My Thai Girlfriend Wants Breast Implants. Should I Approve?

[hankypankee]

So, my Thai girlfriend of 7 years suddenly decided she wants to get a boob job. Not sure what triggered it, but now she’s asking for my approval. Here’s the thing: I think she doesn't need it. She is beautiful as is, just the way she was made, and I’ve expressed that clearly to her. But she insists it’s not for the reasons I might think, she says it’s about how it will make her feel inside. According to her, it’s not about making them very big or being flashy. She wants something that is still very natural-looking, but to help make clothes hang better and to boost her confidence.

 

On the one hand, we all have insecurities. So if this will make her feel better about herself, should I be the one to stand in the way? It’s not an issue of cost, but I do wonder about how the change in appearance might affect her socially. Let’s be honest, people can become judgmental in Thailand, especially since she has a foreign boyfriend. So I'm concerned others could make negative assumptions about her. Will it change the way she’s treated in Thai circles and for the worse?

 

There’s also a potential relationship aspect. She says that it’s only for her, and that it's her body, not for me or anyone else, and I guess I can accept that. But at the same time, I still feel a bit confused. Part of me wonders if her wanting my approval is because she’s hoping that this won’t change how I feel about her. 

 

Also there is the question of whether this will really give her the confidence she’s looking for. Not sure if surgery will make her feel more comfortable in her own skin, or if it is a case of wanting to chase perfection that might lead to further dissatisfaction down the road. 

 

Well, should I support her decision wholeheartedly and let her do whatever makes her happy? Or should I continue expressing my reservations? Have any of you been in a similar situation with your partner? Did the surgery actually deliver the confidence boost that was expected?

 

[mokwit]

Maybe ask Grok or ChatGPT.

[transam]

Depends on if she wants to show them to others...........

[OneMoreFarang]

Convince her not to do it - for several reasons.

 

It seems common for women to want bigger breast to feel more confident. And if they just made them bigger, then maybe they feel more confident - for a week or two, or maybe even months. And then? The bigger breasts obviously didn't change anything, so her confidence will go back to normal. And then? Maybe more bigger breast? Or a nose job or botox or this or that. There is always something she can do, and the advertisement and social media will tell her that will make her feel better. It wont!

Apart from that, it seems there is never something like a one-time breast job. It seems they all do it again after a while. 

 

If you need material to convince her, I would look for videos where women explain what they hoped for and what actually happened.

 

And last but not least, if she absolutely insists on doing it, then make sure she does it in a reputable clinic and not one of those incompetent unlicensed butcher shops. 

 

[jvs]

Great topic!

My Girlfriend got implants ten years ago,she was very small and she got small implants that look very natural.

It improved her confidence very much and both her and i enjoy them!

We did a lot of research before and decided to go with a well known clinic with very good reviews.

We did pay a little extra to get it done by the head surgeon over there and the result is really nice.

Get ready to massage the new babies for one hour every day for a month or so.

Put on a movie and start working,this is very important to make them look natural and avoid hard scar tissue.

The reason you should do it is because in the beginning it is painful and most girls stop doing it when they go it alone.

We have met some girls who did not do the massage well enough and long enough and their implantst

had problems.

Again, it can be a huge boost in self esteem and make a big difference in everyday life.

Now if she would ask for a nose job ,i would say no.

[thaibeachlovers]

If this is for real, absolutely not. No one should enable another person to mutilate themselves.

Offer to pay for a psychologist if have enough spare cash.

 

I can just imagine in 5 years time when she doesn't feel any better she blames the OP for making her situation worse.

 

What happens if the op is a failure or makes her look deformed?

 

Man up, say no and if she complains too much walk.

 

My wife muttered about getting plastic b**bs but I never encouraged her and certainly never paid. She didn't get them.

 

  On 12/4/2024 at 4:03 AM, hankypankee said:

There’s also a potential relationship aspect. She says that it’s only for her, and that it's her body, not for me or anyone else,

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That's the OP's out on this. If she isn't doing it for him, she should pay for them herself.

