Mine has been with 3 men prior to me.

That’s two marriages and a handy back in high school. All very selfish lovers.

Try getting that back home.

She’s more grateful than I am.

See, Fred? Short, funny, specific, interesting.

Be me.

14 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

Al of the women I've been with wanted me. Many we both ended the relationship because our future plans were not the same, and some it didn't quite fit besides the physical, so it stopped, mostly by me as i didn't like the idea of hurting a woman, and keeping some on a string for sex has never been my way. That I haven't found one that thinks the same and wants the same future, along with being honest and trustworthy, and attractive, has been my problem.

This sums you up in a single paragraph.

There's a reason why you cannot find this kind of woman. It takes one to know one. Enough said...

14 hours ago, Hummin said:

Well done, you should be proud of yourself, so excuse my ignorance, when I thought you mentioned more than one women in your reply:

«If I was unable to treat women well, then why do they stick with me»

I did...and they do.

14 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

8 years with abusive women is too long wouldn't you say?

You only see her abuse. We see your abuse. Almost every post of yours here contains some form of abuse. So it's clear that when challenged, you become abusive. You cannot control it. It's simply not credible that behaviour did not ever leak into your relationships, having a detrimental effect on it. You see their reactions to you.

14 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

Let her read ALL of your replies to many here

She can and she does.

As I wrote, if you are okay with that, I can get her to sift through your posts to give an independent qualified opinion.

14 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

That describes you perfectly. Can you really not see that?

Have you ever seen me blame any of my former partners here and not ever admit to possibly being wrong? No, you have not.

But we have seen you do it hundreds of times. That's a fact.

We don't know if you've ever had a real partner, yet you seem to think you can comment on another's when the only knowledge you have is what they've told you. Then you follow up what they said with your own opinions, which are false. Do YOU not see what you're doing wrong here? That I have to repeat myself, annoying some others, is because you're too dense you get what is said into that brain of yours, and leave it at that.

2 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

She can and she does.

As I wrote, if you are okay with that, I can get her to sift through your posts to give an independent qualified opinion.

If she's still with you, she's really blind to what you are, but hopefully for her sake, if she's a decent woman, she'll recognize your disorder soon enough and will leave to find a more suitable one.

22 hours ago, The Cobra said:

Have you found your views on relationships changed since living in Thailand?

Nope! The ones who find that out, are only the ones who search in the wrong or doomed places.

5 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

You only see her abuse. We see your abuse. Almost every post of yours here contains some form of abuse. So it's clear that when challenged, you become abusive. You cannot control it. It's simply not credible that behaviour did not ever leak into your relationships, having a detrimental effect on it. You see their reactions to you.

There is no we here. There's only you and a few others, all acting exactly the same way. That we doesn't amount to anything but troll behavior. Assuming you know what went on in other's lives. Wake the hell up. You don't, and are not qualified to make any judgements, seeing you're already suffering from that NPD. Too stupid to see I'm the one who told about my life. If I wanted to lie, I could have, much like you, and others would have believed otherwise. I chose to be myself, and tell things exactly how they are and were. Your problem is that your brain can only see YOUR way of thinking, which again, is that NPD syndrome.

Also, it's amusing that you think all my posts contain abuse, as all of them don't. That you see this differently also shows how you think. The only ones I have a problem with here are you and a few others, and amusingly, all the other members here also have that same problem with you, and them.It's not abuse pointing out a troll's behavior.

14 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

This sums you up in a single paragraph.

There's a reason why you cannot find this kind of woman. It takes one to know one. Enough said...

Again assuming. I've had a girlfriend here for over 5 years, and we get along fine. I also got along fine with almost all of my old girlfriends, which is quite normal, as some people just don't fit together, as your girlfriend now will hopefully soon realize. Try not to think too much, as it exposes your weaknesses.Another here asked you, seeing you have such a good relationship, why bother interfering with other's lives? Guess you missed that one also.

