15 hours ago, Prubangboy said:

At four seconds a swipe, 300 swipes takes 20 minutes.

 

But that’s only an average per swipe number.

 

If they are fat and wearing a bucket hat, call that a 1 second swipe .

 

 

 

Oh wow! A bucket hat hater. Isn't that some kinda racist?

 

15 hours ago, save the frogs said:

 

One girl put a photo that was 5 years old.

Then she gave me her Line Id and it had a recent photo. It didn't look like the same person at all.

You can get their Line Id or Whatsapp and ask them to send you a recent unphotoshopped pic on there.

Ask her to take a pic on the spot and send it on Line or Whatsapp.

 

 

 

All this drama and dancing around the mulberry bush. Cut to the chase, just send a dick pic and take it from there.

If you’re comfortable with Dating Apps then it’s a question of perseverance and trying as many apps as possible.

Depends on how much time you have on your hands or how quickly you want to find someone, especially if you’re getting on in age!

But I paid subscriptions for many and enjoyed the experience. I met numerous ladies, chatted to many, in Thailand and Philippines. Saw some naked even!

I believe it’s a special skill you develop in online social interaction, even if their English is poor. It’s all part of the fun and experience if you have the time.

I used it while living in the Middle East and difficult to find totty!

But moving to Thailand I eventually found the right lady, though it took me a while, but guess I wasn’t ready until 70!

I   Have friends who have also been successful online. But you need to take the precautions given here by others on this subject. Bottom line is never transfer money until you’re satisfied with the goods! A decent woman wouldn’t ask for money online, I find.

Good luck

 

On 6/26/2025 at 2:48 PM, fredwiggy said:

Try Thaifriendly. Put in exactly what you're looking for. Age, shape, career, interests, English speaking ability, location, no ex bar girls, have children, etc

On 6/26/2025 at 3:14 PM, Harrisfan said:

Bangkok, Chiang Mai, Udon and Khon Kaen in 3 weeks. Yeah a hermit 

Come to Roi Et.  I'll buy you a beer.  I'd be fascinated to meet you to understand what makes you tick.

On 6/26/2025 at 3:14 PM, Harrisfan said:

Bangkok, Chiang Mai, Udon and Khon Kaen in 3 weeks. Yeah a hermit 

Travel videos on YouTube don't count.

On 6/26/2025 at 11:38 AM, KhunLA said:

Wouldn't it be more productive, (and healthy), to just go outside and talk to people, while doing your daily routine, having a munch, shopping or just knocking around.

 

How do you start conversations with women you don't know, especially when you also don't know their age, whether they speak English, or whether they are even single?

Surely you don't just walk up to random beautiful women and start talking to them in the hope they can speak English, are single and looking for a BF.

 

6 minutes ago, Freddy42OZ said:

 

How do you start conversations with women you don't know, especially when you also don't know their age, whether they speak English, or whether they are even single?

Surely you don't just walk up to random beautiful women and start talking to them in the hope they can speak English, are single and looking for a BF.

 

 

Yeah, you do.

 

The best thing you can do is to engage them in a conversation, but still be obvious about you being interested, because they know why you're talking to them, they're not stupid.

 

It doesn't matter if you don't know if they speak English, their age, if they're single. The worst case scenario is always the same, they walk away and you don't get her details. So are you worse off really? No.

 

You just assume they speak English, are single and are looking for a guy.

 

And of course you also hit the apps hard, TF, Insta, Bumble, anything that works. Then, together with cold approaches, you will eventually get women that are interested in you.

 

It's not rocket science.

On 6/26/2025 at 10:56 AM, Prubangboy said:

I have tried Facebook, Tinder, and bumble.
 

Only about 5% of the woman have any profile at all. About one percent have a profile written in English. 
 

Since I am 72, I put 50 at the bottom of my age range. I am guessing that this cohort came of age before mass tourism and therefore are less likely to speak English.

 

I also see a lot of heavy filtering, and also obviously much younger photos in the mix.

 

Has anybody done well searching in the 50+ age range? What has been your experience overall of meeting Thai women on the apps?
 

