She says "Ow!" (a Thai ow, not an English ow), pretends to look sad for a few seconds, and that's it. Perfect. 

6 hours ago, mfd101 said:

What I notice in a status/face-obsessed culture is the sheer speed with which a problem caused by the other party is turned - in 1 second - in to a problem caused by you. Swivelling on the head of a pin.

 

I think they are trained in this valuable skill from the earliest age. Perhaps too there are classes for learning this skill in early schooling?

I think you are making a generalization here.

What you describe, no doubt, happens in all cultures.

I also think that just about everybody could do well with more training in the art of effective communication.

And, I believe that when someone turns the tables, like you describe, this is the result of poor education, and also having poor parental role models.

 

The best strategy is to just quickly cut your losses, and run.

Personality is shaped and "set/hardened" at a very young age, maybe age 7 or 8.

Personality does not change much over time.

 

Therefore...CUT...and...RUN...

It's your only good option, unfortunately.

 

(PS:  You should try to teach your Wife/GF all about the advantages of practicing The Scientific Method in all facets of human existence.)

 

 

4 hours ago, Mr Derek said:

She says "Ow!" (a Thai ow, not an English ow), pretends to look sad for a few seconds, and that's it. Perfect. 

Yes.

This Thai AOW....!

What does it mean, REALLY?

 

 

32 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Yes.

This Thai AOW....!

What does it mean, REALLY?

 

I asked her. She said it's just an expression of surprise. She never takes offence, bless her. Unlike the former Mrs D.

1 hour ago, Mr Derek said:

I asked her. She said it's just an expression of surprise. She never takes offence, bless her. Unlike the former Mrs D.

You are EXTREMELY fortunate with your great blessing! 

 

Personally, I LOVE to hear that... AOW! 

 

I always think... What has she found so suddenly surprising... NOW? 

 

Yeah, Man... A good Thai woman is both a miracle and a blessing, each and every day... 

 

 

16 hours ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Personality is shaped and "set/hardened" at a very young age, maybe age 7 or 8.

My understanding is by age 3.

5 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

My understanding is by age 3.

Only if your meaning is that some people here might act like 3-year-olds. 

 

And, I never name names. 

 

 

On 8/17/2023 at 4:57 AM, Skipalongcassidy said:

Here's some constructive criticism... find a different hobby than posting "crap"

while i agree the op's posts are tedious, he is certainly not alone in that respect. 

for example:
https://aseannow.com/topic/1303528-how-much-monthly-salary-should-you-pay-for-rescuing-a-bar-girl/
What's so good about Thailand?
https://aseannow.com/topic/1303739-underrated-band/

and then there this festival of delusion, and thats just page one

https://aseannow.com/topic/1303933-whats-good-about-the-philippines/

 

looking again, pretty much anything relegated to the pub is <deleted>