Illegal land occupation

[newbee2022]

1 hour ago, OneMoreFarang said:

 

I think if we have to compromise then we have to compromise - if there is no other option.

But if we can get what we want, why should we compromise?

I lone guy speaking?

[Chadnik]

2 hours ago, newbee2022 said:

If you break down a life just for counting money might be ok for you, not for me.

 

My guess is that Donald Trump has had a great life. As tragic as his need to pull a knife out of his back every half hour I'm sure it's been an epic journey.

[ChaiyaTH]

I guess it depends on the age, with the ones that are still under 35-40 I would say they most times keep tight control. Not with all, I personally am free to do whatever, I guess it is a benefit i do business and it's normal to need and go away for X days or even a long week every while.

[brianthainess]

Does your Thai wife keep you on a short leash?

Woof Woof.

[Kinok Farang]

3 hours ago, Will B Good said:

 

 

Good idea.....he should shift over to the real professionals, Carlson, Rogan, Jones, YouTube......get the real low down on what is happening....

Owen Jones?

[Will B Good]

4 minutes ago, Kinok Farang said:

Owen Jones?

 

 

Hahaha nice try.....Alex of Sandy Hook 'fame'

[Skeptic7]

Nope.

[NanLaew]

On 9/18/2024 at 11:12 AM, BritManToo said:

Incorrect,

........ a woman marries a man for what (she thinks) he can give her.

As for the locals, never had any urge to mix with any outside my bedroom.

I only mix with fellow Brits from the South of England 

 

Still struggling with the culture shock then? No worries, not long now.

[BritManToo]

Just now, NanLaew said:

Still struggling with the culture shock then? No worries, not long now.

Not really, I just don't find the locals interesting.

But as you say, no worries, not long now ...............

[scorecard]

On 9/15/2024 at 9:48 PM, NorthernRyland said:

The background, last year I decided I just can't take living anywhere near Chiang Mai and being exposed to the city. It's making me miserable being stuck in traffic and eating off the sides of noisy roads. All I see being built are these miserable over priced housing developments. Investors bought everything and land prices are absurd. It sucks and I'm done.

 

I told me wife I'm going to have a mental breakdown if I have to stay another year and so now I've been staying at my rental house up in the mountains with my dog and she can visit me on the weekends or wait until I'm bored and come down to here house for a few days. She's been totally fine with this and happy to have some space to herself and make noise watching stuff on her phone. Win-win.

 

I was just back in Colorado visiting family and I told my aunt about this arrangement and she was totally not ok with this and even went so far as to say she would divorce my ass if I did this to her. 😂 Honestly I don't care if I get divorced but I'm not staying in that city until my wife retires in 15 years and I'm not going to let her quit and take care of her so this is where I'm at. If had the same marriage as my aunt and her husband I would have bailed years ago. What a nightmare.

 

Anyways this got my thinking, are Thai women more accepting of this or is it just me? I know 3 of my wives friends that have husbands that work in other provinces and send money back home. Everyone thinks this is normal. Maybe the guys do this to meet their societal obligations and then see girls on the side and that's just how some Thai people do it. No idea but that's the impression I get because there's certainly a pattern here.

 

Curious to know what your experience is. Are Thai women different in this regard?

 

1. What your aunt in Colorado thinks / would do is totally irrelevant. I suggest don't listen to her.

2. Back to the OPs post. I have one farang acquaintance in CM, has quite good legal employment. His Thai wife is a senior accountant / economist, worked for the same big Thai company for about 15 years.

 

They met at a party celebrating a business success for the company. They married 1 year later. Have a big modern house on nice land on the outskirts of CM.

 

He transfers about 95% of his earning to his wife every month. He has to ask her permission to go anywhere, shopping to buy food (he likes to cook) . ...ask her permission to be away for 2 hrs* on Sat / Sun to have coffee with long-term western friends. Western friends wives often attend, all pleasant professional people, good conversation. *she indicated a time limit for him to be away, if he's 5 minutes late he gets a call telling him to be home very soon. 