20 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

Mine has been with 3 men prior to me.

That’s two marriages and a handy back in high school. All very selfish lovers.

Try getting that back home.

She’s more grateful than I am.

See, Fred? Short, funny, specific, interesting.

Be me.

As you can see in this topic, the usual suspect came back, with his usual BS assumptions, and I answered him the same way, pointing out his strange behavior, and now I'm done.

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

, and now I'm done.

Fair enough

12 hours ago, atpeace said:

That seems authentic and I enjoyed the read. Why stalk freddie? I never have met a person that is as succesful in relationships as you state you are that pounces on those that are challenged. Either your full of it or you are different than the normal AN psoter. Not judging but curious why you feel compelled to bring down Freddie while you are in a near ideal relationship. Something is not jiving...

An interesting perspective. I don't consider that I'm stalking @fredwiggy , but, in the appropriate setting/forum, challenging his perception that anyone who doesn't agree with his version of events, is "mentally ill", a "moron", a "Troll" amongst other varied forms of abuse. It's simply a discussion between peers.

Bear in mind that my partner is a qualified counsellor amongst other things, so the depth of conversation may be somewhat different from what we see here on a daily basis.

What is normal for me/us is clearly not the norm for most here. What for me is a normal 'in depth' conversation, is a reason for some to become defensive and even abusive.

As you can see, when someone challenges my version of events, even though I may be sceptical of their motives(not referring to you in this case), it's not my nature to resort to abuse.

Seeing how he behaves when challenged brings into question his version of events with concern to his ex-partners. Everything from 'covert narcissist', to 'abusive', 'mentally ill'...whilst refusing to countenance that his own behaviour might have something to do with his 'success' with women.

I think it's natural and healthy to challenge each other, to a certain extent. There is certainly no malice aforethought.

14 hours ago, save the frogs said:

Put her on AN so we can speak to her directly.

Ask her to create an account.

I don't think she has the time to waste it with the sorts we have around here 😊 But she will take the time to look at @fredwiggy's posts if I request it. An independent view from a woman.

4 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Bear in mind that my partner is a qualified counsellor amongst other things,

Bring her on the forum so she can psychoanalyze us.

14 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

He left, likely running after her after she read the truth I posted about him.

We went out to eat and to do some shopping. You know, normal life when you live together.

9 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

We went out to eat and to do some shopping. You know, normal life when you live together.

Don't know if thats normal though, shopping with a woman is for simps, nothing in it for me.

A woman's place is in the home!

1 hour ago, fredwiggy said:

until they get nasty and I call them out and then I'm done, as I try not to feed the trolls anymore. I don't consider you a troll, but you are opinionated and think you're always right.

You don't see the irony?

1 hour ago, fredwiggy said:

Same with mine, until they know her well.

Do you think your ex says the same thing about you?

6 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

We went out to eat and to do some shopping. You know, normal life when you live together.

And she paid?

1 minute ago, IsmeUno said:

I don't think she has the time to waste it with the sorts we have around here 😊 But she will take the time to look at @fredwiggy's posts if I request it. An independent view from a woman.

Make sure you tell her, unless she's reading all of this, that you started this troll behavior 2 years ago, arguing with me with the NowNow username, thinking Italy's pizza was better than NYC pizza, and I showed you they tied.

After that, you consistently came back, arguing with me about everything, being always wrong, but just there to argue, with your various other personalities, Centigrade, Ninja, JakeC, BatteringRam, NextG, along with at least 3 others, which is very strange behavior, seeing you tried to hide who you are, not understanding there are quite a few very intelligent members here who are into psychology studies, and can spot your character very easily.

Yes, let her look at all my posts, and why I had to defend myself against a person who takes what others say and twists it around to suit their own narrative. If she is indeed qualified, and sees what you've written, in this and all those other usernames, which will take quite awhile, I'm sure she will see what you really are, as red flags are shown, even when the other party is BSing the other for awhile.

