On 1/24/2026 at 2:19 PM, Harrisfan said:

Most people have no real hobbies.

What are you talking about? Out here in these parts the locals sit around daily at the table chatting it up over a few beers and shots of rice booze and watching the seasonal rotations of rice growth and harvest.

2 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Here, I'll fix that for you.

You assume everything about everyone.

You don't know anyone here personally so what you think are just your own assumptions.

You ask questions then turn their answers around to make yourself feel better, the mark of an antisocial person prone to arguing to feed a low self esteem.

You only know what I've told you, and again, twist that information around to suit your own brand of insanity.

What I know about you is only what you've said, and how to act towards myself and others, and that's enough for me to diagnose a personality disorder, which is very easy to spot when you know the signs.

Your response is very defensive and twisted. All I do is post facts. Any therapist would tell you the same thing. 90 failed relationships and 2 divorces. Moves to Thailand and fails again. Yet you can't see the problem is you. Anyone with half a brain can spot a good woman from a bad one in weeks. You can't after 90 attempts. Slowest learner in history. But it's my fault lol

Just now, Harrisfan said:

Your response is very defensive and twisted. All I do is post facts. Any therapist would tell you the same thing. 90 failed relationships and 2 divorces. Moves to Thailand and fails again. Yet you can't see the problem is you. Anyone with half a brain can spot a good woman from a bad one in weeks. You can't after 90 attempts. Slowest learner in history. But it's my fault lol

Here, I'll fix that for you. Around 85 relationships that ended, future plans unlike. Out of those, around 30 one night stands, mutual because of attraction towards each other but again, didn't go further because that's all it was.

3 marriages I ended to women who went sour from childhood, that I had children with, and I got custody of, because I'm the only real parent they had.

Seeing you know almost nothing about narcissism, I'll let you in on a secret. A covert narcissist love bombs you, treats you extremely well for quite awhile, until they have you where they want you, in my case a child was born, and seeing I'm the opposite of a narcissist and take care of my children, I moved here, temporarily, to be with my daughter, again, until, we move back to the US.

When a child is born, it isn't a failure but a blessing, but it's my responsibility to bring that child to a better place for her best interest, which again you likely would not understand.

You won't understand this, obviously, as I've told this story not only to you but those other weirdos that act just like you. They, and you, take information given, the truth, and spin it around because you can't believe other men are just better than you at being a man, as jealousy is a huge part of a sociopath. You have absolutely no idea how to treat a woman, have no children, and obviously had a very poor childhood, which is why you act this way towards others. What you post is only your own un educated opinions, which mean nothing, as they're so far from the truth its ridiculous at the least.

7 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Here, I'll fix that for you. Around 85 relationships that ended, future plans unlike. Out of those, around 30 one night stands, mutual because of attraction towards each other but again, didn't go further because that's all it was.

3 marriages I ended to women who went sour from childhood, that I had children with, and I got custody of, because I'm the only real parent they had.

Seeing you know almost nothing about narcissism, I'll let you in on a secret. A covert narcissist love bombs you, treats you extremely well for quite awhile, until they have you where they want you, in my case a child was born, and seeing I'm the opposite of a narcissist and take care of my children, I moved here, temporarily, to be with my daughter, again, until, we move back to the US.

When a child is born, it isn't a failure but a blessing, but it's my responsibility to bring that child to a better place for her best interest, which again you likely would not understand.

You won't understand this, obviously, as I've told this story not only to you but those other weirdos that act just like you. They, and you, take information given, the truth, and spin it around because you can't believe other men are just better than you at being a man, as jealousy is a huge part of a sociopath. You have absolutely no idea how to treat a woman, have no children, and obviously had a very poor childhood, which is why you act this way towards others. What you post is only your own un educated opinions, which mean nothing, as they're so far from the truth its ridiculous at the least.

So 55 failed relationships. Finally some half truths.

8 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

You have absolutely no idea how to treat a woman,

Like dump them 55 times? Yeah I dont do that. I wine, dine and 69 them. They get the best relationship of their lives with me. With you they get misery.

Just now, Harrisfan said:

So 55 failed relationships. Finally some half truths.

I think you should spend a lot more time researching and a lot less talking to others online. You are very limited in comprehension skills, and dismiss what others say, no matter how many times they prove the truth to you.

Take some time. Some real time, and go back and look at all others replies to you in this forum.

Start with mine here, where I've explained everything a young teenager would be able to understand, yet you keep coming back with the same childish mistakes.

