What Is Wrong With These Guys?

[HardenedSoul]

With increasing regularity, I'm seeing grown Western men resorting to fisticuffs over women.

Just last week after watching an impromptu bout between two fellas in a soi 11 club, I was informed by one of the managers that the guy who started it had apparently barfined a lass from Soi Cowboy, paid for a slap-up seafood dinner and secured a table at the club complete with an oversized bottle of Grey Goose and assorted mixers only to look on in disbelief as she spent an hour or two filling the glasses of newly-acquired fair-weather friends of the freelancing persusasion with his vodka and getting smoochy with a Mediterranean-looking Lothario.

The final straw, it seems, came when his "beau" was seen furtively fondling Fabio's lunchbox in a dimly-lit corner of the dancefloor. He laid one on the guy and a brawl ensued.

I stand to be corrected but my understanding is that paying a barfine simply entitles one to remove the girl from the bar for the evening. It doesn't guarantee coitus; even less so if one proceeds to whisk her through restaurants and clubs throwing cash around like confetti.

My question is what are these guys thinking? Are they simply keen to show off their acquisition to other men in a bid to evoke envy or are they expecting some kind of GFE (girlfriend experience)?

[FunFon]

Well I can't imagine paying the barfine without feeling 100% secure in getting whatever it is you expect to get for it. In my experience that very rarely needs to be spelled out, and most smart and relatively yet-unspoiled girls are very keen to make the customer happy in the hope of repeat business.

But of course throwing tons of money around in advance of getting what you want shows you're a fool and the girls will certainly take advantage. IMO it's also likely she decided early on the guy was a jerk and she was hoping she'd be released early from her implied obligations.

For a truly stunning girl with any experience, the full-on GF experience certainly needs to be earned as if it weren't a commercial transaction, easy enough for them to generate day-to-day cash with minimal effort, you've got to offer a lot more than that for them to go to the trouble of actually acting as if they like you 24x7.

In the end IMO idiotic to go looking for companionship in that kind of place from the start, the odds of getting a girl who's both sincere and beautiful have gotten much slimmer over the years, much better just getting out and meeting normal girls in more wholesome contexts. Ideally knowing a reasonable amount of conversational Thai IMO. . .

[thehelmsman]

I don't believe anyone on TV frequents bars with ladies for hire. It is so beneath the righteous.

It does make for good entertainment - does it not??

[Beetlejuice]

Anyone who needs to pay for the company of a prostitute to wine and and dine with, must be very sad.

When I visit a restaurant or eating establishment, I normally go with family or friends.

[Beetlejuice]

To answer the question, What is wrong with these guys? I think the answer is blatantly obvious. No need to be a genius in order to work this one out.

[muythai2013]

fighting over it is pathetic, however paying the barfine is paying for an escort service, not just to get her from the bar as you said, otherwise she would take the money and just split everytime and go see a movie with her friends with your barfine money.

she is paid for a service, with the man paying, not with everyman she comes across.

[poanoi]

Beats me why he directed his anger at other men, who had no clue he had paid her fine

[apetley]

Beats me why he directed his anger at other men, who had no clue he had paid her fine

Yeah I was wondering that too.

Bit like those fights on Jerry Springer where the guy fights with the unsuspecting third party whilst still saying he loves his cheating wife/girlfriend.

[Swiss1960]

fighting over it is pathetic, however paying the barfine is paying for an escort service, not just to get her from the bar as you said, otherwise she would take the money and just split everytime and go see a movie with her friends with your barfine money.

she is paid for a service, with the man paying, not with everyman she comes across.

wrong... barfine is to let her go, to cover both mamasan and girl for loss of turnover when she leaves the bar

everything else is a separate agreement.

[muythai2013]

imagine fighting then accidently killing the man, or being killed over a bargirl.

[guzzi850m2]

Yes stupid to fight over a bar girl, grow up and also pathetic holding hands with her when walking back to the hotel or in this case showing her off and everybody knows she is a go-go or bar girl.

I that regard Western men could learn a LOT from Thai men, Thai men NEVER sport their hookers but are very discrete about it.

Once on Walking street in Pattaya I saw an Indian man walking up and down the street with a beautiful blond Russian girl, it was very clear that he had only hired her for showing off, no happy endings here, too expensive for him, pathetic

[doggie888888]

Reminds me of the male dogs fighting over a bitch on heat.

[muythai2013]

fighting over it is pathetic, however paying the barfine is paying for an escort service, not just to get her from the bar as you said, otherwise she would take the money and just split everytime and go see a movie with her friends with your barfine money.

she is paid for a service, with the man paying, not with everyman she comes across.

wrong... barfine is to let her go, to cover both mamasan and girl for loss of turnover when she leaves the bar

everything else is a separate agreement.

so she can just walk out and go her own way, not even given the man a chance to negotiate a seperate agreemant if she chooses.

[longstebe]

Naive.

[Scully]

Should have got his money back or taken her out of the club, I drink in clubs but don't take girls home, have ever seen this happen.

[muythai2013]

If you take her to a club you have to buy her drinks all night.

Drink, then get a girl, buy a bottle of Hong thong for her to drink in the hotel room.

