On 2/17/2026 at 6:13 AM, Harrisfan said:

Most women never see themselves as bad. They often blame men.

And in many cases they are correct to blame a specific man.

But what about the 'other side of the coin, men with split personalities / men carrying 'hurt' from their childhood, and in same cases continuing the 'hurt' on their own children because it seemed normal.

Just one case, when I was young teenager in my birth wetern country, the farang man who lived opposite regularly beat up his his wife and the 3 youngest of his 4 children.

Neighbors called police regularly. The 'father' told all he dicn't beat up his oldest son because he wanted his son to watch and observe and learn how to punish family members / learn how to punish people in advance with the line 'this (punishment' is to show you in advance what will happen if you do something bad / naughty.

Eventually a senior cop was called to an incident where the father of the family had savagely beat up a toddler (his son).

In those days in many smaller towns the local snr. cop was also judge and jury. Snr cop (a big guy) took the father to his car, gave him $50 for gasoline and said 'drive' and never come back here and don't ever contact you wife.

Snr cop also quickly contacted several welfare organizations to help the wife and kids to have enough food, clothing, school clothing, electricity bill paid etc.

10 minutes ago, scorecard said:

And in many cases they are correct to blame a specific man.

But what about the 'other side of the coin, men with split personalities / men carrying 'hurt' from their childhood, and in same cases continuing the 'hurt' on their own children because it seemed normal.

Just one case, when I was young teenager in my birth wetern country, the farang man who lived opposite regularly beat up his his wife and the 3 youngest of his 4 children.

Neighbors called police regularly. The 'father' told all he dicn't beat up his oldest son because he wanted his son to watch and observe and learn how to punish family members / learn how to punish people in advance with the line 'this (punishment' is to show you in advance what will happen if you do something bad / naughty.

Eventually a senior cop was called to an incident where the father of the family had savagely beat up a toddler (his son).

In those days in many smaller towns the local snr. cop was also judge and jury. Snr cop (a big guy) took the father to his car, gave him $50 for gasoline and said 'drive' and never come back here and don't ever contact you wife.

Snr cop also quickly contacted several welfare organizations to help the wife and kids to have enough food, clothing, school clothing, electricity bill paid etc.

Bogans most likely. Non bogans dont do that. Why do women marry bogans? Cause they are stupid.

13 hours ago, metisdead said:

Some baiting troll posts and the replies making it personal have been removed.

Can't we just put Harrisfan on the naughty step, then the bad atmosphere pervading the whole forum goes away?

On 2/16/2026 at 11:57 PM, fredwiggy said:

That's true, and you can sometimes help someone you love overcome that past with a loving care. The problem lies in that you are taking on a lot of hurt and anger from that past, and it can many times be put on you. If they can trust you and let that past go, knowing they're now in the arms of a loving person and not one out to hurt them, they can heal over time.

If they have no trust for anyone, the product of a hurtful childhood, many times they'll have developed narcissistic tendencies, taught by a narcissistic parent, and then again take that pain and anger out on everyone they come across. Partners, friends and their own children.

Some people will never heal, because they think everyone is the same as what they saw growing up, which they of course aren't. This is a person you don't went to be around, as they won't get any better and will actually get worse as they age. If you stay, you're own sanity will be tested and you'll start out the enabler, and end up with your own issues. Depression and anger, all because you tried to help another heal.

If they recognize they are the ones with a problem, it's up to them to seek unbiased professional help. Over time, most of the issues people can have can be resolved, or at least reduced enough that they can lead a happier life.

Have you healed anyone over time, as you put it?

How would you explain men's behaviour, such as an inability to ever admit they are wrong. From what might such a trait develop?

Perhaps you might have read about that kind of thing...or did you just specialise in putting all the blame on females?

28 minutes ago, IsaanT said:

Can't we just put Harrisfan on the naughty step, then the bad atmosphere pervading the whole forum goes away?

I think a better idea, would be to ban his trolling fan club, from replying to any of his posts, as they ruin every decent thread he starts.

Amazing they hate everything he posts, but can't seem to get enough of him. Ignore feature would be my choice, if someone annoyed me that much.

Might just be some kind of gay reaction, as I do read, opposites attack, and maybe they're hoping, just one day ... they must go through a lot tissues, just thinking about him.

