3 minutes ago, roo860 said:

You need Anti Pommie Spray, available at most 7/11s. 🤭

Called soap I think

10 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

The most important factor is the husband-wife relationship. The children either benefit or lose because of it. Sex is an indication how the relationship is going, unless it involves one partner taking advantage of the other, which is making them a slave. Sex wanes in time with everyone and then what you have left is the partnership, being comfortable with each other and sharing what you brought to the relationship and what mutual things you had when you met.

How would you know, you never managed to hold onto any relationship.

And all your kids were looked after by a single parent.

What my wife brought to the relationship was her womb!

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

How would you know, you never managed to hold onto any relationship.

And all your kids were looked after by a single parent.

What my wife brought to the relationship was her womb!

I've been married three times. 7,7 and 6 years, along with a 6 year relationship with a girlfriend I had a child with until I left her and took my daughter.. I'm now with my girlfriend here over 5 years and when we move back to the states, she is invited if she wants to mover there herself. I held onto relationships until the other party proved themselves not capable of being a decent wife nor mother.

All my kids were looked after mostly by me, but also part time with their moms. This one will be all me when we leave. Nothing wrong with single parenting as long as the children have a good role model in the absent parent. This can be a grandparent, uncle, aunt, older sibling or family friend they see a lot.

3 hours ago, KhunLA said:

so deep conversations aren't happening

Most so called deep conversations would be about things we cannot change. So pointless unless to educate us of that fact.

Or to try and convince another that our opinions are correct. (so debates not conversations)

10 minutes ago, VocalNeal said:

Most so called deep conversations would be about things we cannot change. So pointless unless to educate us of that fact.

Or to try and convince another that our opinions are correct. (so debates not conversations)

My wife mostly talks about food, money and lottery numbers.

I don't feel I'm missing out by not participating in those conversations.

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

My wife mostly talks about food, money and lottery numbers.

I don't feel I'm missing out by not participating in those conversations.

In fairness she's probably not interested in sex using contraception is murder; either.🤔

5 minutes ago, VocalNeal said:

Most so called deep conversations would be about things we cannot change. So pointless unless to educate us of that fact.

Or to try and convince another that our opinions are correct. (so debates not conversations)

Like politics or religion

15 minutes ago, VocalNeal said:

Most so called deep conversations would be about things we cannot change. So pointless unless to educate us of that fact.

Or to try and convince another that our opinions are correct. (so debates not conversations)

Enlightening once ignorance is always a good thing. On the other, my conversations are usually not of the negative confrontational type.

Use to enjoy my conversations with a gent at one of Udon's hospitals, and frequently talked about his experiences during Vietnam War, up to current events, different PMs and administrations. Local horse racing, and life in general.

37 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

I've been married three times. 7,7 and 6 years, along with a 6 year relationship with a girlfriend I had a child with until I left her and took my daughter.. I'm now with my girlfriend here over 5 years and when we move back to the states, she is invited if she wants to mover there herself. I held onto relationships until the other party proved themselves not capable of being a decent wife nor mother.

All my kids were looked after mostly by me, but also part time with their moms. This one will be all me when we leave. Nothing wrong with single parenting as long as the children have a good role model in the absent parent. This can be a grandparent, uncle, aunt, older sibling or family friend they see a lot.

So, your Gf already has her tourist visa for USA?

1 minute ago, EVENKEEL said:

So, your Gf already has her tourist visa for USA?

First we have to leave and re-establish there. Then I can arrange for her to visit.

49 minutes ago, VocalNeal said:

In fairness she's probably not interested in sex using contraception is murder; either.🤔

We never used contraception (as far as I know).

My immortal soul is intact!

58 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

I've been married three times. 7,7 and 6 years, along with a 6 year relationship with a girlfriend I had a child with until I left her and took my daughter.. I'm now with my girlfriend here over 5 years and when we move back to the states, she is invited if she wants to mover there herself. I held onto relationships until the other party proved themselves not capable of being a decent wife nor mother.

All my kids were looked after mostly by me, but also part time with their moms. This one will be all me when we leave. Nothing wrong with single parenting as long as the children have a good role model in the absent parent. This can be a grandparent, uncle, aunt, older sibling or family friend they see a lot.