 

 

Even if I lower my standards, I typically swipe only swipe yes on 1 in 1000 girls on Tinder.  
 

On 6/26/2025 at 10:56 AM, Prubangboy said:

I have tried Facebook, Tinder, and bumble.
 

Only about 5% of the woman have any profile at all. About one percent have a profile written in English. 
 

Since I am 72, I put 50 at the bottom of my age range. I am guessing that this cohort came of age before mass tourism and therefore are less likely to speak English.

 

I also see a lot of heavy filtering, and also obviously much younger photos in the mix.

 

Has anybody done well searching in the 50+ age range? What has been your experience overall of meeting Thai women on the apps?
 

 

Your age range was born before the internet.  That is why there are so few

A good portion are scammers, the other prostitutes, the other gold diggers leaving a tiny portion of genuine target group for you. Most of the older age group are not tech savvy enough to go on online platforms. Go the organic way. 

On 6/26/2025 at 5:56 AM, Prubangboy said:

I have tried Facebook, Tinder, and bumble.
 

Only about 5% of the woman have any profile at all. About one percent have a profile written in English. 
 

Since I am 72, I put 50 at the bottom of my age range. I am guessing that this cohort came of age before mass tourism and therefore are less likely to speak English.

 

I also see a lot of heavy filtering, and also obviously much younger photos in the mix.

 

Has anybody done well searching in the 50+ age range? What has been your experience overall of meeting Thai women on the apps?
 

 

 

I target women aged 18 to 25, and a lot more of them have a profile and it is usually in English, I'd say 85%.

 

Unfortunately the filtering is a major issue. As is them posting younger pics.

 

Even  in the 18 to 25 years range, though, most of the women are trash, so it's not great either.

Just now, Freddy42OZ said:

Even if I lower my standards, I typically swipe only swipe yes on 1 in 1000 girls on Tinder. 

I doubt that this is true.  Would just be very untypical.  

Just now, Cameroni said:

 

Yeah, you do.

 

The best thing you can do is to engage them in a conversation, but still be obvious about you being interested, because they know why you're talking to them, they're not stupid.

 

It doesn't matter if you don't know if they speak English, their age, if they're single. The worst case scenario is always the same, they walk away and you don't get her details. So are you worse off really? No.

 

You just assume they speak English, are single and are looking for a guy.

 

And of course you also hit the apps hard, TF, Insta, Bumble, anything that works. Then, together with cold approaches, you will eventually get women that are interested in you.

 

It's not rocket science.

It's creepy as hell and very undignified to just walk up to someone and start bothering them.  Unless they are sitting at a bar and chances are they're there looking for company. 

But bothering someone who's just out doing their shopping or something?   Not a chance.

1 minute ago, Cameroni said:

 

I target women aged 18 to 25, and a lot more of them have a profile and it is usually in English, I'd say 85%.

 

Unfortunately the filtering is a major issue. As is them posting younger pics.

 

Even  in the 18 to 25 years range, though, most of the women are trash, so it's not great either.

Reads like you have a real problem with the ladies, how old are you............🤔

20 minutes ago, Freddy42OZ said:

 

How do you start conversations with women you don't know, especially when you also don't know their age, whether they speak English, or whether they are even single?

Surely you don't just walk up to random beautiful women and start talking to them in the hope they can speak English, are single and looking for a BF.

The same way you started conversations with women before coming to Thailand, or using dating apps.   Even easier here, as you have a great ice breaker, the language itself.

 

Do you really need to know a woman's age, English skills, or relationship status before talking to them.  As will be known shortly after.  You've really got nothing to lose.  At worse, they simply walk away or ignore you, though unlikely, or be rude to you.

 

You're starting off with a major advantage here, as they think you may be a millionaire, (in THB), at least be able to support yourself.   They don't have to wonder to themselves ... 'hope this Ahole at least has a job'  or 'doesn't live with mommy', since you are not Thai.

 

Interacting with other humans, is part of the joy of life.   Make them smile, or laugh with or at you, and you're half way there.   That shouldn't really be a challenge.

