Dating 22-Year-Old Thai Bubble Tea Girl - She Just Asked for 30K/Month – Am I Being Played?

[impulse]

3 hours ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

You're being played. 

 

Now if she were a beer girl, Caraboa or Chang girl then it would be value. 

 

That's one hansum man there...

 

[JakeC]

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You're being played. 

 

Now if she were a beer girl, Caraboa or Chang girl then it would be value. 

 

Which one of them do you rate??

I see you've let yourself go. Sort that belly out 😊

[Photoguy21]

13 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Been on here a while now and never thought I’d be making this kind of post, but life has a way of surprising you I guess.

 

So here’s the story. I’ve been in Bangkok for a while, had a few girlfriends in the past, working for an overseas company now, just keeping my head down. I’m not one of those bar scene guys, never really got much into all that.

 

A few months ago I met this amazing girl who works at one of those little bubble tea kiosks in a Skytrain station. She’s in her early 20s, very sweet, doesn’t speak much English and my Thai isn’t great either, but somehow we click.
 

I used to stop by and buy tea from her a few times a week, then eventually we started chatting more and I asked for her LINE. Things moved slowly at first, but now we’ve been officially dating for a few months. And honestly, I’ve been having the time of my life. No drama, no stress, she’s affectionate, fun, and makes me feel 20 years younger. We go out, we laugh, we do things together, and she never nags or causes problems.

 

I’ve read all the horror stories, but this feels a bit special and different in some way. The intimacy is amazing too, which I didn’t expect with the language and age gap, but it just works.

 

Now here’s where I’m looking for a bit of perspective. She recently brought up the idea of me helping her send money to her family. She mentioned around 30,000 baht a month would really help them out. I know that’s about double what she earns, but she didn’t demand it or push hard, just brought it up gently. She’s still working full time at the kiosk and hasn’t asked me for anything else.

 

I’ve never been in this kind of situation before. I always used to read posts on here and think “nah, I’d never be that guy”, but now here I am. And I’m honestly not sure how to feel about it. The truth is, I can afford it, I don’t really care about the money, and I am genuinely enjoying my time with her. She’s made my life feel lighter, happier. I don’t get any sense that I’m really being used, but I also know how brutally honest some of you can be, so I figured I’d throw it out there for some feedback.

 

If both of us are happy and it’s working, is there actually anything wrong with it? As I said, I don’t mind giving her the money. She makes me happy. So I’m thinking, why not. 

Your money, your choice.

[khunphil]

Sometimes, it is the family who is asking, and not her, and she will have no choice. If you say NO, she will loose face (you don't die for it... but you may look for another bf). 

I remember some ex family , as one day me and the miss got an argument, telling her in Thai ... "Don't loose this one" !

Lower the amount, 5-10K is generous already, if any expense comes up, ask for the bill to pay and show it to other people, and if this comes up regularly, so you know you are being used. You must keep control.

A good point someone asking  is " How much money did you show her before," by the way you are looking, Apple watch, car, nice dinner (500thb/meal), nice condo, and so on ... If she showed the pictures to the family, they would not ask if the food was good 😀... but would be more interested about the size of your wallet !

Good luck, that hurts ... but as we say ... POF

[Quentin Zen]

If you are over 40, maybe.  over 50, probably.  over 60, yes.   under 40, no.  under 30, laughable no.  near 20, a hard no.

 

Let me guess, she looks 18 and 0 days old.    never dated a farang before.   lol

 

30,000 is old school.

 

I'd consider 40,000, weekly, since her grandfather, uncle and mom's buffalo just got sick.  very sick.  

[SAFETY FIRST]

34 minutes ago, impulse said:

That's one hansum man there...

 

Thanks mate, ditto you look pretty good yourself 👍

[Mavideol]

imagine how many 20 year's old you can get with 30K a month, she played you well and you felt for it.... run forest run

[Hummin]

1 minute ago, Mavideol said:

imagine how many 20 year's old you can get with 30K a month, she played you well and you felt for it.... run forest run

You never get tired of having a new girl ? Almost better with a helping hand from a old masseuse than constantly chasing chick's 

[JoseThailand]

Check out his other topics. Looks like a major troll

[jas007]

As a general rule, it's better to rent than to own, as the saying goes. 

