On 2/17/2026 at 5:18 PM, Prubangboy said:

Your ex and your current one

Have they ever met?

If so, how did it go?

There's been a few incidents on Tree Town and soi Buakhou, where guys have taken their new girlfriend to the bar where the ex-girlfriend worked, it didn't turn out nice.

There a few YouTube videos to view online 😂

Bringing ur gf to meet ur exgf is not a polite thing to do.Makes both looking down on.

I have never and will never do that.I not even hold hands with my gf in public.

That said i experience a funny thing in the old golden bar in sukumvit where hooters is now.My favorite bar for years.A German guy came inside for some beers..nice and polite man.He told me he couldn't get any girls ftom the bar.I asked him why and he said he didn't know but the girls could sit and drink with him but not go with him.I speak thai well so i asked the girls when he went to the toilet.The reason was that the size of his banana was so big the girls couldn't take it.I wanted to be honest to this nice person so i told him what they told me.He said he have the same problem in Germany.So the girls could only do HJ but not BJ..To be honest i felt sorry for him.

There's a 34 years age gap between the two...

Nice

My Ex? What a sad statement, that you think everyone is the same and has the same trail of broken relationships. I have been married to the same woman for 45 years.

On 2/17/2026 at 7:40 AM, Harrisfan said:

Why would you do that? What good will happen?

Having handled many divorces over the years - I would say that such a meeting will rarely do you any good- and could lead to a lot of issues further down the line

Just now, Legal Lifeline said:

Having handled many divorces over the years - I would say that such a meeting will rarely do you any good- and could lead to a lot of issues further down the line

I would agree. No upside only downside.

1 minute ago, Harrisfan said:

I would agree. No upside only downside.

I am sure such a meeting will nearly always end badly

I could see the two women starting a lesbian relationship and you get excluded. Or they become friends and slag you off over the phone.

Unless you are going to have a threesome I can't see the upside. Most women arent into that.

I am just not seeing the downside. What disasters have you witnessed?

It’s 90 minutes in a restaurant + 15 of loom-viewing. With other people. Me and my ex haven’t slept together in 3 years.

It’s like when I met her Mom.

Chiang Dao, not much here. Had a hot tub soak. In Thailand, more of a luke warm tub.

Then we had a look at an orange grove and some lunch in a jungle cafe down a steep path. She loves to be in an orange grove. Hang Lay curry, never less than a B+.

She bought a hill tribe bead bracelet, and one for my ex at the jungle cafe. 100% Chinese clientele except for us.

She’s working at her law job. I’m doing this.

Then sex, dinner, sex, and sending up a candle lantern to signify our love. It comes free with the resort.

My girlfriend first met my ex's mother, then my ex. Grandma came up to my girlfriend when she was at my house and talked to her. She told my girlfriend her daughter (ex) was wrong what she did to me, that he always treated her well, and helped us all the time on the farm, more than her own sons did, and paid for rice harvesting a few years with the machine instead of them having to cut it by hand. She told my girlfriend she was beautiful right in front of my ex, who came then. Should have seen the look on her face.

My ex was in the car with us once as I gave her a ride to town when I was with my girlfriend before she remarried. They talked in Thai, and I asked her later what my ex said. She said he was not good to me. She laughed as she knew the truth from Grandma and how I've treated her all 5 years. She said I've always been good to her and also helped her family on the farm. The ex wasn't happy. Called her a liar afterwards, and "now I understand why you divorced her", as I told her everything all along. She was married to a jerkoff for a number of years who did almost nothing but use her and let her work and do everything else while he stayed home, so she knows bad treatment well.

It's never a good idea letting ex's meet if you can avoid it, as they're not going to speak well of you. There are reasons people are ex's, and the new girlfriend will eventually see the truth with her anyway.

