Where Does It End? First She Wants Breast Implants, Now a Brazilian Butt Lift!

[Gecko123]

3 hours ago, hankypankee said:

I’m also starting to feel like this could change our relationship in ways I don’t fully understand.

 

We are living in scary times.

[KhunLA]

hmm ... GF ... is 'NO' not in your vocabulary.

 

If not ... Google 'Ex-girlfriend' 

 

 

[bokningar]

Just another clickbait here.

Leave it be.

[Dan O]

5 hours ago, BarBoy said:

I do it all the time.

 

That is why I'm a millionaire. 

Now bob when you sold up your vast real estate holdings and other assets you declared you had 800k? Thats not quite a million now is it?

[Real Name Hidden]

This can be very dangerous

 

https://www.9news.com.au/health/british-woman-dies-in-thailand-after-butt-implant-surgery/e63bead6-8a0f-459b-a800-af77cb769d5c

[FritsSikkink]

12 hours ago, hankypankee said:

About a week ago, I posted about my Thai girlfriend wanting breast implants. I wasn’t thrilled about the idea at first, but after all the responses I got on my post and some discussion with her (including her reassuring me she’d go for a modest size), I reluctantly agreed. I wanted to support her confidence, and I figured it would be a one-and-done situation.

 

Well, I was wrong. Now, she’s suddenly intent on getting a Brazilian Butt Lift (BBL) all done at the same time. She says it’ll balance her new proportions and make her feel more confident. But honestly, this whole situation is starting to heavily stress me out. I’m beginning to feel overwhelmed trying to understand her brazen desire for these risky procedures without considering the dangers, and I’m worried about where this might all lead.

 

The BBL isn’t a small thing. It’s invasive, carries significant risks, and comes with a tough recovery process. I’ve seen enough reports about complications—even with experienced surgeons—which makes me even more uneasy. I find myself lying awake at times wondering: What if something goes seriously wrong? And what if this newly formed obsession with modifying her body never stops? I’m not even sure this is really about her happiness anymore. Is she chasing some impossible ideal she saw on social media, or is there something deeper going on that no amount of surgery can fix?

 

And then there’s the issue of where to get this done. Thailand is well-known for cosmetic surgery, but BBLs aren’t nearly as common here compared to breast implants or other procedures. That makes me even more nervous. Do we risk going to a less experienced surgeon in Thailand, or do we consider the added expense, travel, and stress of getting it done abroad? And even then, what if the results aren’t what she expects, or worse—what if there are long-term complications?

 

On top of all that, her enthusiasm is wearing me down. She spends hours glued to her phone, scrolling through Instagram or watching influencers talk about their “BBL journeys.” She’s researched Bangkok clinics nonstop and talks about this procedure like it’s already decided. It feels like she’s rushing headfirst into something dangerous, and I’m the only one wanting to tap the brakes.

 

I’m also starting to feel like this could change our relationship in ways I don’t fully understand. This isn’t just about money for me—though the costs are significant—it’s about what all of this means for us as a couple. These enhancement desires are coming so quickly, and I’m scared that no matter how much she modifies herself, it won’t be enough for her. And what happens to us as a couple if this new obsession spirals out of control?

 

I want to support her, but I can’t shake this growing anxiety. Am I wrong, though? Should I just let her do what she feels will make her happy? Or should I draw a hard line and say, “Enough is enough”?

It ends when you tell her to pay for it herself. Unless you pay her a salary to be with you every month.

[scubascuba3]

Get her to save up for it by working, oh yeah that's what she's doing with a falang

[BarBoy]

9 hours ago, Dan O said:

Now bob when you sold up your vast real estate holdings and other assets you declared you had 800k? Thats not quite a million now is it?

Hi Dan O.

 

I'm very sorry, but I have no idea who Bob is.

 

I'm Colin, nice to meet you!

[thesetat]

15 hours ago, hankypankee said:

About a week ago, I posted about my Thai girlfriend wanting breast implants. I wasn’t thrilled about the idea at first, but after all the responses I got on my post and some discussion with her (including her reassuring me she’d go for a modest size), I reluctantly agreed. I wanted to support her confidence, and I figured it would be a one-and-done situation.

