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[BookMan]

Are you going to move back to Australia?

Already back in Australia

Hey, you were allowed to change your username?

I wasn't allowed to a couple of years back...

[Showbags]

nearly dobbed myself in then I did...

[n210mp]

If you didn't leave your husband you would have him and his assets but it's your emotional response that caused this ball to roll down the hill, but as a women I doubt you see it. you're only worried about the assets aren't you? Life is a tussle lady!

What a complete load of twaddle, as well as patronizing, misogynous and completely incorrect unless you are privy to both sides of the situation how can you know whether the OP was justified in her actions or not?

Normally when I read this type of drivel I just shake my head and ignore, I suggest that you read all the thread from the first post and then if you have advice or a point to make then add something that is helpful, productive and not malicious and judgmental

On thinking about my response to you I think that you protesteth too much!

[Rumblecat]

Yeah, spot on, it's just a pile of bitter, presumptuous nonsense. And the OP has handled herself with dignity and class in this thread despite posts like that.

[Phoenix1312]

Are you going to move back to Australia?

Already back in Australia

Hey, you were allowed to change your username?

I wasn't allowed to a couple of years back...

Yes my name was a bit negative. Just contact support and request it. They did it for me. They should for you

[mania]

That is a good positive new name

[Phoenix1312]

That is a good positive new name

Thank you. I didn't know I could change it. I called myself cheated and that was a sooky mistake.

[Phoenix1312]

If you didn't leave your husband you would have him and his assets but it's your emotional response that caused this ball to roll down the hill, but as a women I doubt you see it. you're only worried about the assets aren't you? Life is a tussle lady!

Another bitter farang. Mate I'm not after his assets, he's after mine. So you think I shouldn't have left him? Really? You need to look at yourself.

[mania]

That is a good positive new name

Thank you. I didn't know I could change it. I called myself cheated and that was a sooky mistake.

Yes better to reaffirm "like a phoenix rises from the ashes"

Than be reminded by a forum name what some fools folly caused in your life

Good Luck & remember like U2 said in a song

The ruins to the right of me will soon have lost

sight of me

[Phoenix1312]

That is a good positive new name

Thank you. I didn't know I could change it. I called myself cheated and that was a sooky mistake.

Yes better to reaffirm "like a phoenix rises from the ashes"

Than be reminded by a forum name what some fools folly caused in your life

Good Luck & remember like U2 said in a song

The ruins to the right of me will soon have lost

sight of me

Thank you. I love U2 and yes that's why I picked the name Phoenix. I will rise from the ashes dust my self off and start all over again. I think that's a song too. Lol

[Phoenix1312]

nearly dobbed myself in then I did...

Haha. Do you really look like a rats ass??? Only kidding.

[crazykopite]

I feel gutted for you and I hope that things will work out . Sadly most men seem to leave there brains at the airport of departure they come to Thailand with all good intentions but end up getting screwed big time do I have any pity for them NO non whatsoever they are old enough and big enough to know what they are doing . like me my wife is farang would I swap her for some young Thai chick NO CHANCE over the last 8 years we have seen to many friends , neighbours get screwed big time by wives or girlfriends, we keep to ourselves and enjoy each other's company whether it be on the beach or eating out. Your hubby has done what he has done the clock cannot be put back I hope that in time you will find happiness but I can understand your hurt and anxiety good luck for the future stay positive !

[Showbags]

nearly dobbed myself in then I did...

Haha. Do you really look like a rats ass??? Only kidding.

On a good day.

Your new name, guessing the 1312 is birthday...13th Decemebr and I'm guessing the year by the photo..say 1989 ?

[Phoenix1312]

nearly dobbed myself in then I did...

Haha. Do you really look like a rats ass??? Only kidding.

On a good day.

Your new name, guessing the 1312 is birthday...13th Decemebr and I'm guessing the year by the photo..say 1989 ?

