I met Mr Independent

[EVENKEEL]

1 hour ago, KannikaP said:

Did you have the Zimmer with you?

I helped George drop it off for repairs yesterday. I don't think he really needs it though.

[KhunLA]

2 minutes ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   I was asking you what you opinion was based  on .

( BTW , Using emojis is rather juvenile , just like holding hands is )

 

So is repeating the same question when the answer was obvious from the very first reply ...

 

... wait for it .... 

[fredwiggy]

6 minutes ago, simon43 said:

Emotional support?!!  The only people who need emotional support are those who are mentally-ill or soft-brained!  My father was 'old-skool' and I was brought up to understand that the world owes you nothing and you have to stand on your own 2 feet.  I have friends and family, both in-person and online, but contact with them is for social/family reasons, not for this new-fangled woke reason of emotional support. FFS grow a pair!

Actually everyone needs emotional support at times. No man is an island. A person that can give it can also receive it, and easier, seeing they know how to fill a persons emotional needs when they are down. An empath is a prime example of this, and a narcissist is someone who can't give emotional support because they either don't care or were never taught how. What your father said is partly true, as independence is a good quality, but the world humbles the strongest man eventually. It has nothing to do with new fangled or woke, as woke doesn't fit this, and is used by many people because it's popular to use the term. People who try to face every obstacle by themselves get worn down, and eventually it can lead to depression or worse. People need people, just as a man needs a woman and a woman needs a man. It doesn't make them weak but human.

[Nick Carter icp]

3 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

So is repeating the same question when the answer was obvious from the very first reply ...

 

... wait for it .... 

 

 I didn't repeat the same question , I was asking you what you opinion is based on .

  Holding hands isn't catching on in Thailand , its still an abnormality and felangs holding hands in Thailand are not trend setters 

[FritsSikkink]

11 hours ago, simon43 said:

I've lived in Thailand/south-east Asia for 22+ years.  The worst time that I had was when I had a Thai GF/wife.

 

Now divorced (for the 3rd time about 10 years ago), I am completely independent of anyone, Thai or otherwise.  I prefer it that way.  I no longer have the responsibility of considering the views of a wife or partner.  I can do what I want and go where I want. I'm a social guy, but have zero interest in sharing my life with a partner.

 

Since getting divorced all those years ago, I have traveled to or lived in Mauritius, Turkish coast, UK, Khao Lak, Koh Lanta, Koh Phangan, Samui, Pattaya, Ranong, Bueng Kan, Yangon, Mandalay, Naypyitaw, Luang Prabang... I'm not sure that I could do that with a partner 'in tow'.

You could if you have a partner who earns her own money and isn't financially dependent on you.

[scubascuba3]

19 minutes ago, FritsSikkink said:

You could if you have a partner who earns her own money and isn't financially dependent on you.

So probably you have a house and car etc with your partner, what % money did you both put in? usually it's 100% farang, but if your one is working still it will be high %

[FritsSikkink]

2 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

So probably you have a house and car etc with your partner, what % money did you both put in? usually it's 100% farang, but if your one is working still it will be high %

50 - 50

[scubascuba3]

5 minutes ago, FritsSikkink said:

50 - 50

what's the age gap? it all depends on that really

[FritsSikkink]

44 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

what's the age gap? it all depends on that really

Got nothing to do with age gap (65 vs 50) but with income generated between the partners.

[KhunLA]

45 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

So probably you have a house and car etc with your partner, what % money did you both put in? usually it's 100% farang, but if your one is working still it will be high %

Well that sort of depends on one's relationship.  

 

Does it always have to come down to share of actually money/money put into a relationship.

 

Best example, from my real life with present wife, she 'contributed' as much or more, if considering savings from being with her in the 'long game'.

 

She turned 720k into 3M+, and something I couldn't do, since not allowed to ... own land.  The 720k was shared input, and about equal.

 

Our present house w/solar & EVs we presently own, cost about that much, 3M, and all paid for, from her investing savvy. 

 

So reality, she paid for it all, along with no need for future expenditures for housing, electric and transportation, as the play, savings & oops accounts grow at an amazing rate.  More so as she continues to invest and more land.

 

... that's priceless

[simon43]

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People who try to face every obstacle by themselves get worn down, and eventually it can lead to depression or worse

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IMHO, that entirely depends upon the individual.  I have always faced my obstacles alone, and either overcome them or found an alternative solution.  I absolutely do not like to rely on others because - from previous experience - I have been let down by those who claim to be supportive.  Better to do it myself!

[scubascuba3]

1 hour ago, FritsSikkink said:

Got nothing to do with age gap (65 vs 50) but with income generated between the partners.

everything to do with age gaps, anyway she's an old bird so different rules

[Hummin]

3 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

everything to do with age gaps, anyway she's an old bird so different rules

What is your obsession with other people in relationship and what they do in life? 

 

Seems a triggering factor in your life seeing all this couples everywhere, and have to make negative comments in every tread about these stupid paying bf and husband's who only is in it for long term rent. How many years now, and how many more years? 