 

Well, I was wrong. Now, she’s suddenly intent on getting a Brazilian Butt Lift (BBL) all done at the same time. She says it’ll balance her new proportions and make her feel more confident. But honestly, this whole situation is starting to heavily stress me out. I’m beginning to feel overwhelmed trying to understand her brazen desire for these risky procedures without considering the dangers, and I’m worried about where this might all lead.

 

The BBL isn’t a small thing. It’s invasive, carries significant risks, and comes with a tough recovery process. I’ve seen enough reports about complications—even with experienced surgeons—which makes me even more uneasy. I find myself lying awake at times wondering: What if something goes seriously wrong? And what if this newly formed obsession with modifying her body never stops? I’m not even sure this is really about her happiness anymore. Is she chasing some impossible ideal she saw on social media, or is there something deeper going on that no amount of surgery can fix?

 

And then there’s the issue of where to get this done. Thailand is well-known for cosmetic surgery, but BBLs aren’t nearly as common here compared to breast implants or other procedures. That makes me even more nervous. Do we risk going to a less experienced surgeon in Thailand, or do we consider the added expense, travel, and stress of getting it done abroad? And even then, what if the results aren’t what she expects, or worse—what if there are long-term complications?

 

On top of all that, her enthusiasm is wearing me down. She spends hours glued to her phone, scrolling through Instagram or watching influencers talk about their “BBL journeys.” She’s researched Bangkok clinics nonstop and talks about this procedure like it’s already decided. It feels like she’s rushing headfirst into something dangerous, and I’m the only one wanting to tap the brakes.

 

I’m also starting to feel like this could change our relationship in ways I don’t fully understand. This isn’t just about money for me—though the costs are significant—it’s about what all of this means for us as a couple. These enhancement desires are coming so quickly, and I’m scared that no matter how much she modifies herself, it won’t be enough for her. And what happens to us as a couple if this new obsession spirals out of control?

 

I want to support her, but I can’t shake this growing anxiety. Am I wrong, though? Should I just let her do what she feels will make her happy? Or should I draw a hard line and say, “Enough is enough”?

If she does not love herself the way she is, she can never love you for the way you are. You need to stop trying to modify her body. She should be happy with herself and that she has someone that loves her for who and what she is already. MY wife sometimes asks me about getting bigger boobs. But it is asked out of jealousy for other women who have bigger than she does. Seems to me you need to get your wife off her phone and into your arms more. Perhaps she thinks you would be happier if she had these medical procedures done. You are not telling her enough that you love her the way she is. 

[stupidfarang]

How long ave you been together? I personally would say no to paying for any operation, yet you agreed to the breast implants and now it is BBL, then it will be the nose, the eyes etc.. I have been with my gf for 8 years and have just said yes to brest implants but no to anything else and I mean no.

[Celsius]

1 hour ago, thesetat said:

If she does not love herself the way she is, she can never love you for the way you are.

 

Beautiful.

 

But what about his wallet? Can she love his wallet the way it is?

[thesetat]

1 hour ago, Celsius said:

 

Beautiful.

 

But what about his wallet? Can she love his wallet the way it is?

From the sounds of it... That is the reason she is asking money to begin with... Otherwise maybe she would accept the way she is and love him for real without all the demands or complaining that she wants those things done to her body.. The man, should be more interested in preparing for the medical costs to come with her advancing age..

[impulse]

17 hours ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

I'm lucky my gf doesn't have tattoos, fake nails, silicone implants, nothing.

 

She's all natural and only wears a little bit of makeup. 

 

Maybe, but she's what, like 20 years old?  Give it time...

 

[gargamon]

17 hours ago, RichardColeman said:

 

 

Sounds like it could be penis removal next

More likely penis replacement also known as new boyfriend.

[SAFETY FIRST]

55 minutes ago, impulse said:

 

Maybe, but she's what, like 20 years old?  Give it time...

 

Nope, she's not interested, I'm not requesting. 

 

She knows that she is naturally beautiful, I keep telling her how beautiful she is and spoiling her for her beauty. 

 

If she dares change and wants fake enhancements (which she WON'T) I will find a new all natural girlfriend. 

