Supporting a "rich" girl with money ??

[Bjarneb]

Hi all .. need some advice about culture here.

I always thought that supporting a girl from Thailand for her living costs etc was something you did when the girl didnt earn a lot and she also should pay money to her parents.
Is it so that it is gives status also for "rich" girls from rich families to their friends that their farang supports them?

A bit confused, because latelly I have supported my fiance for some months latelly (been together for 4 years and planning marriage) while she waited to sell her house. She just sold it for 7 Mill Bath and also owns some condos and her own business. Her family is rich and she always said that they don't need any Sin Sod. That's for "province girls" as she calls them, she is born and grew up in BKK.

Now she says that she wants me to continue supporting her for bills etc (100.000 Bath/month) because it will give her status among her friends to have a "rich" farang.
She has always posted pics of us on social media etc, tons of them. So I don't suspect her to have me as several "supporters". Just starting to be a bit curious about the truth here.

Not looking for any "another ones bites the dust" replies, just some honest replies about if it is really true that it gives higher status also among girls who have more than enough money to have a husband who supports with money. In western culture it would definatelly not be good to tell your friends that you receive money from your partner for your living.

[Damrongsak]

Sounds like a rich girl from a rich family who wants to be richer than her rich girlfriends from other rich families.  Vanity.  Of course, having 100K/mo in pocket money does come in handy.  I'm glad I have a "province girl" who cares very little about money or prestige.

[ezzra]

Is she's asking for a 100K a month support and you're not even married yet, man, you have big spender on your hands there, better put thing in perspectives and bring her down to earth or just do a runner...

[worgeordie]

Yet another first time poster with Thai woman problems,

sure he will get lots of answers and clicks,seems to be

happening with regularity.

regards worgeordie

[BritManToo]

If you think the sex is worth 100k/month keep paying.

If you think it isn't move on.

A(Thai)WALT.

[Bjarneb]

39 minutes ago, ezzra said:

Is she's asking for a 100K a month support and you're not even married yet, man, you have big spender on your hands there, better put thing in perspectives and bring her down to earth or just do a runner...

Was thinking the same. Have a talk and get someone down to earth, or make a run.
Was new side of her coming up now, which left me a bit confused. 

 

[Damrongsak]

24 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

If you think the sex is worth 100k/month keep paying.

If you think it isn't move on.

A(Thai)WALT.

I don't pay a penny for sex, and I get what I pay for!  555

 

But seriously, my wife has a few old grade school/high school friends who have done very well for themselves, and don't act "rich".  I'm talking maybe 200-300 million Baht.  But just the other day, she met up with another one after 40 some years.  That lady was all too willing to talk about her success and "come see my fancy house" and all that.  I could not live with that.

 

My wife and I rarely discuss money.  She spends what she spends and I do the same.  We are frugal and there's enough. We both want to pass on the majority of our money to our son.

Edited September 27, 2018 by Damrongsak

[Bjarneb]

23 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

If you think the sex is worth 100k/month keep paying.

If you think it isn't move on.

A(Thai)WALT.

Not about sex at all.
 

[mauGR1]

22 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

If you think the sex is worth 100k/month keep paying.

If you think it isn't move on.

A(Thai)WALT.

You can tell me i am misogynist, but you can have a little harem for 100k. a month

[Crossy]

7 minutes ago, mauGR1 said:

You can tell me i am misogynist, but you can have a little harem for 100k. a month

Actually, you can have quite a big harem for that sort of dosh.

[PatOngo]

Ahh, the price of face. An expensive commodity in this country. Ask yourself, is she honestly worth it?

[BritManToo]

15 minutes ago, Bjarneb said:

Not about sex at all.
 

Move on.

[Bjarneb]

12 minutes ago, Damrongsak said:

I don't pay a penny for sex, and I get what I pay for!  555

 

But seriously, my wife has a few old grade school/high school friends who have done very well for themselves, and don't act "rich".  I'm talking maybe 200-300 million Baht.  But just the other day, she met up with another one after 40 some years.  That lady was all too willing to talk about her success and "come see my fancy house" and all that.  I could not live with that.

 

My wife and I rarely discuss money.  She spends what she spends and I do the same.  We are frugal and there's enough. We both want to pass on the majority of our money to our son.

Not the sex I am paying for either. In that case I have over payed a lot and would rather get my harem, as someone suggested.

Put quite a lot money in charity though. And she aslways supported that, unntil recently, when she said that I should rather support her. Might be some of "I wanna be richer than you" kind of things, as you mention. Most of her friends are actually richer than her.

Ah well, it might a cultural thing or most likely a global cultural showoff thing.
Just wanted to hear from more experienced people if it was something related to thai culture or not 

[thaiguzzi]

1 hour ago, Bjarneb said:

Not looking for any "another ones bites the dust" replies,

... another one bites the dust....????