 

In any event, as others have said, the 30,000 can easily morph into a larger amount over time, in addition to whatever money you end up spending on her for whatever. New phone, new clothes, etc. Still, if you're the kind of guy who spends 30,000 or more every moth on entertainment, and if that amount is no big deal to you, then why not?  You can always trade in for a newer model. 

[John Drake]

Did Grok write this?

[rumak]

4 hours ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

You're being played. 

 

Now if she were a beer girl, Caraboa or Chang girl then it would be value. 

 

 

shucks......... i wanted to see if you were wearing socks and Birkenstocks

[Mavideol]

23 hours ago, Hummin said:

You never get tired of having a new girl ? Almost better with a helping hand from a old masseuse than constantly chasing chick's 

new food tastes better than older one.... but that's a question of taste 555

[ChaiyaTH]

She plays the long game, obvious from your post. You can pay or not pay, up to you.

[xylophone]

6 minutes ago, ChaiyaTH said:

She plays the long game, obvious from your post. You can pay or not pay, up to you.

My sentiments too....."Up to you"!!

[DaLa]

On 5/22/2025 at 10:54 PM, norsurin said:

I think ur not the only one she talks with at her work.I meet a similar girl but she was older.First she asked 10.000 baht a month.It raised up to 70.000 and she also wanted a Honda yazz.I said goodbye and good luck to her.

Good call, she obviously had no taste in cars.

[DaLa]

On 5/23/2025 at 7:09 AM, Hummin said:

Thumb of rule 10 000,- baht bottom line, and then add 1 000,- baht for each year you are older than her 🤓

That begs the question , can he afford 80,000 baht a month?

[J Branche]

I would teach her to fish.

 

Look at possible business opportunities, her taking a loan out and building something from there.

 

I know it is a fake story.  I always ask for ideas on earning additional income.  When they don't want to work then run, run fast, run far.  You will always be the ATM.

[connda]

Dating 22-Year-Old Thai Bubble Tea Girl - She Just Asked for 30K/Month – Am I Being Played?

 

Not at all.  My 20 year old GF gets 50,000 per month.  Get with the game and stop being stingy.

[digger70]

On 5/22/2025 at 10:21 PM, 123Stodg said:

Now here’s where I’m looking for a bit of perspective. She recently brought up the idea of me helping her send money to her family. She mentioned around 30,000 baht a month would really help them out.

Just tell her ,,,, It Ain't Gonna Happen.    🙏

[Grumpy one]

On 5/22/2025 at 10:21 PM, 123Stodg said:

Been on here a while now and never thought I’d be making this kind of post, but life has a way of surprising you I guess.

 

So here’s the story. I’ve been in Bangkok for a while, had a few girlfriends in the past, working for an overseas company now, just keeping my head down. I’m not one of those bar scene guys, never really got much into all that.

 

A few months ago I met this amazing girl who works at one of those little bubble tea kiosks in a Skytrain station. She’s in her early 20s, very sweet, doesn’t speak much English and my Thai isn’t great either, but somehow we click.
 

I used to stop by and buy tea from her a few times a week, then eventually we started chatting more and I asked for her LINE. Things moved slowly at first, but now we’ve been officially dating for a few months. And honestly, I’ve been having the time of my life. No drama, no stress, she’s affectionate, fun, and makes me feel 20 years younger. We go out, we laugh, we do things together, and she never nags or causes problems.

 

I’ve read all the horror stories, but this feels a bit special and different in some way. The intimacy is amazing too, which I didn’t expect with the language and age gap, but it just works.

 

Now here’s where I’m looking for a bit of perspective. She recently brought up the idea of me helping her send money to her family. She mentioned around 30,000 baht a month would really help them out. I know that’s about double what she earns, but she didn’t demand it or push hard, just brought it up gently. She’s still working full time at the kiosk and hasn’t asked me for anything else.