 

  On 12/4/2024 at 4:12 AM, OneMoreFarang said:

And last but not least, if she absolutely insists on doing it, then make sure she does it in a reputable clinic and not one of those incompetent unlicensed butcher shops. 

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If she pays that's on her. I'm just saying the OP should have nothing to do with a wannabe bimbo.
 

[GammaGlobulin]

  On 12/4/2024 at 4:03 AM, hankypankee said:

Well, should I support her decision wholeheartedly and let her do whatever makes her happy? Or should I continue expressing my reservations?

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What do you mean:   "Let Her"?

 

Are you the one in control of her?

 

 

[quake]

From a blokes point of view

They just don't feel right. 

Better stay with what she has.

 

 

 

 

 

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  On 12/4/2024 at 4:35 AM, GammaGlobulin said:

What do you mean:   "Let Her"?

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His wallet innit Globers.

[jvs]

  On 12/4/2024 at 4:36 AM, quake said:

From a blokes point of view

They just don't feel right. 

Better stay with what she has.

 

 

 

 

 

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When it is done right and not oversize they will feel just fine!

When they are really small there is nothing to feel at all!

 

[BritManToo]

  On 12/4/2024 at 4:03 AM, hankypankee said:

Well, should I support her decision wholeheartedly and let her do whatever makes her happy? Or should I continue expressing my reservations? Have any of you been in a similar situation with your partner? Did the surgery actually deliver the confidence boost that was expected?

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Tell her you selected a girlfriend with the tit size you like.

And if she changes them, you'll change girlfriends.

[proton]

Sucking on bags of saline or silicone? no thanks I like small real ones

[Nick Carter icp]

  On 12/4/2024 at 4:45 AM, BritManToo said:

Tell her you selected a girlfriend with the tit size you like.

And if she changes them, you'll change girlfriends.

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   That would be a bit unfair if you selected a girl without any at all and she began growing them 

[Yellowtail]

I assume this is a windup, but were it me, I would ask here how much it costs? 

 

When she says $5,000, just say: "I'll give you the $5,000. If you want to  send it on boobs, go ahead, or you can just put do what you like with it. 

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  On 12/4/2024 at 4:48 AM, Yellowtail said:

When she says $5,000, just say: "I'll give you the $5,000. If you want to  send it on boobs, go ahead, or you can just put do what you like with it. 

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Oh, that's genius. Then she squanders it on useless trash and a month later you are back to square one and she asks for another $5,000. You can't think or act logically with women in matters of free money. They are purely emotional animals. 

[Gandtee]

Give us some pictures. We can then offer opinions.

[quake]

  On 12/4/2024 at 4:41 AM, jvs said:

When it is done right and not oversize they will feel just fine!

When they are really small there is nothing to feel at all!

 

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Where did you get yours done, 

 

[BritManToo]

  On 12/4/2024 at 4:48 AM, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   That would be a bit unfair if you selected a girl without any at all and she began growing them 

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Not sure there are many 30+yos with the natural ability to grow bigger ones.

You must like them a lot younger than me!

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  On 12/4/2024 at 4:54 AM, Gandtee said:

Give us some pictures. We can then offer opinions.

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[jvs]

  On 12/4/2024 at 4:55 AM, quake said:

 

Where did you get yours done, 

 

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They are not mine!but i get to play with them.

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  On 12/4/2024 at 4:56 AM, BritManToo said:

Not sure there are many 30+yos with the natural ability to grow bigger ones.

You must like them a lot younger than me!

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Unless they put on weight. For some women body fat goes to the breasts. Also, birth control pills make them hold water and grow bigger as well.

[jvs]

  On 12/4/2024 at 4:56 AM, BritManToo said:

Not sure there are many 30+yos ith the natural ability to grow bigger ones.

You must like them a lot younger than me!

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Problem is, when they do grow the rest grows also!

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  On 12/4/2024 at 4:55 AM, quake said:

 

Where did you get yours done, 

 

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In the gym. 200 pushups per day. 

[Patong2021]

  On 12/4/2024 at 4:10 AM, mokwit said:

Maybe ask Grok or ChatGPT.

