Burning your bridges.

[bob smith]

Has anyone burned bridges with people back 'home' ?

 

how was it?

do you regret it?

 

cheers.

[mfd101]

Most of my bridges have been 'burned' by death. Not too many contacts back in Oz now - which makes organizing matters financial for my partner post-my-mortem increasingly difficult (because Oz law requires all sorts of things to be signed off by an Oz resident).

[bob smith]

2 minutes ago, mfd101 said:

Most of my bridges have been 'burned' by death. Not too many contacts back in Oz now - which makes organizing matters financial for my partner post-my-mortem increasingly difficult (because Oz law requires all sorts of things to be signed off by an Oz resident).

ahh i see.

 

sorry to hear about your situation mate.

[EVENKEEL]

[BritManToo]

7 minutes ago, mfd101 said:

Most of my bridges have been 'burned' by death. Not too many contacts back in Oz now - which makes organizing matters financial for my partner post-my-mortem increasingly difficult (because Oz law requires all sorts of things to be signed off by an Oz resident).

Same for me, my last 2 elderly pals died in April and September this year, my last relative is in the middle stages of dementia.

[keysersoze276]

Bob, you really need to socialize more and get out to talk to people. This is not a good place to ask random people from random “home countries “ their random feelings and random experiences. Get out of the armchair and get some frinds to talk to, man. With all due respect. 

[bob smith]

6 minutes ago, keysersoze276 said:

Get out of the armchair and get some frinds to talk to, man. With all due respect. 

what are the choices?

 

alcoholic loser expats or thais who hate my guts?

 

decisions decisions.. think i’ll stay in me armchair! 

[stoner]

7 minutes ago, bob smith said:

what are the choices?

 

alcoholic loser expats or thais who hate my guts?

 

decisions decisions.. think i’ll stay in me armchair! 

 

im not an alcoholic bob and i still love you. 

[bob smith]

5 minutes ago, stoner said:

 

im not an alcoholic bob and i still love you. 

im an alcoholic.

 

but i dont like associating with expat loser alcoholics.

 

they always have a story. and are always looking for a handout. 

they are as bad as the locals in that regard.

[2baht]

Just now, bob smith said:

im an alcoholic.

 

but i dont like associating with expat loser alcoholics.

 

they always have a story. and are always looking for a handout. 

they are as bad as the locals in that regard.

 

    Green tea, Bob! 

[bob smith]

1 minute ago, 2baht said:

 

    Green tea, Bob! 

with a drop of whiskey in it!

[Ralf001]

I've not knowingly burnt any bridges, why would I ?

[Ralf001]

23 minutes ago, bob smith said:

 

 

alcoholic loser expats ?

 

 

 

Speaking off.... You live in Thailand ?

[stoner]

9 minutes ago, bob smith said:

im an alcoholic.

 

but i dont like associating with expat loser alcoholics.

 

they always have a story. and are always looking for a handout. 

they are as bad as the locals in that regard.

 

you should be a pothead instead. 

[bob smith]

Just now, stoner said:

 

you should be a pothead instead. 

but then i’d never get anything done.

 

least I can still drive my bike pissed..

[novacova]

No burnt bridges here, though never been much of an arsonist. 

[Prubangboy]

I've got one friend left in the west. We email a bit and take a yearly vacation together. Maybe 2 more recall me at the level where they'd show up for a lunch.

 

Got a couple of siblings with mental health/addiction issues who are still breathing. We don't communicate even every year. My wife is estranged from her family. Her friend quotient is about the same as mine.

 

Guys (and gals, I suppose) who end up here tend to be free-floating atomic particles like myself. We're nucleus-resistant. I like being in a big soup of such people.

 

 

[bob smith]

3 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

Guys (and gals, I suppose) who end up here tend to be free-floating atomic particles like myself. We're nucleus-resistant. I like being in a big soup of such people.

kind of a personal question, but did you consume a lot of acid in your youth? 😄 

Edited November 1, 2023 by bob smith

[retarius]

Deaths some bridge burning have occurred back home. I still have quite a few childhood friends I maintain contact with. It is always great to get together for a possum when I do get back to UK on business. No relatives left except my brother and I burned his bridge down years ago. 

