Broken Hearted Man..need Your Advice Experience On Thai Girls

[kaleyho]

Hello...

I was married to a Thai girl for 6 months ( Thai wedding). We loved each other. I am in the USA and she is Thailand. We used to fight on the phone and online about me being far and not giving her enough money. She loved me and I loved her. One day, we fought and did not talk for 10 days ( new year time). I contacted her first week of Jan and we were back together happily. 2 weeks later she told me she was pregnent with me ( I had visited her 2 months prior). Then she said it was not my baby which is what I had thought. It broke my heart and I can't get over it. I was previioult divorced becase my first wife cheated on me..

So now I got cheated again.

This is so traumatic for me...but she says I am the only one she loves and that she sleeping with someone was unintended as she was lonely during the new year and she got drunk. ( She normally does not drink). She wants to keep the baby and says the father will not play any part ( Thai man). She wants me back!

I love her and totally torned! I was helping her pay for her house that she bought.

What would you men do?

What do you think ladies?

I love her, but one thing now for sure is: TRUST is broken.

I love Thailand and Thai women and want to retire there someday.

Have a good day.

Edited February 11, 2013 by kaleyho

[David48]

Are you specifically asking for a woman's opinion?

If not then ...

Maybe, just maybe she is having her Thai bf's love child, but he can't afford to take care of her, so she is asking that her big hearted western husband do this, because he truly loves her.

It's a maybe ... but it's a possibility.

[Dancealot]

Man up! Sever all ties and forget about everything.

Don't pussy out but stay a man. And don't forget to keep that smile while walking away.

And listen to this while contemplating.

Cheers

Edited February 11, 2013 by Dancealot

[kaleyho]

She tells me that she does not have a boy friend. I have met her family and also met her on third coutry for honeymoon ( 2 months ago).

You might be right about the money part..gosh.. it is so hard to be heart broken ( again).

[dereklev]

It would be bad enough if she had just cheated on you but she got pregnant and now she wants you to pay for her baby!

You might love her but it seems your love is not reciprocated.

You probably met her boyfriend when you met her family, he would have been introduced as a brother or a cousin

[Dancealot]

She tells me that she does not have a boy friend. I have met her family and also met her on third coutry for honeymoon ( 2 months ago).

You might be right about the money part..gosh.. it is so hard to be heart broken ( again).

Get a grip. Everything will be alright, later.

[kaleyho]

It would be bad enough if she had just cheated on you but she got pregnant and now she wants you to pay for her baby!

You might love her but it seems your love is not reciprocated.

You probably met her boyfriend when you met her family, he would have been introduced as a brother or a cousin

So you think he was at the wedding? And he would let her go honeymoon to another coutry. If so, I can't trust any Thai woman/man..

[waza]

Well Mr Newbe,

she sounds like a troll doll. I believe she loves you long time, loves you toooo mut because you a handsum man. You should be ashamed , it your fault she strayed by not being there for her. You have no choice but to support this poo ying's genuine love with a monthly retainer of around 30,000 baht, remember you have 2 to support. While you work hard to save enough for her sin sot, a princely sum would give you both great face and Marrr a paddock for her kwai to key tak in.

Edited February 11, 2013 by waza

[NeverSure]

Well Mr Newbe,

she sounds like a troll doll. I believe she loves you long time, loves you toooo mut because you a handsum man. You should be ashamed , it your fault she strayed by not being there for her. You have no choice but to support this poo ying's genuine love with a monthly retainer of around 30,000 baht, remember you have 2 to support. While you work hard to save enough for her sin sot, a princely sum would give you both great face and Marrr a paddock for her kwai to key tak in.

Hahaha. If I didn't know better, I'd think you were born yesterday. Sure, just keep giving "good" advice and he'll be fine.

Edited February 11, 2013 by NeverSure

[Sharp]

Are you serious !!!!

Another one for the book ,it's an old but always worth a read 'Private dancer'

As already mentioned you probably met the real boyfriend at your so called wedding and now there trying to make you look after the baby ,

Why o why do people do this time after time after time ..

Get out and good luck ..

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[Songhua]

Her family and real boyfriend (who she's been with since she was 14) will spend your money wisely.

[kaleyho]

I assume lot of us naive people get sucked into this thai torture ...oh boy..oh boy...

[sbk]

Moving to pub, not really appropriate for this forum which is FOR women not about women

[prestburypark]

Sell your car and realize all your assets, give them to her with no strings attached. If it does not work out, post again for further advice.

[Falcon01]

It would be bad enough if she had just cheated on you but she got pregnant and now she wants you to pay for her baby!

You might love her but it seems your love is not reciprocated.

You probably met her boyfriend when you met her family, he would have been introduced as a brother or a cousin

So true. And so many of us fall for the charade!

[Payboy]

I assume lot of us naive people get sucked into this thai torture ...oh boy..oh boy...

I've been sucked a few times, but it wasn't torture.

[prestburypark]

Jesus H. Christ, does anyone believe this garbage? Married? No your not, a village knees up is not a marriage . Not living together? You in USA she in Thailand, why?

"I was married...for 6 months.." got a divorce then did ya mate? Why troll like this ya pussy whipped XXXX

[JDGRUEN]

OP - if you stayed with her - you would never really trust her. Your life would become a slow misery ... This sort of thing never works and you are not the exception ... and it would not matter if your wife was from the U.K., the USA, Austraila or where ever... the formula is the same - you would be buying yourself a nightmare life .... there would never be a day where you would feel at ease - always wondering until you were an old man

Edited February 12, 2013 by JDGRUEN

[WilliamCave]

Are you serious !!!!