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Ok. I did.

 

Breast implants have become a ubiquitous symbol of beauty and self-improvement, yet the potential risks associated with them suggest that their allure may be misleading. A growing body of evidence indicates that silicone breast implants (SBIs) can lead to serious health issues, including Breast Implant Illness (BII), which encompasses a range of debilitating symptoms such as chronic fatigue and cognitive dysfunction. These symptoms often persist long after the initial surgery, raising ethical concerns about prioritizing aesthetic enhancement over women's long-term health.

 

Complications such as implant rupture and capsular contracture are common, but more alarming is the potential association between SBIs and autoimmune diseases. Although the causal links remain contentious, studies indicate higher incidences of conditions like scleroderma among women with these implants. This suggests that many women may unwittingly trade their health for temporary physical enhancements. The emotional toll of living with BII or experiencing complications from breast implants cannot be understated. Many women report dissatisfaction and regret following their surgeries when faced with unexpected health challenges.

 

The decision to undergo such procedures should involve comprehensive discussions about these risks rather than superficial considerations of beauty standards. Ultimately, it is crucial for individuals to weigh the potential dangers against societal pressures to conform to an idealized image—highlighting the folly inherent in prioritizing breast augmentation at the expense of overall well-being.

 

I have put as much thought into this response as the lead did in posing the question. 😁

 

 

 

[mokwit]

  On 12/4/2024 at 5:05 AM, Patong2021 said:

Ok. I did.

 

Breast implants have become a ubiquitous symbol of beauty and self-improvement, yet the potential risks associated with them suggest that their allure may be misleading. A growing body of evidence indicates that silicone breast implants (SBIs) can lead to serious health issues, including Breast Implant Illness (BII), which encompasses a range of debilitating symptoms such as chronic fatigue and cognitive dysfunction. These symptoms often persist long after the initial surgery, raising ethical concerns about prioritizing aesthetic enhancement over women's long-term health.

 

Complications such as implant rupture and capsular contracture are common, but more alarming is the potential association between SBIs and autoimmune diseases. Although the causal links remain contentious, studies indicate higher incidences of conditions like scleroderma among women with these implants. This suggests that many women may unwittingly trade their health for temporary physical enhancements. The emotional toll of living with BII or experiencing complications from breast implants cannot be understated. Many women report dissatisfaction and regret following their surgeries when faced with unexpected health challenges.

 

The decision to undergo such procedures should involve comprehensive discussions about these risks rather than superficial considerations of beauty standards. Ultimately, it is crucial for individuals to weigh the potential dangers against societal pressures to conform to an idealized image—highlighting the folly inherent in prioritizing breast augmentation at the expense of overall well-being.

 

I have put as much thought into this response as the lead did in posing the question. 😁

 

 

 

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You have answered him in a terms he can understand.

[bkknirvana]

If she is looking at this level of self improvement, then clearly it's to upgrade her boyfriend.

 

Run a mile!

[billd766]

Think about it from her point of view.

 

It is HER body, and HER choice.

 

If you support her decision, good for you.

[transam]

I know a bloke who paid for his GF to have boob implants, after the op, and every time I saw them, her boobs were on show via low revealing attire, of course I didn't mind, but he eventually did....

 

They are now not a couple.........😨

[BritManToo]

  On 12/4/2024 at 5:05 AM, Patong2021 said:

Complications such as implant rupture and capsular contracture are common, but more alarming is the potential association between SBIs and autoimmune diseases.

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We were sitting in the newsroom late one evening, and we found a breast implant on the science correspondents desk. Being the fun loving guys we are, we started chucking it across the newsroom at each other. When I caught it, the thing completely burst, the impact was less than walking into a door, or a seat belt in a minor accident.

You'd have to be bonkers to have that put inside you!

[MarcelV]

  On 12/4/2024 at 4:03 AM, hankypankee said:

So, my Thai girlfriend of 7 years suddenly decided she wants to get a boob job. Not sure what triggered it, but now she’s asking for my approval money.

 

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