Over 50 and Feeling the Frustration

[123Stodg]

Well, let’s just cut to the chase—getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. There’s the inevitable grey hair, the mysterious aches and pains, and, let’s face it, some truly annoying changes on the “personal health” front. I’m talking about a certain lack of enthusiasm below the belt. Once you hit 50, it’s like a switch flips, and suddenly your body decides it’s gonna make things more difficult in the bedroom. For most of my life, I didn’t give a second thought to, let’s call it, “rising to the occasion.” But now? Let’s just say that even when I’m mentally ready, my body’s got other plans.

 

I’ve tried every “natural” suggestion out there—believe me, I’ve done my research. Eating clean, quitting caffeine, working out regularly. They say “get more sleep,” but try telling that to the never-ending to-do list waiting every morning. I’ve loaded up on leafy greens, upped my water intake, and even swapped out some old habits for new, healthier ones. I’ve even gotten into meditation, trying to manage stress levels. But when it comes down to it, no matter how many vegetables I eat or how many squats I do, the problem persists.

 

And let’s talk about supplements. I’ve probably spent a small fortune on everything from ginseng to maca root, L-arginine to zinc. If it’s sold as a “natural” performance booster, it’s probably sitting somewhere in my drawer right now. But here’s the reality: it’s just not working. I’ve tried powders, pills, smoothies, and shakes—anything that promised even a glimmer of hope. All I got was stack full of bottles and a lingering sense of defeat.

 

Now, being in Thailand, let’s just say there’s no shortage of… commercial options. I’ve tried visiting a few of the top spots and, let’s be real, the experience is enough to leave anyone starry-eyed. Even had a go with a few young, eager hands-on assistants who are pretty dedicated to the “art” of service, and, yes, sometimes with more than one helping at a time. But here’s the thing—even with all that charm, dedication, and sheer effort in the mix, the results haven’t exactly changed much. Sure, it’s enjoyable and exciting, but my body just isn’t playing along the way it used to. If anything, it only adds to the frustration, knowing the mind’s all there, but the engine just won’t fire up like it once did.

 

Of course, there’s always the pharmaceutical route. But the idea of taking potentially risky meds doesn’t sit well with me. We’ve all seen the lists of side effects, and they’re no joke: headaches, dizziness, stomach issues and other health risks in general. Not exactly the kind of excitement I’m looking to add to my day. And, let’s be real—once you start down that path, is there any going back? I don’t want to be dependent on a prescription just to function normally, let alone to feel more confident.

 

So here I am, wondering if there’s some magic solution I haven’t stumbled across yet or if I just have to accept this as part of the new normal. It’s humbling, no doubt. And it’s frustrating beyond belief. But I’m also hoping there’s someone out there with some real advice—because, at this point, I’ll take any tips that don’t involve side effects or miracle powders. Hoping there are other people out there with wisdom who are on the same page.

[MalcolmB]

15 minutes ago, 123Stodg said:

Even had a go with a few young, eager hands-on assistants who are pretty dedicated to the “art” of service, and, yes, sometimes with more than one helping at a time. But here’s the thing—even with all that charm, dedication, and sheer effort in the mix, the results haven’t exactly changed much.

Sounds like you might be gay.

 

Try it with a man, let us know the results.

 

Good luck

[FriscoKid]

3 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

Try it with a man

Is that working well for you?

[MalcolmB]

1 minute ago, FriscoKid said:

Is that working well for you?

I don’t like men. 
I like boobs. If I can play with boobs for five minutes I am good.

 

[FriscoKid]

1 minute ago, MalcolmB said:

I don’t like men. 

Wow, sad, so you don't have any friends either?

[MalcolmB]

3 minutes ago, FriscoKid said:

Wow, sad, so you don't have any friends either?

It is lonely at the top.

[FriscoKid]

Just now, MalcolmB said:

It is lonely at the top.

Indeed. No worries, I'll be your friend. Just so you know, my boobs are off limits though.  

[Gottfrid]

11 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

I don’t like men. 
I like boobs. If I can play with boobs for five minutes I am good.

 

I go with that. Boobs are nice.

[richard_smith237]

1 hour ago, FriscoKid said:

1 hour ago, MalcolmB said:

I don’t like men. 

Wow, sad, so you don't have any friends either?

 

Getting his hands on a t!t must easy enough - just play with himself... 

[CallumWK]

1 hour ago, MalcolmB said:

I don’t like men. 
I like boobs. If I can play with boobs for five minutes I am good.