On 6/26/2025 at 12:43 PM, scubascuba3 said:

Massage ladies often speak a little English and less hardened vs bar girls

And what if you are looking for somebody intelligent you can actually have interesting conversations with?😅

1 minute ago, K2938 said:

3 minutes ago, Freddy42OZ said:

Even if I lower my standards, I typically swipe only swipe yes on 1 in 1000 girls on Tinder. 

I doubt that this is true.  Would just be very untypical.  

I've lived all my life in Asia, I'm not interested in girls who can't speak fluent English, I'm not interested in girls who are poor, or look like they are simple.  

Other reasons I swipe no - they are old and ugly, any pets in their pics, any mention of kids, any sign they might be overweight, any sign their tits are sagging, they don't live in Bangkok within 20 mins of me.

I'm looking for either a very attractive Western woman in the 40-50 age range, or a Thai who speaks perfect English, without the horrible 'Taught myself English' but speak it with a Thai accent.

 

7 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

The same way you started conversations with women before coming to Thailand, or using dating apps.   Even easier here, as you have a great ice breaker, the language itself.

 

Do you really need to know a woman's age, English skills, or relationship status before talking to them.  As will be known shortly after.  You've really got nothing to lose.  At worse, they simply walk away or ignore you, though unlikely, or be rude to you.

 

You're starting off with a major advantage here, as they think you may be a millionaire, (in THB), at least be able to support yourself.   They don't have to wonder to themselves ... 'hope this Ahole at least has a job'  or 'doesn't live with mommy', since you are not Thai.

 

Interacting with other humans, is part of the joy of life.   Make them smile, or laugh with or at you, and you're half way there.   That shouldn't really be a challenge.

Outside of actual social events or places like bars where people are gathering to meet each other, I have never and would never try chatting someone up.  Yes I might ask someone for directions, or for some help, but those interactions never go any further because I'm not going to pretend I can't find somewhere just to potentially hassle someone or worse embarrass myself. 

You've heard of 'Face' right?  I've lived in Asia all my life and 'losing face' just means being embarrassed by something.  I do not want to 'lose face' by trying to chat someone up and having them say "what makes you think I'd be interested in you!!!"   which is exactly what I think whenever some frumpy looking middle aged Thai woman smiles at me.   

 

18 minutes ago, K2938 said:

And what if you are looking for somebody intelligent you can actually have interesting conversations with?😅

Those with excellent English probably won't want you. Bar girl English is the best you can hope for

They know enough English to say...''You take care me ?''....''You build New House for Mum ?''....;;You buy me New Scoopy ?''

 

Enough already !!

34 minutes ago, Freddy42OZ said:

It's creepy as hell and very undignified to just walk up to someone and start bothering them.  Unless they are sitting at a bar and chances are they're there looking for company. 

But bothering someone who's just out doing their shopping or something?   Not a chance.

 

It used to be being a man and a normal interaction between a male and a female, but feminists have now made it "creepy". But it's really not. It takes a few minutes, if she's not interested you both just walk away. No harm done.

 

The girls usually don't mind "being bothered". They find it quite flattering. It's only creepy if you make it creepy by acting like a serial killer. If you confidently and brightly talk about something, it's just a normal social interaction.

 

The cold approach is of course filled with anxiety for the male at first, but you eventually get used to it.

 

I did it the other day with what turned out to be a 20something Chinese girl who studies in Chiang Mai. She wasn't interested so we both just went our way. But she was smiling and most likely flattered.

9 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Those with excellent English probably won't want you. Bar girl English is the best you can hope for

Total Rubbish !     My Wife of 20 years was a Midwife and spoke excellent English.  My Friends Wife was a University Teacher with Excellent English.    They are out there but you won't find them in Bars !

If you really want a girl to join you, you just walk up to her and say you want to go watch a movie and have two tickets, but you don't want to watch it alone. Most Thai girls will be delighted to join you for the movie if they're single.

 

 

44 minutes ago, transam said:

Reads like you have a real problem with the ladies, how old are you.

