Please help: Scared of wife reaction

[tekashicanada]

Hi everyone,

 

I recently got married with my Thai girlfriend and ever since then, we have been fighting the majority of the time. She expects a lot of attention and I don't seem to be fitting the bill. Things got physical yesterday and her outbursts are out of control. She started hitting the table and then she said she feels like dying on the way that I treated her. I replied, yes me too so then she went to the drawer and took a knife and some scissors and said choose. I was obviously frightened so spoke softly and she eventually left these back in the drawer. I am wondering on what I need to do. I am scared of how she will react so I am wondering what I can do? If i confront her and she gets really threatening again, is there a number I can call? 

 

I really appreciate the help.

 

Tekashi

[stevymac]

Sleep with one eye open and hide the knives.


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[sanemax]

If you are in Pattaya , give Sharky a call

[tekashicanada]

Can I please get some sensible answers? 

 

I'm pretty traumatized.

 

 

[jvs]

4 minutes ago, tekashicanada said:

Can I please get some sensible answers? 

 

I'm pretty traumatized.

 

 

Get out of there!!It is really that easy.You showed her you are scared of her,run while you still can.

There is a number you can call,the airport.

 

[pastprime]

Do a runner

[CharlieH]

Where are you located ?

[tekashicanada]

Bangkok, but she lives with me. 

 

[stevymac]

Tell her your popping out to get the paper then don’t go back. Your safety should be number 1 priority


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[otherstuff1957]

^ Just leave.  Pack your bags and grab your passport when she isn't around and jump on a plane home.

 

Later, when things have calmed down, you can negotiate a divorce. 

 

A person who behaves like her will never change and never improve.  Trying to help her would just be banging your head against a wall.

[mauGR1]

Apparently you got married with a psycho.

Now, take a deep breath and start to think how to get out of there unharmed.

[CharlieH]

Go find yourself a hotel, take your essential documents. Stay there, dont tell her where, and let things calm down, give both of you some breathing space, and somewhere you feel you can relax.

Take it from there, for now.

 

 

[johng]

Yes take your stuff and leave to "somewhere else"  away from her for a while.

[TonyClifton]

See if Dr. Somchai is still at Bangkok Pattaya Hospital.  Get your wife a psyche evaluation.  Not kidding.

[AlexRich]

This post feels made up?

[wgdanson]

11 minutes ago, TonyClifton said:

See if Dr. Somchai is still at Bangkok Pattaya Hospital.  Get your wife a psyche evaluation.  Not kidding.

He is in Bangkok, not Pattaya. After reading what he says, I doubt whether he would be able to get her to a hospital.

[CharlieH]

At this stage thats the last thing he wants to do as it will probably ignite the situation by even suggesting it ! 

 

Space, distance, calm down, both of you.

Then talk later, and work it through from there.

[mauGR1]

5 minutes ago, AlexRich said:

This post feels made up?

I have the same impression with most posts of this kind.

[bwpage3]

45 minutes ago, tekashicanada said:

Can I please get some sensible answers? 

 

I'm pretty traumatized.

 

 

You just got married and you want some answers from a bunch of strangers you don't even know?

 

Gee, did she just turn her personality the minute she signed the marriage papers?

 

Or is there more to the story?

 

Usually Thai women react this way when the find the truth of the man is not what they were led to believe????????

 

So many people on this forum married years and years, and you have problem right off the bat?

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, tekashicanada said:

I am wondering on what I need to do.

It's like dealing with a naughty angry child.

No confrontation, no arguing, I found going out for the evening alone always helped.

Mine was always glad to see me when I came home, even if it was late and I was a bit drunk.

[Hummin]

 We need some more background information. It would help us to understand whats going on. 

 

Have you ever been angry at her, and why? Long time misunderstanding and confusion can lead to dramatic scenes, where one is in power of the situation, and the other suffer in silence until it bursts. 

 

More information is needed if you want som juicy well ment advices. 

 

My first thought is why you spend time here, and not packing your bags. 

[bbi1]

Did you know she was a psycho before you married her or did she change after you got married? How long before you married her?

[Hummin]

Second I would put some cameraes in the house recording everything that happens from now on, if you choose to stay. 

[scorecard]

52 minutes ago, otherstuff1957 said:

^ Just leave.  Pack your bags and grab your passport when she isn't around and jump on a plane home.

 

Later, when things have calmed down, you can negotiate a divorce. 

 

A person who behaves like her will never change and never improve.  Trying to help her would just be banging your head against a wall.

From above: "A person who behaves like her will never change and never improve.  Trying to help her would just be banging your head against a wall.''

 

True, please realize that her: attitudes, demeanor, behaviors etc will never change. And why should you try to put up with it? There is no reason at all. 

 

So you have just one choice, get out. Make a quick list of the essentials you need to take with you and flee, also block her from posting on your facebook, twitter etc., accounts, cancel your current e-mail address and your phone number (tell close friends).

 

Move on quickly and yes it will be bumpy for a while but start the move on process today.

 

You will need some emotional support, go to very close friends who you can trust and ask for a bit of support but be careful your not making problems for them. 

 

Good luck

 

[simon43]

Did you marry my ex wife? 

[TonyClifton]

Shame on you all.  I'll bet she's pregnant.  

[PatOngo]

Nice one Takashi san, you really got them going here.

[BestB]

1 hour ago, tekashicanada said:

Can I please get some sensible answers? 

 

I'm pretty traumatized.

 

 

To get a sensible answer, you need to be little more truthful about the circumstances.

 

You said, after you got married she turned into a nutcase planning to kill you, what promises did you make prior to getting married? ie financially

 

Did you promise to give her family or her some money ? or increase her allowance? 

 

Did you decrease her allowance after the wedding?

 

They do not just turn into nuts for no reason and comments like "not fitting the bill" would imply something to do with money

[OneMoreFarang]

Three options:

a) Troll post

b) She is on drugs. If you can get her off the drugs there might be a future for you. But that's difficult

c) Run

 

[TonyClifton]

2 minutes ago, BestB said:

Did you decrease her allowance after the wedding?

Allowance?  Is she a child or a wife?