 

 

Men with boobs?

[Terrance8812]

1 hour ago, MalcolmB said:

I don’t like men. 
I like boobs. If I can play with boobs for five minutes I am good.

 

Here is an option for you cowboy. The best of both worlds. 

 

 

[StreetCowboy]

Getting older is all its cracked up to be.  
If you don't like it, don't do it, and make room for the rest of us.

 

Of course, being younger would be better, and I tried that, back in the day.

 

SC

[NowNow]

2 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Well, let’s just cut to the chase—getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. There’s the inevitable grey hair, the mysterious aches and pains, and, let’s face it, some truly annoying changes on the “personal health” front. I’m talking about a certain lack of enthusiasm below the belt. Once you hit 50, it’s like a switch flips, and suddenly your body decides it’s gonna make things more difficult in the bedroom. For most of my life, I didn’t give a second thought to, let’s call it, “rising to the occasion.” But now? Let’s just say that even when I’m mentally ready, my body’s got other plans.

 

I’ve tried every “natural” suggestion out there—believe me, I’ve done my research. Eating clean, quitting caffeine, working out regularly. They say “get more sleep,” but try telling that to the never-ending to-do list waiting every morning. I’ve loaded up on leafy greens, upped my water intake, and even swapped out some old habits for new, healthier ones. I’ve even gotten into meditation, trying to manage stress levels. But when it comes down to it, no matter how many vegetables I eat or how many squats I do, the problem persists.

 

And let’s talk about supplements. I’ve probably spent a small fortune on everything from ginseng to maca root, L-arginine to zinc. If it’s sold as a “natural” performance booster, it’s probably sitting somewhere in my drawer right now. But here’s the reality: it’s just not working. I’ve tried powders, pills, smoothies, and shakes—anything that promised even a glimmer of hope. All I got was stack full of bottles and a lingering sense of defeat.

 

Now, being in Thailand, let’s just say there’s no shortage of… commercial options. I’ve tried visiting a few of the top spots and, let’s be real, the experience is enough to leave anyone starry-eyed. Even had a go with a few young, eager hands-on assistants who are pretty dedicated to the “art” of service, and, yes, sometimes with more than one helping at a time. But here’s the thing—even with all that charm, dedication, and sheer effort in the mix, the results haven’t exactly changed much. Sure, it’s enjoyable and exciting, but my body just isn’t playing along the way it used to. If anything, it only adds to the frustration, knowing the mind’s all there, but the engine just won’t fire up like it once did.

 

Of course, there’s always the pharmaceutical route. But the idea of taking potentially risky meds doesn’t sit well with me. We’ve all seen the lists of side effects, and they’re no joke: headaches, dizziness, stomach issues and other health risks in general. Not exactly the kind of excitement I’m looking to add to my day. And, let’s be real—once you start down that path, is there any going back? I don’t want to be dependent on a prescription just to function normally, let alone to feel more confident.

 

So here I am, wondering if there’s some magic solution I haven’t stumbled across yet or if I just have to accept this as part of the new normal. It’s humbling, no doubt. And it’s frustrating beyond belief. But I’m also hoping there’s someone out there with some real advice—because, at this point, I’ll take any tips that don’t involve side effects or miracle powders. Hoping there are other people out there with wisdom who are on the same page.

 

Mind over matter.... or find Yohimbe bark.

[GammaGlobulin]

2 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Well, let’s just cut to the chase—getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

 

Haha...

 

If you are 50, and already feeling this way....

 

BABY....

 

You ain't seen NOTHING, yet.

 

Good luck when you hit 100.

 

 

[Hummin]

2 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Well, let’s just cut to the chase—getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. There’s the inevitable grey hair, the mysterious aches and pains, and, let’s face it, some truly annoying changes on the “personal health” front. I’m talking about a certain lack of enthusiasm below the belt. Once you hit 50, it’s like a switch flips, and suddenly your body decides it’s gonna make things more difficult in the bedroom. For most of my life, I didn’t give a second thought to, let’s call it, “rising to the occasion.” But now? Let’s just say that even when I’m mentally ready, my body’s got other plans.

 

I’ve tried every “natural” suggestion out there—believe me, I’ve done my research. Eating clean, quitting caffeine, working out regularly. They say “get more sleep,” but try telling that to the never-ending to-do list waiting every morning. I’ve loaded up on leafy greens, upped my water intake, and even swapped out some old habits for new, healthier ones. I’ve even gotten into meditation, trying to manage stress levels. But when it comes down to it, no matter how many vegetables I eat or how many squats I do, the problem persists.

