After A Lifetime Of Adventure, Why Is It Now So Hard To Pop Off?

[georgegeorgia]

On 11/16/2024 at 2:13 AM, watthong said:

 

Well, I had a case that is the opposite:

This is back in the day of my being the unofficial neighborhood sex therapist in my neck of the woods in Southern Calif, catering to the local bunch of horny down low married or with gf guys who were "curious" but had no outlets beside the beach public restrooms.

 

One time an older guy answered my ad. We met at Starbucks for my "consultation" session. A sweet, gentle white-haired  grandpa type, he hadn't had sex for years with grandma. Couldn't get the little guy up, but he could ejaculate (watching porn though no physical jacking off.) So he wondered if he could pop his nut in a more, erh, holistic way, with some understanding and experienced hand such as yours truly.

 

In full curiosity from both parties, we proceeded. Missionary style with him at the bottom as newbie and for me I wanted to see what's going on. Before long, he orgasmed. We both watched in amazement as a healthy dollop of jizz just oozed - or should I say popped-  out from his totally limp dick. So my guess is that despite the mechanism of getting hard no longer functioning, his synapses were still in full control of the "pumping" of the sluice gate, though not with the full force (needed to squirt)? My one-of-a-kind experience.

Oh there maybe people here who could get traumatised 

 

And please don't take it the wrong way ,it's a very beautiful post and I enjoyed reading it 

 

Thankyou for your service and happy new year to you Sir 

[Terrance8812]

On 11/15/2024 at 9:19 AM, spidermike007 said:

This is a particularly important topic for men over the age of 60 as we pay a very heavy price for an orgasm, and the health benefits of cutting down on the frequency of orgasms are enormous. 

What a load of solid rubbish. 
 

[thaibeachlovers]

18 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

Any sort of self discipline does require some work, but it can often pay major dividends. 

As I said, sounds like too much work to bother. In any event I'm far too cynical for that stuff to work. I tried it all decades ago, but IMO it was all BS and obviously never happened for me.

[Hummin]

Just now, thaibeachlovers said:

As I said, sounds like too much work to bother. In any event I'm far too cynical for that stuff to work. I tried it all decades ago, but IMO it was all BS and obviously never happened for me.

Thought you where in your 60'ies, but when I get 75 or above, I'm not sure it will be important anymore. All depending on my wife if I will try to maintain any interest at all. 

 

What do I know, Still 20 years to go before I'm there

[thaibeachlovers]

3 hours ago, Terrance8812 said:

What a load of solid rubbish. 
 

On that I agree.

 

In fact, as a high exertion now and then is better for keeping the heart functioning than a sedentary walk, an orgasm is one of the best ways to keep the ticker ticking. When I was only visiting Thailand on holiday, I always left lighter and fitter than when I arrived.

 

In a related subject, I never knew what a knee trembler was till I passed 65. Up till then it was quite easy to cross the bridge, and I only once had what the French call La petite mort.

I think I tried everything except wearing latex, asphyxiation, and fisting.

[thaibeachlovers]

8 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Thought you where in your 60'ies, but when I get 75 or above, I'm not sure it will be important anymore. All depending on my wife if I will try to maintain any interest at all. 

 

What do I know, Still 20 years to go before I'm there

There is no reason for a reasonably fit man to not have an active sex life after 75.

[RSD1]

4 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

There is no reason for a reasonably fit man to not have an active sex life after 75.

Agree. I can't speak from experience yet, but if one maintains good health and everything is still working, then I can't see why one needs to ever stop. I think a lot of that also requires ignoring any dumb advice given to you along the way that suggests that you should slow down. All that is absolute garbage as long as you have a strong heart. You always need to simply dance like nobody is watching. 

[JimTripper]

23 hours ago, RSD1 said:

Agree. I can't speak from experience yet, but if one maintains good health and everything is still working, then I can't see why one needs to ever stop. I think a lot of that also requires ignoring any dumb advice given to you along the way that suggests that you should slow down. All that is absolute garbage as long as you have a strong heart. You always need to simply dance like nobody is watching. 

Things don't keep working. You get older, man.

[RSD1]

13 hours ago, JimTripper said:

Things don't keep working. You get older, man.

Speaking for yourself obviously. 

[JAS21]

So advancing age has turned you into ‘Mr Unlimited Minutes’. What are you complaining about? You can now pump away at ‘Ms Wide Open Legs’ for an unlimited period, who in return will make loud and sometimes quite strange noises until she gasps “I don’t think that I can take anymore for now”.

 

Then you just empty yourself on whatever part of her body is nearest. BUT avoid giving her Rabbit Eye else everyone will know what she let some guy do.

 

Now, if still no success, I’ve read somewhere that a sheet of 400 Wet and Dry together with a bottle of Baby Oil is an interesting experience and guaranteed to do the trick. Perhaps also keep a jar of Vaseline handy for later.

 

And of course, if word gets around about your prowess Uni Girls will be asking you for ‘all nighters’.

[georgegeorgia]

On 11/20/2024 at 4:26 AM, RSD1 said:

Speaking for yourself obviously. 

Your brains gone though RSDs

[lanng khao]

10 hours ago, JAS21 said:

So advancing age has turned you into ‘Mr Unlimited Minutes’. What are you complaining about? You can now pump away at ‘Ms Wide Open Legs’ for an unlimited period, who in return will make loud and sometimes quite strange noises until she gasps “I don’t think that I can take anymore for now”.

 

Then you just empty yourself on whatever part of her body is nearest. BUT avoid giving her Rabbit Eye else everyone will know what she let some guy do.