2 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

I think a better idea, would be to ban his trolling fan club, from replying to any of his posts, as they ruin every decent thread he starts.

I wonder whether his trolls ruin them or whether his thin-skinned reactions to anyone not agreeing with his basic premise ruin them...? Either way, I see him as the root cause of the bad atmosphere lingering over the forum (take him out and the trolls wouldn't react).

11 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

I think a better idea, would be to ban his trolling fan club, from replying to any of his posts, as they ruin every decent thread he starts.

I fully agree, he is mercilessly stalked by trolls and lefties.

And I enjoy many of his threads.

One of the most interesting and prolific thread starters on this forum.

I've actually given up starting threads as it's just not worth the abuse from all these trolls.

16 hours ago, KhunLA said:

Only dated, lived with, one nutter, which everyone should, at least once. Opened my eyes to some reality of women, you just don't really know about, until experiencing a nutter.

Prior to, I leaned to believing women, when they cried abuse, or played the victim. Never again, and unless seeing personally, that 'believe every woman' thingy, that was being pushed a while back (before Tara Reade) ... that's BS. Too many nutters out there.

I've always dated nutters,

My pals once said, if I walked through a room with 99 nice ladies and 1 violent psychopath, I'd walk out with the nutter on my arm.

I examined that idea, and realized they were correct, neither of us would even need to speak, they wanted me and I wanted them, it's almost as if we could smell each other. Totally weird!

2 minutes ago, IsaanT said:

I wonder whether they ruin them or whether his thin-skinned reactions to anyone not agreeing with his basic premise ruin them...? Either way, I see him as the root cause of the bad atmosphere lingering over the forum (take him out and the trolls wouldn't react).

You would miss out on some of the most interesting threads, unless you like talking about Trump all day.

That's like accusing drugs, alcohol and tobacco, nobody forced you to use, as the problem, not the user of.

3 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I fully agree, he is mercilessly stalked by trolls and lefties.

And I enjoy many of his threads.

One of the most interesting and prolific thread starters on this forum.

I've actually given up starting threads as it's just not worth the abuse from all these trolls.

I suspect there is some irony involved where two posters who are complaining about Trolls and Lefties, taking the thread completely off-topic, are the ones complaining about Trolls.

Anything on women(or at least people in general, with split personalities?

Edit. I take that back, as you've posted on-topic since 😊

10 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

I suspect there is some irony involved where two posters who are complaining about Trolls and Lefties, taking the thread completely off-topic, are the ones complaining about Trolls.

Anything on women(or at least people in general, with split personalities?

Two posts up Jake

Just now, BritManToo said:

Two posts up Jake

I guess you didn't see my edit 😊

How my FIS High suggestion going?

9 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

I guess you didn't see my edit 😊

How my FIS High suggestion going?

Their cheapest bud offering is 7.5bht/gm, but my fridge has at least a years worth of 1.5bht/gm in it, so no need to buy more at the moment.

Back on topic,

My wife can turn from affectionate and loving, to barking like a dog in less than a full sentence, and with no positive or negative input from me, I'll just be sitting there thinking WTF?

I wouldn't be without her.

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

Their cheapest bug offering is 7.5bht/gm, but my fridge has at least a years worth of 1.5bht/gm in it, so no need to buy more at the moment.

I know what their cheapest offering is(8 baht), as I recommended them to you in the first place. 😊

7 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Their cheapest bud offering is 7.5bht/gm, but my fridge has at least a years worth of 1.5bht/gm in it, so no need to buy more at the moment.

Back on topic,

My wife can turn from affectionate and loving, to barking like a dog in less than a full sentence, and with no positive or negative input from me, I'll just be sitting there thinking WTF?

I wouldn't be without her.

I can relate to such experiences. It's taught me to be a lot more accepting, 😊 though still with the ability to manage such situations.

I think that why I tend to defend 'western women' here. I think they get a bit of a bad rap. They are still our sisters and mothers, so we have to defend/protect them, even if they seem strange.

23 minutes ago, IsaanT said:

I wonder whether his trolls ruin them or whether his thin-skinned reactions to anyone not agreeing with his basic premise ruin them...? Either way, I see him as the root cause of the bad atmosphere lingering over the forum (take him out and the trolls wouldn't react).