Do what you have to do then leave, dont make a date out of it, thats how clowns end up married to bargirls.

[Mighty Mouse]

Fighting over rented company is bad enough but committing suicide over them is far beyond my comprehension.

[brewsterbudgen]

Anyone who needs to pay for the company of a prostitute to wine and and dine with, must be very sad.

When I visit a restaurant or eating establishment, I normally go with family or friends.

I expect he was either a tourist or someone here on business, so the family/friends option would not be available. Anyway, bargirls are probably prettier and I expect he was hoping to cement the "relationship" later, and, obviously mistakenly, hoped that wining and dining her would assist the process.

[geriatrickid]

I don't believe anyone on TV frequents bars with ladies for hire. It is so beneath the righteous.

It does make for good entertainment - does it not??

My reasons are simpler: I do not want pubic lice, herpes, warts or one of the burning STIs. I don't get to moral judgements because I still can't get beyond the icky stage of looking at someone that has been used by a few hundred before I arrived.

[geriatrickid]

If you take her to a club you have to buy her drinks all night.

Drink, then get a girl, buy a bottle of Hong thong for her to drink in the hotel room.

Do what you have to do then leave, dont make a date out of it, thats how clowns end up married to bargirls.

Wow, chivalry and romance know no limits with you.

[arthurwait]

Girls work the touirist areas for 3 reasons.

1. They know most farangs are naive compared to Thai men.

2. Usually too ugly for Thai men.

3. Too land a farang to pay for them for the rest of their lives as they know no Thai man would.

Start flashing cash about and it just screams soft touch to them.

As one poster said.

Naive.

[muythai2013]

If you take her to a club you have to buy her drinks all night.

Drink, then get a girl, buy a bottle of Hong thong for her to drink in the hotel room.

Do what you have to do then leave, dont make a date out of it, thats how clowns end up married to bargirls.

Wow, chivalry and romance know no limits with you.

i'm the most romantic man in the world, but if i'm paying for sex i pay for sex, why add in extras for a sure thing.

[rgs2001uk]

Girls work the touirist areas for 3 reasons.

1. They know most farangs are naive compared to Thai men.

2. Usually too ugly for Thai men.

3. Too land a farang to pay for them for the rest of their lives as they know no Thai man would.

Start flashing cash about and it just screams soft touch to them.

As one poster said.

Naive.

I wouldnt even call them naive.

To me, they suffer from, knight in shining armour syndrome, these deluded fools actually think they are protecting the honour of the fair maiden.

The majority are sad losers from back in farangland.

Cant get laid in farangland = cant get laid in Thailand, unless you have to pay for it, even that isnt guaranteed as our hapless hero found out.

[transam]

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah, hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, this topic reminds me of those wonderful days spent looking at the sea in a quaint Cornish seaside village eating a fresh crab sandwich, a pint of fresh prawns and a pint of real ale, hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

Now where were we, ah yes, eeeeeer, don't know really, blokes lost the plot perhaps.

Edited March 27, 2013 by transam

[cardholder]

The self-righteous crowd are out in force today.

Should I be inclined to barfine someone, I would head for the bedroom rather than an expensive club or disco.

[muythai2013]

The self-righteous crowd are out in force today.

Should I be inclined to barfine someone, I would head for the bedroom rather than an expensive club or disco.

so what your saying is you have bargirls in your bedroom ready to be barfined, where are you living and can i come over.

[cardholder]

The self-righteous crowd are out in force today.

Should I be inclined to barfine someone, I would head for the bedroom rather than an expensive club or disco.

so what your saying is you have bargirls in your bedroom ready to be barfined, where are you living and can i come over.

I think you may have misunderstood me.........

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[Groongthep]

Girls work the touirist areas for 3 reasons.

1. They know most farangs are naive compared to Thai men.

2. Usually too ugly for Thai men.

3. Too land a farang to pay for them for the rest of their lives as they know no Thai man would.

Start flashing cash about and it just screams soft touch to them.

As one poster said.

Naive.

What on earth are you on about ?

Edited March 27, 2013 by Groongthep

[arthurwait]

Girls work the touirist areas for 3 reasons.

1. They know most farangs are naive compared to Thai men.

2. Usually too ugly for Thai men.

3. Too land a farang to pay for them for the rest of their lives as they know no Thai man would.

Start flashing cash about and it just screams soft touch to them.

As one poster said.

Naive.

Nonsense. You are the one who is naive. There are plenty of foreign men around Nana and Soi Cowboy who have been going there longer than some of the girls working there have been alive.

The 3 reasons girls work Nana and Cowboy are:

1.) money

2.) money

3.) more money

These are not the places you read about where the girls are coerced or forced to work. Those places do exist but they are not these two places.The girls working in lower Sukhumvit freely chose to work there to make easy money. The successful ones laugh and joke about it.

You also say they are too ugly for Thai men, which is not necessarily true. Yeah, the majority are scarry but there are also more than a few who are very pretty and who can and do make a lot of money. These are the ones which many Thai men would jump at the chance to hire but don't have enough money to do so.

What on earth are you on about ?