Popular Post BritManToo Posted July 8, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 8, 2023 (edited) 10 minutes ago, HandsomeTallFarang said: 42 but seems very inexperienced with women. Almost every man in the west is 'very inexperienced with women'. You need a good 5 years banging Asian women in several countries to gain that experience. Edited July 8, 2023 by BritManToo 1 2 2 2 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Dmaxdan Posted July 8, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 8, 2023 1 hour ago, at15 said: imagine dishing out your hard earned money to a woman that has been impregnated by another mans sperm. unbelievable. With an attitude like that, please, please, please don't ever have a serious relationship with anything that even remotely resembles another human being. 4 1 2 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post recom273 Posted July 8, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 8, 2023 27 minutes ago, Hummin said: Not everyone have the same experience as you, or you might only heard it, and no experience yourself at all. Actually the original comment made me chuckle, I had an experience like this the first time of going back to the village. They rented a truck and driver from a cousin at some extortionate rate and we pushed the trolley around Big C and they bought so much stuff that they would never usually buy, they made a massive feast and what seemed like half the village appeared from no where and ate it all over the next 24 hours. I was well and truly rinsed. I actually took 20K out of the bank, and told the gf that I left the ATM at home. I saw it as an initiation ceremony, it ended by the gf telling her family to GTF, and 15+ years later we are still together, happily married (for the most part). I would say it's a necessary experiment, just keep your head on swivel and your eyes wide open. Write off the money spent over the weekend and use the time to see wether or not you are being played and if you can become part of the family unit. I found I couldn't which is why we live 50km away from them and the MIL knows the answer when she calls to catch 100B to buy rice. 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bignok Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 1 hour ago, at15 said: imagine dishing out your hard earned money to a woman that has been impregnated by another mans sperm. unbelievable. Yes i wouldnt do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Popular Post bignok Posted July 8, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 8, 2023 I met my gf's family after 1 week. Why not? Nothing to be scared of. 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bignok Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 1 minute ago, roo860 said: The singer did. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gecko123 Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 1 minute ago, bignok said: I met my gf's family after 1 week. Why not? Nothing to be scared of. It adds a layer of expectation which can be used to apply emotional pressure. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bignok Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 Just now, Gecko123 said: It adds a layer of expectation which can be used to apply emotional pressure. You have to man up sooner or later. If you like the woman go see the family. If not find another gf. Scared of meeting 50kgs 60yos is pretty funny. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roo860 Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 Has she told you about the sleeping arrangements at her home? You'll probably end up sleeping with her Dad, so don't get too drunk and end up in a compromising position with him.???????? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kidneyw Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 Go for it. First did it in 1982. I was 32 and she was 30 with four kids. We did marry and divorce. The kids were never an issue but she was. The upcountry experience was something else. I really enjoyed it. Take the trip with your eyes open. If it does not work out, you will still have a tale to tell your mates down the pub when you are back home. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post bignok Posted July 8, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 8, 2023 3 minutes ago, roo860 said: Has she told you about the sleeping arrangements at her home? You'll probably end up sleeping with her Dad, so don't get too drunk and end up in a compromising position with him.???????? Stay in a hotel nearby. The toilet is likely Thai style. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SAFETY FIRST Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 (edited) 1 hour ago, AventurasEnMadrid said: My new Thai gf (35/f) mother of 2 young children 35yo with 2 kids. Leave her for the older guys. Edited July 8, 2023 by SAFETY FIRST 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gecko123 Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 (edited) 22 minutes ago, bignok said: You have to man up sooner or later. If you like the woman go see the family. If not find another gf. Scared of meeting 50kgs 60yos is pretty funny. Trying to frame this as "manning up" or being "scared" to meet her family is being silly. All I'm suggesting is that the timing of the visit can be used as a tool to manage expectations and the pace of the relationship. You've never heard that "taking him/her home to meet the parents" is often considered a significant milestone in a relationship? You don't think there's a potential for claiming a loss of "face" or triggering resentment because you decided to break up with her after she introduced you to her family and her kids? Or being put under emotional pressure to become more emotionally involved or committed after a visit home? Edited July 8, 2023 by Gecko123 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Monday Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 20 minutes ago, Dmaxdan said: With an attitude like that, please, please, please don't ever have a serious relationship with anything that even remotely resembles another human being. I would actually rather have the experienced 35-45 year old than some young starfish but kids are NOT part of my life plan else would have taken care of that years ago. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olav Seglem Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 Reading all theese "alias answers".... Just remember: It can also be perfectly ok :-) you should discuss with her BEFORE the visit, so no "misunderstandings". Remember: Thais accept a polite NO :-) 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post BangkokReady Posted July 8, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 8, 2023 1 hour ago, at15 said: imagine dishing out your hard earned money to a woman that has been impregnated by another mans sperm. unbelievable. It does seem a bit much considering the (lack of) age difference. Maybe it's just me, but "divorced 35 year old with two children who also needs financial support" seems like a 50-60 year old guy kind of deal. ????