I got angry today, as always "thai people know it better, your way might work in farangland, but this is Thailand" ...

[Pawpcorn]

Somewhat odd that the original author of the op hasn't been back to revisit his thread.

 

I wonder why / what happened?  ????

[roo860]

1 minute ago, Pawpcorn said:

Somewhat odd that the original author of the op hasn't been back to revisit his thread.

 

I wonder why / what happened?  ????

Decapitated by a roof sheet.

[tanner]

Listen to the lady, "open your mind" to her beliefs !.

[Elkski]

Man OP, you have a bad case of the Thai brainwashing. Hope she does outher things very well.  

I've encountered similar attitude.  

Mine gf, now wife always used to say " you think to mut". She always said I plan to mut.   Always wondered why I thought about 3-4 things or heaven forbid actually worked on the next thing before we finished the first task.  It really bugged me when she would take advice from Thai strangers in FB or somewhere over my advice.  I do admit that when it comes to getting green cards and migrating to the US the FB pages do know their stuff.  I have read there are  and worry about the FB pages about how to rip off your man. 

One example was when she was flying to USA on K1 visa during COVID ( May 2021). I was planning and booking everything.  I realize it must have been tramatic for her.  Quiting her 20+ year job, even had her US educated Dr boss and wife lecture her for 4 hours about her horrible   mistake.  At that time you needed a covid test before flying. The K1 visa was approved but in transit to her.  FB ladies said 3 days for delivery so I planned to book flight for 4 days, that meant taking her covid test before having the visa in hand.  We used some clinic in thonglor with an English speaking  female Dr who had set up a good system highly recommended by farang.  They had 1 day turnaround. So test before 9am a me d results emailed by 70pm. 

I wanted her to take the test the day before the flight but she just couldn't understand I would risk the test fee by doing things before the K1 step was complete.  " Step" seems to be a word Thai learn.  Next step, finish step etc. 

I finally convinced her to go get the COVID rest day of flight. It was an 11:05 on flight.  The K1 visa came that day. It was 5 pm, by now she had 4-6 friends trying to help her in this panic situation. she was sitting on her luggage on Suk out front of her abandoned premise of 20 years sitting in her luggage with flight in 6 hours, but no COVID test results.  My instructions and plans were for her to go with her friend who was there and had a car and house near BKK to go with her as planned, relax eat dinner, and use her printer as I was confident the results woykd be in her email in the next 2 hours.  Even 8 on email would mean at BKK 2.75 hours early.  But no.  Next call I get is from the group in front of the now closed clinic all screaming and panicking.  Finally she had to listen to me and the email came and she printed it and was a good 2 hours before her flight.   She really thinks it was a miracle.  She has since learned her man  can plan like dis. 

I think 18 months living with an engineer and in the US she has had her eyes opened.  She is learning to plan and trust me. She can't believe all the knowledge I have.  She has seen how hard and efficient Americans can work.  She has seen how fast we can make some cash but also how demanding work can be at times.   

I know this rant is long but I must add one more tidbit.  

The Dream book.  I guess there is a book or just mom knows this but every dream has a meaning.  Food or bad so she checks with mom.  Hell I rarely remember a dream unless it was a triple. Last thing is actions like if a man pees on a woman or the opposite it means really bad things will happen.  There is black magic in that isaan jungle.  Beware

Edited November 19, 2022 by Elkski

[KhaoYai]

42 minutes ago, Sparktrader said:

Is you arm getting more exercise?

Not at all, never had so much fun.

[Sparktrader]

1 minute ago, KhaoYai said:

Not at all, never had so much fun.

Expensive?

[Sparktrader]

12 minutes ago, tanner said:

Listen to the lady, "open your mind" to her beliefs !.

Work as a team, do it her way.

[KhaoYai]

1 minute ago, Sparktrader said:

Expensive?

Buddy, you need to get out more.

[Sparktrader]

Just now, KhaoYai said:

Buddy, you need to get out more.

Hire more women?

[KhaoYai]

2 minutes ago, Sparktrader said:

Expensive?

Haven't paid for years - not in the way you're suggesting.

 

However, if I wanted to I could have a hell of a lot of fun for what a wife costs - without the agro and boredom.

 

Anyone who thinks having a wife gets you a 'free pass' is deluded.

[Sparktrader]

Just now, KhaoYai said:

Haven't paid for years - not in the way you're suggesting.

 

However, if I wanted to I could have a hell of a lot of fun for what a wife costs - without the agro and boredom.

 

Anyone who thinks having a wife gets you a 'free pass' is deluded.

Havent paid 555

[Andycoops]

Time to pack up and go back to your cave, which you no doubt came from before arriving in the world hub of everything. 

[Sparktrader]

19 hours ago, kwonitoy said:

Years ago when the very first Spiderman movie came out, we were watching it at home via DVD

About half way through my wife asks me if this is a real movie, depicting actual events.

I said no, it's fiction.

She said, "I think it's real"

Case closed.

Why did you get married?

[jimn]

@AndyAndyAndyhow long have you been married to this obviously stupid woman. Seriously it cant be the first time she has shown this irrational behaviour. More fool you for putting up with it. Its obvious that this woman should have been ditched years ago. Sorry you brought this on yourself. Unbelievable

[KhaoYai]

2 minutes ago, Sparktrader said:

Havent paid 555

You can 555 all you like, your sarcasm is both unfounded and inconsequential.