 

And let’s talk about supplements. I’ve probably spent a small fortune on everything from ginseng to maca root, L-arginine to zinc. If it’s sold as a “natural” performance booster, it’s probably sitting somewhere in my drawer right now. But here’s the reality: it’s just not working. I’ve tried powders, pills, smoothies, and shakes—anything that promised even a glimmer of hope. All I got was stack full of bottles and a lingering sense of defeat.

 

Now, being in Thailand, let’s just say there’s no shortage of… commercial options. I’ve tried visiting a few of the top spots and, let’s be real, the experience is enough to leave anyone starry-eyed. Even had a go with a few young, eager hands-on assistants who are pretty dedicated to the “art” of service, and, yes, sometimes with more than one helping at a time. But here’s the thing—even with all that charm, dedication, and sheer effort in the mix, the results haven’t exactly changed much. Sure, it’s enjoyable and exciting, but my body just isn’t playing along the way it used to. If anything, it only adds to the frustration, knowing the mind’s all there, but the engine just won’t fire up like it once did.

 

Of course, there’s always the pharmaceutical route. But the idea of taking potentially risky meds doesn’t sit well with me. We’ve all seen the lists of side effects, and they’re no joke: headaches, dizziness, stomach issues and other health risks in general. Not exactly the kind of excitement I’m looking to add to my day. And, let’s be real—once you start down that path, is there any going back? I don’t want to be dependent on a prescription just to function normally, let alone to feel more confident.

 

So here I am, wondering if there’s some magic solution I haven’t stumbled across yet or if I just have to accept this as part of the new normal. It’s humbling, no doubt. And it’s frustrating beyond belief. But I’m also hoping there’s someone out there with some real advice—because, at this point, I’ll take any tips that don’t involve side effects or miracle powders. Hoping there are other people out there with wisdom who are on the same page.

 

Only one thing left to try then, a decent tall LB with big hands, or you just go and buy a package of Andro Gel and start rubbing it on your shoulders for a month to see how it works for you. 

 

Good Luck

Edited October 29 by Hummin

[habuspasha]

At 83 I use testosterone gel (Andro-gel) and 20mg of tadalafil (cialis) daily.  No side-effects to speak of.  Not as vigorous as I was in my 70s, but I stay engaged and enjoy it.  And my GF doesn't have the energy she had ten years ago in her 30s.  I'm getting her to take progesterone.  These "pharmaceuticals" aren't more chemical than the hormones they replace. 

[Hawaiian]

47 minutes ago, habuspasha said:

At 83 I use testosterone gel (Andro-gel) and 20mg of tadalafil (cialis) daily.  No side-effects to speak of.  Not as vigorous as I was in my 70s, but I stay engaged and enjoy it.  And my GF doesn't have the energy she had ten years ago in her 30s.  I'm getting her to take progesterone.  These "pharmaceuticals" aren't more chemical than the hormones they replace. 

There comes a point in time where they will not work anymore.  It can be disappointing and even frustrating, but it is what it is.  Consider yourself lucky.

[RSD1]

2 hours ago, Hummin said:

 

Only one thing left to try then, a decent tall LB with big hands, or you just go and buy a package of Andro Gel and start rubbing it on your shoulders for a month to see how it works for you. 

 

Good Luck

So let me get this straight; you’re suggesting he either hunts down a sturdy ladyboy with a vice grip or starts slathering on testosterone gel? Quite the impressive range of “expert” advice! Nothing bizarre about that combo at all. Why not just have him try both at once? If we’re going all in, might as well throw in a vacuum penis pump and an adrenaline shot too, right? You must have this routine down to a science by now, seeing as you’ve got the “bizarre solutions” market cornered!

[RSD1]

3 hours ago, NowNow said:

 

Mind over matter.... or find Yohimbe bark.

 

 

Ah yes, the classic “mind over matter” approach to physiology—because that’s definitely cracked the code for every guy facing midlife challenges! And Yohimbe bark? Nothing like a bit of mystery bark to tackle complex biology. Gotta love some solid bro science advice!

[Hummin]

12 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

So let me get this straight; you’re suggesting he either hunts down a sturdy ladyboy with a vice grip or starts slathering on testosterone gel? Quite the impressive range of “expert” advice! Nothing bizarre about that combo at all. Why not just have him try both at once? If we’re going all in, might as well throw in a vacuum penis pump and an adrenaline shot too, right? You must have this routine down to a science by now, seeing as you’ve got the “bizarre solutions” market cornered!

