What should I do if I no longer find my wife attractive?

[CM Dad]

Looking at your photo, you would have to pay someone to share your bed.

[The Alien]

I think since you are fortunate enough to enjoy sideline, you shouldn’t get yourself into deepsxxt by engaging in another serious relationship. ????

[Tubulat]

My wife is also not attractive but I love her, is that not the most important?

And there is a song 'you are not happy with a beautiful woman'

[Wobblybob]

On 8/8/2023 at 8:57 AM, bob smith said:

mrs. smiths body aint what it used to be, putting it mildly.

I am already visiting girls on the side regularly but I do kinda feel bad about it.

It's not her fault after all. well it kind of is actually, she eats like a pig and ive told her that but every time i mention she just keeps on eating, almost in spite...

She is also very moody these days. Snaps at the smallest thing.

she says she still loves me though and could never leave me.

 

what should I do?

I still like her personality a bit but i dont find her sexually attractive anymore.

We sleep in seperate bedrooms and thats the way i want it.

 

Should I continue getting my kicks on the side, possibly think about trading her in for a younger model, or should I just accept my lot in life and try to make my woman happy?

I have checked with your wife and she said the feeling is mutual.

[NanLaew]

On 8/8/2023 at 9:57 AM, bob smith said:

mrs. smiths body aint what it used to be, putting it mildly.

I am already visiting girls on the side regularly but I do kinda feel bad about it.

It's not her fault after all. well it kind of is actually, she eats like a pig and ive told her that but every time i mention she just keeps on eating, almost in spite...

She is also very moody these days. Snaps at the smallest thing.

she says she still loves me though and could never leave me.

 

what should I do?

I still like her personality a bit but i dont find her sexually attractive anymore.

We sleep in seperate bedrooms and thats the way i want it.

 

Should I continue getting my kicks on the side, possibly think about trading her in for a younger model, or should I just accept my lot in life and try to make my woman happy?

If your continued marital status is the foundation of your legal right to stay in Thailand long-term and post endless inanities here, then you should do the right thing, up your game and flaunt your extra-marital dalliances to the fullest.

[wolf81]

On 8/8/2023 at 9:30 AM, bob smith said:

i watched that alone last week. I know the story inside out so to see it on the big screen was a bit boring.

 

I thought about taking the mrs with me but i would have had to pay for the extra large seats. saved my money for popcorn instead..

You do know feeding your wife popcorn will not make where thinner, right?

[thailand49]

Bob.,  the grass is never greener it takes a lot of work to keep it up.  I'm hit up all the time by younger women of course they come from the P4P  they say papa you the best you know how to take care of women.  We know it starts and ends with the baht!  I look in the mirror although fit at my age I'm surprise it hasn't cracked. They all try to get me to leave my wife I tell them I like being treated like a dog I know what to expect from her at my age why would I want to start over. 

Getting old is reality there is pain don't think for a minute she loves everything about you. Try being supportive instead of ragging on her and maybe just maybe her time has come in life menopause so try having a heart.

My motto, like my dad says if a women can stay with me for 10 years deserves everything even my support.???? Personally a stupid f like yourself would post such a topic you should leave being doing her a favor. 

[Rhys]

Dude, is the old peckerwood still strong lean and hard?   More reason to stay put...do your over the hill, strut the poontang walk with a young pro and be happy.  Go find your needs satisfaction and be happy.. however, who will be there when you have a health problem?  Who will be your best nong?

[Elkski]

I'm not sure why but i have seen thin small 46kg thai women go crazy with food.  They order so much at a dinner out and then feel they have ro eat it all.  Mine is learning about leftovers.  They seem to cook for 2x more people than planned.  I wonder if its because there was a rime in their life when they barely had enough to eat?  And now with a Western man who  has the means to buy almost endless food she has lost control.  And as another commented being overweight can cause depression and cause more eating.  There is a new drug that works andong term trial results also ahows 2o% reduction in cardio issues but its 1500$/ month  

https://www.nbcnews.com/health/health-news/wegovy-shown-cut-risk-stroke-heart-attacks-company-says-rcna98741

 

But also i believe many thai wimen accept their husband getting some on the side. 

[swm59nj]

What you should do?  Well I will say what she should do. 
From your thoughts and behavior.  She should get rid of you.  She is much better off without you. 

[Bundooman]

On 8/8/2023 at 9:27 AM, 2long said:

This thread is attention-seeking clickbait, and not the first one recently. But it works on here!

