Is It Better to Date a “6” Than a “10” in Thailand?

[Hummin]

12 minutes ago, Yagoda said:

The answer to the posted question is:

 

How much does each cost for ST?

you forgot an D

 

STD i suppose it should be? 

[Will B Good]

 

I see 10s, but rarely find them appealing.......maybe self-preservation as they would be unattainable (for me)?

 

 

I see many in everyday life who are nowhere a 10, but they appeal greatly.......?

[Yagoda]

25 minutes ago, Hummin said:

you forgot an D

 

STD i suppose it should be? 

As is typical for you, that makes no sense

[EVENKEEL]

If you want to be happy never make a pretty woman your wife 

[In Full Agreement]

 

Without photo reference, it's all meaningless.

 

I.E.   no photo, it didn't happen.

[bunnydrops]

Why didn't you sing it?

 

[bunnydrops]

I find that most 10's are just painted faces and expensive clothes, and look too much alike.

[scubascuba3]

4 hours ago, Njoku said:

Exactly, said poster hasn't got a clue about attraction or love, you go for the one that appeals to you, in the end its a soul to soul connection.

Not quite true in Thailand, women mostly going for money with a much older farang

[ChaiyaTH]

Yes.

[JoseThailand]

I’ve been living in Thailand on and off for a few years now, and let me tell you, the dating scene here can feel like a rollercoaster. When I first got to Bangkok, everything was new and exciting—neon lights, rooftop bars, and endless stories about gorgeous people everywhere you look. I was all in for that “Land of Tens” vibe. Before I knew it, I was going on dates with people who seemed almost too perfect, and at first, I felt pretty lucky. These “10s” turned heads wherever we went, and I won’t lie, my ego loved it. But it also came with a weird mix of pressure and insecurity I wasn’t expecting. Suddenly, I was out of my comfort zone, dropping way too much money at fancy clubs, pretending I liked expensive cocktails, and constantly worrying about other people hitting on my date. It was fun for a while, but I could never shake off the feeling that maybe they were just with me for the foreigner novelty, or that we didn’t really have all that much in common beyond looking good in photos.

 

Then I ended up meeting someone who I’d maybe call a “6” by mainstream standards, although I hate numbering people like that. Honestly, it just kind of happened. We met through some mutual friends, and it was such a breath of fresh air. We started hanging out at local night markets, exploring hidden street food spots, and just talking about everyday stuff, like how their family was doing back in the province or which Thai comedians cracked us up the most. There was no pressure to constantly be on some high-end date, and I wasn’t worried about whether they were going to ditch me for someone flashier. The connection felt real—like we were two regular people enjoying each other’s company instead of trying to play a part in some glamorous script.

 

What really surprised me was how much more I got to learn about Thai culture by being with someone who wasn’t all about the party scene. We spent time with their family, even went to a few temple ceremonies, and I started picking up more Thai phrases and customs along the way. It was the first time I felt like I was actually living in Thailand rather than just passing through. I got a whole different perspective on what makes this country tick, from the way people look out for their relatives to the little things that show respect and politeness, like the wai greeting or saying “khop khun krap” at the right moments. It’s not that you can’t experience that with a “10,” but in my case, it was definitely easier when both of us had our feet on the ground.

 

Looking back, I’m not saying every “10” in Thailand is going to be high-maintenance or superficial. Some people are just blessed with good looks and still have hearts of gold. But if you’re getting caught up in chasing the most eye-catching person you see, you might be missing out on genuinely awesome folks who don’t fit that Instagram ideal. For me, having a more down-to-earth partner turned out to be way more fun and way less stressful. I’m not constantly worried about them getting hit on at clubs or whether we look picture-perfect on social media. Instead, we’re busy trying new street foods, cracking jokes about ridiculous Thai dramas, and just enjoying a day-to-day life that feels real. At the end of the day, that authenticity has made the relationship a thousand times better than any glamorous fling I had before.

[FriscoKid]

1 hour ago, JoseThailand said:

I’ve been living in Thailand on and off for a few years now, and let me tell you, the dating scene here can feel like a rollercoaster. When I first got to Bangkok, everything was new and exciting—neon lights, rooftop bars, and endless stories about gorgeous people everywhere you look. I was all in for that “Land of Tens” vibe. Before I knew it, I was going on dates with people who seemed almost too perfect, and at first, I felt pretty lucky. These “10s” turned heads wherever we went, and I won’t lie, my ego loved it. But it also came with a weird mix of pressure and insecurity I wasn’t expecting. Suddenly, I was out of my comfort zone, dropping way too much money at fancy clubs, pretending I liked expensive cocktails, and constantly worrying about other people hitting on my date. It was fun for a while, but I could never shake off the feeling that maybe they were just with me for the foreigner novelty, or that we didn’t really have all that much in common beyond looking good in photos.

