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A Thai woman in Pattaya has reached out to an online community, claiming her foreign ex-husband has taken their son without permission. On October 30, she shared photos of the boy and ex-husband in the Facebook group Pattaya Talk, requesting anyone with information to contact her. The post quickly gained traction within the community, receiving immense support as people shared the details to help locate the child.

 

The situation escalated as mixed reactions emerged online. A foreign man, claiming familiarity with the ex-husband, defended him, stating that he took the child for safety reasons. Contrarily, he accused the boy’s mother of neglecting her parental responsibilities, alleging her involvement in the sex industry and suggesting that the child was often left in unsuitable care.

 

The woman countered these claims by sharing her side of the story. She explained a strained three-year relationship with her ex-husband, during which he allegedly expelled her upon learning about her pregnancy. She described raising her son alone with no support, living with her sister and a friend. Recently, a request from the ex-husband’s new partner led her to bring her son to him, only for him to allegedly take the child away.

 

Despite the accusations, no official police statement has been released, leaving the case unresolved as it continues to attract public attention. The woman further claimed that her ex-husband, apart from allegedly abusing her, has a criminal record related to drugs. This development adds complexity to the situation as authorities are urged to respond promptly.

 

Looking ahead, the focus remains on the authorities’ next steps and whether the woman will receive any assistance in her search for her son. Community support remains strong as local netizens continue to share the information, hoping for a swift resolution. Meanwhile, the woman awaits an official update from the police on the ongoing investigation.

 

Key Takeaways

• A Thai woman claims her foreign ex-husband took their son without consent.
• Online responses include claims of both abduction and concerns about the child’s safety.
• Police involvement is anticipated as the community rallies for information.

 

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  Adapted by ASEAN Now from The Thaiger 2025-10-31

 

 

59 minutes ago, snoop1130 said:

A foreign man, claiming familiarity with the ex-husband, defended him, stating that he took the child for safety reasons. Contrarily, he accused the boy’s mother of neglecting her parental responsibilities, alleging her involvement in the sex industry and suggesting that the child was often left in unsuitable care.

 

I would tend to believe this. 

12 hours ago, FruitPudding said:

I would tend to believe this. 

 

Agree, but he has himself to blaim, why did he married a hooker?

The story header is quite misleading by not stating he is the paternal father. He has just as much right to the child as the mother does. To claim he took her child is wrong. 

I do not and hope the police do not get involved in this other than setting up a custody hearing to settle who gets custody. 

Although the drug charge for the foreigner previously should not affect the custody settlement drastically. it may affect his visa status if true. 

 

30 minutes ago, watchcat said:

 

Agree, but he has himself to blaim, why did he married a hooker?

 

Even when you don't marry a hooker, you often get the same result in Thailand.

 

Believe me, I know. Thai parenting is often quite bad to say the least, by Western standards. 

Another tale of woe for a child torn between parents and weaponized. 

If the mother is Thai, the foreign father will have a struggle to share the kids life if the marriage breaks down. 

All one can do is think ahead, be registered as the father and get a non-Thai passport for the kid. 

6 hours ago, thesetat said:

The story header is quite misleading by not stating he is the paternal father. He has just as much right to the child as the mother does. To claim he took her child is wrong. 

I do not and hope the police do not get involved in this other than setting up a custody hearing to settle who gets custody. 

Although the drug charge for the foreigner previously should not affect the custody settlement drastically. it may affect his visa status if true. 

 

I think you really need to read Thai law. What you are doing here, is to 100% base your believe in rights on your home country law. This is Thailand. Read, man!

For start, even if your name as a father stands on the birth certificate, does not make you a legal father or guardian in Thailand. The mother has all the custodian rights for birth automatically.

5 hours ago, FruitPudding said:

 

Even when you don't marry a hooker, you often get the same result in Thailand.

 

Believe me, I know. Thai parenting is often quite bad to say the least, by Western standards. 

To be fair Western parenting is often quite bad when compared with any proper standard. 

 

Thais are more likely to parent collectively with a large family involved. This is often a positive. Obviously every situation is different but there are plenty of Westerners in Pattaya that I’d suggest are entirely unsuited to parenting, just as plenty of Thais here wouldn’t be. 

If the story is thr truth from the mother i really hope they find the child and arrest the foreigner.

If he is so concerned about the child he must take it to the court not just kidnapping the kid.

The modern world is shrinking, very few children from the selfish generations. The few kids that grow up on screen time will be doomed, as they know little about human relationships & interaction.

18 hours ago, FruitPudding said:

 

I would tend to believe this. 

 

19 hours ago, snoop1130 said:

She explained a strained three-year relationship with her ex-husband, during which he allegedly expelled her upon learning about her pregnancy. She described raising her son alone with no support, living with her sister and a friend. Recently, a request from the ex-husband’s new partner led her to bring her son to him, only for him to allegedly take the child away. ...

 

The woman further claimed that her ex-husband, apart from allegedly abusing her, has a criminal record related to drugs.

 

I would tend to believe this.

 

6 hours ago, thesetat said:

The story header is quite misleading by not stating he is the paternal father. He has just as much right to the child as the mother does. To claim he took her child is wrong. 

I do not and hope the police do not get involved in this other than setting up a custody hearing to settle who gets custody. 

Although the drug charge for the foreigner previously should not affect the custody settlement drastically. it may affect his visa status if true. 

 

 

Drug accusation. There's no mention of charges.

