Marrying a Thai Wife: Overrated or Underrated?

[richard_smith237]

10 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

14 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

No...  but with that accusation you think you've scored a winning point while using a photo of a teenage Billie Piper...

... a but noncey !!!  

It's a photo of my former bosses wife, I think she was about 25 at the time, and had already recorded the TV series, "Adventures of a call girl" with plenty of nudity, as was her appearance in "Penny Dreadful".

 

You're using a photo of your former bosses wife....  erm....   that doesn't exactly score a winning point either !!

 

& that photo predates these TV series...   Anyway - no biggie, just highlighting that your avatar is open to criticism in the same manner as that you have criticised... 

 

Anyway - I agree...   She was quite the fox.

 

 

 

 

Edited 10 hours ago by richard_smith237

[zhounan]

I'd rather sit back and watch others enter a consumerism loop once they get married.

[KhunLA]

11 minutes ago, zhounan said:

I'd rather sit back and watch others enter a consumerism loop once they get married.

Some of us do like our hobbies & toys.  

[BigStar]

5 hours ago, save the frogs said:

i don't believe a lot of the nonsense other people post about relationships on here.

 

Good, but it depends on which other people. Aren't you the poster unable to see any girls in Pattaya except bar girls?

[KhunLA]

6 hours ago, save the frogs said:

i don't believe a lot of the nonsense other people post about relationships on here.

Agree, and I'm a complete farce ...

 

... "Mommy, can you bring me down another PB&J with a glass of milk"

 

Oh wait, unlike many folks hiding behind the keyboard, I'm an open book, and even have a few AN member who know me personally.  Can at least verify my BS from living in Udon Thani for 16 ish years.

 

Take your point though, and many a trolls living under the bridge 

 

 

[MangoKorat]

On 11/24/2024 at 10:32 PM, KhunLA said:

Take the word 'Thai' out.  It's a woman, hopefully, if that your preference.  No different than any other woman of the world. 

I can't agree with that. Feminism is not rampant with Thai women. I consider both men and women to be equal - no problems with that. However, I also believe that we each have our place - designed by nature. Men are the 'provider' because (in the main) they have the strength. Women have breasts because they feed the babies. Simplistic but factual.  The problems exist because of the tendency of men in many civilisations to subjugate women.

[MangoKorat]

On 11/24/2024 at 10:32 PM, KhunLA said:

You're marrying the woman, not the family.   Why would you support anyone else ?  Is this something you do in home country ?

Many non Asian men cannot understand this concept, the reality is that its part of Thai culture. If you live in Thailand with your Thai wife, you will of course be expected to support your wife's family - the trick is in knowing where the limits are and when you are simply being ripped off. A Thai man, if he had money, would face exactly the same in most cases.  Its akin to 'family social security' - just remember that government social security doesn't exist (in reality) for many Thai citizens.

 

However, its nothing to do with the fact that some Thai women actively target Western men in order to extract cash from them - there is a difference but it can sometimes be difficult to see.

 

Many years ago I was asked to pay quite a large amount for an operation my then mother in law needed.  I called a family meeting and told them straight - there are five children, all are married and all should contribute what they could afford, I was not going to pay for everything, I also had a family back home.  I'm not going to claim it was accepted easily, they each had their excuses as to why they couldn't pay but at the end of the day, the MIL had her operation and I paid 40%. The biggest benefit of sitting them down and stating my case was that such requests were few and far between after that.

Edited 3 hours ago by MangoKorat

[richard_smith237]

19 minutes ago, MangoKorat said:

I can't agree with that. Feminism is not rampant with Thai women. I consider both men and women to be equal - no problems with that. However, I also believe that we each have our place - designed by nature. Men are the 'provider' because (in the main) they have the strength. Women have breasts because they feed the babies. Simplistic but factual.  The problems exist because of the tendency of men in many civilisations to subjugate women.

 

In reality - so do most western women...  We just hear of the ridiculous vocal extremes on social media. 

All of my mates in the UK have relationships that include what maybe considered as 'traditional roles'  - Blokes do the Barbecuing and cutting the lawn, the women do the laundry and cooking etc... 

... this wave of Feminism is not welcomed by any female I know in the UK...   its just social media noise.

 

 

 

[KhunLA]

59 minutes ago, MangoKorat said:

Many non Asian men cannot understand this concept, the reality is that its part of Thai culture. If you live in Thailand with your Thai wife, you will of course be expected to support your wife's family - the trick is in knowing where the limits are and when you are simply being ripped off. A Thai man, if he had money, would face exactly the same in most cases.  Its akin to 'family social security' - just remember that government social security doesn't exist (in reality) for many Thai citizens.

 

However, its nothing to do with the fact that some Thai women actively target Western men in order to extract cash from them - there is a difference but it can sometimes be difficult to see.

 

Many years ago I was asked to pay quite a large amount for an operation my then mother in law needed.  I called a family meeting and told them straight - there are five children, all are married and all should contribute what they could afford, I was not going to pay for everything, I also had a family back home.  I'm not going to claim it was accepted easily, they each had their excuses as to why they couldn't pay but at the end of the day, the MIL had her operation and I paid 40%. The biggest benefit of sitting them down and stating my case was that such requests were few and far between after that.

 

Only if you are an idiot, or that just happens to be your choice.  Nothing wrong with either, as long as you have the funds.

 

Just not for me, and I have the funds.  My funds are for me & mine, not theirs.

 

1 hour ago, MangoKorat said:

I can't agree with that. Feminism is not rampant with Thai women. I consider both men and women to be equal - no problems with that. However, I also believe that we each have our place - designed by nature. Men are the 'provider' because (in the main) they have the strength. Women have breasts because they feed the babies. Simplistic but factual.  The problems exist because of the tendency of men in many civilisations to subjugate women.

 

You've been brainwashed.  Nobody has a place, and everyone has the freedom to do as they please.  Although they do need to exercise that freedom.  

 

Whatever makes a woman happy, that's what I want her to do.  I know what makes happy, and that's never going to change, and pity the woman that thinks she can.

 

Anyone hanging out with me for more than a week or 2 will understand that, and they can decide to except it, or have fun elsewhere.  Probably why most never lasted 1 or 2 weeks 

Edited 2 hours ago by KhunLA