22 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

At 73, I have to maximize every breathing day and also be ready to compromise if a quality person pops up.

Bottom line: Will this person make me 10% happier overall and hit the mark in the bedroom at a grade of 7 or above?

I need 2 solid yes's to cancel Peru in the fall.

Actually, I'm not really gagging to go to Peru, but my friend is getting married in Rio in October. And who knows if I will ever drift that way again?

That 72 year old problem again. It will only get worse. I am 73 in 3 weeks.

You are right, should had made it earlier, at 73 it is better to continue as you do,

1 minute ago, Harrisfan said:

Fun for a while but tiresome. You only find what you look for.

Dating is ok, but Im more of a one woman man. When I like someone, Im not F…… around,

Cam on holiday ?

Nah, I just talked with him.

We met up in Chiang Mai. I'm inviting him and PG to my birthday party.

1 hour ago, Hummin said:

You are right, should had made it earlier, at 73 it is better to continue as you do,

Dating is ok, but Im more of a one woman man. When I like someone, Im not F…… around,

It's all about what turns up or doesn't. If my dilemma is Peru, with or without a girlfriend, then this year looks to be great, no matter what shakes out.

I am def diversifying my interests and time focus portfolio. It's nice to have options, quality options, even.

I had sex, a snog, and some new interest in the last week. None of it from Tinder, which I killed again. It's down to having a little bit of social game.

22 hours ago, Prubangboy said:

20,000 baht is what I used to pay for Sukhamvit Road tourist prices subpar weed.

Feel free to PM me. I liked Sisaket well enough -for, like, an occasional look in.

Whoosh.... 🤭

He was referring to...

18 hours ago, Prubangboy said:

It's all about what turns up or doesn't. If my dilemma is Peru, with or without a girlfriend, then this year looks to be great, no matter what shakes out.

I am def diversifying my interests and time focus portfolio. It's nice to have options, quality options, even.

I had sex, a snog, and some new interest in the last week. None of it from Tinder, which I killed again. It's down to having a little bit of social game.

We went just for the food ☺️ Okay, slight exaggeration, but food is a big draw for me to travel.

It's actually great to have a solid travel companion. It would be a bit sad without. One of the joys of life is to have shared memories. Your connections seem fleeting, with no repeat performances. Do you feel that you are on the right track?

31 minutes ago, TheThrees said:

Whoosh.... 🤭

He was referring to...

Thanks, I am in on the joke. I am adding to the joke.

Telling clue: claiming that I am gagging to go to Sisaket.

Please up your Internet arguing game.

Or just give up.

Woosh, indeed.

28 minutes ago, TheThrees said:

We went just for the food ☺️ Okay, slight exaggeration, but food is a big draw for me to travel.

It's actually great to have a solid travel companion. It would be a bit sad without. One of the joys of life is to have shared memories. Your connections seem fleeting, with no repeat performances. Do you feel that you are on the right track?

Thank you for your Well Intentioned belaboring of the obvious.

I find myself suddenly single after a long marriage. My ex-wife is my best friend in the world.

My connections are fleeting, because that’s what dating is. You meet people. You hope for a fit. Usually, you do not find one.

And then, you wish them well and you try again.

It would be great to effortlessly magic up a life partner and take her to Peru. But that may not happen in time for the trip to Peru.

At 73, it may not happen at all.

So win, lose, or draw, I just enjoy my fantastic life and focus on the enormous amount of joy and privilege that I do have.

I try to give only a reasonable and proportionate amount of time and mental space to what I don’t have.

You sound like someone who has been hooked up for a long time. If that goes away, I hope you remember my example.

Because you seem to think that life is much simpler and more set in cement than it is. Buddhism in two words:

Everything changes.

I enjoy the posts of Cameroni because he’s doing the same thing.

Nay sayers who are not funny or interesting are a downer.

Please try to be more cynical and clever so that I can keep awake during your posts.

18 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

Thanks, I am in on the joke. I am adding to the joke.

Telling clue: claiming that I am gagging to go to Sisaket.

Please up your Internet arguing game.

Or just give up.

I didn't note any raucous laughter from anyone in response to your reply. In fact there was no response at all. A bit like your non-Cameroni thread...