 

A bit sad it upset you so much and spend so much energy on something you are not part of 🤔🙄

[scubascuba3]

1 minute ago, Hummin said:

What is your obsession with other people in relationship and what they do in life? 

 

Seems a triggering factor in your life seeing all this couples everywhere, and have to make negative comments in every tread about these stupid paying bf and husband's who only is in it for long term rent. How many years now, and how many more years? 

 

A bit sad it upset you so much and spend so much energy on something you are not part of 🤔🙄

So what's the financial split in your relationship? 99% you?

[Hummin]

Just now, scubascuba3 said:

So what's the financial split in your relationship? 99% you?

It's really not your business is it? 

[FritsSikkink]

30 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

everything to do with age gaps, anyway she's an old bird so different rules

We are both getting older which gave us the time to build something for our kids:

2 houses in the south, 1 house and a condo in Bangkok, a shop and land with 160 durian trees.

What have you and your young girl achieved?

[scubascuba3]

28 minutes ago, Hummin said:

It's really not your business is it? 

ok i was right

[Hummin]

5 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

ok i was right

You are right about what? 

 

You just fishing for excuses for yourself and your lifestyle, and trying to find reasons for your own miserable life by continously nagging about others choices and life. It's cind of mental isn't? 

 

Happy wife happy life, you should try it, have a life partner who contribute to your life and gives it a meaning. 

 

 

[Hummin]

9 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

ok i was right

You are right about what? 

 

You just fishing for excuses for yourself and your lifestyle, and trying to find reasons for your own miserable life by continously nagging about others choices and life. It's cind of mental isn't? 

 

Happy wife happy life, you should try it, have a life partner who contribute to your life and gives it a meaning and a purpose.

 

You have no idea how others life is, and what we contribute to each other, still you condemning each and one you see on the street just by the look at them. How pity is that? 

 

Must be something inside you triggering the worst of you. 

 

 

Edited October 18 by Hummin

[Ralf001]

6 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

can live independently by yourself and do everything by yourself?

I would hazard a guess 1% 

 

 

I must be a 1 percenter  !

[scubascuba3]

1 hour ago, Hummin said:

You are right about what? 

 

You just fishing for excuses for yourself and your lifestyle, and trying to find reasons for your own miserable life by continously nagging about others choices and life. It's cind of mental isn't? 

 

Happy wife happy life, you should try it, have a life partner who contribute to your life and gives it a meaning and a purpose.

 

You have no idea how others life is, and what we contribute to each other, still you condemning each and one you see on the street just by the look at them. How pity is that? 

 

Must be something inside you triggering the worst of you. 

 

 

I know it touched a nerve but no need to make the same post twice

[Hummin]

8 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

I know it touched a nerve but no need to make the same post twice

Really, I just do not understand your aganda, spewing the same BS year after year in every tread possible. 

 

If you could afford to be in a relationship, you would have been to. Simple as that, but it hard to manage on a limited budget, since being in a relationships you have to bring something to the table. 

[scubascuba3]

23 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Really, I just do not understand your aganda, spewing the same BS year after year in every tread possible. 

 

If you could afford to be in a relationship, you would have been to. Simple as that, but it hard to manage on a limited budget, since being in a relationships you have to bring something to the table. 

ok if you say so, look you don't have to justify your relationship to me

[SAFETY FIRST]

19 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

So today I spent the afternoon in LK metro 

There was no alcohol but I sat in a bar which I was happy there was no alcohol

Oh, was that you I saw. 

 

I went for a ride on my pcx, only 1 guy in the whole soi. 

 

[dddave]

In the past ten years, I have not had directed at me:

"Where you go?"

"What you do?"

"You have other lady?"

"You give me BXXXXX for my family me!"

"Farang Ba!"

Edited October 18 by dddave

[JimTripper]

Many of the freelance girls see themselves as a type of guide. Almost like a tour guide. Very similar to the tuk tuk guys that want to drive you everywhere.

 

Nobody from Thailand wants strong independent foreigners here. They want people that need to be shuttled around, catered to, and driven everywhere. It's so extreme that I get looks even doing some yardwork or watering the plants or regularly walking independently around the city. That's how bad it is.

[scubascuba3]

1 hour ago, JimTripper said:

Many of the freelance girls see themselves as a type of guide. Almost like a tour guide. Very similar to the tuk tuk guys that want to drive you everywhere.

 

Nobody from Thailand wants strong independent foreigners here. They want people that need to be shuttled around, catered to, and driven everywhere. It's so extreme that I get looks even doing some yardwork or watering the plants or regularly walking independently around the city. That's how bad it is.

maybe it's you 

[Hummin]

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Edited October 18 by Hummin

[Hummin]

8 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

ok if you say so, look you don't have to justify your relationship to me

I do not justify my relationship to you, I just adress your continously BS. 

 

 

[JimTripper]

3 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

maybe it's you 

my name is thumper...