1 minute ago, DezLez said:

Are you suggesting that you/people go there to meet girls who have a disrespectable job?

I dont go anywhere to meet girls with or without a job, I leave that up to the wife.

 

7 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

I dont go anywhere to meet girls with or without a job, I leave that up to the wife.

 

Does your wife let you sleep with other women

9 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

 

I lived in Chiang Mai for years. I eventually came to the conclusion that it was "god's waiting room". I never 100% fit in, but always felt I was waiting for something...

 

The last time I left I could not see the mountain from my window due to the smoke. I think breathing it for months took some time off my life...

 

Meeting women there was somewhat difficult for me. Not sure why, but they seemed uninterested for the most part...

 

That said, it is a great place to lie low and get some work done if you are a digital nomad (not too many distractions and you can cocoon in a digital nomad community and do your thing)...

 

Some of my best times there were in fact being with other nomads and expats and avoiding Thai's and Thailand altogether. Something about that limited scene enabled me to think, work and succeed vs being distracted...

Interesting post and think I understand where you are coming from.  Almost all the social activity is in the city. I left in 2016 and the pollution was too much too handle.  Remember all the vegetarians, many were friends, that did everything around the moat area and posted about the beautiful natural wonder of Chiang Mai.  Just didn't get it. The mote area was filthy with big rats, trash and terrible pollution all year.  The mountains were incredible and I was cycling or running in them everyday.  Even there the pollution was terrible about 5 months of the year and almost at dangerous levels for a few months each year.

 

I'm married and think it would be near impossible to meet someone in my area if I was single unless I settled into a relationship that was less than stellar.  Most Thais with foreigners educated or not are not highly regarded by their piers. Many get an educated woman that is broken in some way and then are left justifying a soulless relationship for years.  Then again there are some lucky blokes that get the highly educated woman and life is good.

13 minutes ago, DezLez said:

Are you suggesting that you/people go there to meet girls who have a disrespectable job?

 

Not officially, no.

25 minutes ago, hotsun said:

Does your wife let you sleep with other women

we share the same GF.

1 hour ago, Nemises said:

... or move to a different city!

 

...where being able to speak the language may be more of a necessity.

1 hour ago, atpeace said:

I'm married and think it would be near impossible to meet someone in my area if I was single unless I settled into a relationship that was less than stellar.  Most Thais with foreigners educated or not are not highly regarded by their piers. Many get an educated woman that is broken in some way and then are left justifying a soulless relationship for years.  Then again there are some lucky blokes that get the highly educated woman and life is good.

Serious Thai relationships have pretty much been a no-go for me ever since I first arrived.

 

Most of the population don't seem to have the ability to face problems that arise in a relationship since it involves being patiently critical of oneself and others and voicing and communicating those problems.

 

They prefer to simply move on and repeat the same issue with new partners.

1 hour ago, Mark1969 said:

Serious Thai relationships have pretty much been a no-go for me ever since I first arrived.

 

Most of the population don't seem to have the ability to face problems that arise in a relationship since it involves being patiently critical of oneself and others and voicing and communicating those problems.

 

They prefer to simply move on and repeat the same issue with new partners.

 

Assuming that you are comfortable and competent with both "voicing and communicating" in the Thai language, what were the specifics of any problems that you encountered?

30 minutes ago, NanLaew said:

Assuming that you are comfortable and competent with both "voicing and communicating" in the Thai language, what were the specifics of any problems that you encountered?

The root seems to be immaturity, living only for the present moment, nevermind attitude, etc.

 

A specific example would simply be getting angry about something and not wanting to discuss why (or not knowing how to due to lack of critical thinking, not language).

17 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

Nong Khai is ok. I told the Thai you need to enjoy walking. Udon is better imo. Khon Kaen is ok too. I like CM cause the Old City is ideal for walking. So much within a few km.

What were you doing in Isaan, you told us you hate the place, you even took the p_ss out of members who live there..😱

 

Can you explain why you even went there and now say it is OK.....?    🤔

9 minutes ago, transam said:

What were you doing in Isaan, you told us you hate the place, you even took the p_ss out of members who live there..😱

 

Can you explain why you even went there and now say it is OK.....?    🤔

Why would anyone explain anything to you?

Your standard answer to such questions ..............

1 hour ago, Mark1969 said:

A specific example would simply be getting angry about something and not wanting to discuss why (or not knowing how to due to lack of critical thinking, not language).

There's never any reason to get angry, it's pointless and possibly self-harming.

3 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

They prefer to simply move on and repeat the same issue with new partners.

Me too.

5 hours ago, NanLaew said:

Ah...before anyone here was born. That's how I missed it.

 

Got a citation for that?