 

Then I ended up meeting someone who I’d maybe call a “6” by mainstream standards, although I hate numbering people like that. Honestly, it just kind of happened. We met through some mutual friends, and it was such a breath of fresh air. We started hanging out at local night markets, exploring hidden street food spots, and just talking about everyday stuff, like how their family was doing back in the province or which Thai comedians cracked us up the most. There was no pressure to constantly be on some high-end date, and I wasn’t worried about whether they were going to ditch me for someone flashier. The connection felt real—like we were two regular people enjoying each other’s company instead of trying to play a part in some glamorous script.

 

What really surprised me was how much more I got to learn about Thai culture by being with someone who wasn’t all about the party scene. We spent time with their family, even went to a few temple ceremonies, and I started picking up more Thai phrases and customs along the way. It was the first time I felt like I was actually living in Thailand rather than just passing through. I got a whole different perspective on what makes this country tick, from the way people look out for their relatives to the little things that show respect and politeness, like the wai greeting or saying “khop khun krap” at the right moments. It’s not that you can’t experience that with a “10,” but in my case, it was definitely easier when both of us had our feet on the ground.

 

Looking back, I’m not saying every “10” in Thailand is going to be high-maintenance or superficial. Some people are just blessed with good looks and still have hearts of gold. But if you’re getting caught up in chasing the most eye-catching person you see, you might be missing out on genuinely awesome folks who don’t fit that Instagram ideal. For me, having a more down-to-earth partner turned out to be way more fun and way less stressful. I’m not constantly worried about them getting hit on at clubs or whether we look picture-perfect on social media. Instead, we’re busy trying new street foods, cracking jokes about ridiculous Thai dramas, and just enjoying a day-to-day life that feels real. At the end of the day, that authenticity has made the relationship a thousand times better than any glamorous fling I had before.

100% AI. Don't you have anything better to do than to continue on with your AI posting obsession???  It is all such garbage. 

[Cameroni]

I had a date with a Filipina who is a 5 at best. Great company, fun personality. But  the thick behind and legs and round head, strangely shaped eyes etc, I didn't even feel like smashing her. Still enjoyed the company. But in the end you have to be physically attracted.

 

Now with a Thai girl who is a 10 and while the personality is nowhere near as fun, the convo not as flowing, there is a real sexual tension which the Filipina could never elicit.

 

All this soul to soul, personality stuff is just applicable AFTER you are actually physically attracted.

[Celsius]

I like something that I don't have.

 

Wife is skinny and Asian, I want a thick western woman.

[thurien]

17 hours ago, JK-Trilly said:

So, in Thailand, what should you aim for? Is it better to focus on a 6 (or lower) who brings stability and appreciation, or gamble on striving for a 10 and hope she’s the rare one who’s beautiful both inside and out?

 

I strongly recommend a straight "7,5" and you will always be on the safe side

[Cameroni]

The gripes with 10s can be corrected. Bad performance in bed? She can be taught.

 

Lack of integrity?  She can learn that lies have consequences.

 

You can't make good wine from bad grapes, so if she's a truly rotten human being, fine, but some 10s are not, they are capable of learning.

 

It's a risk of course.

[Celsius]

Women go for 0 and 1

 

 

[Cardano]

17 hours ago, JK-Trilly said:

Thailand sometimes feels like it is full of possibilities when it comes to women. Whether one is looking for a Thai woman or other foreign women who are also living here, it seems there are lots of options. But it also raises the question: is it better to aim for a “10,” one of seemingly physical perfection, or focus on around a “6,” being someone who is less stunning but perhaps offers more in terms of character, integrity, and real companionship?

 

The reality is that a “10” often comes with lots of challenges. Women who are far above average looking, whether Thai or expat, tend to receive a lot of attention in my experience, both online and in person. In places like Bangkok or Pattaya, you might find many attractive women who are often catching the eye of very many men. This constant attention can make them used to being the more cherished one in a relationship. That dynamic involves a sense of entitlement, higher expectations, or maybe even a lack of loyalty as they may always be looking for the bigger and better deal. 

 

On the other hand, women who are more in the “6” range, still attractive but not idolized, often seem more grounded. Because they might not be chasing Instagram likes or have men fawning over them 24/7, they seem more likely to appreciate a man who treats them well. In Thailand, finding someone who values a genuine connection can actually be more of a challenge, but also a breath of fresh air.

 

Sexual compatibility is another important factor to consider. While a “10” might light up the room with her figure, that doesn’t always translate to the bedroom. I find that women who are used to being admired for their looks don’t always feel the need to put in the effort to satisfy sexually. They often assume their physical appeal is enough and they might be more of a starfish. Meanwhile, a “6” who feels lucky to have a caring and committed partner might go the extra mile to make sure you’re totally happy in the relationship, including in the bedroom. This result can be a much more fulfilling and mutually satisfying sex life IMHO. 