Perhaps you should take your own advice. I don't think it's me who needs to up my game. I only joined a week ago.

1 minute ago, TheThrees said:

I didn't note any raucous laughter from anyone in response to your reply. In fact there was no response at all. A bit like your non-Cameroni thread...

Perhaps you should take your own advice. I don't think it's me who needs to up my game. I only joined a week ago.

We kid each other a bit here.

May your stay here be as bland as befits your empty bromides.

I’m going to block you now.

Because you can’t take a joke. And you definitely can’t tell one.

9 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

Thank you for your Well Intentioned belaboring of the obvious.

I find myself suddenly single after a long marriage. My ex-wife is my best friend in the world.

My connections are fleeting, because that’s what dating is. You meet people. You hope for a fit. Usually, you do not find one.

And then, you wish them well and you try again.

It would be great to effortlessly magic up a life partner and take her to Peru. But that may not happen in time for the trip to Peru.

At 73, it may not happen at all.

So win, lose, or draw, I just enjoy my fantastic life and focus on the enormous amount of joy and privilege that I do have.

I try to give only a reasonable and proportionate amount of time and mental space to what I don’t have.

You sound like someone who has been hooked up for a long time. If that goes away, I hope you remember my example.

Because you seem to think that life is much simpler and more set in cement than it is. Buddhism in two words:

Everything changes.

I enjoy the posts of Cameroni because he’s doing the same thing.

Nay sayers who are not funny or interesting are a downer.

Please try to be more cynical and clever so that I can keep awake during your posts.

It might seem like belabouring the obvious to you, but that is what we have to go on here. What people reveal about themselves. That is reflected back to you in the form of comments. if you don't like what you read here, then you don't like yourself. If you don't like yourself, how do you expect anyone else to like you?

People love me because they love what I represent.

So no need to become so defensive. It's not an attractive trait.

5 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

We kid each other a bit here.

May your stay here be as bland as befits your empty bromides.

I’m going to block you now.

Because you can’t take a joke. And you definitely can’t tell one.

Hmmm...

Anyway, I thought we might discuss your strategy. But it seems that you prefer to become offended. Serious question. Are you as tetchy as this on a date?

You need to allow more leeway if you want to find a longer than one date relationship.

You led right off With an insult.

So I tossed one back. Can dish it out (barely) But can’t take it is a role already fulfilled by a regular figure of fun here.

My strategy?

Is to go out with good looking, educated, age-appropriate women.

That’s not a strategy, that’s basically the only thing I could reasonably do. Tell me about your strategy ideas.

You have offered nothing. It’s like you’re here just to remind people that you’re here. I do like what people have to say here. Particularly if it is snarky.

I have four dates to go on this week. They are all good looking, age-appropriate, educated, and let’s add the fourth unsaid requirement: At least a little bit into me.

They all have a problem or two, But so do I

At 73, It’s a very small club who can pull that rabbit out of their hat four times in the same week.

Share about yourself. Tell us about your life.

It will be less boring then your butt hurt whining. Over nothing

36 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

You led right off With an insult.

So I tossed one back. Can dish it out (barely) But can’t take it is a role already fulfilled by a regular figure of fun here.

My strategy?

Is to go out with good looking, educated, age-appropriate women.

That’s not a strategy, that’s basically the only thing I could reasonably do. Tell me about your strategy ideas.

You have offered nothing. It’s like you’re here just to remind people that you’re here. I do like what people have to say here. Particularly if it is snarky.

I have four dates to go on this week. They are all good looking, age-appropriate, educated, and let’s add the fourth unsaid requirement: At least a little bit into me.

They all have a problem or two, But so do I

At 73, It’s a very small club who can pull that rabbit out of their hat four times in the same week.

Share about yourself. Tell us about your life.

It will be less boring then your butt hurt whining. Over nothing

Insult? My first comment to you was that your reply to another member indicated that you didn't understand his post.

Your reply to that seemed very strange. Nothing in your reply indicated that you understood or that you were joking. Added to that, you came over as quite bad tempered. Not really joking.

Now, jumping over to this post of yours. Again, very tense. That to you again might be stating the obvious, but if, as you appear, to have a tendency to assume the worst and then to act accordingly, might that be affecting your relationships?