 

[McTavish]

19 hours ago, hankypankee said:

About a week ago, I posted about my Thai girlfriend wanting breast implants. I wasn’t thrilled about the idea at first, but after all the responses I got on my post and some discussion with her (including her reassuring me she’d go for a modest size), I reluctantly agreed. I wanted to support her confidence, and I figured it would be a one-and-done situation.

 

Well, I was wrong. Now, she’s suddenly intent on getting a Brazilian Butt Lift (BBL) all done at the same time. She says it’ll balance her new proportions and make her feel more confident. But honestly, this whole situation is starting to heavily stress me out. I’m beginning to feel overwhelmed trying to understand her brazen desire for these risky procedures without considering the dangers, and I’m worried about where this might all lead.

 

The BBL isn’t a small thing. It’s invasive, carries significant risks, and comes with a tough recovery process. I’ve seen enough reports about complications—even with experienced surgeons—which makes me even more uneasy. I find myself lying awake at times wondering: What if something goes seriously wrong? And what if this newly formed obsession with modifying her body never stops? I’m not even sure this is really about her happiness anymore. Is she chasing some impossible ideal she saw on social media, or is there something deeper going on that no amount of surgery can fix?

 

And then there’s the issue of where to get this done. Thailand is well-known for cosmetic surgery, but BBLs aren’t nearly as common here compared to breast implants or other procedures. That makes me even more nervous. Do we risk going to a less experienced surgeon in Thailand, or do we consider the added expense, travel, and stress of getting it done abroad? And even then, what if the results aren’t what she expects, or worse—what if there are long-term complications?

 

On top of all that, her enthusiasm is wearing me down. She spends hours glued to her phone, scrolling through Instagram or watching influencers talk about their “BBL journeys.” She’s researched Bangkok clinics nonstop and talks about this procedure like it’s already decided. It feels like she’s rushing headfirst into something dangerous, and I’m the only one wanting to tap the brakes.

 

I’m also starting to feel like this could change our relationship in ways I don’t fully understand. This isn’t just about money for me—though the costs are significant—it’s about what all of this means for us as a couple. These enhancement desires are coming so quickly, and I’m scared that no matter how much she modifies herself, it won’t be enough for her. And what happens to us as a couple if this new obsession spirals out of control?

 

I want to support her, but I can’t shake this growing anxiety. Am I wrong, though? Should I just let her do what she feels will make her happy? Or should I draw a hard line and say, “Enough is enough”?

Photos required for a truly clinical assessment, please 

[Wonderyenta]

A few concerns to be considered:

Both the breast augmentation and the BBL  operations are operations, needing anaesthesia. Despite being a layman in such matters I can’t imagine they can both be done at the same time. So after the first procedure is done and she’s home recuperating, there’ll be post-op care required, who will perform that? Changing dressings etc can’t be appealing if not medically inclined. 
Then, off back to hospital to perform the next procedure. After being sent home to recuperate, again who will attend to all the post-op care? Guessing a butt lift requires a load more dressings to be changed and wounds checked - bathing, laying on the front a lot, can’t do too much until the all clear from the Drs. 

Cost for the procedures possibly do not include post-op care, dressings, trips back to the hospital for checkups etc etc. Time off work needs to be factored in for either of you. 
And speaking of cost, if you are expected to pay for the whole shemozzle, perhaps the floodgates of requests will open and you’ll be asked to fund all manner of things. Other posters have mentioned the lips, the eyelashes, these are some of the things that are fashionable now. In 5 years time there’ll be new things for people to covet and feel these new things are  what they are lacking. No one knows when this BBL fashion will end and when it does, she will want to have her butt deflated. At more cost.
 

If she is funding it all herself, no problem - her life, her body, her decision.

 

The biggest concern is surrounding her self esteem. If she is driven to these current ideals of beauty is because she doesn’t accept herself, there’s a reason for that. Does she feel loved and cherished for who she is and how she looks now? There’s a possibility she isn’t receiving the reassurance she clearly needs. People always compare themselves to others and often find themselves wanting in some way. Perhaps she needs reminding and reassured as to why you love her and that you are together. How will she view herself in years to come when the inevitable happens and she gets into middle age and older?  Reassurance is key. The beauty industry is massive and merrily creates ways to make people feel inadequate within their appearance but luckily offering cures. 
 

If it’s not a self esteem issue driving this, please reconsider funding any of it.