How did you do it ?

[scubascuba3]

1 hour ago, OneMoreFarang said:

 

I don't think it should happen. But I am almost sure it's possible. There are enough greedy people out there.

It happens all the time when you pay your gf or wife a monthly salary++

[Hummin]

How was your previous relationships back home? Any good experiences?

 

If you struggled back home, it want be easier in Pattaya, but your chances is better if you manage to sit back and establish a decent friendship first, and not just jump in to the buffet and loose sight of the good ones.

 

Through a friendship you learn the person by time.

 

I knew my now wife for a long time before we established a physical relationship, and later agreed we where a couple. 

 

And by being patient you might experience less surprises. 

 

Easier if she already had one or more long term foreigner relationships. At least my experience. 

 

Just forget the fun wild party girls, 

[CharlieH]

flame posts removed.

 

[atpeace]

5 hours ago, DonniePeverley said:

A non prostitute / bar worker isn't going to marry a foreigner (unless its rare love). It's culture, most Thai women will marry a Thai man. 

Happens all the time but I assume not in your circles.  Most of what I see when in farang party areas is exactly what you see.

[Gottfrid]

17 hours ago, The Cobra said:

I’ve started thinking maybe I’m in the wrong spot entirely. Like, should I move? Maybe try a quieter city in Thailand may be up north?  or even go somewhere like the Philippines, where English is more common? I’m not giving up yet, but it’s starting to feel like a dead end.

See! You figured it out anyway. 😂

Always first, what you can do for them. After, depending on how much you do, you might get love and appreciation in the percentage divided by 2.

But, see it like this. Doesn´t matter where you are in the world. Now, go figure that! 😉 

[Delta Shift]

16 hours ago, The Cobra said:

I’m in my 50's.

 

And how old are the girls you're trying to connect with ?

Most younger women in prosperous urban areas don't care about older guys anymore.

It used to be the case but less and less so.

Most older dudes in Pattaya are dating the bottom of the trash can most of the time.

The only places one can still find older farangs with good-looking young Thai women are in lesser known towns.

For example, I was surprised at the number of old guys (more than 50 for sure) with young and rather good-looking Thai girls in Cha-am.

I think the reason for that might be the way the economy is developing.

Not only in Thailand but almost everywhere really.

A shrinking number of cities is getting an increasingly larger share of the pie.

Girls is Pattaya probably enjoy a degree of abundance that allow them to be picky.

In ghost town Cha-am, not so much so many of the younger girls don't seem to have much of a problem getting involved with a 50, 60 or even 70 yo farang with a bit of money to secure them.

Anyways. Good hunting :)

[thaibeachlovers]

17 hours ago, The Cobra said:

Then there’s the other side of it—some of the women I’ve dated didn’t speak a word of English. I gave it a go, but honestly, it just got awkward and boring after a while.

I’ve tried chatting up women who work regular jobs—shop girls, market sellers, even a pharmacist once—but it doesn’t seem to go anywhere. Maybe it’s the language barrier, or maybe they’ve already got a farang boyfriend

Don't fall for the urban myth that Thai women are all gagging to marry a farang. That's BS. "Good" Thai women want to marry a Thai, so that leaves the bar girls.

 

Of course, if very rich, probably catch a "good" Thai girl, but that applies all over the world.

 

A normal non BG Thai woman might play across the line, but you'd have to speak Thai to be in with a serious chance of a long term relationship, and be in for a serious sin sod price to buy her from her parents.

[thaibeachlovers]

17 hours ago, Lacessit said:

If you don't accept most Thai women want financial support from a foreigner, IMO your chances are statistically improbable.

 

Any high-earning Thai woman is only going to be interested in Thai males, for status reasons. Claims by more deluded or mischievous posters notwithstanding.

 

You may find a soulmate accidentally. I was having my share of fun and games until I met someone who changed my mind. I give her what she wants, she gives me what I want. About 12 years now.

 

I would suggest Pattaya is not the place for long term relationships. I met my GF in Chiang Rai.

 

Filipinas can be just as predatory as some Thais, there's no guarantees.

 

 

Agree. The urban myth is that Thai women actually want to marry a farang, but IMO that is BS. They might do it if a farang speaks good Thai, the family approve and he is well off.

 

Then, after marriage, the farang may find that she is just the same as any western woman he didn't want to marry. That happened to me.