[Damrongsak]

8 minutes ago, Crossy said:

Actually, you can have quite a big harem for that sort of dosh.

40 years ago, my first house was a block away from a whorehouse.  I could have bought the house and all the girls for that price.  My house rent at that time was 500 Baht/mo. 

[Esso49]

You have been with her 4 years and you can see through her insincerity yet ?

[Damrongsak]

2 minutes ago, Bjarneb said:

...  Ah well, it might a cultural thing or most likely a global cultural showoff thing.
Just wanted to hear from more experienced people if it was something related to thai culture or not 

A bit of all the above, I suspect.  Old money/new money? In my case, my wife and her friends are predominately from the old Vietnamese immigrant families, so that puts a different cultural slant on it. Her half-Thai younger siblings are fluff-heads to a good degree.

[Hummin]

8 minutes ago, Esso49 said:

You have been with her 4 years and you can see through her insincerity yet ?

It is a constructed theme for Tv, and it makes the fora alive with new and interesting general discussions on issues some and most experience. 

 

When that is said, a man have to show he is cabable to take care, poor or rich girl, no girl is getting a bf with lower status than themselves. General speaking as said, and exceptions from this rule can happen. 

[lucifer666]

Stupid is as stupid does

[mauGR1]

1 hour ago, worgeordie said:

Yet another first time poster with Thai woman problems,

sure he will get lots of answers and clicks,seems to be

happening with regularity.

regards worgeordie

Yes, but, honestly. If you were to believe the story to be true, what would be your advice ?.

 

 

[Damrongsak]

21 minutes ago, thaiguzzi said:

... another one bites the dust....????

Guzzi, Guzzi, Guzzi, down boy!  Back to the motorcycle and farming forum you go!  ????

 

 

[Hummin]

5 minutes ago, mauGR1 said:

Yes, but, honestly. If you were to believe the story to be true, what would be your advice ?.

 

 

Every good man take good care of his gf/wife, based on his own status. If it is way over his head, find a girl on his own level he can affort ????

 

He did not say anything about his own situation. Please op tell us about you and your income and if this is way to much for you. 

Edited September 27, 2018 by Hummin

[DavCurtis]

It has nothing to do with culture. It is just a Thai trend among some specific set of Thai girls and their group of friends. What I will say is, if it doesn't hurt your finances and you think she is worth it then, by all means, ride on Brother. God bless you.

 

[RichardColeman]

Here's what I would do :

1. Tell her you are having money problems and cannot send anything currently.

2. Sit back and see if she leaves you or her attitude changes to one you do not want to marry.

 

100,000 baht a month is pure madness - your buying her a new condo every year !

 

[stevkob]

 

If the OP doesn't man up soon the girl will suck him dry. It's not a Thai cultural thing it's a male/female thing,

Rich girls play these games because their value system when it comes to money is based on appearance and selfishness.

The 100000 is another income stream so she can maintain her lifestyle and not have to dip into her own store of wealth. With an attitude like that i'll bet she has shown numerous traits similar to this but in smaller ways over their 4 years together.

 

[Damrongsak]

7 minutes ago, DavCurtis said:

It has nothing to do with culture. It is just a Thai trend among some specific set of Thai girls and their group of friends. ...

I sponsored some of my wife's siblings to come to the USA about 7-8 years ago.  Bro-in-law is a nice guy, but married wrong.  Their daughter was a little vixen when she was little, but a rather shy, pudgy kid when she cam here at about age 18.  Thought she liked girls more than boys.  She lost weight and discovered farang boy friends and is now a complete fluff-head.  Speaks great English, flaunts her looks and is pretty well worthless, though entertaining.

 

Do be careful out there.  There are gems and there are sparkly rocks and pieces of glass. 

[Hummin]

17 minutes ago, RichardColeman said:

Here's what I would do :

1. Tell her you are having money problems and cannot send anything currently.

2. Sit back and see if she leaves you or her attitude changes to one you do not want to marry.

 

100,000 baht a month is pure madness - your buying her a new condo every year !

 

That is a cheap condo, just sayin

[DavCurtis]

17 minutes ago, RichardColeman said:

100,000 baht a month is pure madness - your buying her a new condo every year !

I had this in mind, but I didn't want to hurt the man's feelings. Like I said before if it isn't cutting your finances then ride on. Is she with you for a long-term or to take you down and take off. 100k a month is just straight up ridiculous. 

Then again, she might be building up a side business for you both and has plans of surprising you with it in the future.

[nikmar]

if she asks for that amount of money each month then i dont think it's love. What on earth does she do to rack up that amount of bills?

[DavCurtis]

8 minutes ago, Hummin said:

That is a cheap condo, just sayin

trolling!!!