Another one for the book ,it's an old but always worth a read 'Private dancer'

As already mentioned you probably met the real boyfriend at your so called wedding and now there trying to make you look after the baby ,

Why o why do people do this time after time after time ..

Get out and good luck ..

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Yes excellent read Private dancer , read the book please. You hit the nail on the head you are so correct in what u are saying.

Do your self a favor and hire a Private Investagator tell them what you want done and I am sure they can help u to see this girl is using you and more than likely has the boyfriend telling her what to do. U will get over it in time so please use your brain not your heart because it will hurt even more later. I my self would have dumped her and filed for divorce. Can you tel us area in Thailand please , North South

[theblether]

Oh come on guys...........surely you can spot MediumPaceBowler by now.

[loong]

Either you are trolling or you are brain dead.

You love her, she loves your money. That's it, full stop, end of story.

Relationships with the woman in Thailand and the man in another country rarely end well (as far as the man is concerned anyway)

She will be happy enough, because she can just get on with her life and have money sent regularly by the idiot(s) abroad.

Find out if the Thai guy has any money (doubtful). If he has, take him to court to get compensation for him shagging your wife.

[simple1]

Are you serious !!!!

Another one for the book ,it's an old but always worth a read 'Private dancer'

As already mentioned you probably met the real boyfriend at your so called wedding and now there trying to make you look after the baby ,

Why o why do people do this time after time after time ..

Get out and good luck ..

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Yes excellent read Private dancer , read the book please. You hit the nail on the head you are so correct in what u are saying.

Do your self a favor and hire a Private Investagator tell them what you want done and I am sure they can help u to see this girl is using you and more than likely has the boyfriend telling her what to do. U will get over it in time so please use your brain not your heart because it will hurt even more later. I my self would have dumped her and filed for divorce. Can you tel us area in Thailand please , North South

Do not hire a private investigator, they will just ask money from "wife" to write a report in her favour. You have had an unfortunate experience, learn from it & move along.

OP: By Thai wedding I assume you mean married & not registered with the Amphur, so no need for a legalised divorce process.

Edited February 12, 2013 by simple1

[TheWalkingMan]

She opened her legs and accepted another man's seed (she went skinless!) and probably took one to the gob and now she wants to send you an invoice for another man's baby. Really?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VWspMVy7Tws

[kaleyho]

Are you serious !!!!

Another one for the book ,it's an old but always worth a read 'Private dancer'

As already mentioned you probably met the real boyfriend at your so called wedding and now there trying to make you look after the baby ,

Why o why do people do this time after time after time ..

Get out and good luck ..

Sent from my iPad using ThaiVisa app

Yes excellent read Private dancer , read the book please. You hit the nail on the head you are so correct in what u are saying.

Do your self a favor and hire a Private Investagator tell them what you want done and I am sure they can help u to see this girl is using you and more than likely has the boyfriend telling her what to do. U will get over it in time so please use your brain not your heart because it will hurt even more later. I my self would have dumped her and filed for divorce. Can you tel us area in Thailand please , North South

She was 300 miles north of BKK. Yes, I agree, I should follow my brain...right now heart ( emotion) is controlling me .

[kaleyho]

Are you serious !!!!

Another one for the book ,it's an old but always worth a read 'Private dancer'

As already mentioned you probably met the real boyfriend at your so called wedding and now there trying to make you look after the baby ,

Why o why do people do this time after time after time ..

Get out and good luck ..

Sent from my iPad using ThaiVisa app

Yes excellent read Private dancer , read the book please. You hit the nail on the head you are so correct in what u are saying.

Do your self a favor and hire a Private Investagator tell them what you want done and I am sure they can help u to see this girl is using you and more than likely has the boyfriend telling her what to do. U will get over it in time so please use your brain not your heart because it will hurt even more later. I my self would have dumped her and filed for divorce. Can you tel us area in Thailand please , North South

Do not hire a private investigator, they will just ask money from "wife" to write a report in her favour. You have had an unfortunate experience, learn from it & move along.

OP: By Thai wedding I assume you mean married & not registered with the Amphur, so no need for a legalised divorce process.

yes, not registered...but paid dowry...stupid me!

[scotto]

Forget her and go get another if thats what you want?

but i would just come here play around and when you want to move here

find someone you think you can trust never send money unless you like throwing it away

and if thats the case i send you my bank details as well.they will tell you all kinds

of crap to get money off you like my aunts uncles brother is dying from cancer need big money

you send for me preease i love you mak mak send more money etc etc tell them no!!

when you live there and you have a girlfreind or wife then thats different but sending money to someone

who has the opportunity to meet dozens of men everyday whilst you are not here? would i do that never

should you? as they say in thai up to you?

but remember this

a sucker and his money are soon parted

are you that sucker?

sorry to be a bit hard but newbies have to learn the hard way

walk away its easy to get a thai woman if you really want 1 just wait till

you find a good 1 and never tell them what you have or do not have and if they ask you know what they

are after.

[Richie23]

As you said, you need to follow your brain and not your heart. Man up and move on. You can do it!!

[Scottythai]

She tells me that she does not have a boy friend. I have met her family and also met her on third coutry for honeymoon ( 2 months ago).

You might be right about the money part..gosh.. it is so hard to be heart broken ( again).

As opposed to if she did have a BF she would tell you? You are her source of income she will want to keep that going. This is a 1000 year old story replayed for the ages. I am very sorry it has happened to you and if you can learn from it and move on it would be a good thing. If you get drawn back to her then its your choice and there is nothing I or anyone can say to stop it. Seach other threads like this here and read them. Detach your feelings and watch how 1+1 never = 2.

My 2 cents

[Hedghog]

Is the OP from,Troll ville Arizona

[canuckamuck]

What has happened to the quality of trolling on this forum? I am so disappointed.