When a relationship ends, again for many times, it doesn't mean it failed, especially when both aren't looking for the same things in life. it means they go their separate ways, looking to find a more suitable partner. This is as simple an explanation I can make for your limited vocabulary and comprehension ability, so I'm hoping you read it a few times, so the information will sink in. You asked for my help. but that's all I can do, as your kind has a hard time relating to others, being so different .

4 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Like dump them 55 times? Yeah I dont do that. I wine, dine and 69 them. They get the best relationship of their lives with me. With you they get misery.

You wine, dine and 69, then they leave because they can find better in a dumpster diving homeless man. With me they get better treatment than they even received from their own families, which is why those 3 couldn't relate to normal. If you treated a normal woman the way you say, they would still be around. I don't need to guess who was the normal one.

6 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

You wine, dine and 69, then they leave because they can find better in a dumpster diving homeless man. With me they get better treatment than they even received from their own families, which is why those 3 couldn't relate to normal. If you treated a normal woman the way you say, they would still be around. I don't need to guess who was the normal one.

You can't even take a woman to Chiang Mai or Hua Hin for a holiday. My woman has visited 50 cities and 5 islands with me. You're a bore.

11 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

I think you should spend a lot more time researching and a lot less talking to others online. You are very limited in comprehension skills, and dismiss what others say, no matter how many times they prove the truth to you.

Take some time. Some real time, and go back and look at all others replies to you in this forum.

Start with mine here, where I've explained everything a young teenager would be able to understand, yet you keep coming back with the same childish mistakes.

When a relationship ends, again for many times, it doesn't mean it failed, especially when both aren't looking for the same things in life. it means they go their separate ways, looking to find a more suitable partner. This is as simple an explanation I can make for your limited vocabulary and comprehension ability, so I'm hoping you read it a few times, so the information will sink in. You asked for my help. but that's all I can do, as your kind has a hard time relating to others, being so different .

You're boring. Thats why they left. Woman want to be entertained. You pump iron and bore them until they leave.

Just now, Harrisfan said:

You can't even take a woman to Chiang Mai or Hua Hin for a holiday. My woman has visited 50 cities and 5 islands with me. You're a bore.

I'm still waiting for you to reply to anyone without it being an assumption. Again, you do not know what anyone on earth does unless you actually see them doing it. Have some sense. By the way, I took my ex to Hua Hin and my girlfriend to Koh Chang.

Just now, Harrisfan said:

You're boring. Thats why they left. Woman want to be entertained. You pump iron and bore them until they leave.

The day you know more about women than I will be the day North Korea treats their women equally. I pump iron to be healthy and strong, which carries over to self esteem, which carries over to how you treat others. Here, write this one down, as you seem to keep forgetting. I divorced them.

4 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

The day you know more about women than I will be the day North Korea treats their women equally. I pump iron to be healthy and strong, which carries over to self esteem, which carries over to how you treat others. Here, write this one down, as you seem to keep forgetting. I divorced them.

You're boring. You rarely do anything. One lousy trip to Hua Hin and Koh Chang.

8 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

I'm still waiting for you to reply to anyone without it being an assumption. Again, you do not know what anyone on earth does unless you actually see them doing it. Have some sense. By the way, I took my ex to Hua Hin and my girlfriend to Koh Chang.

Woman love Chiang Mai. They love the temples, food and cafes.

I can see why you failed in Thailand both with women and having fun.

Your idea of fun is talking about books.

1 minute ago, Harrisfan said:

You're boring. You rarely do anything. One lousy trip to Hua Hin and Koh Chang.

Me arguing with you is like Marilyn Vos Savant arguing with someone with microcephaly. Like i said, which you seem to not comprehend. You know only about others here from what they've told you, and you can't turn that around because it's their truth, of which you know nothing.

Just now, Harrisfan said:

Woman love Chiang Mai. They love the temples, food and cafes.

I can see why you failed in Thailand both with women and having fun.

Your idea of fun is talking about books.

Again, meet someone before you assume what they do in their lives, or it makes you sound very foolish and ignorant. You really can't be this stupid right? I mean, this must be just trolling from boredom or loneliness. Now, go to bed, and dream about the tragedy that is your life.

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

Again, meet someone before you assume what they do in their lives, or it makes you sound very foolish and ignorant. You really can't be this stupid right? I mean, this must be just trolling from boredom or loneliness. Now, go to bed, and dream about the tragedy that is your life.