 

When it comes to dating a “10,” the challenges can even go beyond just the attention she gets. High-maintenance expectations also come into play. A woman who’s used to admiration may expect you to fund a certain lifestyle, whether it’s frequent trips, expensive gifts, or dining at high-end restaurants. In Thailand, this could mean constant weekends off to Phuket, nights out at rooftop bars, or shopping sprees at luxury malls like Icon.

 

Then there’s a possible issue of emotional compatibility. Women who are less obsessed with their own beauty are often more down-to-earth, loyal, and attentive. They’re also not constantly looking over their shoulder for the next admirer or chasing the unattainable ideal of perfection, which can make them much easier to connect with.

 

This isn’t to say that every 10 is high-maintenance or that every 6 is an angel. Thailand, like anywhere else, seemingly has women across the spectrum. However, in a country where superficial beauty can often opens doors for them, it’s worth considering how much weight you want to put on appearance versus long-term compatibility.

 

So, in Thailand, what should you aim for? Is it better to focus on a 6 (or lower) who brings stability and appreciation, or gamble on striving for a 10 and hope she’s the rare one who’s beautiful both inside and out?

Jeez, another one who doesn't know what to do for Xmas.

[Lacessit]

I still remember a homely woman I had sex with here, what is referred to as a charity bonk. She would have been at best a 5. Her saving grace was lovely breasts, perfect size and shape. For me, anyway.

 

Much to my surprise, she was one of the best lays I have ever had.

 

It was mostly her attitude, she so obviously enjoyed getting laid.

 

 

[sidjameson]

1 hour ago, Cameroni said:

The gripes with 10s can be corrected. Bad performance in bed? She can be taught.

 

Lack of integrity?  She can learn that lies have consequences.

 

You can't make good wine from bad grapes, so if she's a truly rotten human being, fine, but some 10s are not, they are capable of learning.

 

It's a risk of course.

You talk as if men have a a selection of 10's to choose from.  Lol

[sidjameson]

42 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

I still remember a homely woman I had sex with here, what is referred to as a charity bonk. She would have been at best a 5. Her saving grace was lovely breasts, perfect size and shape. For me, anyway.

 

Much to my surprise, she was one of the best lays I have ever had.

 

It was mostly her attitude, she so obviously enjoyed getting laid.

 

 

How many times was this "one of the best lays" worth banging though? I bet not many.

[sidjameson]

12 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I'd rather DIY than start hiring anyone below an 8.

Married an 8-9 who kept her looks for 10 years, now at 15 years on she's down to a 5 but I still love her.

I was a 5 when we met and am still a 5 .........

What have you done to BM2? He knows all women are monkey branching mercenaries not capable of or deserving love. 

Untie him now and stop using his account. 😂

[Keeps]

12 hours ago, 0ffshore360 said:

It is 7.30 am in Thailand and I note the time this thread started and when the majority of posts in response.

Am I really supposed to take seriously anything posted as if from a person in Thailand at 2 am ?

You seem to forget that AI never sleeps!

[0ffshore360]

1 minute ago, Keeps said:

posted as if from a person in Thailand

I forgot?

 

[Keeps]

I view my Mrs as a 6/7 on looks but would put myself nearer a 2 so I am punching WELL above my weight. Regardless of looks, I put her personality at a 9.5 and that is far more important to me than looks. 

[Lacessit]

58 minutes ago, sidjameson said:

How many times was this "one of the best lays" worth banging though? I bet not many.

I probably would have continued, but she took off to Bangkok looking for work after 7 sessions. Lost contact with her.

[lamyai3]

19 hours ago, JackGats said:

I don't date long time any more in TH. I pay for short-times with 8s and above from time to time instead.

 

You could get two 4s for the same price as an 8.

[Cameroni]

2 hours ago, sidjameson said:

You talk as if men have a a selection of 10's to choose from.  Lol

 

Actually that's a fair point. 10s are, by definition, very rare. Yet it is not impossible to meet one.

[RSD1]

7 hours ago, Celsius said:

I like something that I don't have.

 

Wife is skinny and Asian, I want a thick western woman.

Try Yagoda. Still single I heard.

[Kinnock]

The OP mentions the possibilities in Thailand - so surely the aim should be to find a 10 with the pleasant character of a 6.

 

I found a 10 (11 in my view) with a nice, caring nature ... and she thought I scored just high enough to not scare the street dogs - and we've been together over 10 years.

 

We met via work rather than on-line though - so maybe that helps?

[GammaGlobulin]

In my very humble opinion:

 

Rather than wasting time dating either a 6 or a 10.....

 

Far better to listen to:

 

IF SIX Was NINE......!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Of course, if proper grammar ruled, then....

 

If 6 WERE 9.

 

 

Let it be.....

 

 

Let it be.....