 

I have my own house, ride my bike whenever and wherever I like. See who I like, when I like, cook what I want, drink when I want, come home at 5am. Go on holiday where I want and only pay for one ticket................ but most of all, I don't get taken for a ride by a wife or her family and have to listen to the same twoddle as the OP does.

 

Having been married for most of my life and raised 2 families yes, it takes a bit of getting used to but I can honestly say that I have never been happier.  Of course, some of my current 'partners' are probably 'hopefulls' with their own agenda but I don't let it get that far.

 

I've ridden 'big bikes' since I was young and have always said that I will continue as long as I can swing my leg over a bike - the same now applies to 'other things'.

[Sparktrader]

1 minute ago, KhaoYai said:

You can 555 all you like, your sarcasm is both unfounded and inconsequential.

 

I have my own house, ride my bike whenever and wherever I like. See who I like, when I like, cook what I want, drink when I want, come home at 5am. Go on holiday where I want and only pay for one ticket................ but most of all, I don't get taken for a ride by a wife or her family and have to listen to the same twoddle as the OP does.

 

Having been married for most of my life and raised 2 families yes, it takes a bit of getting used to but I can honestly say that I have never been happier.  Of course, some of my current 'partners' are probably 'hopefulls' with their own agenda but I don't let it get that far.

 

I've ridden 'big bikes' since I was young and have always said that I will continue as long as I can swing my leg over a bike - the same now applies to 'other things'.

I bet they dont buy dinners and hotel rooms. You do. 

[Sparktrader]

51 minutes ago, Pawpcorn said:

Somewhat odd that the original author of the op hasn't been back to revisit his thread.

 

I wonder why / what happened?  ????

Went kayaking?

[Sparktrader]

2 hours ago, 1FinickyOne said:

I took a poor girl from a wonderful family, and brought her around the world... we have learned together where to search for the most auspicious lottery numbers. 

Poor girls more real.

[KhaoYai]

26 minutes ago, Sparktrader said:

I bet they dont buy dinners and hotel rooms. You do. 

Hotel rooms?  I have my own place and of course I pay for drinks and food - the difference is, I have a choice.  Try choosing whether to feed and water your wife.

[Sparktrader]

4 minutes ago, KhaoYai said:

Hotel rooms?  I have my own place and of course I pay for drinks and food - the difference is, I have a choice.  Try choosing whether to feed and water your wife.

Was your wife a tree?

[Lucky Bones]

4 hours ago, Sparktrader said:

Good for massage though.

Only if she is 50 kilos or less????????.

[Lucky Bones]

1 hour ago, peter zwart said:

Do the words "shut up and make some food" works?

Only if you have hidden the knives.????????

[poohy]

Best post I've read for years sort of  sums up Thailand is best ,there is an element of this in every Thai woman most learn to keep their mouth shut and opinions to themselves after a  while

i am currently in UK, now we  need some work doing in house we live in a pretty remote area, Mrs. Poohy phones me up as shes Bangkok born and bred and  ignores most of the locals  (country folk  you know , we have only lived there 13 years) and does not know who or where where to ask to get things done

[Lucky Bones]

1 hour ago, roo860 said:

Decapitated by a roof sheet.

Wife found the kitchen knives he had (badly) hidden.????????

[Lucky Bones]

1 hour ago, KhaoYai said:

Not at all, never had so much fun.

Arms are also low maintenance.????????

[Sparktrader]

8 minutes ago, poohy said:

Best post I've read for years sort of  sums up Thailand is best ,there is an element of this in every Thai woman most learn to keep their mouth shut and opinions to themselves after a  while

i am currently in UK, now we  need some work doing in house we live in a pretty remote area, Mrs. Poohy phones me up as shes Bangkok born and bred and  ignores most of the locals  (country folk  you know , we have only lived there 13 years) and does not know who or where where to ask to get things done

Bangkok people are pretentious. 

[roo860]

5 minutes ago, Sparktrader said:

Bangkok people are pretentious. 

All of em?

[Woof999]

1 hour ago, Pawpcorn said:

Somewhat odd that the original author of the op hasn't been back to revisit his thread.

 

I wonder why / what happened?  ????

Eaten by a tiger.

[wwest5829]

12 hours ago, Pawpcorn said:

Well thought out explanation, I couldn't say it better.

 

The belief in magic and mysticism runs deep here.

 

She doesn't sound willing to listen to you, nor accept your logic; I'd say it's pointless to fight it.

 

Like BangkokReady suggested, just "do what you want, and try to ignore her."

 

Resistance is futile. They have been assimilated. Take the good with the good; try to see it as your free education into Thai-ism, and try to avoid being supremely frustrated. It's bad for your mental and physical health.

 

Surely there's a humorous side to all this? Who knows, she COULD be right, .000001% of the time! ????

 

Edit addendum: There ARE occasions where "The Thai Way" will make better sense (in Thailand, or in Thai situations)... surprising, to our Western mind, but nevertheless true. 

 

Have you EVER been able to teach her ANYTHING, or open her mind to a different way of seeing or understanding ANYTHING? Even once?

I have never ceased to wonder … all those tangle of overhead wires, the coils of extra cord … I am amazed but it appears to work!

[Pawpcorn]

7 minutes ago, wwest5829 said:

I have never ceased to wonder … all those tangle of overhead wires, the coils of extra cord … I am amazed but it appears to work!

...until the next hatchet job of tree trimming, (here in Issan), upon which we're guaranteed a minimum of a weeks internet outage, due to falling tree limbs snapping the fibers.

 

A yearly event, and not including weekends, regardless of multiple phone calls, thank ya, TOT.