Short times then,

My first marriage was 30 years, my current marriage just passed 16 years.

2 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Short times then,

My first marriage was 30 years, my current marriage just passed 16 years.

3 short times (2 - 1 - 1), now 20+ year death sentence & counting

4 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Short times then,

My first marriage was 30 years, my current marriage just passed 16 years.

Which shows time doesn't guarantee permanence.

11 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Short times then,

My first marriage was 30 years, my current marriage just passed 16 years.

Yeah, but that's even worse when it lasts 30 years and then you have to call it quits.

Just now, save the frogs said:

Yeah, but that's even worse when it lasts 30 years and then you have to call it quits.

Only if you lose money. The woman is old.

18 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Only if you lose money. The woman is old.

The man doesn't age?

That's complete crap that is repeated by everyone who just is unable or too lazy to learn something new in general. Specially as people age. This type of person would have had the same issue at 20-30 too. This entire age part thing is long time debunked, it has much more to do with people hating change. Hence virtually anyone that did a few years Thai prison speaks fluent Thai too, then they suddenly can even they are 60.

3 hours ago, JimHuaHin said:

For some people, learning a new language is very easy, for others it takes time and effort (especially those older than about 40 years); for many elderly people learning a new language is extremely difficult, apart from a few words and phrases (and ever some elderly, like myself, are finding it increasingly difficult to remember words in their mother tongue).

5 minutes ago, BuffaloRider said:

That's complete crap that is repeated by everyone who just is unable or too lazy to learn something new in general. Specially as people age. This type of person would have had the same issue at 20-30 too. This entire age part thing is long time debunked, it has much more to do with people hating change. Hence virtually anyone that did a few years Thai prison speaks fluent Thai too, then they suddenly can even they are 60.

It actually is easier to learn a new language the younger you are. This can be seen in one way how young children can learn just by being in the room. The best years to learn 2 languages are from birth until 18 or so. the best times being around 5-7. Yes, if a person really wants to learn a new language, it is possible and your situation by being in prison is one. Constant exposure to the new language helps as long as you're interested in it. It's just practice and the more you want to learn, the easier it is. Adults already speak one language and can learn another one in enough time. Desire is more than any obstacles. Older people do have memory decline and less plasticity than younger ones, which are obstacles to overcome.

I feel fortunate to be one of those people who feels absolutely no need to belong. I never felt like I belonged in America and I certainly don't feel fully integrated here, though I do have Thai friends and I'm close to a lot of my wife's Thai friends.

I like the Thai people, I find most to be very pleasant, I love their sense of humor, I love their willingness to laugh and joke and play, and I don't find any of that in America, where people take themselves way too seriously, and walk around with very heavy hearts. I'll take Thailand any day of the week.

2 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

First we have to leave and re-establish there. Then I can arrange for her to visit.

A visa for her is needed, you can't arrange anything. She gets the visa, you have nothing to do with it. Marriage visa?????

2 minutes ago, EVENKEEL said:

A visa for her is needed, you can't arrange anything. She gets the visa, you have nothing to do with it. Marriage visa?????

No, she'll need a tourist visa. I know how one is obtained, and what she'll need to do when she gets an appointment. Arranging by me is paying for it and getting her to the US.

15 hours ago, blaze master said:

I threw myself into the culture in the south when I first arrived

Not many foreigners around. Met a thai guy who enjoyed cannabis like I did. He took me under his wing and showed me many things. Intoruiced me to his group of friends who i hung out with regularly and gained some good insight. When I lived in bkk I met a few famous thai as well. One a musician and another who was a half half. Still to this day im good friends with all of them.

Ive mixed with some of the wealthiest families in the country as well. Got to know that side quite well too. Met government officials. Ministers. University professors. Etc. All walks of life from the poorest to the top top.

Connected with the 2 in bkk more as they had both lived outside thailand for a number of years. This helped them understand my point of view and they helped me see more of the thai mentality.

Ur only brag about people u actually never meet.

