Did your wife change her name, or still use her Thai name?

[henry15]

I married my first Thai spouse  in 1976, and she kept her maiden name. becaus Im not her father but her husband. My second Thai spouse I married in 2012 also kept her maiden name,  because she is very proud of that name. 

[tebee]

2 hours ago, jaiyen said:

My wife kept her surname. To have changed it would have created so much hassle e.g. passports, business name. tax records, ID card, house, land documents and more.  Sometimes it is better to have a Thai name on documents,

Mine kept hers for pretty much the same reasons 

 

[DrDave]

My wife kept her Thai maiden name for everything in Thailand, and took my name for everything in the US (she's also a US citizen). This has never caused a problem in 12 years.

Flights are booked using the name that matches the travel documents (US passport, Thai ID card or passport) she'll be using at departure. When traveling from the US, she enters Thailand with her Thai passport even though the name doesn't match what's on her boarding pass, but this has never been a problem.

[Denim]

1 hour ago, scorecard said:

What is 'sensitive new age'?

60

[Crossy]

To add another variant into the mix my (previously married) darling changed her name back to her original maiden name whilst remaining "Mrs".

 

There's never been an issue that wasn't solved by lots of talking, no any $$ lubrication required.

 

[Denim]

1 hour ago, buffallobill said:

My wife changed to my surname, it causes some sniggers with Thais when she tells them her name is Mrs Newman 

Could be worse.

 

Imagine ......Mrs Pornthip Engelbert Humperdink.

[Mukdahanman]

My wife took my surname and changed all her documents accordingly - the fact that she is now Mrs Edwards makes me feel more married, but each to his own. Never caused us any problems.

[emptypockets]

1 hour ago, Farang99 said:

Uses my name - spelt in Thai, as it is on the marriage certificate.

What was her previous husbands name?  Farang 98?

Reminds of the old song 'Henery the Eighth I am.'

[Deerculler]

My first wife here took my name and she never had any problems ( She died )

I recently married again and my current wife kept her name.

It does not bother me.

I cannot see any problems either way.

Mainly a personal thing.

Goodluck.

[Orton Rd]

All a lot of nonsense anyway this marriage lark. I wanted her to keep her own name she did not- argument in the Amphur, next couple she wanted to keep her own name he wanted her to take his- argument. No idea where my marriage cert is, think the Mrs still got hers.

[klauskunkel]

19 hours ago, MikeN said:

she has already received lots of “advice” from her family and friends.

Use his name or you will have problems....

Keep using your name or you will have problems....

Get a fortune teller to reveal what is more auspicious for her. This will also shut up family and friends. He might even throw in a lottery number at a discount. 

[scorecard]

 

When my Thai adopted son (his first name is very Thai and his family name now is very western) started university his dragon home room professor told my son and the uni admin. folks that such mixed names are illegal and they should report my son to the interior ministry, and cancel his registration until he got his old Thai family name back.

 

All very ironic because the approval for his adoption and specifically the permission for his family name to be changed to mine (after they privately discussed the whole name change thing with my son (after they had indicated to me and son that he could change his family name if he wanted to) came in a document specific to both points from the interior ministry.

 

After the meeting the ministry staff shared that son was very firm in that he wanted to have his father's family name.

[mserror]

We married in Australia and wife kept Thai surname. This has been much easier for legal stuff. If she wants to use my name for some reason, she still can.

[ross163103]

Changed her name, no issues.

[RichardColeman]

My wife uses my name, id , passport, documents. hopefully makes her employment as a teacher easier and eventual visas to uk easier 

[thaiguzzi]

20 hours ago, BritManToo said:

My wife changed her name but kept the title 'Miss' on her ID card.

I guess she was young enough to be my daughter.

Damn!

 I thought that was always strange, my missus's ID card stating Mr.... 

[Jaxxper]

My wife changed her surname to mine. No problems anywhere as all our official documents now bear the same name.

[toofarnorth]

Yes she changed from Pim to Oi U .

[IssanMichael]

20 hours ago, ubonjoe said:

My wife had not choice when we registered our marriage in 2001. It was the law (changed in 2002) then that she had to use my name. Never a problem for her having my family name.

 

Same for me and same year as well

[Captain 776]

Keep her same name.........saver her having to change it back when the inevitable happens...........that why she is being advised to keep it the same and make sure everything is in her name.

[MJKT2014]

21 hours ago, MikeN said:

I am a Sensitive New Age Guy

I had to first look up what a SNAG was to feel competent to answer the op quandary. I married a Thai who changed her name. I fear tho I am not a SNAG based on the 7 criteria below so not much help really?!

