Thats the way they play or are until they take responsibility, but even then,,,,, If you want a relationship that works well with a Thai woman you need someone who had a foreigner before, or go for a government worker who have responsibility. For many thai woman who had a foreigner before above 30, it is now or never, or any unmarried woman above 30, even those numbers being stretched. After all 2026. And a woman who had a foreigner before often have better language, understanding, already knows how to cook western food, exercise a bit, better at driving, money, do not expect to much, while anything else could be possible. Most important to find someone who are truly happy to be with you, so you already understand where this go, you need to score a little bit below your expectations, or for some way lower. My immigration officer with the big ass is still available ;-)
