Is there ever a happy ever after with BG?

[Wocky]

35 minutes ago, RobMuir said:

She is all done and now soundly sleeping it off. When she wakes in the morning I will give her another seeing to. 

And then you wake up and smell the coffee

[fusion58]

When in doubt, consult Aesop's Fables...

 

Quote

The Farmer and the Snake

 

A Farmer walked through his field one cold winter morning. On the ground lay a Snake, stiff and frozen with the cold. The Farmer knew how deadly the Snake could be, and yet he picked it up and put it in his bosom to warm it back to life.

The Snake soon revived, and when it had enough strength, bit the man who had been so kind to it. The bite was deadly and the Farmer felt that he must die. As he drew his last breath, he said to those standing around, “Learn from my fate not to take pity on a scoundrel”.

Moral: There are some who never changes their nature, regardless of how good we behave with them. Always stay alert and maintain the distance from those who are there only thinking about their own benefits.

 

[metisdead]

Some offensive posts and replies have been removed:

 

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[I am More Thai Than You]

On 4/20/2019 at 9:22 PM, brewsterbudgen said:

A cliché

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Very observant. You sir are the dux of your class. You forgot to add the bit "but very relevant".

[brewsterbudgen]

Very observant. You sir are the dux of your class. You forgot to add the bit "but very relevant".

Thank you.

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[Thaisi]

On 4/22/2019 at 2:16 AM, freedomnow said:

OP - I'm guessing somehow you have managed to find yourself with the naivety of an 14-year-old first in love and the physical mobility of a 80-year-old. = clickbait.

 

Yes, 'here we go again' with "Do you guys think things work out long-term for me with a hooker ?"

Hey look, it's new to me having any sort of relationship with a woman from South East Asia and this one did and said things I wasn't expecting from a BG.

I'm not ugly and I'm not even close drawing my pension (like some commenters here) so it was a genuine question to gather opinions and experiences from those that may be better positioned than myself. 

As it stands, I started work this week so haven't been able to talk to her anywhere near as much (during my time off it was a good distraction during the days as everyone else I know was in work) but she still messages me "good morning" and "good night". I'm not entirely sure of her goal anymore as I've said I won't give her money unless in her company (especially as she's still working) and she seems less intent on actually articulating a response to things I say via text and rather responds with emojis. Anyway since starting work I have been headhunted for 2 positions and passed the contact details of a few other companies/people to approach about work (typical!) so my focus is on my career as of now and maybe getting back to Thailand for new year.... And then long term being like the rest of you and maybe retiring out there ????

Edited April 27, 2019 by Thaisi

[I am More Thai Than You]

On 4/28/2019 at 3:21 AM, Thaisi said:

And then long term being like the rest of you and maybe retiring out there

Not all of us are retired. Some of us don't get anywhere near enough time to sit in bars, drinking beer and getting told how handsome we are. Suffice to say, retirement sounds pretty good.

Edited April 29, 2019 by I am More Thai Than You
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[bkk6060]

On 4/21/2019 at 2:56 PM, thaibeachlovers said:

LOL. When I was young, I was involved with several really attractive young western women that I could have married, but I didn't ( wasn't ready to settle down ). Do you see a pattern emerging?

When I decided I did want to get married at 60+ do you think any attractive young western women would have even thought about me as a prospective partner ( given I wasn't rich or famous )?

Do you think I wanted to get married to someone looked like my granny before she died of old age?

Do you think one of your "not a BG" young Thai women would have looked at me as a marital prospect?

That left one category of Thai woman, and I'd met many really nice ones, like the one I did marry. Unfortunately I married one with the family from Hades.

Anyway, even marriages between two similar western people is over 50% likely to fail.

Marriage is just luck of the draw anyway. There are no "sure things". Marriage to "non BGs" are as likely to fail as those to BGs.

I have dated both.

I think if you can meet a BG who has only been working for a short period of time, your chances may be better.

Otherwise, most seem to develop similar personalities (not to my liking) after working for long periods of time in a bar.

My experience also is that BG's seem to have simpler needs.

 

The professional girls sound great on paper, but most are striving for hiso lifestyles.

I have never met one who did not have quite a bit of debt.

On Facebook constantly trying to show up their friends.

 

Anyway, like you said 50% or more failures is pretty accurate.

 

 

[FruitPudding]

On 4/15/2019 at 8:31 PM, RobMuir said:

Thailand has so many available beautiful and cute single girls who are not prostitutes who don’t have sexual diseases and constantly hit you up for cash.

 

Dont waste your time with this slut. Go for something decent. 

The 98% of normal Thais will give you zero respect for treating a prostitute as a girlfriend.

 

It doesn’t matter if she tones down her dress and covers her tattoos, she won’t be fooling anyone,  Thais can always tell a hooker and will think you are an idiot.

You can do better.

 

I have never met a woman anywhere in the world who didn't have a prostitute mentality.

 

Actually, the average socially stable employed prostitute (stripper, massage, escort)  in the world doesn't have a higher rate of STDs than the average sexually active single women - this is a myth - and is true for Thailand, too. You are uninformed.

