1 minute ago, Lacessit said:

Like most trolls, you present your opinions as established facts.

It's pretty funny how naive you are about women. Oh well have a nice day.

[Lacessit]

14 minutes ago, Walker88 said:

I remember having a few virgins back in my teens. A blockbuster porn movie it would not have made.

 

Sex is best when both players know the ropes, know their own bodies, and more importantly, understand the bodies of their partners. Toss in shared affection and you've got the Daily Double, though anonymous carnal pleasures can also be quite fun.

 

I do not care about a woman's past, whether she had one partner or 1000, so long as it's >0. I also hope that she doesn't care about how many women I have enjoyed. If we commit to each other, then all that matters is the present and the future, not the past.

 

I assume the purpose of this thread was to ferret out responses from men who married bargirls, so that someone could gloat and claim he never had to pay, something that would make him a unicorn in Thailand, or at least have more self-control and discipline than any man with normal levels of free testosterone. For the vast majority of men who visit Thailand, the old saw of Oscar Wilde applies:

 

"The only thing I can't resist is temptation"

 

Thai women are just too lovely, and for better or worse, a good many have chosen to offer their pleasures for a fee. The man who can avoid the temptation is either more under control than me, has low testosterone, or is simply lying.

 

Personally, I would have no problem marrying a bargirl if I fell in love with her. I'm confident enough in my own masculinity that her past is no issue. If I harbored any concern, it would be about catching something, but it's easy enough to make sure both of us are un-afflicted before we get truly intimate.

 

The adage about 'can't take the bar out of the bargirl' is, in my opinion, nonsense. I have met couples who met in bars who are both exclusive and loving. Maybe some stray, but plenty of non-bargirl women stray, too.

Excellent post, thank you.

[bignok]

23 minutes ago, Walker88 said:

Thai women are just too lovely, and for better or worse, a good many have chosen to offer their pleasures for a fee. The man who can avoid the temptation is either more under control than me, has low testosterone, or is simply lying.

Some are lovely. Many are fat and unattractive. Some are rake skinny and ugly.

 

I've probably seen 30 or so in 20 years that are super hot.

 

 

[bignok]

16 hours ago, Goat said:

I dont know about you mate. But selling my bum to foreign sex tourists would be the last thing I would do. Especially after all this train talk.

 

Anyway, I will leave you to it. I have to get showered and shaved for my date tonight. Second time seeing this one, but no action yet. i have grooming her over the internet for a couple of weeks.

 

I reckon she will be up for one tonight. i dont think she has had one for a while. She will be hanging out, but pretending not to be of course. They always play that little game.

She is cooking for me.

 

Gotta love being a man in Thailand.

 

Thanks for all your contributions to my thread today.

3 weeks? Slow mover. 

[SAFETY FIRST]

56 minutes ago, Walker88 said:

having a few virgins back in my teens. 

Sex is best when both players know the ropes,

You are just annoying the Islam faith, the men who will receive 72 virgins in the hadith corpos 

 

[Goat]

16 minutes ago, bignok said:

3 weeks? Slow mover. 

It does vary a lot.

One was 8 months.

 

No action last night. I assume it was because we were at her place and she didnt want the neighbours seeing farang leaving in the morning. They are a bit funny like that. Hyper sensitive to gossip. They prefer to play away games, not home ground.

 

It was a good thing in the end as her food gave me gas and i was farting all night.

[Goat]

33 minutes ago, bignok said:

I've probably seen 30 or so in 20 years that are super hot.

You obviously dont live in bangkok.

[Reginald Prewster]

Street vendor selling Pa Tong Go in Pattaya Darkside and now proud Farmer in Isaan,

(but still making the best Pa Tong Go which lures the customers by the hundreds into our farm shop...) 

[bignok]

1 minute ago, Goat said:

It does vary a lot.

One was 8 months.

 

No action last night. I assume it was because we were at her place and she didnt want the neighbours seeing farang leaving in the morning. They are a bit funny like that. Hyper sensitive to gossip. They prefer to play away games, not home ground.

 

It was a good thing in the end as her food gave me gas and i was farting all night.

Bad cook dump her

[bignok]

Just now, Goat said:

You obviously dont live in bangkok.

Been there many times.

[Goat]

45 minutes ago, bignok said:

It's pretty funny how naive you are about women. Oh well have a nice day.

He admits he found his Thai long time girlfriend in a bar.

Of course he is naive. 

They are the ones the smarter bargirls latch on to.

[Goat]

Just now, bignok said:

Been there many times.

Your eyes must be painted on.

[brianthainess]

On 7/17/2023 at 10:52 AM, Crossy said:

(I think I fit in the "animals" group, she feeds me).

Last ? mine does after cat, dog, .we know our place 

[bignok]

6 minutes ago, Goat said:

Your eyes must be painted on.

Super hot means 10. Fairly rare.

[Goat]

16 hours ago, save the frogs said:

Yeah, but you're sleeping around with a bunch of girls who are looking for relationships and then dumping them. 

It has more integrity to head for the bars than what you're doing. 

 

 

I hear that narrative from a lot of mongers.

I couldnt disagree more.

Exploiting women in poverty who dont want to be there is abhorrent. Plus they are likely infected with STDs. Plus they are mostly annoyingly dumb.

 

i am now north of 50. I have never been married. When it comes up why i am not, I tell them I think it is a bad idea. As long as I manage their expectations there is no harm. Some have been a bit shocked by my honesty and have pulled plug as a result. Some accept it and are happy to have a casual relationship. And some do have a crack and changing me.

 

A foreign sex tourist preaching about ethics. Sad thing is you actually believe it.

[Goat]

2 minutes ago, bignok said:

Super hot means 10. Fairly rare.

Yeah, to be a 10 you need to be a 9, but with a big set of naturals. 

Without the rack, they can only ever be a 9.

[Goat]

12 minutes ago, bignok said:

Bad cook dump her

They eventually all get dumped.

It tasted good.