♂️ A 40s guy with a job I would have thought could find a late twenties/early thirties woman with no kids and never married. But each to their own. 4 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post BangkokReady Posted July 8, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 8, 2023 26 minutes ago, Dmaxdan said: With an attitude like that, please, please, please don't ever have a serious relationship with anything that even remotely resembles another human being. He might not have put it very tactfully, but there are many, many reasons not to take on another man's kids. Especially if you're still reasonably young yourself. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bignok Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 14 minutes ago, Gecko123 said: Trying to frame this as "manning up" or being "scared" to meet her family is being silly. All I'm suggesting is that the timing of the visit can be used as a tool to manage expectations and the pace of the relationship. You've never heard that "taking him/her home to meet the parents" is often considered a significant milestone in a relationship? You don't think there's a potential for claiming a loss of "face" or triggering resentment because you decided to break up with her after she introduced you to her family and her kids? Or being put under emotional pressure to become more emotionally involved or committed after a visit home? Either you love her or you don't. You know this after 1 or 2 weeks. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bignok Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 9 minutes ago, BangkokReady said: He might not have put it very tactfully, but there are many, many reasons not to take on another man's kids. Especially if you're still reasonably young yourself. I agree. I did that and regretted it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bosse137 Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 I am living in Isaan now for 30 more years.I can tell you,that her family,specially her mother,is planning for a wedding.!! Why? Because you are expected to pay a nice sum money for her,plus finance the wedding.For the moment,I know of two families that are eagerly waiting for their daughters to bring home the catch. 2 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zzaa09 Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 3 minutes ago, bignok said: Either you love her or you don't. You know this after 1 or 2 weeks. Love. Of course. What is love? 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kwasaki Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 2 hours ago, AventurasEnMadrid said: My new gf, divorced and working for an insurance company in Bangkok and a mother of 2 young children that live with her parents (children’s grandparents) in a city in Isaan wants me to visit her family for the weekend . She actually invited me the first time after only 1 week of dating but I turned her down then. This time I feel a bit uncomfortable but have agreed. Fwiw, I have been supporting her financially somewhat as well and her son is sick with long COVID, but have explained that there are limits. There are several other red flags I am feeling in the relationship but do feel I love her. Feedback welcome. Thank you everyone So go if you care for her and you believe she cares for you, what wrong with you are you afraid of commitment. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post zzaa09 Posted July 8, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 8, 2023 (edited) 5 minutes ago, Bosse137 said: I am living in Isaan now for 30 more years.I can tell you,that her family,specially her mother,is planning for a wedding.!! Why? Because you are expected to pay a nice sum money for her,plus finance the wedding.For the moment,I know of two families that are eagerly waiting for their daughters to bring home the catch. Yet, there are more situation than not that don't fit into this neat and expected stereotype [and myth]. Every situation and experience will be different from the next. Don't seem to be terribly observant after 30 years......or you don't get out much. Broad exposure and experience is everything. Edited July 8, 2023 by zzaa09 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bignok Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 3 minutes ago, zzaa09 said: Love. Of course. What is love? When you get to 18 you will find out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post bignok Posted July 8, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 8, 2023 4 minutes ago, Bosse137 said: I am living in Isaan now for 30 more years.I can tell you,that her family,specially her mother,is planning for a wedding.!! Why? Because you are expected to pay a nice sum money for her,plus finance the wedding.For the moment,I know of two families that are eagerly waiting for their daughters to bring home the catch. Wrong. No sinsot for 2nd marriages. My gf's family never mentioned marriage to me. Her family want a decent bf thats all. Hence the meeting. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottiejohn Posted July 8, 2023 Share Posted July 8, 2023 56 minutes ago, Gecko123 said: Are you familiar with the concept of a rhetorical question? Much more important is are you aware if the OP is "familiar with the concept of a rhetorical question?" before you ask them? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post TallGuyJohninBKK Posted July 8, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 8, 2023 2 hours ago, mfd101 said: Just as "in the West", taking you home to meet the family is a good sign (she's serious), but it's only good if you're serious too. As for money matters, that goes with the territory. Either get used to it or get out. 1. For Isan folks, yes, bringing the farang BF home to meet Mom and Dad at their Isan home generally is an indication the young woman is looking for, and the family is expecting, some kind of personal and financial commitment. 2. On the money issue, absolutely nothing wrong with the OP making it clear to the GF and her parents just how far / how much he's willing to do in that regard. And if she / they aren't satisfied with what he's willing to offer, they're free to look elsewhere. However, that said, a relationship with a single mother with two kids who's already (presumably) been asking for financial support from a farang BF she barely knows thus far probably isn't a very good sign of where the relationship is going to be headed for the future. 4 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post TallGuyJohninBKK Posted July 8, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 8, 2023 5 minutes ago, bignok said: Wrong. No sinsot for 2nd marriages. My gf's family never mentioned marriage to me. Yes, the Thai custom with other Thais would generally be to not have a sin sod payment for second marriages. However, I have heard of sin sod requests being put to prospective farang spouses by the Thai side of the family, perhaps assuming that they didn't know any better. 4 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Phulublub Posted July 8, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 8, 2023 2 hours ago, at15 said: imagine dishing out your hard earned money to a woman that has been impregnated by another mans sperm. unbelievable. What a pathetic post. You (and those who like your psot) never date, or see, or have sex with, any woman who has ever been with another man? Never ending supply of virgins is, AFAIAA a myth propogated by those who encourage young and impressionable young men that martyrdom will give them this PH 1 2 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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