Surprised Yinn himself hasn't popped in to 'splain the factsalife in pidgen English with good sperring and ploper punctuation.   ????

You never lose your girl, you just lose your turn

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If you are suspicious make a dummy account with a really good looking picture of a guy that is everyone’s type and hit her up. If she responds and asks to meet up, pack up her <deleted> when she goes to meet him and bring it to her and kick her to the curb. NEXT.......

Send her an anon message on Thai Friendly or whichever <deleted> she uses and tell her you want to meet up for a banging session and put yourself out of your misery. 

On 9/29/2019 at 3:14 PM, Camillof said:

 

My advice is to always bear this in mind: as a foreigner here, you are being discriminated in many ways. One of these ways is the strong social convention forbidding a Thai lady to start an intimate relationships with a foreigner in a totally disinterested way. That's something reserved to Thai men only.

Are you really serious about this advice?

Where on earth do you get such specialised information?

It does appear she is fooling around on the side, or just making some extra cash. If this bothers you, then move on. You already have enough evidence. Also, if you do decide you want to get more serious with her, spend the 20,000 baht and hire a private detective. The dirt they can dig up is amazing. Self preservation, baby! It is rare, that you can trust what they say. Many, many Thai people have a very bizarre relationship with the truth. 

Have your fun but do not get involved!

 

Your first mistake is staying with one for months.

 

You were on the right track by having several!

 

Your always be a foreign and a ATM????????????

On 9/29/2019 at 3:28 PM, Don Mega said:

sounds like she is selling her bits on the side for some income supplement, you should give her a pay rise.

she will still keep doing whats shes doing with a pay rise.....100%....

It will be fine. She is just checking those dating sites to see if you are not there betraying her.  You found true love in Thailand. Think about marrying and having kids. Make sure to send her 30 000BHT a month like Senhor Jorge used to do to his lifetime dream girl that used to work hard at night.

On 9/29/2019 at 5:18 AM, olfu said:

Switch to Philippine's girls--most of them claiming being virgins even some with kid and when I asked how come you have a kid and claim being a virgin the answer was--because it was an accident.

Well, if virgin Mary could do it, why can I not do it? 

YOU are the one that thinks that you are permanent -

 

SHE's the one that knows you are a revolving door....

 

Depending on where you found her, you could be one of a few hundred....

 

If it's around the club scene, you can be sure of it....They are equal opportunity hostesses....

On 9/29/2019 at 10:23 AM, ZenBen said:

I am somewhat new to dating in Thailand, any advice?

No, that can´t be true. ????????

On 9/29/2019 at 4:28 PM, CharlieH said:

May be she's checking to see what you're doing. ? 

 

Here's a novel idea, talk to her, and discuss it, tell her your concerns, agree mutually that you'll both stop using it.

That might be a start.

That would require some common sense on her part... something, after living here full time for 11 years, I have discovered is a rare commodity in Thailand. 

On 9/29/2019 at 4:36 PM, ZenBen said:

I haven't logged in for a couple of months. So no excuse for her to login all the time. 

 

   Play the game ,  join the site as a new member , a new ID, photos.

    They just love newbie  male members ,  the Lady will soon find you ..

     

 

 

 

A little mood music that rings true to this topic & question.....

17 hours ago, elliss said:

 

   Play the game ,  join the site as a new member , a new ID, photos.

    They just love newbie  male members ,  the Lady will soon find you ..

     

 

 

Is it really worth to play this game? What exactly would one gain by doing so?

Save face?

On 9/29/2019 at 5:32 PM, OneMoreFarang said:

You could talk to her what she thinks about flirting and/or meeting others.

If you want to have her just for yourself tell her.

 

        Just tell her ,  you trust her , 

          and can you look at her LINE, and facebook  messages.

          Game over ...

 

 

On ‎9‎/‎29‎/‎2019 at 6:36 AM, ZenBen said:

Last logged in: 5 hours ago ????

It appears to me that she has you on the hook but is still possibly looking to better her lot.

Or, as others have suggested, perhaps she is dating (or just flirting) behind your back.

I speak from the point of having experienced similar. I moved on!

Sounds 

like she's a ho

I don't know how much experience OP had with women from back in the west but isn't this just standard everywhere? You're not living together, how is she supposed to know the relationship is committed. She probably thinks you're seeing other girls too.

 

She definitely is seeing other guys, so do an honesty test. Ask her if she is seeing other guys, if she says no she's lying, if she says yes she's being honest. Then you can start discussing getting more serious or not.

38 minutes ago, Northman said:

I don't know how much experience OP had with women from back in the west but

That is easy enough, divide minimal by scarce.

On 9/29/2019 at 8:40 PM, kingofthemountain said:

Hi young padawan

as you write you just ''sleep'' together i presume she is trying on the sites to find someone to have sex with. 55

More seriously do you live in her house'condo or in your?

If you are at your home and she acts like this, is simply a total lack of respect for you

you can resolve it with a deal, propose to her next time you see her doing that in your home when you are here, you break her phone (And of course if she does it, do what you have promised) but it's not going very far with your relationship or you can try just now to find someone else who realy respect you.

It is as simple as that.

Ah and if you are in her condo, do not forget to pack your stuff and move

you can break later with a sms, so you can avoid most of the drama and save

your stuff (Computer, clothes etc...)

If in Condo, move your stuff first, you do not want to become a flying Falang!

A few years ago the girls I knew dated on their backs or knees mostly. Not too many on their sides.

11 hours ago, overherebc said:

A few years ago the girls I knew dated on their backs or knees mostly. Not too many on their sides.

its a good one!

 

On 9/29/2019 at 10:43 AM, Tayaout said:

My first Thai gf kept going where we met: Thaifriendly. I asked her why and she said that she had friends on the site. I asked her how she would feel if I kept using the site and she then deleted her account. Met my wife on the same website and did not even have to ask for her to delete her account. 

... and then they opened a new account under a different name as they usually do ?

FAIR for many is when they can make the better deal.
Cheating seems to be part of the culture.

"Thai girls always date on the side?"

 

not necessarily in my experience sometimes they are prone, upright or on their belly.

Back 5-6 years ago I used to see girls for months, slept with them etc. while they also saw others (and so did I), some were even married (found out after).
They always have a back-up plan, or they will get one before leaving the other half, in almost every case.

The chance that you leave her behind, as of your age (I dare to say that as I am even younger but live here 8 years), would make it wise for her to keep her eyes open. Also, just seeing someone and sleeping with them doesn't mean you are now in a official relationship, you might just be her entertainment with A/C room now (there are more girls than you think just sleeping around for Aircon, nice food and a dip in the pool of a condo, instead of asking hard cash).

I mean, unless you are on a business visa or teacher visa now, what are the odds you are still around in 2 years from now? They think from a survival aspect of things. Seen few people around my age staying around longer than 1-2 years, even they promised the girls they dated a fake dream etc.

Quite a few girls are also very aware of our problematic exchange rates and visa issues, they will keep their eyes on the prize. 

P.S. Get over her, continue to date girls for fun and do not start a relationship or marriage with a Thai national, it is a headache (in the current climate).
You can not easily stay here (or cost of marriage + 400K baht first) and she can not easily go with you too.
Your retirement be screwed too, if needing to earn it on your own, abroad, for the 2 of you (or you have to be a big sustainable baller).

Embrace your freedom, now you still have it, and guard it safely.

On 9/29/2019 at 5:36 PM, ZenBen said:

Last logged in: 5 hours ago ????

Ask her about it. Perhaps there's a simple explanation.

If you don't like her answer, then it's time to move on.