We aren't all in the same position. Better to learn to cope with yourself, rather than to work yourself up into a frenzy every time.

That's a strategy.

Learn to deal better with what you might consider challenging conversation. Nothing bad is happening here.

Can we get back to Cameroni and his quest for love?

Hopefully he will update us how the Phuket girl relationship is going.

Has he been to Sisaket yet?

Did he meet the parents?

Did he hear the Cambodian attack?

So many questions.

Cameroni, please update us long time supporters of this thread.

50 minutes ago, emptypockets said:

Can we get back to Cameroni and his quest for love?

Hopefully he will update us how the Phuket girl relationship is going.

Has he been to Sisaket yet?

Did he meet the parents?

Did he hear the Cambodian attack?

So many questions.

Cameroni, please update us long time supporters of this thread.

Apologies for the downtime. Well, I'd say it's going well, all things considered. We've both passed the 4 week period when we were doing tactile beautiful love all day long, it got a bit old. So we transitioned to deep meaningful talks instead. She loves to talk.

She had been threatening to go to Sisaket for New Year's, as she'd never celebrated New Year's without her family. But I managed to make her stay in Chiang Mai with my animal magnetism, and to be fair she started liking Chiang Mai a bit.

However, after New Year's unfortunately her mother had birthday on 7th January and there was some vote on 11th Jan. So she said she had to go down to Sisaket for her mother's birthday and to vote.

She actually wanted me to come to Sisaket and introduce me to the parents. I seriously considered it. However, I just started a big work project and needed quality internet, in short I had to work. And in her neck of the woods which is outside Sisaket City proper, there was no reliable resort. The closest decent one was 46 minutes from her place, not terrible, but the logistics just didn't stack up.

So since I had to work and needed good internet I decided to let her travel alone to homebase, and she will come back to be with me when things are done there.

Since I had so much work I just couldn't go. Sad, but that's the way it goes sometimes.

14 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

Apologies for the downtime. Well, I'd say it's going well, all things considered. We've both passed the 4 week period when we were doing tactile beautiful love all day long, it got a bit old. So we transitioned to deep meaningful talks instead. She loves to talk.

She had been threatening to go to Sisaket for New Year's, as she'd never celebrated New Year's without her family. But I managed to make her stay in Chiang Mai with my animal magnetism, and to be fair she started liking Chiang Mai a bit.

However, after New Year's unfortunately her mother had birthday on 7th January and there was some vote on 11th Jan. So she said she had to go down to Sisaket for her mother's birthday and to vote.

She actually wanted me to come to Sisaket and introduce me to the parents. I seriously considered it. However, I just started a big work project and needed quality internet, in short I had to work. And in her neck of the woods which is outside Sisaket City proper, there was no reliable resort. The closest decent one was 46 minutes from her place, not terrible, but the logistics just didn't stack up.

So since I had to work and needed good internet I decided to let her travel alone to homebase, and she will come back to be with me when things are done there.

Since I had so much work I just couldn't go. Sad, but that's the way it goes sometimes.

14 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

Apologies for the downtime. Well, I'd say it's going well, all things considered. We've both passed the 4 week period when we were doing tactile beautiful love all day long, it got a bit old. So we transitioned to deep meaningful talks instead. She loves to talk.

She had been threatening to go to Sisaket for New Year's, as she'd never celebrated New Year's without her family. But I managed to make her stay in Chiang Mai with my animal magnetism, and to be fair she started liking Chiang Mai a bit.

However, after New Year's unfortunately her mother had birthday on 7th January and there was some vote on 11th Jan. So she said she had to go down to Sisaket for her mother's birthday and to vote.

She actually wanted me to come to Sisaket and introduce me to the parents. I seriously considered it. However, I just started a big work project and needed quality internet, in short I had to work. And in her neck of the woods which is outside Sisaket City proper, there was no reliable resort. The closest decent one was 46 minutes from her place, not terrible, but the logistics just didn't stack up.

So since I had to work and needed good internet I decided to let her travel alone to homebase, and she will come back to be with me when things are done there.

Since I had so much work I just couldn't go. Sad, but that's the way it goes sometimes.

Gee, my Mrs has a house closer to Sisaket than that. You are welcome anytime. We have great wifi so work shouldn't be an issue.

