2 minutes ago, Gottfrid said:

You must be stupid. Just assuming things all the time. Using it to try and trigger people, Sorry, it doesn´t work. Just letting you know how retarded and stupid you really are! somebody just have to tell you.

Not just me.

the poll shows 40% of us think the same.

And the figure would be higher amongst the tourists.

I understand that a lot of the guys who marry them just want to deny or forget about it. I get it, it is a bit hard to get ones head around.

 

1 minute ago, WorriedNoodle said:

Well thats your failing alone isn't it. One should never assume as it makes an ASS out of U and ME as the old time immemorial saying goes.

Well a recent poll here showed that roughly half of members did in fact meet their wife or girlfriend either in a bar, gogo, massage shop or on online so it is only natural that people will assume that.

9 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

Not just me.

the poll shows 40% of us think the same.

And the figure would be higher amongst the tourists.

I understand that a lot of the guys who marry them just want to deny or forget about it. I get it, it is a bit hard to get ones head around.

 

You can think it´s sad for them. You don have to understand it. I would not, and I don´t understand it either. However, your way of talking about it is degrading and uncivilized as well as it show clear lack of manner and acceptance. It´s their choice, and they don´t need to read that a person on this forum always degrading them and trying to make them feel as less intelligent. Let them live with their choices. For some it works out, for other it doesn´t.

28 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

Well a recent poll here showed that roughly half of members did in fact meet their wife or girlfriend either in a bar, gogo, massage shop or on online so it is only natural that people will assume that.

I don't get why you think that makes this okay for you generalize.  As you stated, half.

Remind me not to invite you to any parties.  I'm sure everyone loves your questioning glances as you try to determine whether or not their lady was a bargirl in a previous life. Retarded.

Edit:  Are you married or with a GF?  What does she think about your strong interest in this subject?


 

43 minutes ago, Miloki said:

Remind me not to invite you to any parties.  I'm sure everyone loves your questioning glances as you try to determine whether or not their lady was a bargirl in a previous life. 
 

 

At a party no need for questioning glances, I just go for straight out questions.

Start off with the “what do you for a living?”

Follow up with a “How did you guys meet?” 
 

 

 

 

43 minutes ago, Miloki said:

 

Edit:  Are you married or with a GF?  What does she think about your strong interest in this subject?

No. I haven’t found the right one yet.

Any suggestions?

2 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

 

No. I haven’t found the right one yet.

Any suggestions?

America. I'll give you a letter of recommendation.

Just now, Miloki said:

America. I'll give you a letter of recommendation.

From what I have seen I don’t think there could possibly any worse women on the planet. 

1 minute ago, MalcolmB said:

From what I have seen I don’t think there could possibly any worse women on the planet. 

Your poll question says otherwise, inherently. But I can give you a letter in Thai if you need one.  Up to you.

Just please quit being retarded, this whole thread is stupid.  Last comment here.

1 minute ago, Miloki said:

Just please quit being retarded, this whole thread is stupid.  Last comment here.

Quite a popular thread with a lot of people answering the poll.

 

But I do get it, for the guys that have married the Ladies of the Night, you get uncomfortable when this subject is brought up.

Just now, MalcolmB said:

Quite a popular thread with a lot of people answering the poll.

 

But I do get it, for the guys that have married the Ladies of the Night, you get uncomfortable when this subject is brought up.

Possibly, but this comment is from someone not in that situation who thinks you are being an ass and disrespectful.  Whatever country you are from, you should probably go home.  Okay, now done w/ this thread, you got me!!

I live in Chiang Mai and know quite a few T/F couples. Some did, but most did not come from the bar scene. I think with dating apps, NOT Thai Friendly, it's also easier to find regular Thai women now.

On 8/30/2025 at 6:45 AM, Wingate said:

Wonderful for you that you live your life for people you will never know, but I guess I couldn't care less what other people think of my life choices. Thais might gossip about me using colloquial language I cannot understand? That impacts my life pleasure how? I guess if I was insecure and needed the validation of outsiders, it might hurt, but I don't, so it wouldn't.

 

I don't have a Thai wife, but if I happened to fall in love with a woman who worked or works in the industry, the only thing I would care about is how we get along together.  The opinions of fat old grumpy foreigners are of no importance, nor are the comments of Thai people who think everyone in the world cares about "face". All of those people, as well as myself and any woman I choose to spend time with, are going to be dust in 50-80 years and gone forever from existence, so the ONLY thing that matters is how my chosen partner and I enjoyed this all too brief life.

 

What a waste of your single existence to worry about what meaningless outsiders think about you or gossip about you behind your back! Maybe you should try living for yourself and your loved ones, rather than people who will forget you exist two seconds after you're out of their line of sight.

 

Now to get to the OP's question....whatever I think about a mixed couple should not be of any concern to the couple. Maybe that thought would pop into my head, but that only affects me. Good for them if they are getting what they want, as they pass from cradle to grave/urn.

 

Impressive wall of text for someone that "couldn't care less" what others think.

On 8/29/2025 at 5:36 PM, CharlieH said:

Honestly, and this may upset some, if she has tattoos clearly on view, then YES I do.😀

 

 

 

Virtually 65% of girls nowadays has tattoos.