Clever. Yes 13th December. Year? Im a lady and we never divulge. Lol.

[David48]

Who's going to win the first Origin Game this Wednesday?

The Good Guys in Maroon, or the Bad Boys in Blue?

[Patsycat]

You say that you had the apartment before you even met him? So how can she say she can take it from you? I'd keep a hold on it, take your friends over and have loud, drunken parties - making sure ex hubby and nungirl hear all about it. Swan around with a new man on your arm etc.

Spit in his eye, like he did to you. Sing "Happy" everyday. I was cheated on by someone i loved very much once upon a time. It is not a nice feeling at all, i even invited the bitch and her child to my home to eat etc, because i had a garden for her kid to play in. Putting up with that brat kicking me and my cats. Not knowing that they were fumbling in the kitchen!!

You do get over it, it takes time and tears and shouting at walls and listening to sad songs. But you get there.

Keep smiling and giving these old bitter men whats for on here, I have for years, in a way they like it....!!! Gives them something to do.

[Phoenix1312]

Who's going to win the first Origin Game this Wednesday?

The Good Guys in Maroon, or the Bad Boys in Blue?

Queenslander

[Phoenix1312]

You say that you had the apartment before you even met him? So how can she say she can take it from you? I'd keep a hold on it, take your friends over and have loud, drunken parties - making sure ex hubby and nungirl hear all about it. Swan around with a new man on your arm etc.

Spit in his eye, like he did to you. Sing "Happy" everyday. I was cheated on by someone i loved very much once upon a time. It is not a nice feeling at all, i even invited the bitch and her child to my home to eat etc, because i had a garden for her kid to play in. Putting up with that brat kicking me and my cats. Not knowing that they were fumbling in the kitchen!!

You do get over it, it takes time and tears and shouting at walls and listening to sad songs. But you get there.

Keep smiling and giving these old bitter men whats for on here, I have for years, in a way they like it....!!! Gives them something to do.

Love it. I listen to Eminem. He thinks because we were together for 8 years he can claim half of what I have or had before I met him. I will sort him and her out. Wild parties. Nice thought haha.

Those bitter old men are a joke. They don't upset me. Morons. They don't realise that there is good and bad in every culture. Just because my skin is white doesn't mean I don't have dignity and class.

Thank you for your post. I will keep smiling. Promise xxx

[expatdreamer]

Please don't take offence to this, but purely from a legal perspective, if you were defacto living together for 8 years before you got married, then in the eyes of the law I imagine he would be entitled to some of that apartment.

8 years is a long time, long enough that all the assets get laid out on the table and divided. Of course it doesn't help that he has transferred his assets to the new Thai girlfriend.

What exactly have your lawyers advised? Are you using Thai lawyers or Oz lawyers? Do the Thai assets fall under Oz law? Surely the lawyers can see that he has shifted his assets to someone else and that because it was done so quickly they still belong in the marital pool?

Does he not have any other assets (super?) that can form part of the marital pool, thereby strengthening your claim on the full apartment.

All very messy, but only proper legal advice can sort this out.

Also I would be wanting to sell that apartment ASAP and bring the money back to Oz where it will be much safer. Forging of signatures in Thailand to get control of property, then mortgaging it to the hilt to loan sharks, is not unheard of, particularly in Phuket.

[Phoenix1312]

Please don't take offence to this, but purely from a legal perspective, if you were defacto living together for 8 years before you got married, then in the eyes of the law I imagine he would be entitled to some of that apartment.

8 years is a long time, long enough that all the assets get laid out on the table and divided. Of course it doesn't help that he has transferred his assets to the new Thai girlfriend.

What exactly have your lawyers advised? Are you using Thai lawyers or Oz lawyers? Do the Thai assets fall under Oz law? Surely the lawyers can see that he has shifted his assets to someone else and that because it was done so quickly they still belong in the marital pool?

Does he not have any other assets (super?) that can form part of the marital pool, thereby strengthening your claim on the full apartment.

