I was just surfing around the net and of all things I came across my house for sale.

I got the shock of my life, I know my wife and I have problems, like I mean she wouldn't be renting an apartment with some Thai drug addict if we didn't but how do you deal with finding your house for sale on the internet?

See a lawyer?

I don't think she can sell it out from under me as I have co-signed at the land office and we needed me to co-sign on another house sale that we made previously.

But WOW what a shocking thing to run into...

Bloody hel_l Tuky, that must have been a shock

I would definately see a Lawyer and i would also contact the Agent and let them know of the situation. They certainly won't want to waste time, effort and money on marketing it, if they realise that a potential sale would fall through.

Is the Agent farang ?

Edit= Oh and who has the Chanote?

Bloody hel_l Tuky, that must have been a shock

I would definately see a Lawyer and i would also contact the Agent and let them know of the situation. They certainly won't want to waste time, effort and money on marketing it, if they realise that a potential sale would fall through.

Is the Agent farang ?

Edit= Oh and who has the Chanote?

The bank has the chanote mate, I still owe some money on the place.

The agent I have never heard of before, but they claim to be Thai based, Eastern Seaboard.

To be honest I would love to sell the place, I have spent a total of perhaps two weeks living in it before I had to leave for work. The missus got kicked out by the Mum who now lives in the place with my kids.

I am not sure how all this works, but I think I probably need a lawyer to act on my behalf to make sure that if it does sell I get my fair share of it.

Plus, we have two other houses that are currently rented out, I would love to get them transfered over to my kids names as it is very likely the missus will sell them to fund her and her boyfriends drug habit if she got the chance.

Bloody women, my mates had been warning me about her for the last 6 years. Most refused to come visit if I was still with her.

One TV member said he had photos of her with other blokes from a few years back but they never came to light. Be good if they did for the divorce.

You may want to contact the agent that is listing the property and let him know that you are a joint owner, there is a lien on the property and the chanote isn't available.

Then maybe find another agent and list the property yourself, at a "good" price (for a quick sell). (Do unto others before they do unto you)

(Hmmmm, and I just happen to know someone in the market for a nice, cheap house right now.......)

What is it with women and druggies ? I was seeing one girl for about 8 months. Everything was going well (so it seemed), and then suddenly, the text messages went from one a day to zero (i.e. one a day until 20 June, then nothing at all since then).

I come home and her (former) boss and friends told me one day she just stopped working and no one had seen her in weeks. Then I found out she had shacked up with some Thai guy and they were (allegedly) spending most of their time at his place smoking yabaa.

Made me glad in a way that I didn't leave her in my apartment when I went to work last time. Fortunately in my case, her choice isn't costing me anything.

Lawyer a must............But not a cheap one. Once knew a fellow who went the bargin route in very similar ( well quite ) circumstances, only to find his cheap lawyer siding with the local wife for a split of the spoils.

FYI this is the place...

I am looking into my options.

http://www.kf.co.th/property_detail.php?pr...ropertyfor_id=3

Anyone with a spare 17 mill? I could do with the cash...

Just kidding of course.

But I will be f'ed if she gets it all...

i know its big and new and nicely done, but is the market in Sri Racha really that developed that the place can fetch anything close to 17M?

why not try and use some other newly set up email account and write to the agent through their form. just to get an idea of what they have to say. you can ask about ownership, land title, and other details that will give you some clues?

I would also ask that seeing the place is so new, why does the owner want to sell?

why not try and use some other newly set up email account and write to the agent through their form. just to get an idea of what they have to say. you can ask about ownership, land title, and other details that will give you some clues?

Sneaky but i like it

ok to not be sneaky... ask a friend to write to them

perhaps KerryD can volunteer, given hes in the market

ok to not be sneaky... ask a friend to write to them

perhaps KerryD can volunteer, given hes in the market

:shock:

Wha ! Stab a (friend) in the back, buy his house out from under him and date his wife ? I'm shocked anyone would think of me as that kind of person !

OK, I'll do it ! (Evil is so much more fun than goody-goody two-shoes)

(Skip the wife part though).

Woohoo ! House shopping I shall go !!

ermmm now now Kerry, all I said was write to the agent about the house

when did I speak about women and wife and knife??

tsk tsk

ermmm now now Kerry, all I said was write to the agent about the house

when did I speak about women and wife and knife??

tsk tsk

Wot's that ole English saying, "In for a penny, in for a pound" ?