4 hours ago, DavidAlexander said:

I live in Chiang Mai and know quite a few T/F couples. Some did, but most did not come from the bar scene. I think with dating apps, NOT Thai Friendly, it's also easier to find regular Thai women now.

Doesn't say much to work in an actual bar or not, since years it's just freelancing without needing to be in the bars. I have met dozens of girls in BKK that had office / career jobs while still doing freelance on the side too.  For the latest gucci hand bag or a new iphone etc etc.

Of course the problem is when older punter decides to take bar girl home.

 

I always grimase through this scene in the movie Priscilla Queen of the Desert. although it is hilarious, but it reinforces the stereotype that every woman from SE Asia was some kinda sex worker

 

 

19 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

Well a recent poll here showed that roughly half of members did in fact meet their wife or girlfriend either in a bar, gogo, massage shop or on online so it is only natural that people will assume that.

It's back to my previous post, the 60 yo hasn't met his 20yo tillack at work, or at a coffee shop, so we really are down to the bar thing

 

After that it tends to get a bit seedy

 

Not judging anyone but need to recognize what it is, and everyone around you will

 

May well work if you stay in Thailand, for a while a least, but try taking that home and you will be greeted with ridicule, and young gal will suddenly be presented with a smorgasbord of young men her own age

 

Recipe for total disaster, and we've all heard about it, read about it hardly fiction

On 8/29/2025 at 5:26 PM, MalcolmB said:

When you first meet a Farang man with a Thai girlfriend or wife do you automatically think/assume they probably met in the “nightlife industry?”

We never met nightlife industry.

 

I didn't want a dirty bar girl. 😎

 

I met my girlfriend online, she was only 1300 baht. 😂

 

 

 

 

On 8/29/2025 at 7:00 PM, GinBoy2 said:

Hmm I'm with you on the age gap thing.

 

20/30 something with a 50/60+ something, that's a financial transaction

 

The tats thing, well I count myself as one of the few humans left on the planet without ink, so who am I to judge for that

 

I agree with you. When I see a Western guy pushing a stroller with a young toddler in it , and  I estimate the guy would be in his late 60s early 70s, accompanied by a young Thai lady 20 to 30 years old. I think to myself, go get a DNA test 

See how they interact - from faraway already; talk to both and you know instantly. 

Given the fact that most caucasians hooked up with a bar girl it does not automatically mean disaster. But yeah, you can take a bar girl out of a bar but usually it does not work trying to take the bar out of the girl. Throw in some drinks for good measure and then you latest would know.........

It remains to be said, that - given - a one-digit percentage of female population resorted/resort to this kind of income and professional business activities ............... there is a 90+ percentage of all those other lovely ladies not selling soul and body ......... 

There are more important things to worry about in life 

And this is not one of them 

Some people need to get a life 🙄 

My girlfriend was apparently a bar girl, but I only found out about a month after I met her. She was going through her wardrobe and pulled out tons of bikinis, so I asked why so many? She said she used to work at Nana. I was quite shocked because she doesn't speak one word of English. Apparently she didn't work there very long... Still not sure if I believe her lol 🤔🫣

I don't give a rats ass. If they talk about me and my girlfriend that means they are not talking about someone else

50 minutes ago, shackleton said:

There are more important things to worry about in life 

And this is not one of them 

Some people need to get a life 🙄 

I worry about it a lot.

On 9/2/2025 at 4:23 AM, GinBoy2 said:

Not judging anyone but need to recognize what it is, and everyone around you will

Many, many are in denial.

 

My one is different though.

On 8/29/2025 at 6:18 PM, Will B Good said:

 

 

Dodged a bullet.

 

Doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, no tattoos, no piercings, no kids......main obsession is politics.

Trump lover would be deal killer

6 minutes ago, MRMOUSE said:

Trump lover would be deal killer

 

 

OMG........

 

I could live with her being a sex offender, liar, felon, husband cheater.......even the heavy make-up......but no....not a Trump supporter.

On 8/29/2025 at 5:36 PM, CharlieH said:

Honestly, and this may upset some, if she has tattoos clearly on view, then YES I do.😀

 

 

 

Thank goodness my Mrs's tattoos are the religious ones on her back. 

Cosy Bar in Pattaya 15 years ago. Happy ever since moving up here.

1 hour ago, Quack said:

My girlfriend was apparently a bar girl, but I only found out about a month after I met her. She was going through her wardrobe and pulled out tons of bikinis, so I asked why so many? She said she used to work at Nana. I was quite shocked because she doesn't speak one word of English. Apparently she didn't work there very long... Still not sure if I believe her lol 🤔🫣

So do you speak Thai with her?

1 hour ago, Quack said:

My girlfriend was apparently a bar girl, but I only found out about a month after I met her. She was going through her wardrobe and pulled out tons of bikinis, so I asked why so many? She said she used to work at Nana. I was quite shocked because she doesn't speak one word of English. Apparently she didn't work there very long... Still not sure if I believe her lol 🤔🫣

 

Was her name Tik?

She's different

She only in Nung bar 2 week but forgot to tell you 6 years in Lek bar 555

Got kids up in the scrub 

Her brother is actually is her gik