 

House of Commons Library good enough? 😉

 

 

https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/what-makes-a-city/

 

6 minutes ago, transam said:

What were you doing in Isaan, you told us you hate the place, you even took the p_ss out of members who live there..😱

 

Can you explain why you even went there and now say it is OK.....?    🤔

hahahaha you want him to explain himself to you.... you are next level delusional🤣😉☺️🤗🤩😶‍🌫️😎💩👩🏿👨‍👩‍👧‍👧🐸🧀🦽

I am not really a city boy, but travelling to and from Thailand as well passing through Bangkok I enjoy Siloam and parts of Sukhumvit around Terminal 21. 

 

I love Nan and found a few decent places to stay and eat, as well Chiang Rain because of the riding in the area. During Covid Chiang Mai and Pai was a pleasant experience, but as it is now, not so much because of traffic and it is to crowded. 

 

Chiang Khan is also nice off season, Prachuap Khiri Khan is a nice stop going south or north for a night. Still it comes more down to the smaller scenic villages along the coastline where you still can find those small threats of genuine Thailand athmospere. 

 

If I have to pick a city, it have to be Silom in Bangkok. 

8 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

hahahaha you want him to explain himself to you.... you are next level delusional🤣😉☺️🤗🤩😶‍🌫️😎💩👩🏿👨‍👩‍👧‍👧🐸🧀🦽

Coming from you, that's hilarious..............😂

off topic post removed.

Bangkok is the only city in Thailand that I could live in.

 

I quite like Phuket city, Khorat city, Chiang Rai and Udon for visits but I wouldn't want to actually live in those cities.  I wouldn't mind living just outside with easy access though.

19 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

There's never any reason to get angry, it's pointless and possibly self-harming.

There's always be some reason, or they would not be angry.

 

The point is can they talk about what it is or resolve the issue, or do they just nevermind it and bottle it up inside, only to have it explode with the next person or partner. Anger does not really just go away, you need to find out what's bothering you. That takes critical thinking, facing problems and emotional maturity.

12 minutes ago, Colonel_Mustard said:

Bangkok is the only city in Thailand that I could live in.

 

I quite like Phuket city, Khorat city, Chiang Rai and Udon for visits but I wouldn't want to actually live in those cities.  I wouldn't mind living just outside with easy access though.

I like Korat as our go to city when we want to have relaxed weekend, still Chaiyaphum and Petchabun is closer, but cant be compared to Korat. And Korat do have ok hotels for decent prices as well with quite good breakfast buffet. 

30 minutes ago, treetops said:

 

House of Commons Library good enough? 😉

 

 

https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/what-makes-a-city/

 

 

Excellent! Many thanks indeed.

That's a no trainer...Pattaya City of course.

No other city worldwide is like it.

1 hour ago, Mark1969 said:

The root seems to be immaturity, living only for the present moment, nevermind attitude, etc.

 

A specific example would simply be getting angry about something and not wanting to discuss why (or not knowing how to due to lack of critical thinking, not language).

 

The mai bpen rai attitude is cultural and nothing to do with innate immaturity. Although to the non-Thai, it can probably be seen to manifest itself as such.

 

If we are talking about interpersonal relationships between male and female, I think the "You never listen to me!" and "I'm going home to mother!" replete with tears, shouting and door-slamming is quite common for females in many countries and cultures.

when I lived in Siam, these cities were my favourites -

 

Chiang Mai, Chiang Rai, Phayao, Lampang and Khon Kaen. 

8 minutes ago, NanLaew said:

The mai bpen rai attitude is cultural and nothing to do with innate immaturity. Although to the non-Thai, it can probably be seen to manifest itself as such.

I can't see why it would be limited to superficial problems and not interpersonal relations.

Just now, Mark1969 said:

12 minutes ago, NanLaew said:

The mai bpen rai attitude is cultural and nothing to do with innate immaturity. Although to the non-Thai, it can probably be seen to manifest itself as such.

I can't see why it would be limited to superficial problems and not interpersonal relations.

 

Is it?

 

We're getting off-topic here so, no worries. Interesting viewpoint though.

I hate to read how people here have started to yap each other about Nothing. I do not need to read tabloid crap nor do I want to read about politics. Politics, there is nothing any of us on this thread can do to fix as many problems that you want to dig up.  Can't We All just get along?

46 minutes ago, NanLaew said:

 

 

 

If we are talking about interpersonal relationships between male and female, I think the "You never listen to me!" and "I'm going home to mother!" replete with tears, shouting and door-slamming is quite common for females in many countries and cultures.

 

love those times.

1 hour ago, Mark1969 said:

There's always be some reason, or they would not be angry.

 

The point is can they talk about what it is or resolve the issue, or do they just nevermind it and bottle it up inside, only to have it explode with the next person or partner. Anger does not really just go away, you need to find out what's bothering you. That takes critical thinking, facing problems and emotional maturity.

Nothing bothers me, because I understand nothing really matters