I have no issue with opinions. I object to stalking and trolling. Post your opinions. Don't discuss me.

The point of forums is to discuss TOPICS.

43 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

Amazing they hate everything he posts, but can't seem to get enough of him. Ignore feature would be my choice, if someone annoyed me that much.

They aren't here to discuss topics. They get a dopamine fix from trolling strangers. They lack dopamine from other areas in their life be it exercise or other activities. So they get a fix on here. They move from my topics to gg to Trump topics.

5 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

I have no issue with opinions. I object to stalking and trolling. Posts your opinions. Don't discuss me.

The point of forums is to discuss TOPICS.

Mmmmm...perhaps. Familiarity breeds contempt. Over time you build up pictures of characters, deciding whether they can be taken seriously etc

Similarly in nature, friend or foe.

For some, they may be unable to convince themselves to take your posts seriously, possibly due to perceived past behaviours.

Personally, I would suggest that you don't worry about it and don't react in a way that takes your thread in a direction that you don't want it to go.

The Internet is a place wherein millions upon millions of people have a perspective different from your own. If you cannot accept different perspectives, you are going to have a hard time on the Internet.

It's not a normal arena. In normal life, you take your surroundings into account before acting. On the Internet, you can simply speak your mind without needing to consider those parameters, as they don't exist. You are in your safe space and they are in theirs. A free exchange, unencumbered by the need to consider specific individual needs.

Some things you write will trigger emotions in others to whom your weren't even addressing, in unintended ways. That's the nature of this kind of communication. If you cannot stand the heat, then get out of the kitchen. Otherwise accept the way that people see you and make changes, if you don't like how they see you and wish to be viewed in another way. Getting mad or upset with people about their personal perspectives, only makes you look mad or upset.

Find a way through and continue the conversation, especially with people who may have a different perspective.

I've met many men with split personalities here over the years It's not exclusive to women.

Most of them think they were in the SAS. Or The American equivalent

As a man , you can not talk with a woman. You must be a gay or ladyboy.

You may try, but it is wasted time.

Women sure hang in trauma from past, I have noticed it. At one time it just could pop up for some unexplainable reason.

However men the same, but mostly hidden and not coming out.

Was a man on tv , they asked him about war long time ago. Despite the long time ago, he (85 or so) started crying.

PTSS stil after all those years, lived with it al those years. You cant erase memory and it can pop up.

It seems negative emotions last for life in your brain, but then to control it in your life.

Yesterday, heard, saw, people need to take in Lithium. It would be good for the brain and the question was, could it prevent dementia.

It was said in the docu, my country is going to add Li in the water ! So we will be guinea pigs in this trial.

It is never done, as companies cant claim as patent and therefor not really making money.

Li is already used with brain issues as medication, but now it will be a first ever trial to see and collect data! 18000000 people.

No clue if they also would put it in bottled water or anything else.

Maybe women feeling better then?!

22 minutes ago, xtrnuno41 said:

As a man , you can not talk with a woman. You must be a gay or ladyboy.

You may try, but it is wasted time.

Women sure hang in trauma from past, I have noticed it. At one time it just could pop up for some unexplainable reason.

However men the same, but mostly hidden and not coming out.

Was a man on tv , they asked him about war long time ago. Despite the long time ago, he (85 or so) started crying.

PTSS stil after all those years, lived with it al those years. You cant erase memory and it can pop up.

It seems negative emotions last for life in your brain, but then to control it in your life.

Yesterday, heard, saw, people need to take in Lithium. It would be good for the brain and the question was, could it prevent dementia.

It was said in the docu, my country is going to add Li in the water ! So we will be guinea pigs in this trial.

It is never done, as companies cant claim as patent and therefor not really making money.

Li is already used with brain issues as medication, but now it will be a first ever trial to see and collect data! 18000000 people.

No clue if they also would put it in bottled water or anything else.

Maybe women feeling better then?!

How do you pick up chicks without talking to them?

On 2/16/2026 at 11:13 PM, Harrisfan said:

Most women never see themselves as bad. They often blame men.

Most men never see themselves as bad. They often blame women.

Lots of that on this Forum. Misogyny oozes from so many here.

Guys, just take a moment and try to be honest. Was every romantic failure the woman's fault, or maybe, just maybe, YOU are the problem?