 

For those in the same position as me I found a useful link:

 

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/7-signs-you-are-a-senstive-new-age-guy-how-to-be-a-soulful-sexy-dude-instead-lal/

 

Here it is then, 7 Signs You are a Sensitive New Age Guy:

1. It’s a first date and in good SNAG tradition, you take her to Kirtan or a cacao ceremony. Soulful Sexy Dude: Let me cook dinner for you at my place, and then let’s go to a Jazz club for a night cap.

2. It’s been a fun evening (or day) together and it’s time for that first kiss. You lean in and bow namaste.  Soulful Sexy Dude: Leans in and asks if it’s okay to kiss  her. 

3. You’ve been dating several months. You finally pop the big question: Do you think we’re soul mates or karma mates? Soulful Sexy Dude: Will you marry me? 

4. It’s time for the wedding ceremony. You choose an interfaith minister who is also a cacao priestess and Reiki master and of course you get married barefoot on a beach or in a meadow. Your vows are Rumi quotes, softly spoken while a priestess harpist plays in the background. Soulful Sexy Dude: Let’s elope (and preferably to an exotic land of adventure).

5. Your partner is bitchy. You decide to leave the room (I’ll be back when you are not so triggered) or in an eerily calm voice you point out the obvious (I can see that you are upset). Soulful Sexy Dude: You know, you are acting like a jerk right now, but I love you anyway. Would you like a back rub or glass of wine?

6. It’s home movie night and you insist on watching romantic comedies or obsurce film festival documentaries. When your partner suggests a Bruce Willis or Tom Cruise action movie, you look at her like she’s suggested  a snuff film. Soulful Sexy Dude: Forget Bruce Willis, let’s watch a sexy flick together and then make our own erotic movie.

7. It’s time to have kids. You insist on gender neutral names, ideally referencing natural land forms, seasons or the animal kingdom (Tiger, Ocean, Sky, Summer). Soulful Sexy Dude: Let’s name our kids after our favorite relatives or friends.

 

[billsmart]

My wife kept her Thai name.

 

[khunPer]

22 hours ago, MikeN said:

Use his name or you will have problems....

Keep using your name or you will have problems....

Simple, keep both names; one as the middle name, for example the Thai family name...????

[MikeN]

3 hours ago, klauskunkel said:

Get a fortune teller to reveal what is more auspicious for her. This will also shut up family and friends. He might even throw in a lottery number at a discount. 

But if the lottery number is wrong they will all say "fortune teller no good, don't do what he said."

At the moment she is going to keep her name, but that could change tomorrow.......

So nobody has had any real problems either way, which just shows that her friends and family know SFA about this subject.

[Deerculler]

It is what you are both happy about.
Otherwise no problem one way or the other.
All the best.


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[sandyf]

11 hours ago, jaiyen said:

My wife kept her surname. To have changed it would have created so much hassle e.g. passports, business name. tax records, ID card, house, land documents and more.  Sometimes it is better to have a Thai name on documents,

Business is the most problematic area. When my wife was working she was responsible for explosives and had to report to the police every 6 months for photo and fingerprints, she was also co signatory on company finance, much easier to not mention she had married a foreigner.

Unfortunately she renewed her passport just before she retired so waited until the next renewal before changing her name, after 10 years of marriage. 

[mejomini]

<deleted>? IT DOESN'T MATTER EITHER WAY! WORRY ABOUT MORE IMPORTANT STUFF.

[kokesaat]

Best of both worlds.  We've been married 45 years.  My wife uses my last name in the US (US passport) and maiden name in Thailand (Thai passport/ID).

 

[Arkady]

Mrs Arkady kept her maiden name and Miss. I advised her to keep her maiden name, which she was not particularly attached too, since we planned to stay in Thailand and I thought there was no need for her to be marked out as a farang wife wherever she went.  If we were going to live in Farangland, I would have suggested taking my name would have been easier for her than having a long difficult to pronounce foreign name. 

 

One thing to be aware of for Brits planning to live with Thai missus in the UK is that the common practice of keeping the Thai name for the Thai ID card and passport but taking the English name for British passport on obtaining British citizenship leads to problems.  This is because the UK will no longer issue passports to dual nationals who do not use exactly the same names for both of their nationalities.  A lot of foreigners living in the UK got caught short when they found they could not renew their British passports after this regulation came in a few years ago. In such a case it would be better for the Thai wife to take the British husband's name on marriage and avoid problems down the track when living in the UK.  Contrary to popular myth having a foreign surname makes absolutely no difference to a Thai citizen's right to own land.  I should know, as I have a completely foreign name on my Thai ID card and own a fair bit of land.

[villagefarang]

My wife has been using my name for the last 22 years and we have not had any problems or issues.