[KhunLA]

What's the problem ?  Only took me 50+ years to find a keeper 

 

Still not sure which is, was more fun, being here, at getting here.  Though too old & lazy to give up what I have, as still turns me on, and makes me smile every day, after 19 years.

 

 

[Lacessit]

58 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Agree. The urban myth is that Thai women actually want to marry a farang, but IMO that is BS. They might do it if a farang speaks good Thai, the family approve and he is well off.

 

Then, after marriage, the farang may find that she is just the same as any western woman he didn't want to marry. That happened to me.

My word, I'll have to mount your post on a wall.

 

We actually agree on something.

[jerrymahoney]

2 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

It happens all the time when you pay your gf or wife a monthly salary++

Sure but mine's different

 

(A standard response to your standard pay-them-a-salary post)

 

 

 

[jippytum]

The varied experiences you have had without the result you want would suggest you are in the right location but  an unrealistic  expectations of woman in general and Thai woman in particular

[scubascuba3]

47 minutes ago, jerrymahoney said:

Sure but mine's different

 

(A standard response to your standard pay-them-a-salary post)

 

 

 

I post it because guys kid themselves it isn't the case

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Agree. The urban myth is that Thai women actually want to marry a farang, but IMO that is BS. They might do it if a farang speaks good Thai, the family approve and he is well off.

 

Then, after marriage, the farang may find that she is just the same as any western woman he didn't want to marry. That happened to me.

Mine has been great, 15+ years now.

Nothing like my sexless Brit wife.

[Hummin]

13 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

I post it because guys kid themselves it isn't the case

We feel sorry for you, who have to continously remind yourself year after year you can not afford a wife, by repeatedly posting the same over and over. It becomes a mental routine for you, generalize the same statement over and over. 

 

🤗😘🔥

[Denim]

18 hours ago, CharlieH said:

It's often said that when your not looking, that's usually when you find it, and often when you least expect it. 

 

Like lost car keys then

[soalbundy]

18 hours ago, CharlieH said:

It's often said that when your not looking, that's usually when you find it, and often when you least expect it. 

Like syphilis?

[edwardflory]

"""would suggest Pattaya is not the place for long term relationships....."""

 

((( NOTE: I'll defend the bar girls - MANY girls have NO employment possibilities in home areas so they end up in Pattaya because they are told 'plenty of work' there. SAD that they end up working in a bar.)))

 

I have to agree with the statement.  Lived in Pattaya 2 years - several non bar girls - nothing.  BKK 1 year - didn't like the city,  KORAT - still here 11 years and now married.

 

As to """PAYING"""  a wife, I give mine 5,000bt monthly  ( under 1/2 of what she was making working in a factory ) to do with as she sees fit.

 

As I have said many times, Thailand life is what YOU make it to be.

[Andyfez]

You're not going to easily meet anyone in Pattaya.

Foreigners and Thais alike are there to have a good time. 

Not a long time.

[BritManToo]

6 minutes ago, edwardflory said:

As to"""PAYING"""  a wife, I give mine 5,000bt monthly  ( under 1/2 of what she was making working in a factory ) to do with as she sees fit.

 

As I have said many times, Thailand life is what YOU make it to be.

Plus all her food, shopping, transport, fuel, housing, utils ...... Maybe a free house/car/scooter So another 15-20kbht/month + 2Mbht up front.

[newbee2022]

20 hours ago, The Cobra said:

I’ve been living in Thailand for awhlle now, based in Pattaya. Great place, love the country, love the people. But there’s one thing I just can’t seem to figure out—finding a proper long-term relationship.

 

Don’t get me wrong, there’s been no shortage of fun. I’ve had my fair share of dates and, you know, other things. But finding someone who’s genuinely interested in me and not what I can do for them? That’s been a struggle.

I’m in my 50's, keep myself in decent shape, and I don’t think I’m too bad-looking. But most of the women I meet here seem to want financial support, and I’m not interested in being an ATM.

 

Then there’s the other side of it—some of the women I’ve dated didn’t speak a word of English. I gave it a go, but honestly, it just got awkward and boring after a while.