You know nothing about women after 70 years. It is so funny.

On 1/24/2026 at 10:29 PM, georgegeorgia said:

Thanks.........Bob 😳

You really have turned into a nasty & bitter man on your return Bob

Not even close.

1 hour ago, Priorexpat said:

Not even close.

...I know your at the end of your tether and not long to fall off the perch but please whilst you have time left .....do something with your life please !!

14 hours ago, novacova said:

What are you talking about? Out here in these parts the locals sit around daily at the table chatting it up over a few beers and shots of rice booze and watching the seasonal rotations of rice growth and harvest.

On 1/24/2026 at 4:35 PM, Prubangboy said:

Bored people don't mind being bored.

I popped into the Royal Oak pub on Soi 31/1 for one of their 8 item, 199 baht brekkies today.

Around me were many a drunk (means: brits) enjoying a pint of bracingly cold lager at 8 AM.

Were they bored? A bit.

Were they unhappy? No way.

When travelling around, Im always a bit jealous of those breakfest clubs who sit and drink until their wives comes and pick them up. They seems to enjoy themselves quite a bit with no worries, at least before their wives comes. Philippines the very same. Drunk before 12 seems to be whats all about, and talk about yesterdays rain, and how bad everything is back home where they originated from.

20 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

think you should spend a lot more time researching and a lot less talking to others online. You are very limited in comprehension skills, and dismiss what others say, no matter how many times they prove the truth to you.

I have 20 years experience with Thais. You have 7 or 8 years. 90% of those ideas in books you read don't work in Thailand and your experiences are mostly American based ie useless in Thailand. Your Thai marriage was a disaster. So it's not me who needs to change it is you. I knew more about Thais 10 years ago then you know now. You went to Thailand with American eyes and got done over by a crazy woman which is a rookie error. This just confirms those books and American ideas don't work there.

Your big long posts are simply a man trying to sound impressive but really out of touch with reality in Thailand. You got played and still stuck there in Sisaket.

It provides me with a daily laugh. Poor old Fred still floundering with Thai culture in a backwater.

On 1/26/2026 at 11:33 AM, georgegeorgia said:

...I know your at the end of your tether and not long to fall off the perch but please whilst you have time left .....do something with your life please !!

On 1/26/2026 at 11:33 AM, georgegeorgia said:

Says the Troll poster......what a dufus.

the sad part was the crowd around them with their phones out taping it.

you tape stuff on your phone?

On 1/27/2026 at 3:30 PM, Harrisfan said:

I have 20 years experience with Thais. You have 7 or 8 years. 90% of those ideas in books you read don't work in Thailand and your experiences are mostly American based ie useless in Thailand. Your Thai marriage was a disaster. So it's not me who needs to change it is you. I knew more about Thais 10 years ago then you know now. You went to Thailand with American eyes and got done over by a crazy woman which is a rookie error. This just confirms those books and American ideas don't work there.

Your big long posts are simply a man trying to sound impressive but really out of touch with reality in Thailand. You got played and still stuck there in Sisaket.

It provides me with a daily laugh. Poor old Fred still floundering with Thai culture in a backwater.

I have decades experience with Thais, both here and back home. All relationship books work everywhere as people are much the same everywhere, with a few culture quirks that make things a tad different.

There are only a certain amount of personality types and the books cover all of them.

My Thai marriage is unknown to you besides what I said here, which is 100% spot on. The same as my marriages back home. bad choices in partners, which is how all relationships fail. I'm fine the way I am, as I treat women equally, with love, respect and honesty.

Again, you know very little about Thais, judging from your answers here. Buying a few here and there doesn't make you an expert on the subject. Interacting with normal Thais gives you the knowledge how normal Thais act.

I moved here because my daughter was here, along with my now ex wife, Now I will leave here with my daughter to give her a better life than she would ever have here, as I've explained many times before but you seem to keep forgetting, or twisting around because your life is nowhere near normal.

Again, the books work everywhere. You've never read any so you have no idea.

I'm not trying to sound impressive nor anything else. I just tell things exactly as they are. Some,like you, have a hard time understanding because of your lack of knowledge and jealous nature. I'm pretty up on Thai culture, as again, I was interested in it decades before I moved here.

Again, you're assuming what I know, which obviously is a lot more than you, even though you've been to 100 cities and dated a few hookers.

