I came in Thailand 38 years ago and was happy to sleep with a different girl every night until I met my actual partner 25 years ago. Since then I have never cheated her, we are a happy family with a 23yo son.

I think you're going about it the wrong way. Just come out and tell her you want a Gik/second wife/side chick. Maybe have a discussion with her, and think about how it could help her too.

On 2/3/2026 at 12:40 PM, BritManToo said:

What if you're Muslim and have 3 wives ....... is that cheating?

There's always a right and a wrong. One wife is enough. If she's no good, you find another that is. Do you think those 3 wives appreciate being one of three? Love shouldn't be shared with more than one partner. It would never be even.

On 2/3/2026 at 9:35 AM, spidermike007 said:

Are you man enough to admit that it's moral behavior for you, but that your judgment does not necessarily apply to the entire planet, and every human being on this earth, regardless of the circumstances?

It has nothing to do with me. It has everything to do with what's right. You're either moral or you aren't. Cheating for any reason is an excuse, and men cheat some times because they say their wives aren't giving them any attention, not realizing it's their fault much of the time. It's always disrespect for someone that's supposed to be your number 1. If you want more than one, you date, and let the decent women find someone who looks at her as that number 1.

On 2/2/2026 at 1:43 AM, georgegeorgia said:

May I ask if that's the American way to spell "hunny "?.......honey

I think a research study is appropriate to get to the origin of the words use, meaning and spelling.

On 2/2/2026 at 12:45 PM, fredwiggy said:

It actually doesn't matter where you are, or if it's a Christian person or not. Cheating is disrespect towards your partner, even though some cultures think it's okay.Those cultures look down on their women as secondary, which they aren't.

Realistically? You're speaking through the lens of your own, personal cultural predisposition, and then you're applying it to the rest of humanity as though your morality is the morality of the rest of the world. It's not! We'll it may be, but only in you're own head.

Here, let me rephrase it to be more accurate:
"fredwiggy believe that 'cheating' is disrespect towards one's partner, even though fredwiggy acknowledges that some cultures think it's okay, although fredwiggy doesn't agree with those cultures." My guess is that fredwiggy also believes those other cultures to be "inferior" to his own. That pretty much summarizes it? Yeah? I'd also venture a guess that fredwiggy is a white guy from European descent who will never assimilate into the brown, non-Christian cultures that dominate Southeast Asia? Just guessing.....

47 minutes ago, connda said:

Realistically? You're speaking through the lens of your own, personal cultural predisposition, and then you're applying it to the rest of humanity as though your morality is the morality of the rest of the world. It's not! We'll it may be, but only in you're own head.

Here, let me rephrase it to be more accurate:
"fredwiggy believe that 'cheating' is disrespect towards one's partner, even though fredwiggy acknowledges that some cultures think it's okay, although fredwiggy doesn't agree with those cultures." My guess is that fredwiggy also believes those other cultures to be "inferior" to his own. That pretty much summarizes it? Yeah? I'd also venture a guess that fredwiggy is a white guy from European descent who will never assimilate into the brown, non-Christian cultures that dominate Southeast Asia? Just guessing.....

Actually, morality is morality , no matter where. Some cultures, misogynistic ones, have women as inferior or secondary. They aren't, but are partners to men. That this has been wrong for centuries makes no difference.

God, if you believe in him, has women as partners to men. Of course there are cultures, made by men, that has their women as slaves, subservient, hopefully reincarnated back as men, doesn't detract from the fact that they are male dominated, where some women are actually stoned to death in this modern age.

If you don't believe in God, then you only need to look at your partner as number 1 in your life, which is how a relationship works, and why the others fail. An over controlling or abusive, neglecting partner will always be a burden to that relationship. You partner should come first and above everything, besides your relationship with God. . If they don't, you don't belong in a relationship. People who cheat aren't putting their partner first but their own pleasure.

A person that cheats has all types of excuses for their straying behavior, but it's usually a lack of self esteem, narcissism or yes, culture (excuse) related so they can do whatever they want and somehow get away with it.

This isn't near caveman days, and things have been modernized, and will continue to do so, because of the bias, racist, misogynistic, controlling behavior of some individuals, along with some of their cultures. This has been slowly changing, as women are tired of being second. This doesn't mean, as it says in the Bible, that a woman cannot follow her man (husband), looking to him as the house and spiritual leader. Not a slave but a partner, where two become a team and work together using both strengths. If you look at the majority of marriages that work, neither are narcissistic, controlling, abusive or neglectful but partners.

Yes, I'm a white, European descent man that gets along with all cultures as I respect them, and don't tell them what to do as they are adults who can make their own choices.

The fact remains, you cheat on your partner, you don't deserve them. Better to stay single and play with those that do the same. Good people deserve good people. That's what morality means.

Do you think it's okay to cheat on a partner you're supposed to love, care for and cherish? How would you feel if she cheated on you? I've seen "men" who cried like a little girl when their lady strayed, and their lady strayed because she wasn't being treated as a partner, and or was cheated on. Very simple. If you're really being a good partner, meeting your partner's needs, and your needs aren't being met, you leave.

4 hours ago, Dan O said:

I think a research study is appropriate to get to the origin of the words use, meaning and spelling.

It's just a romantic, slang term for honey that some use.

45 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

It's just a romantic, slang term for honey that some use.