And what fun is shady, skull-duggery, cloak and dagger stuff without women and danger ? It just wouldn't sell otherwise.

I resent the use of women and danger in the same breath

we are all lovely and sweet. surely?

sowwy Tuky...not to detract from the seriousness of your situation. but Kerry needs a little bit of incentive it seems once his book comes out and the fortune he makes on it, Im sure he will share the 'spoils' with us, in particular the women /woman [---> me! ]amongst us

I've got an answer back.

Tuky, are you sure this is your house ?

I have more details from the agent I'll send in a PM (just to keep everyone else in suspense, heighten the mystery, keep them on edge, biting their nails, aching for more, pulses racing, tension rising.)

Then..........BAM ! Hit them up for an "incentive" to find out what happens next !

Nice one Kerry. I might enquire myself

(just to keep everyone else in suspense, heighten the mystery, keep them on edge, biting their nails, aching for more, pulses racing, tension rising.)

Then..........BAM ! Hit them up for an "incentive" to find out what happens next !

OR

'I' could write to the agent as well

Well...it looks like the bank is going to reposess the house as she has used the money I have been sending for other purposes...whatever they may be.

Infact, I spoke with her today and she was all fire telling me how I have ruined her life, how I made her start taking drugs and how I made her start selling her "pussy" because I do not send her enough money.

Please bear in mind, I have only been sending 100k per month and she only gets 90k per month rent from two rental properties so I guess I have been a little unfair on her by selling her short. I can actually see the need for her to sell her "pussy" with the tiny amount she gets each month. The kids live with her Mum BTW.

Anyway, I have decided I need to rethink my values as she tells me I a the most selfish person she has ever met and I have made her life very bad. I wish I could have done more for her, but it seems I have failed.

I suggested today on the phone that she took some time to reflect on what happened and why we are now separated, that when she finds another man she needs to make every effort to make sure he WANTS to come home every night, she asked me why I never told her this before...I hadto point out that I had been telling her for 6 years but she never listened.

Anyway, I feel really sorry for her. Deep down she is still a person, she was just taught the wrong things by her Mum, like because she has boobs and a vagina that she can get anything she wants without giving anything back.

I wish I knew how to help her,and I do feel guilty for having given up on her but 6 years is way too long. I have fought her off as she attacked with me a knife, I have been hit on the head by chairs (witnessed by another TV member, who is a mod), I have been smashed across the face with a coffee mug (Pics posted in the mods forum of my face), beaten with a vacuum cleaner pipe. I waited for 6 months at home just me and the kids hoping she would come home from the disco or wherever she was only to see her come home each time (after3 or 4 days away) looking like she had been part of a gang bang, I had to have genital warts removed that she gave me.

God darn it, if only I hadn't been so selfish we might still be together.

I do feel so scared for my kids, but i have been told if I come back to Thailand I will be killed so I am not sure what to do...

oh BTW did I mention I have had to fight with both her Dad and her Uncle in order to break restraints they had placed on me (physical restraints that is) to stop me from going to the shop. The finalstraw came when I was trying to leave for good, I had a TV mate come with his car, I pretended everything was good until the last minute when I made a run for it, I was grabbed by the Dad and the Uncle at the same time whilst the wife hit me with a chair, I had to break free from the two men using violence and make a run for it to my mates car as he was driving away. I made it into his car but I fear I left a fair few blood stains on his seat from the many defensive wounds I had sustained.

If my Mod mate wants to confirm what I have said I am sure he will. I only say that because it sounds like some kind of pathetic movie script, but it was my life, I should never have been so selfsih and treated her so poorly, I must be the worst person to ever walk to earth.

Wow, it feels good to finally get that off my chest.

I am now living in Indo with a girl who takes the very best care of me, she has her own shop which earns her a fair amount of money, she is study Business Admin in college and I have never been happier

Wow tuky, you have been through it. It sounds more like a horror movie. Good to hear you're feeling better now, all the best for the future.

Tuky, mate, I had suspected some of this and seen some of the info you mentioned, but never this much detail.

Thank goodness the grandmum has the kids rather than the mum, but looks like she won't have the home for much longer.