All very messy, but only proper legal advice can sort this out.

Also I would be wanting to sell that apartment ASAP and bring the money back to Oz where it will be much safer. Forging of signatures in Thailand to get control of property, then mortgaging it to the hilt to loan sharks, is not unheard of, particularly in Phuket.

It is a bit messy I agree. I am going to Bangkok next month to sort it out. I have been told because the money to purchase it and it's in my name he can't touch it. Saga in forged signatures do happen. He forged mine to gain the restaurant and then transfer it in to her name. I do have the bank statements to prove it.

I might add the Aus lawyers have said it also depends on what he contributed financially to our relationship. He worked about 18 months as a chef and then lived of my business for the rest of the time. So I am hopeful I will sort it all out. Boy it's not easy when it's another country you are dealing with.

I am selling the apartment. ASAP

[expatdreamer]

So he lived off you for most of the 8 years, shacks up with a new bird, and he wants a slice (or all) of the apartment you bought before you met him. Nice. And he got to have sex with you for all of those years, judging by your photos that wasn't exactly hardship. He must have been a handsome man alright.

Anyway good luck. I have a nice couch as well, its free on Saturdays, and I live in Oz :-)

[Neeranam]

WAT SANGHATHAN

MEDITATION CENTER

Accomodations : Laypeople stay in their own rooms

or in dormitories. Womens- and mens-areas are seperated.

Ordination : One can request to ordain as a monk or novice. One must practise as ordained layperson (Phra Kao) for some time before ordination.

I literally have hundreds of photos of women staying at normal wats. The girls all wanted to let me know they were not off messing around. Google meditation wat Thailand to find out how much in error you are.

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International Meditation centres are not normal 'Wats'. I don't know what point you are trying to make but there are NO real women monks in Thailand that are accepted by the Sanga and normal women dont stay at the Wat. I too have seen foreign women retreats like Suan Mohk. The OP asked if it was normal for a Thai 'prostitute' to live in a temple, which of course it isn't..

[AYJAYDEE]

WAT SANGHATHAN

MEDITATION CENTER

Accomodations : Laypeople stay in their own rooms

or in dormitories. Womens- and mens-areas are seperated.

Ordination : One can request to ordain as a monk or novice. One must practise as ordained layperson (Phra Kao) for some time before ordination.

I literally have hundreds of photos of women staying at normal wats. The girls all wanted to let me know they were not off messing around. Google meditation wat Thailand to find out how much in error you are.

.

International Meditation centres are not normal 'Wats'. I don't know what point you are trying to make but there are NO real women monks in Thailand that are accepted by the Sanga and normal women dont stay at the Wat. I too have seen foreign women retreats like Suan Mohk. The OP asked if it was normal for a Thai 'prostitute' to live in a temple, which of course it isn't..

mae chii live in village temples and last I heard they were women

[Neeranam]

WAT SANGHATHAN

MEDITATION CENTER

Accomodations : Laypeople stay in their own rooms

or in dormitories. Womens- and mens-areas are seperated.

Ordination : One can request to ordain as a monk or novice. One must practise as ordained layperson (Phra Kao) for some time before ordination.

I literally have hundreds of photos of women staying at normal wats. The girls all wanted to let me know they were not off messing around. Google meditation wat Thailand to find out how much in error you are.

.

International Meditation centres are not normal 'Wats'. I don't know what point you are trying to make but there are NO real women monks in Thailand that are accepted by the Sanga and normal women dont stay at the Wat. I too have seen foreign women retreats like Suan Mohk. The OP asked if it was normal for a Thai 'prostitute' to live in a temple, which of course it isn't..

mae chii live in village temples and last I heard they were women

Please read what I write - I 'mae chi' are not ordained nor normal women.

In he normal Thai temple, women do not spend the night.

Thailand is not like it's neighbouring countries that give equal status to women.