 

He always asks his wife to attend coffee, she refuses. I went to their house once, she would not allow me to enter the house.

 

He seems to be quite happy with all of this. Tight leash?  

[Keeps]

Myself and my partner are friendly with 5 couples, all being European males with Thai partners. We meet up once or twice a week socially, normally only 1 or two couples absent for whatever reason.

 

The ladies tend to group together, eat some hard to identify nibbles and slag off all the fellas. They will also discuss the latest lotions and potions and how much they cost and the (perceived) benefit to their skin condition and tone. They no doubt discuss all the fellas sexual prowess (or more likely, lack of it). They discuss family matters and how their 'sister' (most likely a lady that one of their friends neighbours once saw on a bus going in a different direction to the one she was on) is.

 

Us blokes sit together, have a beer and discuss football.

 

That aside, my partner is more than happy for me to have some alone time. We don't need to be in each other's pockets 24/7. I go out for a 2 hour walk alone most days and once or twice a week I'll pop out on my own for a couple of beers and to watch a game whilst she stays at home and undertakes her beauty regime.

 

I think it is healthy for a relationship to spend some time apart.

[Thingamabob]

No, and neither I do I keep her on a short lease. Happily married since 1984.

[JamesPhuket10]

On 9/17/2024 at 7:06 PM, OneMoreFarang said:

Is there something like "Thai women"?

Some are like this, some are like that. And they behave differently in different situations with different people.

 

Do you think your wife is like all other Thai women? My one is different. 😉 

 

Exactly, when some farang goes on about his Thai wife or gf and then says something like, "You know what they are like", at that point I decided it is time to make my excuses and go, or talk to someone else as I am tired of hearing the stereotypical nonsense they come out with.

 

They say things like, " I had to buy her a car, a house and give money to the relatives etc, you know how it is?"

 

I don't waste my time trying to tell them I don't know how it is as I have never done that, they assume all Thai women are money grabbers and lazy and have not made any money doing a business, etc on their own. 

 

I have decided it is not my job in life to educate them or waste my time. 

 

[JamesPhuket10]

3 hours ago, Keeps said:

Myself and my partner are friendly with 5 couples, all being European males with Thai partners. We meet up once or twice a week socially, normally only 1 or two couples absent for whatever reason.

 

The ladies tend to group together, eat some hard to identify nibbles and slag off all the fellas. They will also discuss the latest lotions and potions and how much they cost and the (perceived) benefit to their skin condition and tone. They no doubt discuss all the fellas sexual prowess (or more likely, lack of it). They discuss family matters and how their 'sister' (most likely a lady that one of their friends neighbours once saw on a bus going in a different direction to the one she was on) is.

 

Us blokes sit together, have a beer and discuss football.

 

That aside, my partner is more than happy for me to have some alone time. We don't need to be in each other's pockets 24/7. I go out for a 2 hour walk alone most days and once or twice a week I'll pop out on my own for a couple of beers and to watch a game whilst she stays at home and undertakes her beauty regime.

 

I think it is healthy for a relationship to spend some time apart.

 

I avoid all of that, there is nothing more boring than couples mixing as one big group.

 

The good thing about the majority of Thai women is they do not drink and going to a bar etc is not the type of thing they want to do, which is great as I can meet up anytime at a bar/pub etc with other guys in my position and have a good drink and talk nonsense session, all good fun.

 

And another rule is, no talking of football in the pub (neither American nor real football).

 

 

[Keeps]

25 minutes ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

I avoid all of that, there is nothing more boring than couples mixing as one big group.

Sounds like more of an issue with the company you keep. All the couples I mentioned all enjoy socialising with each other. 

 

26 minutes ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

The good thing about the majority of Thai women is they do not drink and going to a bar etc is not the type of thing they want to do, which is great as I can meet up anytime at a bar/pub etc with other guys in my position and have a good drink and talk nonsense session, all good fun.