 

Now, if still no success, I’ve read somewhere that a sheet of 400 Wet and Dry together with a bottle of Baby Oil is an interesting experience and guaranteed to do the trick. Perhaps also keep a jar of Vaseline handy for later.

 

And of course, if word gets around about your prowess Uni Girls will be asking you for ‘all nighters’.

Am the complete opposite, mine will go in my hand just trying to get it in, to be honest it got on my wifes tits at first, but now she just takes it on the chin..

[newbee2022]

On 11/14/2024 at 6:51 AM, SoCal1990 said:

After nearly 30 years of unbound adventure in Asia, I’ve hit an unexpected wall in the bedroom.

In short, I’m finding it harder and harder to reach climax. I still enjoy sex as much as before, maybe even more now, thanks to a more adult mind that lets me appreciate the experience in a freer, more open way, with no shyness. The excitement is definitely still there too and I’m more in tune with what I like. But actually crossing that finish line? Not so much.

Looking back, I think about the sheer number of partners, easily into the hundreds by now if you assume even just one new one a month for decades. The variety has been unreal: women of different ages, backgrounds, and countries. And there’s been no shortage of intensity, some were absolute “freaks” in the sack, checking every box imaginable. The thrill of constant novelty, combined with the allure of fulfilling all kinds of fantasies, always kept things fresh and memorable. But now, it feels like that constant stimulation has trained my mind and body to expect... more even when I’m fully into the moment. It’s not that I don’t still have the same interest in sex, I do, but actually reaching that peak? My brain feels desensitized, wired to a high bar I didn’t even realize I’d set.

I’ve heard it compared to a kind of tolerance, like any intense experience you repeat over the years. The thrill wears off, even though it still feels thrilling, and then you need more to feel the same satisfaction. My body, in a way, has been “trained” by years of high-stimulation routines it seems. Now, in simpler moments, it’s harder to reach that point where things pop off. Those quieter, more ordinary (but still passionate) encounters? They just don’t trigger me the way they used to either.

Physically, I’m still in decent shape. I can get my heart rate up to 175 bpm without much trouble, so it’s not a physical limitation. But I do wonder if I’ve built a mental wall over time that’s tough to break through. The issue isn’t arousal either; I stay excited, functional, and can keep things going for a couple of hours at times. But actually busting a nut? That’s the elusive part.

So here I am wondering if anyone else experienced something similar after so many years of a similar lifestyle. I also hope one can somehow undo this conditioning and get back to a place where it’s easier to let one fly, or maybe this is the inevitable trade-off of chasing those high peaks for so long.

Troll post🥱

[Bday Prang]

On 11/14/2024 at 12:00 PM, RSD1 said:

Impotent is about not being able to make a woman pregnant

No that is "infertile"

[RocketDog]

On 11/14/2024 at 1:10 PM, BritManToo said:

OP suffers from anejaculation

Anorgasmia is the medical term.

[Grusa]

On 11/14/2024 at 2:03 PM, malt25 said:

Why  does a dog lick its dick ?

 

Because it can. Can you?

[IsaanT]

On 11/14/2024 at 3:10 PM, spidermike007 said:

Well in reality an orgasm is very overrated, and as we get older finishing takes a lot more out of us than it used to. So perhaps your body is just telling you something good, perhaps it's telling you that you don't need to finish, you can just enjoy (in a more tantric fashion) and that's good enough. 

Agreed.  Perhaps you have to be 6o+ to appreciate this.

Being able to continue for hours (as OP stated) is an advantage that some young blokes can only dream of.  Make the most of the advantages.

[ChrisKC]

Maybe it isn't the bedroom!!

 

Try the kitchen or the bathroom!

[bkk6060]

Enlarged Prostate.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 11/26/2024 at 2:09 PM, JAS21 said:

You can now pump away at ‘Ms Wide Open Legs’ for an unlimited period, who in return will make loud and sometimes quite strange noises until she gasps “I don’t think that I can take anymore for now”.

Lightweight. My wife had to hit me on the big head as she was too overcome to speak.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 11/27/2024 at 6:22 PM, IsaanT said:

Agreed.  Perhaps you have to be 6o+ to appreciate this.

Being able to continue for hours (as OP stated) is an advantage that some young blokes can only dream of.  Make the most of the advantages.

Not always. One young lady of my acquaintance complained that it was boring. I should have made her go on top and make it work for herself, but that was long before I knew much about it. I had not even seen a porn VDO back then, and far as I knew a cowgirl was a girl that herded cows.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 11/27/2024 at 4:22 PM, Grusa said:

Because it can. Can you?

I could have back when I was 5, but back then I had no reason to do so.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 11/18/2024 at 1:02 PM, Hummin said:

Thought you where in your 60'ies, but when I get 75 or above, I'm not sure it will be important anymore. All depending on my wife if I will try to maintain any interest at all. 

 

What do I know, Still 20 years to go before I'm there

If your wife will actually let you do it, treasure her as she is the most valuable thing you ever owned. If she initiates it praise God every day that you were so lucky.

[Hummin]

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

If your wife will actually let you do it, treasure her as she is the most valuable thing you ever owned. If she initiates it praise God every day that you were so lucky.

I think we might need to explore our kinks a bit more as we grow older 😉

 

To be honest, Im not worried for one sex, future will be here soon enough, and what happens in the meantime, we just have to cherish we both are healthy and enjoy each other. 

[thaibeachlovers]

16 hours ago, Hummin said:

I think we might need to explore our kinks a bit more as we grow older 😉

 

To be honest, Im not worried for one sex, future will be here soon enough, and what happens in the meantime, we just have to cherish we both are healthy and enjoy each other. 

You won't say that if you can't have it. Most of us never appreciate what we have till it's gone.