 

I have no problem at all getting dates, my problem is finding a quality woman that is honest, trustworthy and loyal, and still has the looks i want. In other words, getting in is not the issue, but staying in it in the long term is the problem.

 

I'm 53.

1 minute ago, Cameroni said:

 

I have no problem at all getting dates, my problem is finding a quality woman that is honest, trustworthy and loyal, and still has the looks i want. In other words, getting in is not the issue, but staying in it in the long term is the problem.

 

I'm 53.

How do you find out if a lady has all of those features for long term over a date..............😂

 

At 53, you are not serious about finding a lady with all your requirements at 18-25 are you...........🤣

 

It's No wonder you are having no luck, and I think you should come to the conclusion you may remain single........... 😥

41 minutes ago, Freddy42OZ said:

Outside of actual social events or places like bars where people are gathering to meet each other, I have never and would never try chatting someone up.  Yes I might ask someone for directions, or for some help, but those interactions never go any further because I'm not going to pretend I can't find somewhere just to potentially hassle someone or worse embarrass myself. 

You've heard of 'Face' right?  I've lived in Asia all my life and 'losing face' just means being embarrassed by something.  I do not want to 'lose face' by trying to chat someone up and having them say "what makes you think I'd be interested in you!!!"   which is exactly what I think whenever some frumpy looking middle aged Thai woman smiles at me.   

Really  ...  I've met most people outside of social, family, work circles.  As really does limit one's options, though not saying haven't met many in those circles.   

 

Met my present wife at her sis's food stall at night market, as I was a regular customer.   Actually turned me down first couple times I asked her out.   After a few months, she warmed up to me.

 

Another gal I hooked up with was the Mitsubishi service dept rep, as I had a 2nd hand beater, and chit chatted with her a few times, since a POS, and was there more than I wanted to be.  

 

Bars are usually for 1 night stands, and lucky if we remember each other's name in the morning.   Though some did last longer, weeks or months.

 

Met one of my life long friend's with bennies, at a hotel party, and we weren't even at the same affair.  Her at a bachelorette party, and me at a PoPo academy graduation ceremony.   Met in the hallway coming back from the rest rooms.   That was easy ... "what party you at? " ... "Ah, marriage, no thanks (seed planted) .. me PoPo party" ... 'get out of town, joking right'.  That smile told me everything, and she already knew I wasn't looking for a relationship, though little did we know.   The rest was history, and that lasted 20 yrs.

 

Easy to strike up a conversation with strangers, especially some settings, as they are like minded, just have to say 'hello'.  Easier if you see them in your weekly, monthly routine.   

 

You don't lose 'face' by simply talking to people.  Especially people you don't know.  You're only guaranteed one thing, if you don't say hello.   The other, could be an adventure, or, same result.

 

Be amazed how many people are like minded, and thinking the same as you, but unless you say 'hello', then it's your loss.  Took me a while as a youngin to realize that, but once I did ... Smiles R Us

33 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Those with excellent English probably won't want you. Bar girl English is the best you can hope for

How do you know? Serious question.

Dating apps in the main..... sad. Really sad.

Though on the other hand, I do go to the supermarket and markets to buy food, rather than hunting and growing it myself.

 

For me, Tinder is the equivalent of a walk down Pattaya beach promenade. No decent woman would nor should stand there.

 

I wonder if the Thai women lament the the lack of Thai speaking men?

On 6/26/2025 at 10:56 AM, Prubangboy said:

I have tried Facebook, Tinder, and bumble.
 

Only about 5% of the woman have any profile at all. About one percent have a profile written in English. 
 

Since I am 72, I put 50 at the bottom of my age range. I am guessing that this cohort came of age before mass tourism and therefore are less likely to speak English.

 

I also see a lot of heavy filtering, and also obviously much younger photos in the mix.

 

Has anybody done well searching in the 50+ age range? What has been your experience overall of meeting Thai women on the apps?
 

 

try dateinasia.com Lots of English speakers on there, although you'll probably be contacted most often by Filipinas. But there are plenty of Thais as well.