There's a reason so many now are Incels. Over 30% of American men reach the age of 30 as virgins. A growing percentage of men, MAGAs in particular, have had no sex in the last year. Most all blame women for the men's failure.

Two things I know:

1) There are at least as many effed up men as women, and maybe more men than women

2) There's never been a better time to be a Chad.

22 minutes ago, Wingate said:

Most men never see themselves as bad. They often blame women.

Lots of that on this Forum. Misogyny oozes from so many here.

Guys, just take a moment and try to be honest. Was every romantic failure the woman's fault, or maybe, just maybe, YOU are the problem?

There's a reason so many now are Incels. Over 30% of American men reach the age of 30 as virgins. A growing percentage of men, MAGAs in particular, have had no sex in the last year. Most all blame women for the men's failure.

Two things I know:

1) There are at least as many effed up men as women, and maybe more men than women

2) There's never been a better time to be a Chad.

30yo virgins? I don't believe it. They could hire hookers?

On 2/18/2026 at 11:55 AM, IsmeUno said:

Have you healed anyone over time, as you put it?

How would you explain men's behaviour, such as an inability to ever admit they are wrong. From what might such a trait develop?

Perhaps you might have read about that kind of thing...or did you just specialise in putting all the blame on females?

I've helped those around me who are suffering from depression. When you post, make sure you don't add a veiled shot at someone who's really into the psychological aspect of life. I put the blame exactly where it deserves to be put. It's always best to first look at yourself when a problem between two arises. That way you can eliminate your possible factor into it, or fix whatever you did so you can see if it's the other party. When the other partner lies, manipulates, cheats, abuses, isn't doing their share with the children or anything else, you can leave them as soon as possible so those children, if there are any, can have a more stable home life.

7 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

I've helped those around me who are suffering from depression. When you post, make sure you don't add a veiled shot at someone who's really into the psychological aspect of life. I put the blame exactly where it deserves to be put. It's always best to first look at yourself when a problem between two arises. That way you can eliminate your possible factor into it, or fix whatever you did so you can see if it's the other party. When the other partner lies, manipulates, cheats, abuses, isn't doing their share with the children or anything else, you can leave them as soon as possible so those children, if there are any, can have a more stable home life.

I don't doubt that you make an effort, but I think you fail to live up to the rhetoric that you espouse.

For example, here:

7 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

It's always best to first look at yourself when a problem between two arises

But whenever we have a discussion, you almost always fall back to the same position. I expressed it thus;

How would you explain men's behaviour, such as an inability to ever admit they are wrong. From what might such a trait develop?

So, from my perspective and I guess others who may have observed the same thing, how can someone who chooses to think that he is ALWAYS right, be able to "first look at yourself when a problem between two arises".

Living with someone who insists that they are right all of the time, when all around can see that they are not, would be intolerable. That is at least partially why, some people observing your actions over time, understand that behaviour might have a serious impact on your relationships.

But you appear completely oblivious to it.

Remember, most people here have not ever met each other. There is no personal enmity at all. I describe exactly what I see. It's up to you if you choose to believe that I am stating exactly what I see or if you choose to ignore it and believe that I am some sort of hateful troll.

It doesn't change anything, other than stopping you from acknowledging serious flaws and choosing to improve.

You act as if you are perfect and don't need to change anything. Sad, for the people who had to live with that. That's not to say that you are a bad person. But you are stunting your own growth and will continue to do so until you acknowledge that you still have a way to go. We all do. You aren't special.

Don't get me wrong. I've been through a lot of the stuff you've been writing about. It's not as if we are not on the same page on some things. The problem is that you like to act as if you know it all.

15 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

I don't doubt that you make an effort, but I think you fail to live up to the rhetoric that you espouse.

For example, here:

But whenever we have a discussion, you almost always fall back to the same position. I expressed it thus;

So, from my perspective and I guess others who may have observed the same thing, how can someone who chooses to think that he is ALWAYS right, be able to "first look at yourself when a problem between two arises".

Living with someone who insists that they are right all of the time, when all around can see that they are not, would be intolerable. That is at least partially why, some people observing your actions over time, understand that behaviour might have a serious impact on your relationships.

But you appear completely oblivious to it.

Remember, most people here have not ever met each other. There is no personal enmity at all. I describe exactly what I see. It's up to you if you choose to believe that I am stating exactly what I see or if you choose to ignore it and believe that I am some sort of hateful troll.