I know the meaning. It was a joke intended for GG the poster as he loves to research and compile statistics on random nonsense

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On 2/5/2026 at 8:17 PM, fredwiggy said:

Actually, morality is morality , no matter where. Some cultures, misogynistic ones, have women as inferior or secondary. They aren't, but are partners to men. That this has been wrong for centuries makes no difference.

God, if you believe in him, has women as partners to men. Of course there are cultures, made by men, that has their women as slaves, subservient, hopefully reincarnated back as men, doesn't detract from the fact that they are male dominated, where some women are actually stoned to death in this modern age.

If you don't believe in God, then you only need to look at your partner as number 1 in your life, which is how a relationship works, and why the others fail. An over controlling or abusive, neglecting partner will always be a burden to that relationship. You partner should come first and above everything, besides your relationship with God. . If they don't, you don't belong in a relationship. People who cheat aren't putting their partner first but their own pleasure.

A person that cheats has all types of excuses for their straying behavior, but it's usually a lack of self esteem, narcissism or yes, culture (excuse) related so they can do whatever they want and somehow get away with it.

This isn't near caveman days, and things have been modernized, and will continue to do so, because of the bias, racist, misogynistic, controlling behavior of some individuals, along with some of their cultures. This has been slowly changing, as women are tired of being second. This doesn't mean, as it says in the Bible, that a woman cannot follow her man (husband), looking to him as the house and spiritual leader. Not a slave but a partner, where two become a team and work together using both strengths. If you look at the majority of marriages that work, neither are narcissistic, controlling, abusive or neglectful but partners.

Yes, I'm a white, European descent man that gets along with all cultures as I respect them, and don't tell them what to do as they are adults who can make their own choices.

The fact remains, you cheat on your partner, you don't deserve them. Better to stay single and play with those that do the same. Good people deserve good people. That's what morality means.

Do you think it's okay to cheat on a partner you're supposed to love, care for and cherish? How would you feel if she cheated on you? I've seen "men" who cried like a little girl when their lady strayed, and their lady strayed because she wasn't being treated as a partner, and or was cheated on. Very simple. If you're really being a good partner, meeting your partner's needs, and your needs aren't being met, you leave.

I believe in long term karma. Short term no. But sooner or later bad people get it.

On 2/5/2026 at 3:01 PM, fredwiggy said:

It has nothing to do with me. It has everything to do with what's right. You're either moral or you aren't. Cheating for any reason is an excuse, and men cheat some times because they say their wives aren't giving them any attention, not realizing it's their fault much of the time. It's always disrespect for someone that's supposed to be your number 1. If you want more than one, you date, and let the decent women find someone who looks at her as that number 1.

In theory you are right but humans are flawed. If people are happy with open it can work.

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On 2/5/2026 at 8:17 PM, fredwiggy said:

Actually, morality is morality , no matter where. Some cultures, misogynistic ones, have women as inferior or secondary. They aren't, but are partners to men. That this has been wrong for centuries makes no difference.

God, if you believe in him, has women as partners to men. Of course there are cultures, made by men, that has their women as slaves, subservient, hopefully reincarnated back as men, doesn't detract from the fact that they are male dominated, where some women are actually stoned to death in this modern age.

If you don't believe in God, then you only need to look at your partner as number 1 in your life, which is how a relationship works, and why the others fail. An over controlling or abusive, neglecting partner will always be a burden to that relationship. You partner should come first and above everything, besides your relationship with God. . If they don't, you don't belong in a relationship. People who cheat aren't putting their partner first but their own pleasure.

A person that cheats has all types of excuses for their straying behavior, but it's usually a lack of self esteem, narcissism or yes, culture (excuse) related so they can do whatever they want and somehow get away with it.

This isn't near caveman days, and things have been modernized, and will continue to do so, because of the bias, racist, misogynistic, controlling behavior of some individuals, along with some of their cultures. This has been slowly changing, as women are tired of being second. This doesn't mean, as it says in the Bible, that a woman cannot follow her man (husband), looking to him as the house and spiritual leader. Not a slave but a partner, where two become a team and work together using both strengths. If you look at the majority of marriages that work, neither are narcissistic, controlling, abusive or neglectful but partners.

Yes, I'm a white, European descent man that gets along with all cultures as I respect them, and don't tell them what to do as they are adults who can make their own choices.

The fact remains, you cheat on your partner, you don't deserve them. Better to stay single and play with those that do the same. Good people deserve good people. That's what morality means.

Do you think it's okay to cheat on a partner you're supposed to love, care for and cherish? How would you feel if she cheated on you? I've seen "men" who cried like a little girl when their lady strayed, and their lady strayed because she wasn't being treated as a partner, and or was cheated on. Very simple. If you're really being a good partner, meeting your partner's needs, and your needs aren't being met, you leave.

Women are superior in a lot of ways. Multiple tasking. More nice. More loving. Asian women are mostly great. Western women have become butch. Very manly.

On 2/10/2026 at 7:39 AM, Harrisfan said:

Women are superior in a lot of ways. Multiple tasking. More nice. More loving. Asian women are mostly great. Western women have become butch. Very manly.

No one is superior. Some just think they are. Of course man act better. Western women in the US have always been much the same. Media has a lot believe otherwise. Karens have always been there, including the loudmouth Asian variety. Piss off an Asian woman and see the results. Again, media shows more now.

On 2/10/2026 at 7:31 AM, Harrisfan said:

In theory you are right but humans are flawed. If people are happy with open it can work.

Open from the beginning, which means honesty. Both sides agreeing.