 

The only sex workers with higher STD prevalence is in the socially unstable street-working (typically drug using) prostitute. They have a ×10 higher prevalence of STDs than the average hooker (and the average women).

 

This is the finding in virtually every industrialized country and Thailand is no different.

 

Look, I have been here a decade. I have spent most of my adult life. I got a degree from a Thai uni. I teach the locals. I started a family with a local woman. I built a house in an all-Thai community. I have met people you only see on TV. I have been on TV, a couple of times. I am saying this cos I don't want you to think I am a barfly in a Chang vest. I have tried to assimilate in the past. I have done things most farang haven't and even the average Thai hasn't. I have achieved plenty.

 

Despite all of this......I have stopped looking for respect from these people completely. I am a farang and proud of it. I don't want to be Thai. I don't care if they respect me or not. I certainly wouldn't do things to try to earn their respect, like pick a certain partner!

 

That said, I ain't marrying a hooker and I ain't marrying anyone!

Edited May 3, 2019 by FruitPudding

[marcusarelus]

18 minutes ago, FruitPudding said:

 

I have never met a woman anywhere in the world who didn't have a prostitute mentality.

 

Actually, the average socially stable employed prostitute (stripper, massage, escort)  in the world doesn't have a higher rate of STDs than the average sexually active single women - this is a myth - and is true for Thailand, too. You are uninformed.

 

The only sex workers with higher STD prevalence is in the socially unstable street-working (typically drug using) prostitute. They have a ×10 higher prevalence of STDs than the average hooker (and the average women).

 

This is the finding in virtually every industrialized country and Thailand is no different.

 

Look, I have been here a decade. I have spent most of my adult life. I got a degree from a Thai uni. I teach the locals. I started a family with a local woman. I built a house in an all-Thai community. I have met people you only see on TV. I have been on TV, a couple of times. I am saying this cos I don't want you to think I am a barfly in a Chang vest. I have tried to assimilate in the past. I have done things most farang haven't and even the average Thai hasn't. I have achieved plenty.

 

Despite all of this......I have stopped looking for respect from these people completely. I am a farang and proud of it. I don't want to be Thai. I don't care if they respect me or not. I certainly wouldn't do things to try to earn their respect, like pick a certain partner!

 

That said, I ain't marrying a hooker and I ain't marrying anyone!

Do you have children?  I wonder if you do would they suffer because you are not married.  That's the only reason I ever got married. 

[brewsterbudgen]

Do you have children?  I wonder if you do would they suffer because you are not married.  That's the only reason I ever got married. 

Me too. Meeting someone half my age inevitably led to my son being born, even though I was 55 at the time. Getting married makes things much easier.

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[DavidAlexander]

Be cautious, as always, but also be aware....  The BG knows if she keeps in contact with 10 guys, maybe one or two will show back up. If she really wants out of the biz she probably has to go thru 50 or more.  It's all a numbers game, for both sides.

[deepah92]

On 4/15/2019 at 5:26 PM, PingRoundTheWorld said:

she was INSANELY jealous and attacked me twice, biting and scratching, because I went out with my friends drinking for a couple of hours. In her mind I was out with a girl - she truly believed that. She also came at me with a knife one time, and threatened to throw herself off the balcony

ahah my ex thai gf was so so much the same, but not a bar girl at all ....... ; their level of insecurity and mistrust is insane lol

[The Deerhunter]

I personally know of two confirmed.  One has the key to my home in snother country.  But the lifestyle can mess up their heads.  It is not an easy life and they do learn bad habits.  It is possible and I know some but be very careful.

[I am More Thai Than You]

On 5/3/2019 at 12:48 PM, FruitPudding said:

The only sex workers with higher STD prevalence is in the socially unstable street-working (typically drug using) prostitute. They have a ×10 higher prevalence of STDs than the average hooker (and the average women).

I beg to differ. These are my favourite specimens. And I can say that I have never caught an STD from any of these fine women in any dark, dingy alley anywhere in SE Asia. Trust me I have tried.

 

Funnily enough I caught crabs from my first time with a lovely blond western girl ????

[geoffbezoz]

10 minutes ago, I am More Thai Than You said:

I beg to differ. These are my favourite specimens. And I can say that I have never caught an STD from any of these fine women in any dark, dingy alley anywhere in SE Asia. Trust me I have tried.

 

Funnily enough I caught crabs from my first time with a lovely blond western girl ????

Yes that well could be due to the very high incidence of total removal of pubic hair by Thai ladies, hence denying the pubic crab its comfy home,  as opposed to the West where bush mountains are often promoted.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crab_louse

Edited May 7, 2019 by geoffbezoz

[Nakmuay887]

On 4/16/2019 at 1:21 AM, richard_smith237 said:

Op... This is already starting out to look like the ever so stereotypical train-wreck.... 

Read some of those famous books often quoted on here (Private Dancer for example) before you make any choices... 

 

Oh dear... here we go... 

 

Oh no... 

 

 

You have a photographic memory and you were still made redundant??? What company makes that sort of huge mistake?

 

 

Its started to read like one of 'those' stories... 

Sorry to hijack this but could you recommend me some books to read on the topic? Not just if BG but moving here overall