Popular Post ArnieP Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 Whether or not it’s normal it is very common for contemplative people 75 and older to graciously accept the inevitable. Howard Stern asked David Crosby (Google if you don’t know) a while ago about Crosby’s health and life expectancy. Crosby said, “It isn’t how long you have left to live, but what you do with the time that you have left”. There is a time to leave the party. You have had a good time, have had your fill, you look around and realise, the party is no longer one where you fit. They are dancing to tunes you don’t recognise and they use words not in your lexicon. You are really not interested in adapting to new ways. Peace and quiet seems more prized than frantic activity. The thought crosses your mind: it’s time to go home. Does the inevitable bother people here? 8 4 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post KhunLA Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 (edited) Twice I didn't think I was going to make it through the night, and amazingly, I was quite content with that. Glad I did wake up next day, and appreciate everyday, maybe a bit more, not sure, as always appreciated waking up. I hate times like now, as can't really go O&A, as planned a Southern loop. Now delayed, due to having some dental work being done, and need to be closer to home, next few weeks. Might take some 'local' outings. Edited August 22, 2023 by KhunLA 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neeranam Posted August 22, 2023 Share Posted August 22, 2023 Howard Stern must be old. If you are scared of dying, you haven't lived in a good way. When I reach 60, I want to renunciate and find the meaning of life/death and hopefully will have a few years more. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post scubascuba3 Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 (edited) It's the nature of death which could be a slow torture for some and family around them, I'm thinking dimentia and Parkinsons Edited August 22, 2023 by scubascuba3 6 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post nikmar Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 exactly - im not so scared of dying, however, i have had a few unhealthy habits in my time and the time that preceeds my inevitable departure may not be good. Not scared of death but very scared of the consequences of my past lifestyle. 3 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post KannikaP Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 5 minutes ago, nikmar said: exactly - im not so scared of dying, however, i have had a few unhealthy habits in my time and the time that preceeds my inevitable departure may not be good. Not scared of death but very scared of the consequences of my past lifestyle. If it gets to that position, go back to your bad old past lifestyle habits, and you will be on your way pretty soon. And it can be speeded up if you need it to. 1 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Kwasaki Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 41 minutes ago, ArnieP said: Does the inevitable bother people here? What a stupid question as if you have any choice in the matter. Take one day at a time is what my grandma said at 89. 4 2 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post ArnieP Posted August 22, 2023 Author Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 10 minutes ago, Kwasaki said: Take one day at a time is what my grandma said at 89. Too right. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post connda Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 2 hours ago, ArnieP said: Whether or not it’s normal it is very common for contemplative people 75 and older to graciously accept the inevitable. Does the inevitable bother people here? Nope. It is what it is, speaking as a 70+ year old and watching the inevitable ravages of time. What I don't get are those who hold on as tightly as possible to a body in decay, like it's some kind of trophy, as well as their wealth: "He with the most toys at death wins." Actually not. He with the most toys at death probably will suffer immensely as they can't take all of that "stuff" with them. So - yeah. People our age should dwell on the eventually of death, kindle acceptance, and enjoy the moments we have left whether you believe there in Heaven/Hell, rebirth, or annihilation. It matters not in the here and now - Live for the moment. 2 1 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Derek Posted August 22, 2023 Share Posted August 22, 2023 I've done all my dying - meaning that I've thought about it enough. I am obsessed though with how to make the most of the time left - it's a constant question. I find that it's not a matter of indulgence at all, though I admit, there are certain things I am tempted to do now from a sense of 'what the hell' that I've never done before, and I intend to die penniless in order to avoid the regret of missing out on anything, though that's mainly a problem of timing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eff1n2ret Posted August 22, 2023 Share Posted August 22, 2023 33 minutes ago, connda said: kindle acceptance What? I'm fine with the Kindle app. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post stoner Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 2 hours ago, Kwasaki said: as if you have any choice in the matter. i am 46 and in 30 years there might be things that change that. 1 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post jaideedave Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 31 minutes ago, connda said: Nope. It is what it is, speaking as a 70+ year old and watching the inevitable ravages of time. What I don't get are those who hold on as tightly as possible to a body in decay, like it's some kind of trophy, as well as their wealth: "He with the most toys at death wins." Actually not. He with the most toys at death probably will suffer immensely as they can't take all of that "stuff" with them. So - yeah. People our age should dwell on the eventually of death, kindle acceptance, and enjoy the moments we have left whether you believe there in Heaven/Hell, rebirth, or annihilation. It matters not in the here and now - Live for the moment. Good points.I'm 72 + and have assumed a policy of "giving while living".I inherited a few bob a couple years ago and bought the Mrs a new car, Gave some some to SIL family to upgrade their house. Took Mrs on a vacay to Vietnam and bought some gold bars. I felt all the better for it. A buddy of mine spent several years waiting for his dad to pass so he could inherit the loot.I felt sorry for him to be so small. I somehow feel its sort of my duty to pass on any wealth to benefit my immediate family.And no, I was not coerced into that.I survived "C" and they we there for me when I needed them most. 3 1 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Straight8 Posted August 22, 2023 Share Posted August 22, 2023 My dear mum is 80 & 1/2 years & does exactly this... lives one day at a time, until her time is up. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steven100 Posted August 22, 2023 Share Posted August 22, 2023 This is a sad topic. I am always thinking about my aunties, uncles, old friends, family, they are all dead .... I'm drinking every night thinking how I never seen them when they were old I should have. I didn't see them for 20 years or more. I'm left here alone as they are all dead now. It's very sad when your left and they are all dead. 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