Yes, it does make me, and everyone else here laugh, daily, at you're ignorance and trolling, which has you as the forum's biggest troll. Congratulations. You're wrong every time and that comes again from too much assuming and not enough education.

3 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

I have decades experience with Thais, both here and back home. All relationship books work everywhere as people are much the same everywhere, with a few culture quirks that make things a tad different.

There are only a certain amount of personality types and the books cover all of them.

My Thai marriage is unknown to you besides what I said here, which is 100% spot on. The same as my marriages back home. bad choices in partners, which is how all relationships fail. I'm fine the way I am, as I treat women equally, with love, respect and honesty.

Again, you know very little about Thais, judging from your answers here. Buying a few here and there doesn't make you an expert on the subject. Interacting with normal Thais gives you the knowledge how normal Thais act.

I moved here because my daughter was here, along with my now ex wife, Now I will leave here with my daughter to give her a better life than she would ever have here, as I've explained many times before but you seem to keep forgetting, or twisting around because your life is nowhere near normal.

Again, the books work everywhere. You've never read any so you have no idea.

I'm not trying to sound impressive nor anything else. I just tell things exactly as they are. Some,like you, have a hard time understanding because of your lack of knowledge and jealous nature. I'm pretty up on Thai culture, as again, I was interested in it decades before I moved here.

Again, you're assuming what I know, which obviously is a lot more than you, even though you've been to 100 cities and dated a few hookers.

Yes, it does make me, and everyone else here laugh, daily, at you're ignorance and trolling, which has you as the forum's biggest troll. Congratulations. You're wrong every time and that comes again from too much assuming and not enough education.

Books work? Yeah not so much with different language and culture.

The best book on communication is Never Split the Difference. You never read it.

2 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Books work? Yeah not so much with different language and culture.

The best book on communication is Never Split the Difference. You never read it.

There are countless books that all same much the same things. I've read over 70 different books, with thousands of articles and podcasts from 35 years ago until recently. A dozen different authors on the books and many more on the articles and pods. relationships are the same all over.

There aren't books written in Thailand because there isn't the equalization of the sexes here. The western books could work, IF the local men weren't Buddhist oriented and seeing their women as secondary.

Men with younger women here isn't about a normal relationship but money first. The farther away the age difference, the more you're a caretaker and part time lover, with the emphasis on being an ATM. Language difference means nothing in other European and,South American countries. It's where the country is man domineering that they wouldn't work, as most men wouldn't read them and the women know it wouldn't be worth it because their culture is man domineering.

3 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

There are countless books that all same much the same things. I've read over 70 different books, with thousands of articles and podcasts from 35 years ago until recently. A dozen different authors on the books and many more on the articles and pods. relationships are the same all over.

There aren't books written in Thailand because there isn't the equalization of the sexes here. The western books could work, IF the local men weren't Buddhist oriented and seeing their women as secondary.

Men with younger women here isn't about a normal relationship but money first. The farther away the age difference, the more you're a caretaker and part time lover, with the emphasis on being an ATM. Language difference means nothing in other European and,South American countries. It's where the country is man domineering that they wouldn't work, as most men wouldn't read them and the women know it wouldn't be worth it because their culture is man domineering.

Most things get lost in translation. Unless you speak Thai western books are useless. The best relationships occur when the man learns Thai.

Just now, Harrisfan said:

Most things get lost in translation. Unless you speak Thai western books are useless. The best relationships occur when the man learns Thai.

Read what I wrote, instead of your usual skimming. Books aren't going to work in this country. Knowing how to treat a woman does, to a certain extant, as they'll tolerate a lot here if they're paid. Best relationships here happen when the ages are closer, or the man has enough cash and doesn't care as long as the woman puts out. .

2 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Read what I wrote, instead of your usual skimming. Books aren't going to work in this country. Knowing how to treat a woman does, to a certain extant, as they'll tolerate a lot here if they're paid. Best relationships here happen when the ages are closer, or the man has enough cash and doesn't care as long as the woman puts out. .

I know what works. Speaking Thai, sense of humour, calm person.

Just now, Harrisfan said:

I know what works. Speaking Thai, sense of humour, calm person.

Money, being in the right place and right time, and a good sense of humor. I'd be willing to bet there are thousands of foreigner-Thai relationships that do fine because the woman gets to buy things and show off. And many do not communicate because the man doesn't speak much Thai. If you're planning to stay here, it's a good idea to learn so some can get over on you, talking behind your back, but many do just fine using translator, especially if their women aren't speaking the man's language much.