6 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

My girlfriend first met my ex's mother, then my ex. Grandma came up to my girlfriend when she was at my house and talked to her. She told my girlfriend her daughter (ex) was wrong what she did to me, that he always treated her well, and helped us all the time on the farm, more than her own sons did, and paid for rice harvesting a few years with the machine instead of them having to cut it by hand. She told my girlfriend she was beautiful right in front of my ex, who came then. Should have seen the look on her face.

My ex was in the car with us once as I gave her a ride to town when I was with my girlfriend before she remarried. They talked in Thai, and I asked her later what my ex said. She said he was not good to me. She laughed as she knew the truth from Grandma and how I've treated her all 5 years. She said I've always been good to her and also helped her family on the farm. The ex wasn't happy. Called her a liar afterwards, and "now I understand why you divorced her", as I told her everything all along. She was married to a jerkoff for a number of years who did almost nothing but use her and let her work and do everything else while he stayed home, so she knows bad treatment well.

It's never a good idea letting ex's meet if you can avoid it, as they're not going to speak well of you. There are reasons people are ex's, and the new girlfriend will eventually see the truth with her anyway.

To be fair, you weren't having sex with the grandmother, so she only saw your good side. 😊

6 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

To be fair, you weren't having sex with the grandmother, so she only saw your good side. 😊

I could count the minutes until you returned with yet another assumption. But please keep it up, as others also will see your baiting. Also, following up with a smiling emoji is a veiled way of insulting. Psychology 101. By the way, as I've stated before, and you and your 3 disturbed friends here always seem to turn around. I've always been good to the women in my life. Maybe you aren't , and that would be the jealousy I mentioned earlier.

I also did the ex girlfriend/new girlfriend thing. The difference is that I had no idea that it was happening 😊

I don't want to bore with too many details, but I convinced my friend at the time to treat a local fruit seller to an MK meal on her day off, as she was teaching me Thai language each time I went there to buy fruit. Little did I know what would ensue. I should add that I think the fruit seller was young, perhaps fifteen, maybe sixteen, so a completely innocent invitation on my part.

We got the the MK and the fruit seller sat in front of me, with my friend to the side. During the meal, the fruit seller decided to unzip her top, in order to expose some flesh. It was then I noticed that she was also wearing make up. Then I noticed the flashes in the eyes of my friend and soon a suggestion that we go to the bathroom. She was angry. I had no idea. Awkward 😊

Later I talked to the fruit seller and she told me that she saw my friend with another guy and so told her that if she didn't want to be with me, then she should let me go.

Friend was maybe eighteen or nineteen at that time herself. She lied about her age when she met me.

Young girls aren't so afraid to go for what they want. Of course I couldn't agree to be with such a young girl, even though it was nice that she was there for me.

3 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

I could count the minutes until you returned with yet another assumption. But please keep it up, as others also will see your baiting. Also, following up with a smiling emoji is a veiled way of insulting. Psychology 101. By the way, as I've stated before, and you and your 3 disturbed friends here always seem to turn around. I've always been good to the women in my life. Maybe you aren't , and that would be the jealousy I mentioned earlier.

It was a joke, you weirdo.

But I stand by my assessment that you have issues you refuse to acknowledge that seriously affect your relationships. Anyone who points to that elephant in the room is singled out for your abuse. There's no way that you could mask that behaviour in a relationship. It's you. It's what you do. Force of habit. Poor women and poor children.

1 minute ago, IsmeUno said:

It was a joke, you weirdo.

No, as we've all seen in this and all your other usernames, you antagonize and bait people, and then throw in your own mislead opinions on how people should act. Take some of your own advice and stay away from replying here, as you rarely help but just stir things up. Everyone here is on to you, so expect either short replies or none at all, as this is a forum to discuss and help, and not to bait and troll. That makes you the weirdo, although you'll never see this.

Again, this isn't high school. And also again, you weren't there. so commenting on another's relationships makes you out the moron. Your assessment means absolutely nothing.

