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Sin Sod - who here got married without paying and what makes it not apply?


Did you pay sin sod when marrying?  

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Who here has gotten married without paying sin sod? What factors also influence sin sod not being applicable where a Thai person wouldn't pay it? Would they do it if the girl was dirvorced? What about if she had a kid already? What about both? Any other circumstances?

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2 minutes ago, sunnyboy2018 said:

It has nothing to do with selling people

No, it hasn´t. That bacause in real Thai tradition this money is just for show and shall after the marriage and the show be returned to the married couple for a good start in their marriage.

You see, I knew that too. Is there something more you wish to inform me about today, sunnyboy2018?

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I raised the subject about the Sin Sod (Thai Dowry) with my wife to be at the time she accepted my invitation to marry. She was quite surprised that I actually knew about her culture to that level, that said, I asked her what amount she would like, naturally she said up to you, with my reply being, no, it's up to you, so back and forth until she finally circumed and said, ok a million baht then, I said a million baht, I was going to offer you a million $'s......jokes aside, I invited her to accept my offer of 200,000 or 1/5th of that and she said, ok, after that, I said plus 300,000 baht for your twin boys education, they were 3 at the time (now 15) and she was confused, I therefore explained it to her in detail, and she was over the moon, but the condition was that the 300,000 was strictly for her boys education which she has complied with too this day, naturally the parents requested the lot for the showing, e.g. our Sin Sod is bigger than yours, and returned the 300,000 for the kids education straight after the ceremony and we deposited into my wife's account. 

 

Some might say I bought her and they would never do such a thing, but I would say to that, each to their own, her parents were grateful as was my wife. That was 12 plus years ago and as long as that miniscule amount assisted her parents for as long as it did, and the 300,000 baht went for the twins education, I can say that I did what is a cultural expectation and beyond, no one demanded anything in any sense, again, each to their own on how they perceive things in the Thai culture and what if anything they want to contribute. My wife's parents are happy with me and the fact that I can take care of their daughter, so I guess I missed out on the name which eludes me at the moment, it's Charlie or something like that ????

 

I suppose having a European background with similar cultural expectations when marrying, called a (Prika) helped in me making my decision, not sure of the spelling though, but as I said, made it easy for me to accept their cultural expectations when it came to the Sin Sod.  

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26 minutes ago, sunnyboy2018 said:

It has nothing to do with selling people. And you should not be telling people what to do given your scant understanding. Simpy not your business. Did the OP ask for your advice? There are many reasons not to agree to Sinsot but the issue of buying and selling people is not one of them. In many cases sinsod is symbolic with monies and gold being returned after having been put on display. BTW A gold wedding is not a symbol of slavery or ownership...just to put your mind at rest!

And you should not be telling me what to do. 

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16 minutes ago, bbi1 said:

This is what I was thinking too. Do other people here agree with this statement?

yes. and do away with the ceremony if married before. just register at the amphur.

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59 minutes ago, jastheace said:

yes. and do away with the ceremony if married before. just register at the amphur.

Is it common that if someone was married before, then there's no wedding ceremony? Even if the parents of the woman is expecting a traditional wedding?

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