About 4 years ago, there was a Thai Buddhist temple in Australia that ordained a 'mae chi' by flying in an ordained womean from Taiwan as you a monk cannot ordain a woman. This resulted in the excommunication of the head monk and the temple lost it's status from the Sanga.

[AYJAYDEE]

you are really misinformed . mae chi are women, mae chi live in regular village wats!

[Phoenix1312]

So he lived off you for most of the 8 years, shacks up with a new bird, and he wants a slice (or all) of the apartment you bought before you met him. Nice. And he got to have sex with you for all of those years, judging by your photos that wasn't exactly hardship. He must have been a handsome man alright.

Anyway good luck. I have a nice couch as well, its free on Saturdays, and I live in Oz :-)

Yes he did and that's a fact. He claims it was his right and he lived very well. I didn't want to put that on here because I feel like a total idiot. He was very handsome but looks aren't everything are they? I was stupid simple as that.

I loved him. I know he loved me too. What we had was very rare so I couldn't believe what happened and how fast it did. We were happy or so I thought. Really I am fine now and have seen the light.

Couch free on Saturdays, gee I just need Monday to Friday now lol.

[expatdreamer]

Don't worry about feeling like an idiot. I supported my Oz ex wife fully (she didn't work the entire time) for more than the time you supported your ex, and walked away at the end with basically only what I came into the relationship with at the start - so had to write off ten years of earnings. I was then stuck with paying child support for a few years after that. It has taken me quite some time to recover financially, but doing very well now, and will be a multi-millionaire in Oz dollars within the next decade. Not trying to boast, just showing there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I have to admit your case is rare, it is normally the man that supports the woman who then gets the fleecing.

But you live and learn, and as they say, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. My advice is sell the apartment, bring the money back to Oz, and move on in your life here in Oz. If you had a successful business in Oz, then you have the skills and knowledge to do it again. To be honest, once you have done that, I would probably look for somewhere else to holiday rather than Thailand, going back to Thailand is only going to bring back memories of your ex who you clearly felt very strongly for.

[David48]

Who's going to win the first Origin Game this Wednesday?

The Good Guys in Maroon, or the Bad Boys in Blue?

Queenslander

I'm beginning to warm to you ...

[Phoenix1312]

Who's going to win the first Origin Game this Wednesday?

The Good Guys in Maroon, or the Bad Boys in Blue?

Queenslander

I'm beginning to warm to you ...

Haha

[Phoenix1312]

Don't worry about feeling like an idiot. I supported my Oz ex wife fully (she didn't work the entire time) for more than the time you supported your ex, and walked away at the end with basically only what I came into the relationship with at the start - so had to write off ten years of earnings. I was then stuck with paying child support for a few years after that. It has taken me quite some time to recover financially, but doing very well now, and will be a multi-millionaire in Oz dollars within the next decade. Not trying to boast, just showing there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I have to admit your case is rare, it is normally the man that supports the woman who then gets the fleecing.

But you live and learn, and as they say, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. My advice is sell the apartment, bring the money back to Oz, and move on in your life here in Oz. If you had a successful business in Oz, then you have the skills and knowledge to do it again. To be honest, once you have done that, I would probably look for somewhere else to holiday rather than Thailand, going back to Thailand is only going to bring back memories of your ex who you clearly felt very strongly for.

Good for you. Some women can be unreal can't they. Child support is a nightmare. My ex refused to pay for his children from a previous marriage. He owes a fortune but they can't get him in Thailand. Some women make you ashamed to be one.

Yes I was well and truly fleeced and he wants more. It's okay because like you I will get back to where I was. I am determent to. The only way is to learn from previous mistakes and never go there again. Life's lessons.

I did a trip to Tibet and Mt Everest. It was the best thing I could have done. Very inspiring. I don't ever want to go back to Thailand but I have to sort the apartment and put it on the market.

Good luck with your business. I hope it all works out for you x