16 minutes ago, emptypockets said:

Gee, my Mrs has a house closer to Sisaket than that. You are welcome anytime. We have great wifi so work shouldn't be an issue.

Thanks, who knows if I finish my work project early maybe I'll go down after all and I'll contact you.

Though it'll be tempting to have her fly back here, I kind of do want to see the provinces as well. Then we could fly to CM together. Her folks live about 46 minutes from the city centre of Sisaket city.

3 hours ago, TheThrees said:

I only joined a week ago.

You're rather lippy for a new kid.

50 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

You're rather lippy for a new kid.

That's a weird comment. Do you imagine that you have some status here?

The thread is mutating like a virus, now infecting new victims and indtoducing new drama.

Exciting times.

10 hours ago, TheThrees said:

I don't go on that many dates, as there are people nearby to share experiences.

what "experiences"?

7 hours ago, Celsius said:

Exciting times.

Not for me. While the last 40 days were extremely exciting, mainly thanks to Phuket Girl's unpredictable character, now is a time for introspection and evaluation, now that she's gone.

Thinking about it I probably made a mistake in passing on her invitation to meet her parents and going to Sisaket. I probably could have found a hotel with internet within a reasonable distance to her homebase. But we could not agree. She wanted a resort as close to possible to her homebase, but those did not look up to standard to me and unlikely to have internet. Anyway, that's a small issue, she'll be back soon, it would have been early to meet the parents, maybe better not to rush it.

Besides, I don't love family gatherings, much less other people's family gatherings.

The more interesting question is if Phuket Girl is really a good choice for a long term partner.

Whilst I love her strong character, healthy physicality and uninhibted approach to sex, her intelligence and generosity it has been a roller coaster ride and having gotten to know her better now, there are a few downsides as well. She is incredibly selfish and self-centred, as well as generous when she wants to be, we had real fights about the TV remote, often she was too lazy to go out to get breakfast and asked me to get it for her. Her domestic abilities are raw and embryonic, hard work is not in her nature.

The sad thing is she'll no doubt run a similar inventory about me now. Her mother's birthday did not come at a good time. After all I have plenty of downsides for her as well, the 30 year age gap being one, the kids, I don't exactly throw money around.

15 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

Not for me. While the last 40 days were extremely exciting, mainly thanks to Phuket Girl's unpredictable character, now is a time for introspection and evaluation, now that she's gone.

Thinking about it I probably made a mistake in passing on her invitation to meet her parents and going to Sisaket. I probably could have found a hotel with internet within a reasonable distance to her homebase. But we could not agree. She wanted a resort as close to possible to her homebase, but those did not look up to standard to me and unlikely to have internet. Anyway, that's a small issue, she'll be back soon, it would have been early to meet the parents, maybe better not to rush it.

Besides, I don't love family gatherings, much less other people's family gatherings.

The more interesting question is if Phuket Girl is really a good choice for a long term partner.

Whilst I love her strong character, healthy physicality and uninhibted approach to sex, her intelligence and generosity it has been a roller coaster ride and having gotten to know her better now, there are a few downsides as well. She is incredibly selfish and self-centred, as well as generous when she wants to be, we had real fights about the TV remote, often she was too lazy to go out to get breakfast and asked me to get it for her. Her domestic abilities are raw and embryonic, hard work is not in her nature.

The sad thing is she'll no doubt run a similar inventory about me now. Her mother's birthday did not come at a good time. After all I have plenty of downsides for her as well, the 30 year age gap being one, the kids, I don't exactly throw money around.

I can't imagine you had time to work at all?

And when this eventually brakes up, you managed to push her in the direction of thinking, why should I do this for free?

And some wonder why some girls with high marked value start to prostitute themselves.

This tread is an good example why

Just now, Hummin said:

I can't imagine you had time to work at all?

Absolutely right. Her being here really affected my work. Fortunately 3 of my projects were on hold mostly due to the christmas and new year breaks. But I hardly got any work done. It was mostly focusing on her, taking her to exciting and new places, getting food for her, going shopping with her.

I'm not complaining of course, it was wonderful to have a woman around again, and as a man doing things to make her happy is one of the things that you like to do.

2 minutes ago, Hummin said:

And when this eventually brakes up, you managed to push her in the direction of thinking, why should I do this for free?