 

Im sure you are fun to be around 😂

 

What do normal people do if they do not function anymore? Try herbs and vegetables, or seek help from professionals? Stop making an fool out of yourself. Read the first post once more, and see how you possible can help him. 

 

https://www.bumrungrad.com/en/centers/urology-prostate-bladder-center-bangkok-thailand

[KhunLA]

OP, might want to go see a doc, as 50 is way to young to be having that problem.

[GammaGlobulin]

3 hours ago, StreetCowboy said:

Getting older is all its cracked up to be.  
If you don't like it, don't do it, and make room for the rest of us.

 

Of course, being younger would be better, and I tried that, back in the day.

 

SC

 

Yes.

But did you try hard enough, when you tried it?

 

Or, do you still maintain regrets, this late in the game?

 

Someday, you will be more forgiving, hopefully.

 

[RSD1]

4 minutes ago, Hummin said:

 

Im sure you are fun to be around 😂

 

What do normal people do if they do not function anymore? Try herbs and vegetables, or seek help from professionals? Stop making an fool out of yourself. Read the first post once more, and see how you possible can help him. 

 

https://www.bumrungrad.com/en/centers/urology-prostate-bladder-center-bangkok-thailand

Oh, I’m a real blast, I just prefer my solutions to be a little less… unconventional! I know you got your go-to remedies, but when the options are mystery herbs, testosterone gel, or a “professional” with a solid handshake, you have to admit it’s a pretty colorful mix of advice.

 

But hey, I’ll make sure to brush up on my herbal remedies and “professionals” for next time. Fantastic life lessons coming from you!

[Hummin]

5 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

Oh, I’m a real blast, I just prefer my solutions to be a little less… unconventional! I know you got your go-to remedies, but when the options are mystery herbs, testosterone gel, or a “professional” with a solid handshake, you have to admit it’s a pretty colorful mix of advice.

 

But hey, I’ll make sure to brush up on my herbal remedies and “professionals” for next time. Fantastic life lessons coming from you!

You are welcome, all the best to you to!

[SAFETY FIRST]

6 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. There’s the inevitable grey hair, the mysterious aches and pains, and, let’s face it, some truly annoying changes on the “personal health” front. I’m talking about a certain lack of enthusiasm below the belt

At the end of the day, it's all about the parents who you chose. 😉

The genes you've been given will manage your destination, your genes loads the gun, environment pulls the trigger 

 

What I suggest is keep fit (or get fit), stay fit. You can still enjoy everything you like in moderation, just don't smoke, lungs are for air, you should avoid toxins and poisons. 

If you have good genes, Keeping fit will allow you to avoid illness and disease. 

 

Don't worry about age, it's just a number. 
If you live for another 30 or 40 years you want to be able to enjoy these years, to enjoy the outdoors, to travel with ease, not be in pain or discomfort. 

 

 

Oh yeah, keep HAPPY, happiness is very important (if not the most important) ingredient for a long, enjoyable, healthy lifestyle. 

 

 

Edited October 29 by SAFETY FIRST

[scubascuba3]

Just get on the dick pills like most other guys. Also if overweight or diabetic type 2 fix it

[Ralf001]

6 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

 

Even had a go with a few young, eager hands-on assistants who are pretty dedicated to the “art” of service, and, yes, sometimes with more than one helping at a time. But here’s the thing—even with all that charm, dedication, and sheer effort in the mix, the results haven’t exactly changed much.

 

Coupla digits up ya anoos should sort ya.

Nowt wrong with a bit of prostrate milking !

Edited October 29 by Ralf001

[Alpha84]

9 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

Coupla digits up ya anoos should sort ya.

So that's how you roll?

Any two particular fingers that you favor?

[Alpha84]

4 hours ago, Hummin said:

 

Only one thing left to try then, a decent tall LB with big hands, or you just go and buy a package of Andro Gel and start rubbing it on your shoulders for a month to see how it works for you. 

 

Good Luck

Why not just have the big handed LB rub the gel on your shoulders for you? Or did you try that and it didn't work?

[Olmate]

7 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

 

Coupla digits up ya anoos should sort ya.

Nowt wrong with a bit of prostrate milking !

Got that 100% right, monthly visit to an expert mature age massage shop owner near me is more than ample! She  somehow seems to know when that 'touch up' is needed too!!