Why is she reaching out to the "community" whatever that is. If anyone took my kid the first people I would be pestering is the cops!

4 minutes ago, NanLaew said:

Drug accusation. There's no mention of charges.

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Pulled out of thin air.

24 minutes ago, Gottfrid said:

The mother has all the custodian rights for birth automatically.

Except being allowed to use HER surname. The kid must use father's.

On 10/31/2025 at 5:18 AM, snoop1130 said:

Contrarily, he accused the boy’s mother of neglecting her parental responsibilities, alleging her involvement in the sex industry and suggesting that the child was often left in unsuitable care.

 

 

So did she go back to the sex trade after marriage? Did she hide it before the marriage?

Still no excuse ever for kidnapping. Need to go through the courts. 

 

There's a lot more to this story imho.  The idea that a mother should automatically get custody of a child is outdated.  In the US my ex-wife got custody of my daughter.  The ex was a drug and alcohol addled piece of work, but in the 1970s in the US the courts sided with mothers.  Fast forward a few years and the ex abandoned my daughter and left her with a druggie male.  My daughter called Child Protective Service and I had custody of her within the week with legal papers signed by the court within a month.  Tough to do here though as the father is going to run into the "Thais First" mentality.  

15 minutes ago, KannikaP said:

Except being allowed to use HER surname. The kid must use father's.

Nope, totally wrong. We have 2 daughters. From start the first one got mothers surname, and the second one got mine. Now we have fixed that, but not true at all.

14 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

Still no excuse ever for kidnapping.

The concept of "kidnapping" your own child is nonsense.  It's his child too and he deserves to be able to raise that child.  The court system is 100% biased and he'll never obtain custody here.  Taking the child back to his home country and then lawyering up to the max is probably the best outcome for the child. 

20 hours ago, snoop1130 said:

Recently, a request from the ex-husband’s new partner led her to bring her son to him

Something strange about all of this 

1 minute ago, connda said:

The concept of "kidnapping" your own child is nonsense.  It's his child too and he deserves to be able to raise that child.  The court system is 100% biased and he'll never obtain custody here.  Taking the child back to his home country and then lawyering up to the max is probably the best outcome for the child. 

Might not be such a good outcome for him though. International kidnapping is frowned upon.

Foreign Ex-Husband Allegedly Takes Thai Woman's Son His Own Son

Fixed it! 

5 minutes ago, emptypockets said:

Something strange about all of this 

Indeed, apparently the father is unaware that the son stays with the mother and the daughter stays with the father. He either should have procreated a daughter first or wait until one was born before splitting the a child.

19 hours ago, FruitPudding said:

 

I would tend to believe this. 

Having seen it many times in person, I do believe it too. If it was otherwise I doubt that there wasn't a nation wide man hunt with more news already too.

The guy is likely some low life who ran from his responsibilities, as he hooked up a random bar girl that screams like she smokes for 4 decades, to then ditch the kid with anyone while they use drugs or get boozed up and fk for dollars with customers. He then decided to still take responsibility.

 

Have to say the courts are more often with us foreigners on this stuff than the other way around, seen quite a few guys win it easily, all depends how much better the child is off or how bad it was for the child.

13 minutes ago, connda said:

The concept of "kidnapping" your own child is nonsense.  It's his child too and he deserves to be able to raise that child.  The court system is 100% biased and he'll never obtain custody here.  Taking the child back to his home country and then lawyering up to the max is probably the best outcome for the child. 

You talk a lot of BS, I got it myself last year without issues and met many others in the progress (trough my lawyer, at the court and outside). They all won like me. It is about what is best for the child, it has zero to do with the parents or parent being a foreigner.

 

It was actually this freaking forum that made me delay that move, as everyone claims ghost stories and that it can't be done. It also costed just 30K.

I wouldn't tend to believe anything or take any side in this craziness. Unless you know both people involved, believing one over the other would not likely be the brightest thing to do. This kind of stuff creates the biggest messes possible. I feel sorry for that kid....

20 hours ago, snoop1130 said:

accused the boy’s mother of neglecting her parental responsibilities, alleging her involvement in the sex industry

All this sex and whoring is all fun and games until someone gets pregnant.

 

Historically and in many countries one of the most offensive things you can say to someone is that their mother is a whore.

 

When it is actually true it is abhorrent for the children.

 

The foreigner is an idiot for not taking precautions and bringing this poor kid into the world.

 

Sadly in Pattaya there are hundreds of these kids running around and it seems to have been normalized.

6 hours ago, FruitPudding said:

Believe me, I know. Thai parenting is often quite bad to say the least, by Western standards. 

Most Thai kids I have met seem to be better behaved and respectful than the kids back in the UK.

55 minutes ago, Gottfrid said:

I think you really need to read Thai law. What you are doing here, is to 100% base your believe in rights on your home country law. This is Thailand. Read, man!

For start, even if your name as a father stands on the birth certificate, does not make you a legal father or guardian in Thailand. The mother has all the custodian rights for birth automatically.

Thats a sweeping statement. If they were married they have equal custody and only a court can decide what's best for the child. If they were not married, he may have sought child ligitamacy with the family courts after birth which again will require the courts to decide should they disagree on custody on breakup. I know many many male foreigners that have won custody battles here in Thailand.

22 minutes ago, Gottfrid said:

Nope, totally wrong. We have 2 daughters. From start the first one got mothers surname,

Were you married to this woman at the time or was the child born out of wedlock?