I'll tell you something I heard of once that worked- you pretend (to them) that you don't care about seeing the kids any longer, break off all contact, send no money- and when they realise they can't get anything more out of you, they'll come to give you the kids (because they don't really care about them- only using them as bait to manipulate you). Otherwise I don't think you should maintain any further involvement with these people.

I suspect you will need some counselling and emotional support to recover from the damage this has done to you.

Tuky, what is the plan about the girls?

Deep down she is still a person, she was just taught the wrong things by her Mum, like because she has boobs and a vagina that she can get anything she wants without giving anything back.

The risk is high that history will just end up repeating itself if you don't step in.

Best of luck with everything.

Incredible story! If you saw it in general, you'd reckon it would have to be a troll.

Glad things are working out for you now. (I was going to ask why you didn't get the BiB involved, but you obviously would have considered the relative merits.)

Easy to say in hindsight, but I'll bet you wish you'd made the break much earlier...

Crickey, words fail me.

I wish you the best for the future.

Good Luck

Moss

Tuky, you know I've got your back here, but I agree with IJWT and Boo, something needs to be done about your girls. I know you don't have any place to take them to right now, but here's hoping that not too long in the distant future you can get them.

And you've already heard what I've had to say about your wife, so I guess it probably shouldn't be repeated here for those with delicate constitutions

Now in dear old Patters there is a great facility called the " Retreat". It's a Lawn Bowls Club, well in the country, run by a fine chap called Albert.

He bought the place when the previous Dutch owner was murdered by his wife's UNCLE and BROTHER. They wanted the money he had placed in trust for his kids, and were too stupid to realize what a trust entailed. Invited for a family talk.........endex

I wont go into the gory details, but Tucky, be careful of requests for family sit downs to come to certain arrangements.........Never and I mean never go alone.

Best of luck

Tuky, mate, I had suspected some of this and seen some of the info you mentioned, but never this much detail.

I suspect you will need some counselling and emotional support to recover from the damage this has done to you.

I had never really posted too much detail before because I was a mod and kinda wanted to keep my private life out of the forum as much as I could for obvious reasons. Plus, it has always been way too easy to vent and spew forth all the obscenities that I have kept bottled up.

The worst part is that I still care for her, I don't mean in the way that I still want to be with her but I still worry for her, I worry about how she feels inside, I worry about her future. I ask myself why? Is it because of some kind of emotional abuse I sustained and now find myself addicted?

Anyway, we spoke again last night and she had the kids with her in her apartment. She was yelling at me, telling me again how I have ruined her life and how she is going to make me suffer by taking it out on the kids, or in her own words..."everything you do to me come back to Kitty and Candy" and can you believe what happened next? I heard some banging sounds and then my little Kitty started crying, the banging continued then Candy started to cry. I hung up immediately and called the Mum and told her to get to the apartment ASAP. But nobody knows where it is, she has kept the location secret because she knew her parents would be around all the time trying to drag her home. Anyway, I ended up telling the parents to call the police. When I called the wife back things seemed to have settled down, but she went on to tell me how she feels like giving the kids some poison to eat and then eating some herself.

I am not sure if she is capable of it, but people can be strange when under the influence of drugs.

She told me she is going to come to Indonesia today to get me fired from my job, but I think she was just trying to scare me. Actually for some reason she kept repeating that, hahaha Leith, you scared of me etc etc. Really strange behaviour.

I am really unsure of what to do now, I really would like to contact a lawyer and get a final divorce. She can have everything. That adds up to about 30 million baht worth of possessions accumulated over 6 years of marriage, but hey it is only money and I can/have started again.

I really do not know what to do from here, I would love this part of my life to be over but it is very scary. If I have a lawyer contact her I will only be antagonising her more and I worry about the result of that, but I can't keep going like this. My own family in Australia have told me to give up on the kids and forget I ever had them, cut my losses and be grateful I still have my life. But my heart cannot accept that, I love my little kids.

One of the worst things that she did was when I was working in Korea, we had about 8 million baht in our joint bank account, I had several ATM cards that either linked to that account or other accounts for just in case. Well she tranfered all funds into a new account that she opened in her own name and left me in Korea with no more than 2 satang to my name, no plane ticket, no food, nothing. I never did work out why she did that, but it was the start of the down hill slope, things just got worse from there. Luckily for me I was able to get my Dad to send me $5,000 so I could still live and make my way out of Korea.