It doesn't change anything, other than stopping you from acknowledging serious flaws and choosing to improve.

You act as if you are perfect and don't need to change anything. Sad, for the people who had to live with that. That's not to say that you are a bad person. But you are stunting your own growth and will continue to do so until you acknowledge that you still have a way to go. We all do. You aren't special.

Don't get me wrong. I've been through a lot of the stuff you've been writing about. It's not as if we are not on the same page on some things. The problem is that you like to act as if you know it all.

That you came back after my leaving the forum for two days has proven my point, and now everyone here know exactly who you are and how you operate.

That you keep trying to pointing out my faults, that I'm a narcissist, even when I've explained many times what a narcissist is and how they operate, shows two things. You are indeed suffering from that narcissistic personality disorder, and that all of your replies to me here are simple deflection, trying to get others to side with you. It didn't work, as this is an adult forum, and everyone knows full well how a narcissist operates, especially your kind.

Answering for others, like you do many times, is also a type of action trying to get others on your side, thinking they'll follow someone as ignorant as you've shown here all along. Members here aren't stupid, but you certainly are. I have never seen anyone here say they are always right. I certainly never have.

Many people here have quite a lot of knowledge on certain subjects, as I do. There is one fact though. You are never right, both in the way you act towards others, and also your severe lack of knowledge and common sense. You obviously have a very low self esteem, needing to troll others here to feed that suffering ego. That you are so obvious and not see this is also a huge fault in your personality, and like I've mentioned so many times before, you learned this growing up. People who take what other's say and twist things around to suit their narrative are mentally ill. Your best bet would be to leave this forum, as you've been busted many times before, and this time more have seen you.

One more thing. Don't patronize me. You are in your own little world, and I, along with most others here, aren't part of it. My work is done.

14 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

That you came back after my leaving the forum for two days has proven my point, and now everyone here know exactly who you are and how you operate.

That you keep trying to pointing out my faults, that I'm a narcissist, even when I've explained many times what a narcissist is and how they operate, shows two things. You are indeed suffering from that narcissistic personality disorder, and that all of your replies to me here are simple deflection, trying to get others to side with you. It didn't work, as this is an adult forum, and everyone knows full well how a narcissist operates, especially your kind.

Answering for others, like you do many times, is also a type of action trying to get others on your side, thinking they'll follow someone as ignorant as you've shown here all along. Members here aren't stupid, but you certainly are. I have never seen anyone here say they are always right. I certainly never have.

Many people here have quite a lot of knowledge on certain subjects, as I do. There is one fact though. You are never right, both in the way you act towards others, and also your severe lack of knowledge and common sense. You obviously have a very low self esteem, needing to troll others here to feed that suffering ego. That you are so obvious and not see this is also a huge fault in your personality, and like I've mentioned so many times before, you learned this growing up. People who take what other's say and twist things around to suit their narrative are mentally ill. Your best bet would be to leave this forum, as you've been busted many times before, and this time more have seen you.

One more thing. Don't patronize me. You are in your own little world, and I, along with most others here, aren't part of it. My work is done.

Why the rant? Why would anyone care or notice that you left the forum for two days? Do you think anyone noticed? You are so ridiculously full of yourself. A real narcissist. Of that there is little doubt.

On that note, if, as you claim, everyone knows full well how a narcissist operates, then why do you go to such lengths to 'explain' it to us? It is of course to put yourself in the clear. That it couldn't possibly be you. Action speaks louder than words.

We see your actions. Your words are just hot air. You spend a lot of time trying to create a carefully manicured image. But it's just a house of cards.

You stated that you always look at yourself first in any interaction between two people. Are you doing that now or do you think that only you can be right in this scenario?

My belief is that you have a serious mental issue. Your ranting online only serves to confirm.

22 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

How do you pick up chicks without talking to them?

How do you "pick up" girls who dont understand what you are saying, language barrier?

Just now, xtrnuno41 said:

How do you "pick up" girls who dont understand what you are saying, language barrier?

I speak Thai so no worries here

On 2/19/2026 at 6:41 AM, fredwiggy said:

I've helped those around me who are suffering from depression.

Whom and how? Actually I know whom, so let's just go with how.