The "sorts" we have around here are those who call you out on your strange behavior, and this she can also see if you let her read all of it.

This is for her benefit, as I'm done with you here today.

36 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

We don't know if you've ever had a real partner

Are you suggesting that my partner is not real? The mental gymnastics you pull, in order for you to feel that you are winning...incredible 😊

What I do here, is to take everyone at their word, until the evidence proves otherwise.

If you don't believe me, that's no concern of mine at all. It doesn't change the reality. Your disbelief has no effect on my life at all.

41 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

yet you seem to think you can comment on another's when the only knowledge you have is what they've told you

Erm....yes. I'm going on what you have written here. That's fair enough, isn't it?

43 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Then you follow up what they said with your own opinions, which are false. Do YOU not see what you're doing wrong here?

I think it's normal to form an opinion given the volume of information, don't you? You've formed an opinion of me, haven't you? I'm not crying about it nor becoming abusive.

8 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

And she paid?

We paid. I bought dinner, so paid for the shopping.

44 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

If she's still with you, she's really blind to what you are, but hopefully for her sake, if she's a decent woman, she'll recognize your disorder soon enough and will leave to find a more suitable one.

You mean, like yours. Misery loves company, I hear.

39 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Again assuming. I've had a girlfriend here for over 5 years, and we get along fine. I also got along fine with almost all of my old girlfriends, which is quite normal, as some people just don't fit together, as your girlfriend now will hopefully soon realize. Try not to think too much, as it exposes your weaknesses.Another here asked you, seeing you have such a good relationship, why bother interfering with other's lives? Guess you missed that one also.

Perhaps you 'get along fine' because she doesn't have to live with you. Meeting perhaps once a week, with you contributing to her upkeep. If you are happy with that, then it's all good.

What kind of character hopes the kind of things that you do? Seems that you are a little bit nasty under the mask of being a nice guy.

3 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Are you suggesting that my partner is not real? The mental gymnastics you pull, in order for you to feel that you are winning...incredible 😊

What I do here, is to take everyone at their word, until the evidence proves otherwise.

If you don't believe me, that's no concern of mine at all. It doesn't change the reality. Your disbelief has no effect on my life at all.

Erm....yes. I'm going on what you have written here. That's fair enough, isn't it?

I think it's normal to form an opinion given the volume of information, don't you? You've formed an opinion of me, haven't you? I'm not crying about it nor becoming abusive.

Again I'm back for your girlfriend's benefit. Otherwise I will just ignore all your same responses.

No one here has any proof of how you live, the same as you have no evidence on how I live, besides what I've said. That you turn it around, thinking the other party wasn't like I said, is on you. You have no evidence otherwise, so what you say are your own opinions, which have always been , false.

Erm, IF you did go by what I said and again, didn't twist it around to make yourself feel better, superior, whatever, you would just take what I've said and think, maybe he's right, there are quite a few women out there that are abusive to their spouses and children. I had custody of all my children, but I'm guessing that fact goes over your head once again.

Do you live in such a contained existence that you don't know what goes on around the world? That's a fantasy life, and it doesn't work.

I've never made an opinion or assumed how you live your life. I've gone by the attitude you've shown everyone here. Assuming when you have no evidence. Turning the truth told around for your own agenda. BS about how all your women pay for your things, while you said you were with the same one, now, for 11 years.

It's best if you just stay out of others lives here, as you aren't qualified to be a counselor, nor are normal enough to have a decent discussion without trying to cut another down. That's that NPD, and it will never improve, and hopefully girl, you see this asap.

7 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Perhaps you 'get along fine' because she doesn't have to live with you. Meeting perhaps once a week, with you contributing to her upkeep. If you are happy with that, then it's all good.

What kind of character hopes the kind of things that you do? Seems that you are a little bit nasty under the mask of being a nice guy.

I don't suffer the fools or take sh*t from anyone, including those disturbed individuals like yourself who think they know people, when they don't even understand themselves. I always get along with anyone who's normal. Those with a mental illness, like you, are the ones I don't.

