Having kids when old

[patman30]

7 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

I personally think that too....  but wouldn't pass judgement on a 60 year old having a child, if they were financially stable, could provide solid education (international standards in Thailand), and were healthy and energetic... they'd be 80 when their child is 20 years old... thats not so bad.

yes, exactly this, 60 is fine providing there is a very good chance you will see 80
and you are very secure financially.

As for education....
my personal view from my own experience is schools slow down the learning process, and teach us to remember and repeat, more than to think for ourselves.
that is just my experience though, i dropped out of high school at 14, last employed at 25 and retired in my 30s
but that is not for everyone, and home schooling is not for every parent either.

[richard_smith237]

8 minutes ago, patman30 said:

yes, exactly this, 60 is fine providing there is a very good chance you will see 80
and you are very secure financially.

As for education....
my personal view from my own experience is schools slow down the learning process, and teach us to remember and repeat, more than to think for ourselves.that is just my experience though, i dropped out of high school at 14, last employed at 25 and retired in my 30s
but that is not for everyone, and home schooling is not for every parent either.

 

I completely disagree - you maybe describing rubbish schools. 

Its certainly different at top-tier international schools.

 

I agree that home schooling is not for any parent, its not for the vast majority of parents given the experiences I have with the standards and knowledge I see in others around me.

 

It could be argued that home schooling should be banned... (that depends on the available options though - home schooling could be a better option than sending a kid to the local temple school - but then going back to the UK and putting a child in a free school here is the better option).

 

 

I'm not an educated educator - I'd be doing my son a disservice attempting to 'home-teach' him Maths, English, English Literature, Biology, Chemistry, Physics etc...   Though I was very strong in those subjects... I've never been 'taught how to teach them'....   I'd fail my son and thus have to rely on and defer to the professionals, just as my employers do me.... 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited 2 hours ago by richard_smith237

[Euroboy123]

I did the opposite, I was 24 when I fathered my first child with a 36 year old thai woman. Wasn't something planned and it was rough but it all worked put in the end.

Edited 1 hour ago by Euroboy123

[brianthainess]

3 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Do dads really do that?

My dad never did, and I never have either.

Think you've never had kids and believing the Hallmark channel.

I have no Idea what the 'hallmark channel' is, I guess it's an American thing. So you don't wish your dad had been more proactive, I wish my dad had been, but he was always working. 

[brianthainess]

33 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

I completely disagree - you maybe describing rubbish schools. 

Its certainly different at top-tier international schools.

 

I agree that home schooling is not for any parent, its not for the vast majority of parents given the experiences I have with the standards and knowledge I see in others around me.

 

It could be argued that home schooling should be banned... (that depends on the available options though - home schooling could be a better option than sending a kid to the local temple school - but then going back to the UK and putting a child in a free school here is the better option).

 

 

I'm not an educated educator - I'd be doing my son a disservice attempting to 'home-teach' him Maths, English, English Literature, Biology, Chemistry, Physics etc...   Though I was very strong in those subjects... I've never been 'taught how to teach them'....   I'd fail my son and thus have to rely on and defer to the professionals, just as my employers do me.... 

 

 

 

 

 

I agree, 

[JAS21]

Hell NO … when my kids from my first marriage went to university I sold their beds and changed the door locks.

 

When I married my present wife … who is a Thai … she was 48 and I was 57, neither of us had any desire to have any more children …… that was twenty two years ago and our opinions haven’t changed …. Don’t do it ….

[4MyEgo]

7 hours ago, Celsius said:

'm 51, so still got some time to think about it, but I think that's the way to go.

 

 

I had my 1st child to my X wife when I was 37.

 

My 2nd child with my Thai wife when I was 49, the 3rd came along when I was 54, we had both agreed to have kids, albeit it, I was ageing, however wife is 20 years younger than me, and I am in a financial position to help them in life.

 

Kids provide you with a lot of joy, and a lot of headaches, for without kids, life would be pretty bland in my opinion.

 

Then came the dog, now that's another story, I can get rid of that, I think ?

 

My advice to you is, if your fit and active, that's a bonus, if you are financial, that's another bonus.

 

The rest comes as you age, aches and pains, and of course watching your funds deplete 🙂

 

Oh and having kids means you are restricted in doing a lot of things, that you wouldn't be restricted in doing if you didn't have kids.

 

Think long and hard, before you blow that load 🤑

 

 

Edited 25 minutes ago by 4MyEgo