You aren't qualified to give anyone advice, seeing your personality type is one of angst and hatred, mostly turned inward but outward when you encounter those who are much better human beings. Now stick to the topic and stay away from my replies.

Fred have you always been with rural women here?

How do you meet then?

13 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

Fred have you always been with rural women here?

How do you meet then?

Met one online before while I was preparing to visit Thailand. Bueng Kan. Very nice lady, doctor with one daughter. Would likely have been a good choice as she was willing to move to the US. In the meantime, I was staying at a hotel there. That's where I met my now ex.Life changer, and I fell for a covert narcissist I should have vetted a lot longer. A beautiful daughter was created, so the pain was worth it. After our divorce, I met a three on Thaifriendly. The last one is my girlfriend now.

2 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

No, as we've all seen in this and all your other usernames, you antagonize and bait people, and then throw in your own mislead opinions on how people should act. Take some of your own advice and stay away from replying here, as you rarely help but just stir things up. Everyone here is on to you, so expect either short replies or none at all, as this is a forum to discuss and help, and not to bait and troll. That makes you the weirdo, although you'll never see this.

Again, this isn't high school. And also again, you weren't there. so commenting on another's relationships makes you out the moron. Your assessment means absolutely nothing.

You aren't qualified to give anyone advice, seeing your personality type is one of angst and hatred, mostly turned inward but outward when you encounter those who are much better human beings. Now stick to the topic and stay away from my replies.

Shall I take it that you aren't going to attempt to answer my original question? You use so much energy in trying to deflect from reality. Why not use it to tackle the real problem?

The question, again, is; How would you explain men's behaviour, such as an inability to ever admit they are wrong. From what might such a trait develop?

With your self proclaimed background in psychology, surely you must have come across such a trait before. How would you explain it?

On 2/17/2026 at 3:16 PM, Hummin said:

And if worst case, I would look for a nurse, retired nurse

Specializing in geriatric care would be a bonus.

On 2/17/2026 at 3:42 PM, Prubangboy said:

I spent the last two years quashing down my neediness.

I was told that can impair one's eyesight.

On 2/18/2026 at 10:36 AM, Prubangboy said:

She knows I give her money. She even knows the amount.

She’s all for it. It shows loyalty.

Which is a hard commodity for Thai women to come by from white men.

Not a lot of guys use a tri-fold wallet these days. Well done old timer.

2 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

Met one online before while I was preparing to visit Thailand. Bueng Kan. Very nice lady, doctor with one daughter. Would likely have been a good choice as she was willing to move to the US. In the meantime, I was staying at a hotel there. That's where I met my now ex.Life changer, and I fell for a covert narcissist I should have vetted a lot longer. A beautiful daughter was created, so the pain was worth it. After our divorce, I met a three on Thaifriendly. The last one is my girlfriend now.

Why did you cheat on the 'very nice' lady doctor, instead to choose a 'covert narcissist'? Think about that, for a while...

14 hours ago, Keeps said:

At your age I doubt you have much say in when and where you pee.

Just go with the flow so to speak....

Good point, and regardless of when the toilet break is taken, the OP will miss something critical to his future true love and happiness.

In this regard, I can recommend wearing incontinence pants or adult diapers, just for the evening. Big C has a decent selection. They come in packs of 10, but you can save the other 9 for when they become truly essential.

3 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Why did you cheat on the 'very nice' lady doctor, instead to choose a 'covert narcissist'? Think about that, for a while...

Usually it's down to the size of their tits.

2 hours ago, Prubangboy said:

Fred have you always been with rural women here?

How do you meet then?

Travel to rural areas perhaps.

13 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Why did you cheat on the 'very nice' lady doctor, instead to choose a 'covert narcissist'? Think about that, for a while...

Pass the pop corn. This one should be good!

27 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Why did you cheat on the 'very nice' lady doctor, instead to choose a 'covert narcissist'? Think about that, for a while...