Try commenting to anyone here without an assumption, but then you wouldn't have much to say. Your words, "What I do here, is to take everyone at their word, until the evidence proves otherwise.". If you did that, you would shut up and go away. You have NO evidence of anyone's life on earth, as you don't live with anyone besides your girlfriend.

27 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Don't know if thats normal though, shopping with a woman is for simps, nothing in it for me.

A woman's place is in the home!

Erm...for the food that we ate together. I bought 35 pieces of sushi, she bought eight pieces, ginger, wasabi, fruit(coconuts for drinking, watermelon for dessert etc)

Normal.

38 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

We don't know if you've ever had a real partner, yet you seem to think you can comment on another's when the only knowledge you have is what they've told you. Then you follow up what they said with your own opinions, which are false. Do YOU not see what you're doing wrong here? That I have to repeat myself, annoying some others, is because you're too dense you get what is said into that brain of yours, and leave it at that.

36 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

If she's still with you, she's really blind to what you are, but hopefully for her sake, if she's a decent woman, she'll recognize your disorder soon enough and will leave to find a more suitable one.

33 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

There is no we here. There's only you and a few others, all acting exactly the same way. That we doesn't amount to anything but troll behavior. Assuming you know what went on in other's lives. Wake the hell up. You don't, and are not qualified to make any judgements, seeing you're already suffering from that NPD. Too stupid to see I'm the one who told about my life. If I wanted to lie, I could have, much like you, and others would have believed otherwise. I chose to be myself, and tell things exactly how they are and were. Your problem is that your brain can only see YOUR way of thinking, which again, is that NPD syndrome.

Also, it's amusing that you think all my posts contain abuse, as all of them don't. That you see this differently also shows how you think. The only ones I have a problem with here are you and a few others, and amusingly, all the other members here also have that same problem with you, and them.It's not abuse pointing out a troll's behavior.

And again, Freddy is going on with his superiority. It´s amazing that such a smart guy like you made such a terrible mistake in life. Now when you continue to talk about it, it also seems that you can´t realize nor comprehend reality. It´s always wrong with other people, as you, Freddy, are perfect. At least in your own mind. Let´s take a few examples in your discussion technique:
In the third post, it stands that your posts don´t contain abuse. Really? In the first you call people too dense, implying faults with brain, directly telling that people present false information. The second is pointing out how blind a person must be to be in a relationship with the poster you are replying to and that she can only be decent if she left him and that he has a disorder. The 3rd post he is not at your level, because he are not as qualified to make any judgement, like you are all the time Freddy. Now a poster have problem with brain again, and you diagnose NDP syndrome from your keyboard.

We can clearly see what´s wrong here:

1. You consider yourself qualified to judge. No one else owns that level of capacity.
2. You are always right! (One might start to think how things could go so wrong for you then. On the other hand, we know Freddy. It´s always the other person who is wrong.)
3. You are a long-distance doctor that can judge a label anyone that does not fall in line with you with some kind of handicap such as brain functions or syndromes.
4. You are in the know about everything on the planet, and probably outside of this earth as well.
5. You have more and greater experience than anyone else.

Here we can see a pattern of grandiose sense of self-importance, and the belief in being uniquely knowledgeable and superior, a great lack of empathy, arrogant and dismissive attitude towards others and the need to be right. Simply cannot live with and have massive intolerance with. disagreement. I guess you used that shortcut before. Referring to NDP, Narcissistic Personality Disorder. If you combine what I described above, you will find that it fit very well into your own labelling of others. As I see this as a very extreme case, that´s been ongoing for years, one would probably also assume Delusional Disorder, and a portion of the Dunning-Kruger Effect.

6 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Again I'm back for your girlfriend's benefit.

Of course you are...hahahahahahahaha 😊

What, in that post, related to my girlfriend? It was all for your benefit. Your compulsion to rant and rage.