 

I’ve never been in this kind of situation before. I always used to read posts on here and think “nah, I’d never be that guy”, but now here I am. And I’m honestly not sure how to feel about it. The truth is, I can afford it, I don’t really care about the money, and I am genuinely enjoying my time with her. She’s made my life feel lighter, happier. I don’t get any sense that I’m really being used, but I also know how brutally honest some of you can be, so I figured I’d throw it out there for some feedback.

 

If both of us are happy and it’s working, is there actually anything wrong with it? As I said, I don’t mind giving her the money. She makes me happy. So I’m thinking, why not. 

Please Wake Up and Grow up hunsum ATM

[kevin612]

30k monthly, that’s a lot of money. Say good bye.

[Look Chang]

To reply to your question "Am I Being Played?" I will definitively reply "YES".

[Thingamabob]

Thirty thousand baht is a brazen and ridiculous amount to ask for. If this is a genuine posting I'd run a mile if I was you.

[black tabby12345]

Sounds like a typical money-sponging scheme by young Thai women.

Too far too common in Southeast Asia.

Quite a few foreign men lose their fortune that way.

 

 

[oustaristocrats]

On 5/22/2025 at 5:21 PM, 123Stodg said:

Been on here a while now and never thought I’d be making this kind of post, but life has a way of surprising you I guess.

 

So here’s the story. I’ve been in Bangkok for a while, had a few girlfriends in the past, working for an overseas company now, just keeping my head down. I’m not one of those bar scene guys, never really got much into all that.

 

A few months ago I met this amazing girl who works at one of those little bubble tea kiosks in a Skytrain station. She’s in her early 20s, very sweet, doesn’t speak much English and my Thai isn’t great either, but somehow we click.
 

I used to stop by and buy tea from her a few times a week, then eventually we started chatting more and I asked for her LINE. Things moved slowly at first, but now we’ve been officially dating for a few months. And honestly, I’ve been having the time of my life. No drama, no stress, she’s affectionate, fun, and makes me feel 20 years younger. We go out, we laugh, we do things together, and she never nags or causes problems.

 

I’ve read all the horror stories, but this feels a bit special and different in some way. The intimacy is amazing too, which I didn’t expect with the language and age gap, but it just works.

 

Now here’s where I’m looking for a bit of perspective. She recently brought up the idea of me helping her send money to her family. She mentioned around 30,000 baht a month would really help them out. I know that’s about double what she earns, but she didn’t demand it or push hard, just brought it up gently. She’s still working full time at the kiosk and hasn’t asked me for anything else.

 

I’ve never been in this kind of situation before. I always used to read posts on here and think “nah, I’d never be that guy”, but now here I am. And I’m honestly not sure how to feel about it. The truth is, I can afford it, I don’t really care about the money, and I am genuinely enjoying my time with her. She’s made my life feel lighter, happier. I don’t get any sense that I’m really being used, but I also know how brutally honest some of you can be, so I figured I’d throw it out there for some feedback.

 

If both of us are happy and it’s working, is there actually anything wrong with it? As I said, I don’t mind giving her the money. She makes me happy. So I’m thinking, why not. 

 

Doesn't matter how well things are going at the moment, you should think back in time, how she worked out this great plan from the beginning. Initially slow because she needed time to find out how financially stable you are and where are your weak points. 

 

On the other hand there are thousands of couples in Thailand who successfully live and stay together that way, kind of a deal, giving and taking. 

[Halnodeya]

Just do it if you are happy and you can afford it. But... Ensure that you set the boundary that you will not ever give her more than that. Remind her that it is double her salary. Set the limit and enjoy yourself 

[ignore it]

Are you being played?

 

We're being played!

[Hervey Bay]

The 30,000 is because the family's water buffalo need dental crowns and root canal treatment.

[hanbla]

Don't do it, she is not going sending anything to her family anyway.

And ... helping family by sending 30k per month is way to much.

If you want to help a girls family 

-Get to know her better first

- Better to help them so they can make money by themselves. Help starting a business, like a minimart  or whatever or buy land so they can grow something. But land should be in girlfriends name, otherwise some family will sell it.