No male Thai friends after years of living here? Help for the lonely farangs left out.

[MalcolmB]

A common theme on this forum is farangs who can’t make any male Thai friends. 

Considering how friendly Thais are you need to blame yourself, not the Thais.

So this self help video is for you. 

 

Don’t say “I don’t like Thai men anyway”. That’s just a natural reaction to being socially isolated.

 

Good luck.

 

 

[SAFETY FIRST]

19 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

No male Thai friends  

This guy Nailed it in the first minute. 

 

 

Most of the foreigners here are too argumentative, not easy going and don't get along with other people.

 

Bingo 😂

 

[Harrisfan]

26 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

A common theme on this forum is farangs who can’t make any male Thai friends. 

Considering how friendly Thais are you need to blame yourself, not the Thais.

So this self help video is for you. 

 

Don’t say “I don’t like Thai men anyway”. That’s just a natural reaction to being socially isolated.

 

Good luck.

 

 

He talks like Bruno

[peter zwart]

I believe that the concept of friendship is becoming an extinct phenomenon. People are becoming increasingly individualistic, more easily offended, and less willing to go out of their way for others. A good acquaintance suits me better. And that can be someone of any nationality. If you like each other, then you like each other. If it doesn’t click, we simply move on cheerfully. Not angry, not aggressive, and with mutual respect.

[Prubangboy]

I just don’t get any feeling that they’re all that into me. 
 

That’s why I’m mostly hang out by myself.

 

At least I’m into me.

[SMIAI]

Ironic that one of the most unpleasant people on this forum is complaining about foreigners being argumentative. You literally couldn't make up some of the madness we see on this forum every day.

I doubt he has any friends at all for whom he doesn't pay.

 

[richard_smith237]

It’s a curious thing – I can’t imagine living in a country and not forming genuine friendships with the locals - but its not something that can be forced, building a friendship has to be an organic process.

 

One of my closest friends of over 20 years is Thai.

I’ve played on Thai football teams, made strong friendships along the way, and spent countless nights out together. Later, when married, those nights turned into shared holidays – first as couples, and eventually with our families. Dinners, trips, everyday life... it all blended into something very natural and normal.

 

 

Many of my Western friends here have also built close relationships with Thai friends, and through them, there’s been a kind of social overlap – I've ended up becoming friends with their Thai mates too.

 

The majority of Westerners I know who've spent any meaningful amount of time here have integrated to a degree, forging authentic, everyday friendships.

 

A key factor, I’ve noticed, is having a similar socio-economic and educational background. When that alignment’s there, there's simply more common ground.... from language and humour to shared cultural references and values.

 

 

That said, I’m not likely to be knocking back Lao Khao and getting legless with the win-motorbike lads on the corner - I see Thai males from that 'different' demographic as being somewhat more risky especially when alcohol is included - I think many would say the same thing.

 

 

I remember one Westerner telling me he’s never met a Thai guy who didn’t want something from him – usually money. And while that might be his experience, I suspect it's more a reflection of crossing social strata than anything inherently cultural.

 

 

Then there are the added 'friendships' that a more like acquaintances through common ground, such as parents of children's school friends....  We've holidayed, had dinners etc and there is a lot of common ground though true friendships have not developed.

 

 

There is also an added facet to friendships, and I think it holds across all cultures and nationality - thats Age... Its far easier to develop friendships when younger. 

When older we are perhaps more cautious of new people, more guarded, and socialise less which reduces opportunity.

 

[transam]

1 hour ago, MalcolmB said:

A common theme on this forum is farangs who can’t make any male Thai friends. 

Considering how friendly Thais are you need to blame yourself, not the Thais.

So this self help video is for you. 

 

Don’t say “I don’t like Thai men anyway”. That’s just a natural reaction to being socially isolated.

 

Good luck.

 

 

Your latest baiting thread, all from you being here a year..................😂

[Harrisfan]

9 minutes ago, SMIAI said:

Ironic that one of the most unpleasant people on this forum is complaining about foreigners being argumentative. You literally couldn't make up some of the madness we see on this forum every day.

I doubt he has any friends at all for whom he doesn't pay.

 

Nice positive vibes

[Cameroni]

1 hour ago, peter zwart said:

I believe that the concept of friendship is becoming an extinct phenomenon. People are becoming increasingly individualistic, more easily offended, and less willing to go out of their way for others. A good acquaintance suits me better. And that can be someone of any nationality. If you like each other, then you like each other. If it doesn’t click, we simply move on cheerfully. Not angry, not aggressive, and with mutual respect.

 

Absolutely spot on. The same dynamic exists in male/female relationships now. It is extremely unlikely that a relationship started post 2020 will last a long time. People have become hyper individualistic and unwilling to compromise, their demands and wants have risen astronomically.

 

I've found that when people truly need the help of others they are open for friendship, but if they do not need anyone then they are mostly not interested.

[Pouatchee]

1 hour ago, MalcolmB said:

A common theme on this forum is farangs who can’t make any male Thai friends.

 

who cares man... all i need is the companionship of my wife. why worry about thai guys? if you are that lonely by a golfish, a hamster or a dog.

[SMIAI]

Many of the regular posters here are either fake or suffering from some kind of mental imbalance.

You don't ever see any kind of balance in their behaviour. It's almost always one sided. Like, for instance, a unnatural hatred of foreigners. So most of their posts will be along those lines.