Think about this for awhile. Where did I say I cheated on anyone? Where did I say I "chose" a covert narcissist? Bad habit those assumptions.

Most people who date others are attracted to them first.

Covert narcissists, seeing you know very little about them, even though you share some of their traits, are very good at love bombing you until they have you where they want you.

They start out treating you like a king, or queen. Giving you everything you want, making you feel like they are the nicest person around. Sex, cooking, buying gifts, telling you how lucky they are to have you.

When they have you secured, they go back to their "normal" behavior. Silent treatment, cheating, lying, ignoring when you want to communicate, disappearing for a time, then coming back like nothing happened.

They learned this behavior as children, being neglected and or abused, or sometimes spoiled and having them think, in all cases, that they deserve everything and anything they want, because their parent(s) didn't give them what they really needed. Stability, love, caring and emotional support. They tear you down and have you thinking you did something wrong, when all the while you know you didn't.

Let's see if you, as usual, turn this information around and think it was me and not her, even though, as I've mentioned, she was telling me, in front of our daughter, the day before she married the new foreigner, she will always love me, and will always remember all the good times we shared, that I was the best man in her life, all the while my daughter looking at me like her mom's crazy, as she's kissing me on the cheek and hugging me.

Before I mentioned what her own mother said to my girlfriend. I see you dismissed that, thinking her own mother doesn't know full well how her daughter is, seeing she lived with her after the divorce for 5 years until she met this new man, along with her first 17 years, and other years from age 17 until now, when she went through a few other men and came back home after every one, hit and tried to stab them (Her words), which came to light when she did the same to me. Grandma saw exactly how I am, which is why she went up to my girlfriend and told her her own daughter was the problem.

2 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

Think about this for awhile. Where did I say I cheated on anyone? Where did I say I "chose" a covert narcissist? Bad habit those assumptions.

Most people who date others are attracted to them first.

Covert narcissists, seeing you know very little about them, even though you share some of their traits, are very good at love bombing you until they have you where they want you.

They start out treating you like a king, or queen. Giving you everything you want, making you feel like they are the nicest person around. Sex, cooking, buying gifts, telling you how lucky they are to have you.

When they have you secured, they go back to their "normal" behavior. Silent treatment, cheating, lying, ignoring when you want to communicate, disappearing for a time, then coming back like nothing happened.

They learned this behavior as children, being neglected and or abused, or sometimes spoiled and having them think, in all cases, that they deserve everything and anything they want, because their parent(s) didn't give them what they really needed. Stability, love, caring and emotional support. They tear you down and have you thinking you did something wrong, when all the while you know you didn't.

Let's see if you, as usual, turn this information around and think it was me and not her, even though, as I've mentioned, she was telling me, in front of our daughter, the day before she married the new foreigner, she will always love me, and will always remember all the good times we shared, that I was the best man in her life, all the while my daughter looking at me like her mom's crazy, as she's kissing me on the cheek and hugging me.

Before I mentioned what her own mother said to my girlfriend. I see you dismissed that, thinking her own mother doesn't know full well how her daughter is, seeing she lived with her after the divorce for 5 years until she met this new man, along with her first 17 years, and other years from age 17 until now, when she went through a few other men and came back home after every one, hit and tried to stab them (Her words), which came to light when she did the same to me. Grandma saw exactly how I am, which is why she went up to my girlfriend and told her her own daughter was the problem.

Okay...let's try this from a different angle. What happened with the 'very nice' lady doctor, that made you allow yourself to be love bombed by a hotel receptionist? Did she give you a free room upgrade on arrival?

I just made up that she was a receptionist. You can of course correct the record.

Looking at it another way...could it have been that she REALLY liked you at first, until she realised how it was actually living with you?

From her perspective?

On 2/19/2026 at 6:40 AM, Keeps said:

At your age I doubt you have much say in when and where you pee.

Just go with the flow so to speak....

Oh thats calling the pot kettle black since your over 75 yourself.

No need to be ageist dear