Update on the potential restauranteur Girlfriend with the maybe/maybe not-dead husband:

 

She asked me for a loan. 

 

We had 4 little sit-downs at her restaurant and a meal out with the daughter, over a span of 8 days. So not much to separate from.

 

What is the golden rule way to fade? I mean, with all her face-saving stuff and all.

What do you mean, you've made up your mind to ditch her?

Def.

 

Should I do it before she goes into work or after?

Just tell her you have loaned money to several other girlfriends and 

your skint ,and could she loan YOU a B1000 , you wont hear from

her again.

 

regards worgeordie

Tell her after she goes to work so not to have her bring stress to work, then let her know you really can't help her now as you have family business that is costing you a lot. Anyone would understand. Maybe/maybe not dead husband isn't something you want to be around.

Just tell her to F off and 'don't come the old soldier.'😉

7 minutes ago, Gandtee said:

Just tell her to F off and 'don't come the old soldier.'😉

 

 

Harsh................................... but effective..  😊

If you actually have balls why ask in a forum?

She straight up asked. You can straight up say no. 

 

Checked your earlier posts to see what happened. Ghosting won't work if you live two hundred metres away. What are you thinking? :)

In these circumstances, it's okay to deflect. Maybe talk about how lending money affected a good friendship or that you are currently helping family members and have only your retirement income at the moment.

Don't do anything to make her lose face. Show a good side. A caring side. Ask if there is any other way you could help...even if you don't mean it. Then she has the opportunity to thank you for your suggestion, rather than ending on a negative note from you.

Plastic surgery. Change your appearance. If on a budget, one of these:-

 

1 hour ago, Prubangboy said:

Def.

 

Should I do it before she goes into work or after?

 

You're right to give this thought. Women can be unstable and have been known to cook rabbits, slice off genitalia and do other similar extreme acts when discarded. The old adage "hell hath no fury than a woman scorned." did not just appear for no reason.

 

I still remember one Thai woman I harshly told to get out of my house, she stole 20000 Baht from my bag. So first things first, secure all your cash.

 

Secondly, as TopGun said, make up some bs story that makes both you and her look good, so you can extricate yoursefl. Under no circumstances tell her she's a shameless lightweight and you'd sooner throw money down the toilet than lend it to her.

 

Don't give her any reason to climb through your window and cut off  your Johnson. Be as tactful, ie fake, as possible.

 

I would have said before work, so she can't ruminate on it. If you tell her after work she'll think about it all night.

How much is the loan?

Can she work it off? Nudge,nudge,wink,wink.

1 hour ago, 0ffshore360 said:

If you actually have balls why ask in a forum?

 

 

The idea of laughing at people (including me) on the internet seems very new to you.

 

Hello, Time Traveller from a 1998 AOL chatroom.

 

I've been silent all day. She knows what's up. I'll go with I "realized" that I'm not ready to date. 

 

I have been advised that blocking her would cause her to have hurt feelings, while ignoring her is somehow better.

 

Whatevs.

Who advised that? You wrote that there was sexual attraction and all that. Has the request for money made you flop?

Or do you think the ONLY reason she showed interest was to get money out of you?

 

Did you just mock someone about them being from 1998 and then write "whatevs"? 

Tell her you've decided to get back together with your ex-girlfriend.

13 minutes ago, TopGun10 said:

 

 

Did you just mock someone about them being from 1998 and then write "whatevs"? 

Of course.

 

Language barrier + no time available and the daughter always in the mix + loan hint = Sayonara.

 

It's only been 9 days since start to finish. Her heart will go on.

I learned to just ghost. It works better for me. When it comes down to it you don't owe anybody anything and you have no way of knowing what would work best for them. So do what feels right for yourself.

 

People usually make up a reason why you ghosted that works best for them if you don't offer a reason.

 

The times a woman has explained why she was not interested to me bothered me more then her just leaving. 🫡

Or just tell her you've met a nice ladyboy. That's what bob would do...

3 hours ago, Prubangboy said:

She asked me for a loan. 

Just say no and leave. 

I went with a text of "I realized that I am not ready to date". She's called twice. That's that.

1 hour ago, Prubangboy said:

I went with a text of "I realized that I am not ready to date". She's called twice. That's that.

Ok, it’s already done, but I’d just add there’s no need to overthink it. Just tell her you have another girlfriend, give her a couple thousand Baht as a courtesy, and move on. Whether she believes you or not doesn’t matter. In situations like this, it’s usually best to cut ties graciously, avoid confrontation or a big loss of face, and move on. If you hand her a couple thousand Baht on the way out, there’s really no way she could stay angry or become vindictive.

Just now, short-Timer said:

Ok, it’s already done, but I’d just add there’s no need to overthink it. Just tell her you have another girlfriend, give her a couple thousand Baht as a courtesy, and move on. Whether she believes you or not doesn’t matter. In situations like this, it’s usually best to cut ties graciously, avoid confrontation or a big loss of face, and move on. If you hand her a couple thousand Baht on the way out, there’s really no way she could stay angry or become vindictive.

Thanks, but she drives an expensive car. And I don't want to see her again .

 

I didn't leave her hanging. I was diplomatic.

 

And now my pretend-duty is done.

15 hours ago, Prubangboy said:

Update on the potential restauranteur Girlfriend with the maybe/maybe not-dead husband:

 

She asked me for a loan. 

 

We had 4 little sit-downs at her restaurant and a meal out with the daughter, over a span of 8 days. So not much to separate from.

 

What is the golden rule way to fade? I mean, with all her face-saving stuff and all.

Don’t shower, brush your teeth or use the bumgun for a few days and she will dump you.

“I’ve got my own things going on that I can’t really get into, so I’m not in a position to help financially. Money has a way of breaking friendships, and I wouldn’t want that.”

Thanks Charlie.
 

I am super relieved I missed having that kind of discussion. And its clingy aftermath.

 

A person who speaks no English, has no time to spend with me, and will take forever to take their clothes off fails the all important what’s in it for me? test.