There are no signs this will break up at this point. We were good the last few days. I think the mainreason why Thai girls think about doing the bar girl thing is that they think it's great money for doing what they love, having sex. We talked about this, and I noticed that whilst she hadn't been a freelancer herself, the constant offers rolling in, and of course previous boyfriends showering her with money actually made a bargirl/freelancer life seem enticing for her.

She did say so herself, said that she'd wanted to try it at some point, basically because she thought the money would be amazing. It didn't help that I showed her an escort site where girls were making 8000 baht a night, arguing that being a bargirl is a terrible idea.

14 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

now is a time for introspection and evaluation, now that she's gone.

Thinking about it I probably made a mistake in passing on her invitation to meet her parents and going to Sisaket.

The more interesting question is if Phuket Girl is really a good choice for a long term partner.

Whilst I love her strong character, healthy physicality and uninhibted approach to sex, She is incredibly selfish and self-centred, as well as generous when she wants to be,

The sad thing is she'll no doubt run a similar inventory about me now.

You didn't want to go and you didn't go. That's a good thing. She did wanted to go and she did. That's good too. You can go another time.

Sexual chemistry is everything. It can't sustain a relaiationship by itself, but without it, just get a dog. The blissed out honeymoon phase is over and now functionality issues are surfacing.

You are facing intercultural issues, and age gap issues. You have be pragmatic and forgiving and hope for the best. She sounds fairly typical of someone of her age and background.

The simple process of time passing and maturation will move things more your way than any of your efforts ever will. You say she has good character, so if that proves to be true over time, you have a shot at success.

I would definitely toss overboard any expectations of her being a homemaker. Sex papers over a lot of disagreement.

47 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

Besides, I don't love family gatherings, much less other people's family gatherings.

And you expect to date in Thailand without family gatherings?

Then you need to find someone whose parents are divorced or deceased.

13 minutes ago, Hummin said:

14 minutes ago, Hummin said:

And some wonder why some girls with high marked value start to prostitute themselves.

This tread is an good example why

I had my first pay for play date last night. My friend who dates an escort, who he gives many, many baht to every month, said he had someone I should meet.

We went to Black Cabin here in Bangkok which I def recco due to their great live music. You have to pay 1,000 baht to get in, redeemable for food and drink.

She was def a 9, and she invited me to play-spank her after knowing her for about 8 minutes. Super-up person, good English, asked me a lot of questions about myself and revealed a lot about herself, some of which may even be true. I asked for older, so she was 35.

Like Cameroni, I was suprised to find that there are women who do enjoy this kind of life and are open to a FWB if the chemistry is there on their side, like it is in his own deal. She would only get involved with me if she felt some attraction for me. She can afford to wait for a decent deal, here in the thirst capitol of the world.

I know a lot about Buddhism, particularly the local flavor, and she is fairly devout. She is attracted to me on a spiritual basis. I know, I am l laughing about that too.

I know of two other such arrangements. There can def be a grey area between sex worker and girlfriend here, with some slip-sliding between the two strata. My friend's escort partner has moved in with her daughter. They all go to a water park together, They are def a couple.

I worried about expectations-creep. My friend said to add another 50%. So a month with her would cost the same as a semi-luxury month on Koh Samui. I am respectful of the TOS here, so I will not give any numbers.

I fear that it would be like when I had deer in my garden. I carefully planted stuff that deer like to eat so that they would leave the broccoli alone. But the deer just ate everything in sight, and seemed to put the word out to other deer.

Anyway, I am going to a party tonight where my top two out of four current prospects will both be.

They both have asked about the other one. In both cases, I pretended I didn't remember the other one. I see a quick exit after about an hour before it gets complicated.

Who will get the rose in this very special Thai edition of The Golden Batchelor?

16 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

And you expect to date in Thailand without family gatherings?

Then you need to find someone whose parents are divorced or deceased.

Solid advice.

All of 4 of my current prospects have either no relatives or have them in a foreign country. I def screen for this. If they are a 7 and an orphan, they're an 8.5.

20 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

And you expect to date in Thailand without family gatherings?

Then you need to find someone whose parents are divorced or deceased.

You are correct. I attended two family gatherings in the past two weeks.