[Prubangboy]

Nah, Pothead since age 14. The only thing I liked longer is James Brown.

[bob smith]

5 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

James Brown.

is that a euphemism for H?

[sirineou]

1 hour ago, bob smith said:

Has anyone burned bridges with people back 'home' ?

I did it all by myself. I did not want witnesses.  

[Prubangboy]

25 minutes ago, stoner said:

 

you should be a pothead instead. 

 

This is the Intervention-style reality TV show the world really wants to see. Alkie to Pothead.

 

Problem: no drama when they convert to being potheads.

[stoner]

27 minutes ago, bob smith said:

but then i’d never get anything done.

 

least I can still drive my bike pissed..

 

right. you're quite productive as is. 

[Lacessit]

58 minutes ago, mfd101 said:

Most of my bridges have been 'burned' by death. Not too many contacts back in Oz now - which makes organizing matters financial for my partner post-my-mortem increasingly difficult (because Oz law requires all sorts of things to be signed off by an Oz resident).

That should not be a problem.

I revised my Australian will about two years ago, during COVID. Done via Zoom meetings, and emails. The witness signatures of two Thai staff at my condo were acceptable.

Unless the law has changed post-COVID, of course.

 

I have burned a bridge with only one friend, a Roman Catholic. He became a climate change denier, and was denouncing Greta Thunberg as brain-washed by her parents. I asked him to explain the difference between her parents, and those parents who send their children to private Catholic schools. He stormed off, we have not spoken since.

 

I still have about half-a-dozen good friends in Australia, we stay in touch. Sadly, several more have passed away. I miss them.

[bob smith]

21 minutes ago, stoner said:

 

right. you're quite productive as is. 

this bar stool is hurting my bum..

[TroubleandGrumpy]

1 hour ago, mfd101 said:

Most of my bridges have been 'burned' by death. Not too many contacts back in Oz now - which makes organizing matters financial for my partner post-my-mortem increasingly difficult (because Oz law requires all sorts of things to be signed off by an Oz resident).

Get in contact with the appropriate State Public Trustee and tell them of your situation and that you want to make a Will and appoint them as the Executor.  It is free - any advice and writing of the Will - they take a fee from the Estate (much lower than a Lawyer).  Ask them what to do - you and the partner may have to go visit Australia and sign some paperwork - but maybe it can be done using the Aust Embassy in Bangkok as a witness JP.   We did all that before we left - and they were great and very helpful (I used the QLD Public Trustee - my last address). 

 

If you do have to visit Aust, make sure you tell CLink (International Group) before you go - explain why you are returning and for how long and that you will still be living in Thailand going forward (they might decide you have returned otherwise - portability issues then).  

[mfd101]

1 hour ago, TroubleandGrumpy said:

Get in contact with the appropriate State Public Trustee and tell them of your situation and that you want to make a Will and appoint them as the Executor.  It is free - any advice and writing of the Will - they take a fee from the Estate (much lower than a Lawyer).  Ask them what to do - you and the partner may have to go visit Australia and sign some paperwork - but maybe it can be done using the Aust Embassy in Bangkok as a witness JP.   We did all that before we left - and they were great and very helpful (I used the QLD Public Trustee - my last address). 

 

If you do have to visit Aust, make sure you tell CLink (International Group) before you go - explain why you are returning and for how long and that you will still be living in Thailand going forward (they might decide you have returned otherwise - portability issues then).  

Thanks. Noted. Will certainly consider Public Trustee when necessary.

[EVENKEEL]

2 hours ago, bob smith said:

this bar stool is hurting my bum..

Professionals stand, sitting is for wimps

[scubascuba3]

With friends you all just move on that's normal especially when you move to Thailand or they move elsewhere.

 

Family everyone just dies eventually and you lose contact or it gets less and less.

 

Would selling a house include burning bridges? Not planning on doing that for 15 years

Edited November 1, 2023 by scubascuba3