You will hardly see a post from them where they are actually showing kindness to others. No balance, just hatred, baiting, argumentative... how could someone like that have any real friends? That kind of attitude is too draining in real life.

They don't have real friends, full stop. Let alone Thai men. Money is usually their pull.

 

[Harrisfan]

2 minutes ago, SMIAI said:

Many of the regular posters here are either fake or suffering from some kind of mental imbalance.

You don't ever see any kind of balance in their behaviour. It's almost always one sided. Like, for instance, a unnatural hatred of foreigners. So most of their posts will be along those lines.

You will hardly see a post from them where they are actually showing kindness to others. No balance, just hatred, baiting, argumentative... how could someone like that have any real friends? That kind of attitude is too draining in real life.

They don't have real friends, full stop. Let alone Thai men. Money is usually their pull.

 

100% negative post. Try being positive.

 

[SMIAI]

As I wrote before....mental imbalance. Perfect example on this thread. Their latest thing is 'negativity'.

[KhunLA]

After about 20 yrs old, I really had no desire or need for male friends.  Not saying I didn't have any, by that time, or met new ones, especially last company I worked for, but didn't really spend much time with any males.

 

Not into sports, or talking about females conquests, so no real common interests.  Some good diving buddies, or a few to smoke doobies and sip few with, but nobody I'd see on even a weekly or monthly basis.

 

Not fluent in Thai, and most locals over 40 or 50 yrs old, aren't really fluent in English, so that language barrier is there.  Don't have too much in common with younger generation.

[Captain Flack]

Troll post removed.

 

@Harrisfan final reminder, stop trolling and stalking other posters.

[freedomnow]

2 hours ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Most of the foreigners here are too argumentative, not easy going and don't get along with other people.

 

Bingo 😂

 

This forum is testament to it.

[Harrisfan]

4 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

After about 20 yrs old, I really had no desire or need for male friends.  Not saying I didn't have any, by that time, or met new ones, especially last company I worked for, but didn't really spend much time with any males.

 

Not into sports, or talking about females conquests, so no real common interests.  Some good diving buddies, or a few to smoke doobies and sip few with, but nobody I'd see on even a weekly or monthly basis.

 

Not fluent in Thai, and most locals over 40 or 50 yrs old, aren't really fluent in English, so that language barrier is there.  Don't have too much in common with younger generation.

Thai women are more friendly. Thai guys less interested. Thai hobbies are like muay thai watching or family. Sort of no real common interest.

[proton]

18 years here don't know any blokes, foreigners or Thais, why would you want to?

[transam]

Just now, proton said:

18 years here don't know any blokes, foreigners or Thais, why would you want to?

To help you out if you have a problem, I actually help 3 farangs out with different problems..🤗

[Harrisfan]

3 minutes ago, proton said:

18 years here don't know any blokes, foreigners or Thais, why would you want to?

Depends if they are normal or not. Plenty of normal people in the world.

[Sir Dude]

Generally, a lot of these social ills can be laid squarely at the feet of toxic social media, as it promotes isolation and social engineering/manipulation and the idea that it's easier just to not connect meaningfully with others as you don't have to now... however, older people that remember the analogue world fare much better than the kids that have never known anything else.

The effects of such things like social media manifest themselves in many ways, like the increase of not just isolation, but the lack of social skills/soft skills like communication, teamwork, or interpersonal skills etc... young people are scared of answering the phone or consider a question at work as a micro-aggression, you know, that sort of nonsense.

You don't actually now have to interact with others to live your life and many people that surround you now have nothing in common with each other... long gone are the days of community where people were forced to come together as they had common problems that affected all.

Sometimes I think that this isolation only serves those who wish to control, as it makes it easier for the puppeteers to control the marionettes of society. People are also far too self-centered with a delusional sense of grandeur and self-righteousness these days, instantly taking offence to the slightest percieved slight... not conducive to community and relationship building. One of the few things the UK PM recently said that was actually true, but then he limped out and apologised, was that the UK is in danger of becoming a "A land of strangers"... nailed it there.

[Magictoad]

The cultural difference is a chasm. That's not even allowing for differences in class and education etc. How many Thai men do you meet who have the same level.of education as you, and can speak English and how many people here speak excellent Thai? And are highly educated?

I am the latter but can't do the former.

[proton]

Just now, Harrisfan said:

Depends if they are normal or not. Plenty of normal people in the world.

 

Many of the foreigners I did meet here were nothing but trouble, one or two serious trouble. 

[blaze master]

Its not them.....its you.

[scubascuba3]

In Pattaya it's easier to find normal farang, the rest you can avoid. I cycle with Thai guys sometimes but you don't really connect with them because of the language 

[SMIAI]

No. Good people make friends anywhere. Pattaya is no different. If you cannot make friends, then the problem is you.

[transam]

1 minute ago, SMIAI said:

No. Good people make friends anywhere. Pattaya is no different. If you cannot make friends, then the problem is you.

Yep...........🤗

[DezLez]

26 minutes ago, SMIAI said:

They don't have real friends, full stop. Let alone Thai men. Money is usually their pull.

Another keyboard warrior painting people with very general characteristics even though it has never met any of them!

I believe that you are just making assumptions based on your own in bult prejudices.  I say that going by the tenor of what you have posted above!

 

[blaze master]

5 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

In Pattaya it's easier to find normal farang, the rest you can avoid. I cycle with Thai guys sometimes but you don't really connect with them because of the language 

 

Are you fluent in thai yet?