I’ve tried chatting up women who work regular jobs—shop girls, market sellers, even a pharmacist once—but it doesn’t seem to go anywhere. Maybe it’s the language barrier, or maybe they’ve already got a farang boyfriend. Or, who knows, maybe Pattaya’s just not the place for a foreigner to find a serious relationship. Feels like the reputation here works against me sometimes.

 

I’ve started thinking maybe I’m in the wrong spot entirely. Like, should I move? Maybe try a quieter city in Thailand may be up north?  or even go somewhere like the Philippines, where English is more common? I’m not giving up yet, but it’s starting to feel like a dead end.

 

So, what do you guys think? How did you meet your partner? Any tips for finding someone genuine? I’m not keen on apps—too many freelancers and scams there. Got any advice for meeting someone the old-fashioned way?

 

Thanks

I met my Thai wife in France. She worked for a construction office, importing wooden houses from Thailand to France/Italy.

So it was the old fashioned way. 

[edwardflory]

Tell me where I can get for free " ...food, shopping, transport, fuel, housing, utils ... ," and I'll move there now.

 

She does "housework, laundry, shopping, cooks 3 meals daily, has a garden for fresh veggies, washes my back in the shower, takes care of my physical needs"

I think 5000bt is a bargain. 

 

Where the hell are you going to get a maid 24/7  for 5000bt a month - drop the shower & physical contact.

 

I'm 80, was brought up that a husband "takes care of" the house bills and the wife.

[Centigrade32]

12 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Plus all her food, shopping, transport, fuel, housing, utils ...... Maybe a free house/car/scooter So another 15-20kbht/month + 2Mbht up front.

 

Sounds like an expensive way to deal with loneliness.

[scubascuba3]

33 minutes ago, Hummin said:

We feel sorry for you, who have to continously remind yourself year after year you can not afford a wife, by repeatedly posting the same over and over. It becomes a mental routine for you, generalize the same statement over and over. 

 

🤗😘🔥

a sensitive issue for you i know, but yours is different 

[BritManToo]

1 minute ago, edwardflory said:

Tell me where I can get for free " ...food, shopping, transport, fuel, housing, utils ... ," and I'll move there now.

 

She does "housework, laundry, shopping, cooks 3 meals daily, has a garden for fresh veggies, washes my back in the shower, takes care of my physical needs"

I think 5000bt is a bargain. 

 

Where the hell are you going to get a maid 24/7  for 5000bt a month - drop the shower & physical contact.

 

I'm 80, was brought up that a husband "takes care of" the house bills and the wife.

My point being you left out most of the extra  costs and only listed her 'pocket money'.

[Hummin]

2 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

a sensitive issue for you i know, but yours is different 

Obviously back to the pissing contest, where you just excuse yourself for only rely on short time, and justify you paying someone having sex with you. 

 

2. You Obviously haven't figured out how real relationships works, and the duties comes with being in a relationship as well the comfort both provides as well security. Not to forget the bounds involvement between two people.

 

But living in Pattaya or being stuck there, makes you believe in a different realism, than those who are not exposed to the same day by day, where everything is an transaction, even friendships

[Bangkokhatter]

2 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Don't fall for the urban myth that Thai women are all gagging to marry a farang. That's BS. "Good" Thai women want to marry a Thai, so that leaves the bar girls.

 

Of course, if very rich, probably catch a "good" Thai girl, but that applies all over the world.

 

A normal non BG Thai woman might play across the line, but you'd have to speak Thai to be in with a serious chance of a long term relationship, and be in for a serious sin sod price to buy her from her parents.

When was the last time you were actually in Thailand ?

 

Most of your posts regarding Thailand and especially on the subject of their wonderful females are so out of touch.

 

I speak little Thai, short and average looking but have continuously dated (and married) normal Thai ladies for the past 15 years.

[Lacessit]

6 hours ago, kevinsan said:

Miss the days when one would just go upcountry and buy a wife.

How many have you purchased?

[Lacessit]

54 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Mine has been great, 15+ years now.

Nothing like my sexless Brit wife.

IIRC you said your Thai wife had gone from gorgeous to a german hausfrau.

 

Are you mellowing with age?

[edwardflory]

I don't think a wife should have to, every day, ask for / or beg for money, to buy things SHE wants.

Food budget in house average is 3000bt weekly. Occasionally she will ask for extra money, 90% of the time for some house wants - last time was 400bt for new dishes on promotion at Big C