csmith Posted August 22, 2023 Share Posted August 22, 2023 Start making your preparations … here is a really good website … free …. https://www.joincake.com/memorial-pages/stan-witaker/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post csmith Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 Maybe go to one of the “Death Cafes” meeting in Chiangmai and talk it through with cake & tea. I think there is a Facebook page. 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Denim Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 I've looked into it , the pros and cons and can't see any advantades in it for me so I have decided not to bother with it and save the hassle . 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steven100 Posted August 22, 2023 Share Posted August 22, 2023 58 minutes ago, jaideedave said: A buddy of mine spent several years waiting for his dad to pass so he could inherit the loot. Did his dad eventually die and did he get all the loot ? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Jelli Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 I'm 60+ and I'd like 30 more years of good health. After that I'm okay with tipping my hat and showing myself out. If even in a very modest yet secure, comfortable little place. Enough to eat. Bills paid. Seen everything, done everything - wife as well. I'm absolutely fascinated at the shi+storm that's going to be hitting the world in the next 25 years. I'd love to watch it from a virtual bunker. 2 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post VBF Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 According to the Playwright John Mortimer "There is no pleasure worth forgoing just for an extra three years in the geriatric ward." (I think someone on AN uses that in his profile) 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hummin Posted August 22, 2023 Share Posted August 22, 2023 Life have been a blast on a rollercoaster, and seriously did not expect to live a long life. Now I feel I still have a few more decades to go, maybe three. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimeMachine Posted August 22, 2023 Share Posted August 22, 2023 Some people seem oblivious to their own eventual death. I am certain of it and even further will set a date close to when Im ready to exit on my own terms. Death and its exit doesnt bother me and im amazed that such things are considered off topic like self killing. We should be able to discuss how each of us will plan to die. I am concerned about dying unexpectedly but stress less about it as time goes on. 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Adumbration Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 Dying is rarely easy. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArnieP Posted August 22, 2023 Author Share Posted August 22, 2023 1 hour ago, steven100 said: This is a sad topic. I am always thinking about my aunties, uncles, old friends, family, they are all dead .... I'm drinking every night thinking how I never seen them when they were old I should have. I didn't see them for 20 years or more. I'm left here alone as they are all dead now. It's very sad when your left and they are all dead. I’m in virtually the identical situation sans the nightly drinking. I started the topic, which I agree is sad, because I’m curious to see how others think and feel about ageing and reaching the end, knowing the grim reaper is on the horizon. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post MichaelHunt Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 5 hours ago, ArnieP said: Does the inevitable bother people here? It didn't bother me - until you brought it up. Thanks a lot! Ha. 1 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post swm59nj Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 It has to do with what you would like to do with the rest of your life. if you just think about waiting for death your rest of your life will be depressing 1 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post LatPhrao Posted August 22, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted August 22, 2023 Just turned 77 and, playing off of that fave tv series 77 Sunset Strip, it is looking a bit like now heading down sunset strip. Perish the thought, after so many years of questioning whether I might be immortal after all said and done. Fortune to of inherited good and long good health, life has been a rich gambit for me beyond any dreams or expectations, fortunate to appreciate much that it has to offer, and I suspect I'll continue to find life's little pleasures in the day to day and the various ways one has to entertain oneself even in limited situations. Keep a good attitude, forgo self pity, look for the silver linings and do not go silently into that dark night. Take the good with the bad going forward and knock on wood. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimeMachine Posted August 22, 2023 Share Posted August 22, 2023 4 minutes ago, LatPhrao said: Just turned 77 and, playing off of that fave tv series 77 Sunset Strip, it is looking a bit like now heading down sunset strip. Perish the thought, after so many years of questioning whether I might be immortal after all said and done. Fortune to of inherited good and long good health, life has been a rich gambit for me beyond any dreams or expectations, fortunate to appreciate much that it has to offer, and I suspect I'll continue to find life's little pleasures in the day to day and the various ways one has to entertain oneself even in limited situations. Keep a good attitude, forgo self pity, look for the silver linings and do not go silently into that dark night. Take the good with the bad going forward and knock on wood. So your Mr. Johnson still works then? 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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