6 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

I feel fortunate to be one of those people who feels absolutely no need to belong. I never felt like I belonged in America and I certainly don't feel fully integrated here, though I do have Thai friends and I'm close to a lot of my wife's Thai friends.

I like the Thai people, I find most to be very pleasant, I love their sense of humor, I love their willingness to laugh and joke and play, and I don't find any of that in America, where people take themselves way too seriously, and walk around with very heavy hearts. I'll take Thailand any day of the week.

People are the same here as they are in the US in many ways. The difference is that poor hide their misery behind smiles, as losing face here is a no-no, even though it's not practiced as well as it has been in the past. It's also hidden in the amount of people here who drink daily, along with the drug use. People in the west are more outspoken in everything.

Gossip is pretty much the same, as are the addictions to soap operas. You can't speak your mind here as you can in the US, and that comes from fear.

Hiding your feelings isn't always a good thing, and depression is a major problem here which doesn't have near the resources the west has.

Living in the US 62 years, along with yearly visiting, I saw a great sense of humor in all I was around. Also anger and a serious tone. Pretty much the same as here, though in general being loud isn't happening as much here. At least not yet. The only thing I see and heard about more in the west is the road rage, although I'm thinking that will also increase here.

We don't see but a fraction of what goes on here daily, so it's impossible to judge more than what we do observe. If you spend an equal amount of time in Thailand and another country, and could fully understand what they are saying, integrating in both, it would be easier to see the differences and likenesses.

1 hour ago, fredwiggy said:

It actually is easier to learn a new language the younger you are. This can be seen in one way how young children can learn just by being in the room. The best years to learn 2 languages are from birth until 18 or so. the best times being around 5-7. Yes, if a person really wants to learn a new language, it is possible and your situation by being in prison is one. Constant exposure to the new language helps as long as you're interested in it. It's just practice and the more you want to learn, the easier it is. Adults already speak one language and can learn another one in enough time. Desire is more than any obstacles. Older people do have memory decline and less plasticity than younger ones, which are obstacles to overcome.

This is entirely different subject. This is the part where the brain still develops. This has nothing to do with adults and capabilities itself. Also i am not giving my opinion or debating this, i am literally stating the facts from countless studies.

It's the same that it is long proven a hoax that playing puzzles prevents or helps against / with alzheimers. All these things originate from commercial companies selling you something (games, services, products). It's the same with sports drinks around dehydration/hydration or breakfast being 'important' too.

1 minute ago, BuffaloRider said:

This is entirely different subject. This is the part where the brain still develops. This has nothing to do with adults and capabilities itself.

I did mention that adults can learn. They do all the time. It's just the easiest very young. The older one is, the harder but still possible with that desire. Like I said, "Older people do have memory decline and less plasticity than younger ones, which are obstacles to overcome." If one really wants to learn something, all are possible but harder as we age. The brain, like the body, declines in ways that are hard, if not impossible, to overcome. It doesn't mean some things can't be learned, especially the ones we use our brain for, but with age comes that cognitive decline. I am referring to expat age, from the 60's onward, as it is a lot easier under 60 to learn many things, both physical and mental.

2 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

Only if you lose money. The woman is old.

Getting a new one that was 20 years younger and weighed under 50Kg was an unexpected bonus.

2 hours ago, BuffaloRider said:

That's complete crap that is repeated by everyone who just is unable or too lazy to learn something new in general. Specially as people age. This type of person would have had the same issue at 20-30 too. This entire age part thing is long time debunked, it has much more to do with people hating change. Hence virtually anyone that did a few years Thai prison speaks fluent Thai too, then they suddenly can even they are 60.

I learned to read, write and speak Central Thai when I first arrived in Thailand.

Complete waste of time as everyone in Chiang Mai was speaking Lanna.

Although I did once meet a nice girl in a bar that said "Sorry, I only speak English and Akha"

Useful for road signs, and those double priced menus with different prices in English menu and Thai menu though. (along with road signs "wait for green light before turning left)

7 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

Being independent is good. Never get too close to people.

It's nice to have a network, and a few trusted people in life.

16 hours ago, Terrance8812 said:

AI take on Harriet!

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Here's me thinking you were referring to the Karen Carpenter clone.