So, what now? I know I cannot go on ignoring it, but to tell you the truth she is right, I am <deleted> scared of her.

Should I make contact with a lawyer? if so who? I don't want to go to Thailand, can I do everything from here? I know the three chanotes need my signature in the land office for any sale to take place, but I really do not want to go there.

I am trying so hard to be happy, but this person is such a mill stone around my neck that I won't ever truly be happy until I have cut all ties, the first step is a legal divorce. She will fight it she has said as she wants 80% of my monthly wage (about 300,000 baht a month from me) and she wants the houses.

I wish so much that I had never met her.

Incredible story! If you saw it in general, you'd reckon it would have to be a troll.

Glad things are working out for you now. (I was going to ask why you didn't get the BiB involved, but you obviously would have considered the relative merits.)

Easy to say in hindsight, but I'll bet you wish you'd made the break much earlier...

My mate who came to my rescue ended up receiving death threats, he called in a favour and had a couple of BiB stationed inside his house for a week. He went to my house with the cops the following day to make sure the family got the message not to mess with him. He told me later that even the cops couldn't believe what they heard from my wife's family, the foul things they had to say, the threats made and the accusations they hurled.

Unfortunately I lost his friendship when I decided to give it one more try (for the sake of my kids). I quit my 850 Pound a day job and stayed home full time in an effort to patch things up. This was when the wife started going out partying and not returning for days at a time. She told me at the time she was doing it to let me know how she felt when I made my escape that time. I gave her 6 months but she was only getting worse so I eventually took a job here in Indo, she couldn't understand why I wanted to leave, whenever I told her that I am not going to sit around waiting for her to come home she would tell me that this is the past, why can't I forgive and start again? It is because I am selfish according to her.

But honestly, when she would go to the shop at 0700 to buy Jok for the kids breakfast and not return home for 4 days what am I going to do? She would even turn her phone off because I annoyed her too much by calling to tell her to come home. It got to the point for me that they only reason why I would want her to come home would be to get rid of her family. Whenever she would do a runner the whole family would turn up at my place and wait for days until she came home. It drove me nuts. I stopped caring about what she was doing, who she was with and all I cared about was getting rid of her family. My life was hel_l.

One time when she came home the Dad took all the cars keys and left, she called them and told them with an evil laugh that taking the keys doesn't stop anything, she just grabbed a tuk-tuk a took off again. Leaving me stuck at home without even my car.

Twice the Dad stole my car and drove it to Cambodia where he borrowed money against it with a loan shark and gambled to money away, both times he ended up locked up in a Cambodian prison and I was left to bail him out, pay off the loan shark to buy my car back and give a tip to the Cambo police to make sure he wasn't killed on the way out. And believe it or not the Dad was the only member of that family that I felt was any good.

Sorry about my ranting folks. I kinda feel like I have popped the cork and I want to tell someone what my life has been like, I don't even believe it sometimes.

Anyway, what to do now...

Do you have any Thai friends to ask for advice?

Maybe you should do what a Thai man would do in this situation. My wife's brother just drove to his wife's town with some friends, kidnapped the kids and disappeared with them.

She never saw them for three years before she was allowed to come to our village to visit them, fully aware that the local police had been well.... briefed?... to deal with her and anyone who came with her if she made any trouble.

I never heard any mention of lawyers and courts in this situation.

Sometimes doing the honest and decent thing doesn't work in Thailand.

Money talks. Employ some large ex or current bib from another province, drive into town, tell her & the in laws that you will sign everything over right now at the amphur & get the divorce in exchange for the kids, tell them that not a penny will be sent & nothing signed until you have the girls then get back to Australia with them. Sorry but those girls come before you or anyone elses happiness.

If they refuse go to the police & file reports, go to court, get a sole custody agreement, other farang dad have done it & have had the full backing of the court & social services. Sorry but leaving those girls there is paramount to child abuse if what you say is true. (and I have every reason to beleive you cause I know your stories have been witnessed)

Seriously, why are you scared of her, you have means to make her life hel_l, just throw some cash at the right people & hiore the right protection. Scae is right,, she is taking the piss out of you becuase you have let her. Time to get tough.