American man faces dilemma as Thai girlfriend’s parents demand 1 million baht dowry

[KhunLA]

6 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

If she is the love of his life and if he thinks the parents do it to protect their daughter, then I think 1m is not too much. Most cars cost more than that... 

Then I'd buy the car, good chance it would last longer.  3 of my marriages, lasted less than 2 yrs.  And I'm being generous ????

[transam]

1 minute ago, BenStark said:

So I understand you paid for yours, if not you're just trolling

Please stop that trolling sh_t, it is sooooo tiresome..........

 

No, I never paid sin-sod because my wife was a divorcee...........

Understand, I doubt it.................????

[Ben Zioner]

@transam ("She was married before....?")

 

Nope. But I didn't say I didn't give any money to her parents who needed it. No wedding, but now they live in a nice house and have two beautiful grand daughters.

Edited September 13, 2023 by Ben Zioner

[ukrules]

9 minutes ago, transam said:

Why don't farangy's understand, Thai blokes pay sin-sod for their bride to be.

Why should a farangy be any different.......

Maybe he decided to stick with American traditions.

 

I stick with my own traditions regardless of where I am, they keep reminding us that we're not Thai - well this is a perfect example of that.

 

Not thai - don't care for their nonsense customs and traditions.

 

Doesn't this fall under the people trafficking laws?

Edited September 13, 2023 by ukrules

[stoner]

43 minutes ago, Trippy said:

A million baht will get me literally 1,000 short times, screw marriage.

i see you only go with stunners. bravo my man. 

[Ben Zioner]

3 minutes ago, ukrules said:

Maybe he decided to stick with American traditions.

 

I stick with my own traditions regardless of where I am, they keep reminding us that we're not Thai - well this is a perfect example of that.

 

Not thai - don't care for their nonsense customs and traditions.

 

Doesn't this fall under the people trafficking laws?

Exactly!

[stoner]

4 minutes ago, ukrules said:

they keep reminding us that we're not Thai - well this is a perfect example of that.

this is brilliant. 

[bignok]

14 minutes ago, Ben Zioner said:

At that 1000 Baht for ST it will cost you a fortune in Antibiotics and Antivirals. 

Hand 300 baht

[Nick Carter icp]

7 minutes ago, ukrules said:

Maybe he decided to stick with American traditions.

 

I stick with my own traditions regardless of where I am, 

 

How do you feel about foreigners going to the U.K and keeping their own traditions and ignoring British traditions ?

   Like wearing Hijabs for example ?

[CharlieKo]

16 minutes ago, Adumbration said:

How utterly depressing the content on this forum has become.

Especially some of the responses!

[bignok]

20 return flights 700,000 baht

500 nights at 500 baht 250,000 baht

300 baht food a day times 500 is 150,000

800,000 baht other

 

 

 

 

 

[dingdongrb]

Any pics of him and her?

[OneMoreFarang]

I have no kids and obviously there is no daughter who wants to marry.

But if I would have a daughter then obviously I would want that when she marries that she marries a guy who makes her happy and who wants to stay with her longtime.

Would I want that she marries somebody who does not even have 1m THB (28k USD)? I think a foreigner who wants to live in Thailand long term and who wants a family should have that money.

Obviously there are still lots of things which can go wrong. But a first barrier, like, is that guy willing to pay 1m for our daughter, is maybe in the best interest of the daughter. 

 

[OneMoreFarang]

31 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

Then I'd buy the car, good chance it would last longer.  3 of my marriages, lasted less than 2 yrs.  And I'm being generous ????

Maybe if you would have had to pay 1m for the bride you would have thought twice if you really want to stay with her long time.

And maybe, if you paid that money already, you would put more effort into keeping that marriage.

 

I was never married, so my observations are just theory. 

[rumak]

31 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

To me it seems the parents want to make sure that he doesn't just screw her and than walk away.

If she is the love of his life and if he thinks the parents do it to protect their daughter, then I think 1m is not too much. Most cars cost more than that... 

Speaking of cars ........ hey,   why not offer a reasonable downpayment.   Then ,  after an agreed upon time..let's say 3 months ,  if the couple are running smoothly,  an installment plan can begun .

Maybe the standard 15 k a month .   

It would be wise if there is also an understanding that if the "car" is not performing well the buyer can then stop payments .  Payments already made are non-refundable .   