Sounds like you would rather go out without your partner and just catch up with your 'boring' mates. I do bow down to you though as you seem to know what the majority of Thai women want to do, where they want to go etc. That level of insight is invaluable.

 

33 minutes ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

And another rule is, no talking of football in the pub (neither American nor real football).

Why? I assume that no visit to the pub would involve watching a game? Or can you watch a game but are just not allowed to discuss it?

[Elkski]

Back to the OP original post.   How bad is the traffic?  How much has it changed last 5 years?  Does she cook often so you can eat at home in quiet? 

I couldn't hear the bad air in CM or anywhere.   It's bad enough in USA sometimes.   Luckily the forest fires were not so bad this year. 

Is the air better in your mountain getaway? Does it have a view?  To me there is peace in being above or upriver  from the crowds.   Where do you eat up there?  

[JamesPhuket10]

1 minute ago, Keeps said:

Sounds like more of an issue with the company you keep. All the couples I mentioned all enjoy socialising with each other. 

 

Sounds like you would rather go out without your partner and just catch up with your 'boring' mates. I do bow down to you though as you seem to know what the majority of Thai women want to do, where they want to go etc. That level of insight is invaluable.

 

Why? I assume that no visit to the pub would involve watching a game? Or can you watch a game but are just not allowed to discuss it?

 

I would find it really boring talking about football with a bunch of guys while the dim women sat around talking about makeup etc, I say dim as you said they sit and talk about makeup etc. 

 

I do go out with my partner, there is a daily two-hour walk around the reservoir here in Phuket, and there are hundreds of restaurants on my door step.

 

Lots things to do here.

 

But one great thing is a session with my educated male friends in a pub.

 

If dimwits are talking about football we avoid them. 

 

It is a fact most Thai women do not drink or go to pubs etc.

 

I know it is completely different in the North East as they are regarded by other Thais as party-loving drinkers, oh and gamblers. 

 

Now Rugby Union, that is a different story.

[Ralf001]

On 9/15/2024 at 9:48 PM, NorthernRyland said:

Does your Thai wife keep you on a short leash?

 

 

Nope.

[Keeps]

33 minutes ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

 

But one great thing is a session with my educated male friends in a pub.

I hope that you do not suffer from an inferiority complex when you are drinking with your educated chums. Do you ever get the sense that they pity you in any way but still try and include you within the group?

[NorthernRyland]

1 hour ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

Exactly, when some farang goes on about his Thai wife or gf and then says something like, "You know what they are like", at that point I decided it is time to make my excuses and go, or talk to someone else as I am tired of hearing the stereotypical nonsense they come out with.

 

Stereotypical nonsense? If it was true then the average Thai woman would be the same as the average American woman or another other woman. Clearly this isn't true right? There's a culture which these women grew up in and it's not the same culture as America. You can agree on that right? Therefore it's reasonable to ask if something is typical or not for Thai women.

[NorthernRyland]

58 minutes ago, Elkski said:

Back to the OP original post.   How bad is the traffic?  How much has it changed last 5 years?  Does she cook often so you can eat at home in quiet? 

I couldn't hear the bad air in CM or anywhere.   It's bad enough in USA sometimes.   Luckily the forest fires were not so bad this year. 

Is the air better in your mountain getaway? Does it have a view?  To me there is peace in being above or upriver  from the crowds.   Where do you eat up there?  

What are you trying to say? Can't tell if you're mocking me or not.

[Cameroni]

On 9/16/2024 at 3:32 AM, NorthernRyland said:

 I let my wife speak rudely to me for too long

 

Yes, that's a problem. You should view her statements from the lens of an employer. I look at her statements and ask "would she talk like this to an employer"?

 

If that's not the case I call her on how her statement is not acceptable. I try to nip inappropriate tone in the bud. Not always easy.