Could it be that the OP is not perfect, and that some productive and positive stimulation or inspiration could get things back on track? A lot of fat people eat because they're depressed, and they're depressed because they're overweight. It's similar with drinkers.

It's also possible that she is depressed because of the lack of care and attention by the slob who regards her as a bag of spuds.

It's also possible that the problem is him!

[Grumpy one]

Tell her how you feel but make sure she has plenty of knives handy.

You don't want to have her go looking for one to carve you up.

[ross163103]

If the shoe was on the other foot, would you want her having a few--or many guys, on the side? Just sayin'.....

[snooky]

On 8/7/2023 at 10:18 PM, bob smith said:

you may be onto something there. 

 

do they sell em on lower sukhumvit? ????

also everywhere on line!  Maybe if she saw you doing things with

this rubber beauty, she might understand why you are doing it

[kingstonkid]

On 8/8/2023 at 8:57 AM, bob smith said:

mrs. smiths body aint what it used to be, putting it mildly.

I am already visiting girls on the side regularly but I do kinda feel bad about it.

It's not her fault after all. well it kind of is actually, she eats like a pig and ive told her that but every time i mention she just keeps on eating, almost in spite...

She is also very moody these days. Snaps at the smallest thing.

she says she still loves me though and could never leave me.

 

what should I do?

I still like her personality a bit but i dont find her sexually attractive anymore.

We sleep in seperate bedrooms and thats the way i want it.

 

Should I continue getting my kicks on the side, possibly think about trading her in for a younger model, or should I just accept my lot in life and try to make my woman happy?

BOB only you can answer that.

 

Are you happy with your life.

 

If youleft her what happen

Would she be able to look after herself

Do you have kids

Who would be affected

Have you thought about  mia noi

Does she hae family or friends can can talk to her on your behalf

 

[JensenZ]

On 8/8/2023 at 9:16 AM, KannikaP said:

Now, look in a mirror.

The OP should definitely look in the mirror and ask the questions:

 

"would anyone find me attractive?" and "if there was no money transaction, who would want to **** me?"

 

I do look in the mirror and see an aging 64-year-old that wouldnt have a lot of options if I was broke... and I'm in good shape for my age, but it's not enough to get any sexy young things excited.

 

Maybe the OP's wife is expecting a divorce at some point, so she puts out so he can't use that as grounds for divorce. She most definitly has grounds for divorce and would be in the driver's seat in any judicial divorce proceedings.

 

 

Edited August 10, 2023 by JensenZ

[soalbundy]

On 8/8/2023 at 9:07 AM, bob smith said:

she wiill do it with me. I just dont wanna do it with her.

 

a sack of spuds i believe is the saying.

Looked at yourself in the mirror lately? Your wife is probably comfort eating through unhappiness. Sex isn't the most important thing in life, at least not for a mature person. Why bring up something so personal here anyway, do you need the blessing of the community, sort your own life out before you get an STD from one of your superficial flings.

[bob smith]

3 minutes ago, soalbundy said:

sort your own life out before you get an STD from one of your superficial flings.

I always wear condoms and shave. 

 

chance of getting an std negligible.

[Isaan sailor]

On 8/8/2023 at 9:18 AM, bob smith said:

you may be onto something there. 

 

do they sell em on lower sukhumvit? ????

What about those AI Chat girls?  Anyone have one?

[FritsSikkink]

On 8/8/2023 at 10:21 AM, bob smith said:

im chisled mate. 

 

a greek statue aint got nothing on me!

They have a lot of broken / missing body parts

Edited August 10, 2023 by FritsSikkink

[soalbundy]

2 hours ago, bob smith said:

I always wear condoms and shave. 

 

chance of getting an std negligible.

Interesting, so you have sorted out your life without our help. If you are seeking absolution I suggest you turn to a higher authority.

[LaosLover]

I bought a pink latex thing in Japan that looked like a salami with hair on one end -at a moving out sale.

 

It was still in the package, so why not? Best neck pillow ever. Quite the conversation piece. You couldn't go into a store selling hairy salami's -no whities allowed.

 

[thaibeachlovers]

13 hours ago, bob smith said:

I always wear condoms and shave. 

 

chance of getting an std negligible.

Negligible isn't zero. Condoms break.

[Ben Zioner]

2 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Negligible isn't zero. Condoms break.

Indeed, use PREP.