And........... parents can come pick up their property .

note:  outraged readers can be assured that this is just..................................................... a joke

[connda]

Pick one of the other 30 million women in Thailand.

[Ralf001]

Already looking to bail = he just looking for cheap sex.

 

1 rock aint feck all these days.

 

Typical broke arse cheap charlie, she better off without him.

[connda]

1 hour ago, snoop1130 said:

Some individuals online suggested that the dowry served as a form of security for the woman, as her parents might have been concerned that a foreigner would eventually abandon her.

Ironically (not), it's the demand for a 1 million THB dowry (which the parents who own a "shipping company" don't need) that is going to cause her abandonment now - not "eventually."  "Love for $28,000+."  TIT.  You can buy a lot of love and affection in Thailand for 1,000,000 THB and never have to deal with anyone's parents.  Not that 99% of Reddit users would understand.

Edited September 13, 2023 by connda

[bignok]

2 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

Already looking to bail = he just looking for cheap sex.

 

1 rock aint feck all these days.

 

Typical broke arse cheap charlie, she better off without him.

He could be 25 to 30yo. No mention of age. 1m baht is a lot for a 26yo.

[Puccini]

58 minutes ago, Ben Zioner said:

The parents don't need it, so he shouldn't give anything. I went to marriage office in Banrak and I did'n have to show anything. Never had any of those bull<deleted> weddings. We are still happy after nearly 15 years.

The display of "sinsod" money, in cases where this is done, does not take place at the "marriage office", ie the district office, but at a private party some days prior to the marriage registration at the district office.

[Ralf001]

1 minute ago, bignok said:

He could be 25 to 30yo. No mention of age. 1m baht is a lot for a 26yo.

if he that young prolly better to spend the coin on hair implants.

[still kicking]

1 hour ago, transam said:

How old are you, 15....................

I guess he is not 15 yet 

[bignok]

22 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I have no kids and obviously there is no daughter who wants to marry.

But if I would have a daughter then obviously I would want that when she marries that she marries a guy who makes her happy and who wants to stay with her longtime.

Would I want that she marries somebody who does not even have 1m THB (28k USD)? I think a foreigner who wants to live in Thailand long term and who wants a family should have that money.

Obviously there are still lots of things which can go wrong. But a first barrier, like, is that guy willing to pay 1m for our daughter, is maybe in the best interest of the daughter. 

 

Average Thai women might have 100,000 baht. Some might have 500,000 baht. A 26yo farang might have $10,000 to 20,000.

 

Not everyone has 1m baht to give away and many dont. 

[bignok]

2 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

if he that young prolly better to spend the coin on hair implants.

I don't think that photo is him. He didnt get married.

[connda]

1 minute ago, bignok said:

He could be 25 to 30yo. No mention of age. 1m baht is a lot for a 26yo.

My guess is that he's in his 20s or early 30s (Reddit users).  All the parent are going to accomplish is to make their daughter into a bitter spinster.  What's her chances of finding a Thai guy whose parents are going to kick in 1 million large for a dowry?  Slim to none.  I've met a number of Thai Uni grads who are past their prime and essentially unmarriageable unless they find a farang later in life. 

[connda]

4 minutes ago, bignok said:

Average Thai women might have 100,000 baht. Some might have 500,000 baht.

...and 2,000,000 in debt.

[TallGuyJohninBKK]

4 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

if he that young prolly better to spend the coin on hair implants.

Perhaps a compromise and instead agree to pony up for breast implants for her???  At least then, he (and her family) would be getting some tangible return on his investment!

[bignok]

1 minute ago, connda said:

My guess is that he's in his 20s or early 30s (Reddit users).  All the parent are going to accomplish is to make their daughter into a bitter spinster.  What's her chances of finding a Thai guy whose parents are going to kick in 1 million large for a dowry?  Slim to none.  I've met a number of Thai Uni grads who are past their prime and essentially unmarriageable unless they find a farang later in life. 

Yes my thoughts as well. Some 30yos are rich, many poor. 

[bignok]

3 minutes ago, TallGuyJohninBKK said:

Perhaps a compromise and instead agree to pony up for breast implants for her???  At least then, he (and her family) would be getting some tangible return on his investment!

Buy a 1m condo in both names. 50/50. 

[ravip]

That's the time to bid adieu IMHO.