How long until you tied the knot

[Rodwalloper]

There are quite a few men here in good relationships with good wives,

Same however may not be.

 

How long did you know your woman from the moment of meeting them until your wedding day and do you think it really makes a difference be it one week or 1 year or whatever.

 

Is the high failure rate somewhat due to rushing in to soon.

 

personally i was with mine 2 yrs before we got married, 9 years now, but i feel if we married after say 1 month, would not have made a difference.

[Jip99]

11 years...

 

 

Still waiting to be sure....

[swissie]

OP,  be more specific. Tied the knot referring to marriage or referring to how long it took to learn how to tie a hangman's noose knot?
Cheers.

[Rc2702]

My Mrs is still married to a Japanese guy by thailands records. He sent wrong documents to her from Japan divorce and this now prevents us from tying the knot. Nightmare. Were in year 4.

[sirineou]

 Same as Op . We were together for about Two years. After two years not only did I know her well but she got to know me pretty well also, and the poor girl still married me! Go figure.

Now whenever she calls me Stupid. my standard reply always is

"You married me and I am stupid??)

 

[MaeJoMTB]

Saw mine, agreed to marry within the week, had to wait another 2 weeks for the 'lucky day' Amphur wedding, Feb 14th.

Just had our 8th wedding anniversary.

[roo860]

10 years.

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[dotpoom]

After getting my divorce from my first wife back home I truely and honestly never again seen a reason tp marry again.

   Having said that, if it was to mean an awful lot to "she who must be obeyed" or it was convenient for leaving my estate to her after my passing, I would indeed marry her.

   If I'v learned one thing during my.life it's this....."It's not all about what's best for me".

[Justfine]

"but i feel if we married after say 1 month, would not have made a difference."

 

Isn't hindsight a wonderful thing.

[BobbyL]

6 years.

[garyk]

9 hours ago, Jip99 said:

11 years...

 

 

Still waiting to be sure....

10 years for me.

Hopefully in another 10 will make a decision.

[wwest5829]

Too old, too experienced to be concerned about this personally. Conditions vary, are you marrying a gov't employee (medical insurance), are you leaving all worldly resources? Are there children involved? For myself, I have found Thai partners who are not concerned about the registering of a relationship. Concern focuses on our continued feelings, treatment of each other. Being recognized by referring to them as "wife" is appreciated to demonstrate status.

[phuketrichard]

Met her in 89,  moved in together in 90, had a daughter in 94, got married in 97, separated  in 2000, divorced in 2001

life goes on..

[Farang99]

Met in January, married in December - 20 years ago, and still together.

[RichardColeman]

10 days. married 3 years now (in Thailand). I know about 50 guys in Thailand that married - about 90% still married, I also know about 50 guys that took their wives back to the UK - ZERO are still married. So I think you may want to rephrase the question, how many still with their wives IF they went back to their own country !

Edited March 5, 2018 by RichardColeman

[Justfine]

Just now, RichardColeman said:

10 days. married 3 years now (in Thailand). I know about 50 guys in Thailand that married - about 90% still married, I also know about 50 guys that took their wives back to the UK - ZERO are still married. So I think you may want to rehrase the question, how many still with their wives IF they went back to their own country !

You know 100 guys ?

[jumbo]

10 hours ago, Rc2702 said:

My Mrs is still married to a Japanese guy by thailands records. He sent wrong documents to her from Japan divorce and this now prevents us from tying the knot. Nightmare. Were in year 4.

Get a lawyer, it can be arranged with him not present... the now wife of a friend of mine did in Bangkok with the help of a lawyer

[fifelad55]

2 years fo me as well - coming up for 3 years since legal ceremony in June and Buddhist in July.

 

Alan

[zoza]

married 14 years and still not 100% sure, I waited two years and thought it would be ok, but people change and families get more greedy, and wives get more confident of their position, and then the menopause......the other morning she says '' you are lucky to have me'' and I replied ''yes and you are lucky to have me''

''what do you mean'' was her reply '' because you had three kids that I have looked after for 14 years'' ''and many people said I was brave/stupid to take it all on''

she stormed out and is now in the village I hear.....two weeks...and I wonder if it is best for me as my finances seem to be on steroids, there is always a silver lining.

Edited March 5, 2018 by zoza
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[PBob]

8 days, needed a good excuse for being late back to work.

 

Just celebrated 36th wedding anniversary, 25 years in the UK.

[Bangkok Barry]

I married my wife exactly 14 days after meeting her, and we've just had our 27th anniversary.

 

Okay, many Thai/Farang marriages don't work, but the same applies in any country even between people of the same race and culture. The secret is to compromise when need be, and sometimes count to 10 - or 100 - if something makes you want to bang your head against the wall.

[nss70]

Took 2 years to get married, now married 22 years. We have our ups and downs just like every other couple I know.

Somone said ALL the thai/falang couples he knew back in the uk were separated/divorced.

I don't know 50, maybe 20 or so, out of those 3 are divorced. Better than the national average by some margin!

Edited March 5, 2018 by nss70

[petermik]

Been together 5 years...wonderful lady but why spoil a beautiful relationship by getting married  

[smotherb]

Not sure it has to do with the time you've been together, but whether or not you have developed a relationship of love and trust. I was a sexual harasser, I guess; my wife worked for my company. She was my partner's housing agent and bookkeeper. She came to me when he was away to warn me of what she thought was a rip-off by a plumbing contractor. Turns out, she was quite correct. As you know, all she had to do was tell the plumbers what she noticed and they would have paid her to keep quiet; instead she came to me. Honesty and loyalty is important for any relationship; and she had a nice butt. So I kept her. We have been married almost 40 years.

[Rodwalloper]

1 hour ago, RichardColeman said:

10 days. married 3 years now (in Thailand). I know about 50 guys in Thailand that married - about 90% still married, I also know about 50 guys that took their wives back to the UK - ZERO are still married. So I think you may want to rephrase the question, how many still with their wives IF they went back to their own country !

i know a few including myself.

wife loves Australia, loves her job as a childcare teacher will further her studies to became a kindergarten teacher.

has weeded out the crap and has a few good friends around her and most importantly has her food and thai drama on every night.

without her Thai Drama she may have split.

 

Edited March 5, 2018 by Rodwalloper

[petermik]

7 hours ago, smotherb said:

 and she had a nice butt. So I kept her. We have been married almost 40 years.

And the "butt" now is.............

[khunPer]

14½ years and still counting...

Edited March 5, 2018 by khunPer

[Kinnock]

8 years together - very happy, but not keen on a legal marriage as I have family and property back home, and the TGF has a very large extended family. 

 

An interesting suggestion from her was to just have the Buddhist ceremony, as she sees this as important after 8 years together.  (50% is that she wants to wear the dress and have the photos, and 50% is how it looks to other people .... OK, make that 20%/80%, with the 80% being driven by her Mother).  She has her own businesses, so I'm not worried about her looking after herself in the longer term, and I wouldn't need marriage for immigration purposes - so seems like a good compromise?

[thaiguzzi]

5 years before married.

2 years of living together prior.

Known her for 18 years.

Been married 13 years in May.

Anything else?

[transam]

Which one....