Edited August 11, 2023 by Ben Zioner

[Ben Zioner]

There is something I find fascinating with this thread: I flicked  through the 4 pages of it, and I didn't see any mention of children. I reckon that the posters here have lost the plot; you can't have any meaningful, long lasting relationship with a woman without having a family.

 

Apologies, just saw @kingstonkid's post; u r the shining light man..

Edited August 11, 2023 by Ben Zioner

[fredwiggy]

1 minute ago, Ben Zioner said:

There is something I find fascinating with this thread: I flicked  through the 4 pages of it, and I didn't see any mention of children. I reckon that the posters here have lost the plot; you can't have any meaningful, long lasting relationship with a woman without having a family.

Some can't have children. That means they themselves are the family. many people have very satisfying lives without the responsibility of children. All of who have had kids know the sacrifices and work they take to raise to adulthood. Some just want the relationship between themselves. Nothing wrong with that. They can do anything they want, including traveling, without having to worry about small children.

[kingstonkid]

5 hours ago, Ben Zioner said:

There is something I find fascinating with this thread: I flicked  through the 4 pages of it, and I didn't see any mention of children. I reckon that the posters here have lost the plot; you can't have any meaningful, long lasting relationship with a woman without having a family.

 

Apologies, just saw @kingstonkid's post; u r the shining light man..

Thank you 

[Mike Teavee]

5 hours ago, Ben Zioner said:

There is something I find fascinating with this thread: I flicked  through the 4 pages of it, and I didn't see any mention of children. I reckon that the posters here have lost the plot; you can't have any meaningful, long lasting relationship with a woman without having a family.

 

Apologies, just saw @kingstonkid's post; u r the shining light man..

A lot of guys move here & meet their wife at an age where (IMHO) they shouldn’t be having children 

 

I moved here full time at 53 (57 now) & count myself in that camp, the idea of being 65 and having a 12 year old kid isn’t for me & IMHO would be irresponsible/unfair on the kid.
 

Appreciate there’s a few guys who have kids when they’re in their 60s and are very happy, good luck to then, again it’s not for me. 
 

 

 

[fredwiggy]

People should or shouldn't have children at any age. What makes a parent isn't starting young or old. It's being able to raise that child as long as you're alive, until they leave the house, with love, patience and discipline. I'm 67 in 2 weeks, and have a daughter that's almost 7. I'm very healthy and strong for my age, and have already raised 4 more, mostly myself, that are adults now. Of course I hope to live to see her out and independent, but there's no guarantees. Not at any ages. Many people have children still young and don't take the time to raise them, but leave them with relatives and rarely see them. All depends on the person.

[Mike Teavee]

18 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

People should or shouldn't have children at any age. What makes a parent isn't starting young or old. It's being able to raise that child as long as you're alive, until they leave the house, with love, patience and discipline. I'm 67 in 2 weeks, and have a daughter that's almost 7. I'm very healthy and strong for my age, and have already raised 4 more, mostly myself, that are adults now. Of course I hope to live to see her out and independent, but there's no guarantees. Not at any ages. Many people have children still young and don't take the time to raise them, but leave them with relatives and rarely see them. All depends on the person.

As I said, some guys have kids at my age & much older & good luck to them, but it's just not for me.   I'm sure your daughter adds to your enjoyment of life in ways that I can only imagine BUT the fact that I don't want kids at my age doesn't mean that I can't/don't have a meaningful relationship with my partner (For starters what about Gay couples? are they excluded from having meaningful relationships?) - Which was the point of the post I was replying to.  

 

I'm probably thinking too much with my Western brain as I know it's much more "Normal"/Acceptable in Thailand, but having a father who's old enough to be your great grandfather would single the kid out in the UK & you know how cruel other kids can be. And obviously the other major consideration is the risk in the child having some kind of medical problem dramatically increases with the age of the Father. 

 

I don't think too many guys plan on having children when they come here to retire but if it happens then I would hope they would adjust their life/plans to give the child a loving home (And I would do exactly the same if my partner got pregnant).

 

 

This subject has been on my mind a lot recently as my best mate (of 40+ years) Thai Girlfriend is due to have a baby in the next 10 days which might cause my GF to become broody & could lead to issues in our relationship, but I'm pretty adamant that I want to be free to travel for at least the next 10 years so I don't want anything that is going to tie me down (I don't even want a cat & I really love cats ????) - Selfish I know but it's my life/retirement so as long as I'm not hurting anybody (GF included) I should get to live it how I want to. 

 

To Each His Own...