I'm living in Pattaya and started viewing Thai women as unclean. It's so bad now that I don't even want to have sex with them if it was offered. It seems to be getting worse. When I do approach women it's women of different races, black, Chinese, Japanese, etc., but it's not very often.

 

What should I do, move out of the area, or just wait it out? Relocate back to home country? I don't want to just fly solo and am not interested in social contacts with males.

 

It's been going on for many months now. Therapy is not an option here since I don't think there are many good therapists around.

Wow, who could have possibly predicted that moving to the world capital of sex tourism would expose you to a lot of sex workers and eventually sour you on local women. Truly shocking stuff. Definitely sounds like an issue for a therapist because it can't be the painfully obvious outcome of your own decision making. You planted yourself in the middle of a giant open air brothel and now you are surprised that there are... well, brothels everywhere. That is not psychology, that is geography.

 

It’s kind of like moving to Alaska and then complaining that you are tired of snow. Or buying a house next to an airport and then wondering why it is so loud. If you really want the situation to change the solution is not deep therapy, it is simply moving yourself somewhere that isn’t designed for the exact thing you now dislike. Until then you are basically diagnosing yourself with common sense deficiency.

23 minutes ago, short-Timer said:

Wow, who could have possibly predicted that moving to the world capital of sex tourism would expose you to a lot of sex workers and eventually sour you on local women. Truly shocking stuff. Definitely sounds like an issue for a therapist because it can't be the painfully obvious outcome of your own decision making. You planted yourself in the middle of a giant open air brothel and now you are surprised that there are... well, brothels everywhere. That is not psychology, that is geography.

 

It’s kind of like moving to Alaska and then complaining that you are tired of snow. Or buying a house next to an airport and then wondering why it is so loud. If you really want the situation to change the solution is not deep therapy, it is simply moving yourself somewhere that isn’t designed for the exact thing you now dislike. Until then you are basically diagnosing yourself with common sense deficiency.

I feel like there is a lesson here somewhere, or I would not be here. I don't believe in coincidences.

 

The question is what is that lesson and will the place somehow spit me out if I'm here long enough. Places have a way of doing that if you don't belong somewhere. Kind of like having a splinter in your body, it is recognized as a foreign body and the host rejects it.

The lesson here is that if you have issues of any kind back home in the west, don't think they will vanish in Thailand, just due to the favorable exchange rate enabling to indulge in "paid company". 

 

If you already have issues in your homeland, solve them there. Once solved or at least once tamed,  no matter where you go, you will be free.

 

 

51 minutes ago, Middle Aged Grouch said:

The lesson here is that if you have issues of any kind back home in the west, don't think they will vanish in Thailand, just due to the favorable exchange rate enabling to indulge in "paid company". 

 

If you already have issues in your homeland, solve them there. Once solved or at least once tamed,  no matter where you go, you will be free.

I developed the issue while here, not in my home country. I have lived in Thailand and South East Asia probably 15 years.

 

Prior to that I was dating (non prostitute) and did not have my current perception of unclean women. My move over here was due to financial difficulty primarily.

Take a few months off. Focus on yourself for a while. 

Psyche 101

5 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

I'm living in Pattaya and started viewing Thai women as unclean. It's so bad now that I don't even want to have sex with them if it was offered. It seems to be getting worse. When I do approach women it's women of different races, black, Chinese, Japanese, etc., but it's not very often.

 

What should I do, move out of the area, or just wait it out? Relocate back to home country? I don't want to just fly solo and am not interested in social contacts with males.

 

It's been going on for many months now. Therapy is not an option here since I don't think there are many good therapists around.

Use your hand then shower.

23 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Use your hand then shower.

Susan, you always have such a wonderful way with words and so much to add to any conversation. Much like a bung that never stops oozing.

 

Maybe try Laos instead

6 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

Relocate back to home country?

Therapy is not an option 

 

6 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

so bad now that I don't even want to have sex with them

You'll definitely need therapy if you relocate back to home country. 

 

Try a ladyboy, they are not for me but I'm seeing most of my friends who visit from abroad trying a ladyboy. 

Bloody weirdos 

 

 

Or maybe a 7eleven girl, they always look clean. 

 

 

1 hour ago, Harrisfan said:

Use your hand then shower.

 

The left one. A whole new adventure awaits.

12 minutes ago, blaze master said:

 

The left one. A whole new adventure awaits.

Or sit on ur hand for 15 minutes until u cant feel it.Then u can masterbate because it feels like someone else is doing it.

1 hour ago, scubascuba3 said:

Maybe try Laos instead

I took a black lady in Bangkok.Really a good experience..she was really hot and wild.Not a big lady..she was petite witth a beautiful smile and a gorgeous body.

6 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

I'm living in Pattaya and started viewing Thai women as unclean. It's so bad now that I don't even want to have sex with them if it was offered. It seems to be getting worse. When I do approach women it's women of different races, black, Chinese, Japanese, etc., but it's not very often.

 

What should I do, move out of the area, or just wait it out? Relocate back to home country? I don't want to just fly solo and am not interested in social contacts with males.

 

It's been going on for many months now. Therapy is not an option here since I don't think there are many good therapists around.

Poke your eyes out & use your sense of smell.🙃🙃

4 hours ago, blaze master said:

Take a few months off. Focus on yourself for a while. 

Yup. Buy a big mirror & indulge in fantasies. That way it looks like someone is with you.🙃🙃

3 minutes ago, Lucky Bones said:

Poke your eyes out & use your sense of smell.🙃🙃

Like a blind lesbian in a fish market. 

5 minutes ago, Lucky Bones said:

Yup. Buy a big mirror & indulge in fantasies. That way it looks like someone is with you.🙃🙃

 

And objects may appear bigger than they really are 😅

Do you think theyre unclean because of all the indians?

Are you from the USA by any chance?

7 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

Therapy is not an option here since I don't think there are many good therapists around.

Try an AI therapist. But wait, that would be an AI bot getting therapy from AI the world might implide.

5 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

I developed the issue while here, not in my home country. I have lived in Thailand and South East Asia probably 15 years.

 

Prior to that I was dating (non prostitute) and did not have my current perception of unclean women. My move over here was due to financial difficulty primarily.

Ahhhh, so the root problem is that you're surrounded by all of these "Dirty Women" but can't afford any of them and it's somehow their fault...

5 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

I developed the issue while here, not in my home country. I have lived in Thailand and South East Asia probably 15 years.

 

Prior to that I was dating (non prostitute) and did not have my current perception of unclean women. My move over here was due to financial difficulty primarily.

You've been in Thailand and SEA for 15 years, and you still can't figure out how to find non-prostitute partners? There's no hope for you - go home!

I guess there will always be reincarnations of Howard Hughes.

19 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

What should I do, move out of the area, or just wait it out?

 

walk around the bar zone with a Bible to try to convert the women away from their wicked ways. 

 

36 minutes ago, JensenZ said:

You've been in Thailand and SEA for 15 years, and you still can't figure out how to find non-prostitute partners? There's no hope for you - go home!

Go shopping. Every shop, every mall, every village. Buy soap & shampoo. They are all watching & waiting for you to go to the ATM.🙃🙃

13 minutes ago, Lucky Bones said:

Go shopping. Every shop, every mall, every village. Buy soap & shampoo. They are all watching & waiting for you to go to the ATM.🙃🙃

Did you find your partner/s buying soap & shampoo? LOL.  

1 hour ago, angryguy said:

Do you think theyre unclean because of all the indians?

That's definately part of it if they are having sex. It's more then being physically unclean though, it's also a kind of spiritual stain that I view in them even if they are not prostitutes.

 

I can see my view as unreasonable without knowing each person, yet I can't get over the feeling. It's at the point now where I'm feeling generalized revulsion for no apparent reason.

Just now, Mark1969 said:

That's definately part of it if they are having sex. It's more then being physically unclean though, it's also a kind of spiritual stain that I view in them even if they are not prostitutes.

 

I can see my view as unreasonable without knowing each person, yet I can't get over the feeling. It's at the point now where I'm feeling generalized revulsion for no apparent reason.

All women poop. Remember that and they have no power over us

6 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

I developed the issue while here, not in my home country. I have lived in Thailand and South East Asia probably 15 years.

 

Prior to that I was dating (non prostitute) and did not have my current perception of unclean women. My move over here was due to financial difficulty primarily.

Thai women are very clean but the risk of transmitable disease can't be cured with soap, protection is what's needed,maybe looking for a steady who never worked bars might be your answer