The wife growing older in Thailand ....serious question

[sidjameson]

Thailand and SE Asia has plenty of available young women. Many men, shout out to Britman2 for heading the charge, admit to physical attraction being the main component of their relationships. How do the TV members who have married a Bridget Bardot feel as over the years she turned into a Bridget Bardot? LoL

 

Do looks become unimportant? Can you magine being with a menopausal women?  Plans to trade in after x amount of years? 

 

 

[bkk6060]

I personally do not understand those that come here and marry someone about their same age.

God, if that is your goal why not stay home.

For me, 30 years younger is the minimum.  More then that is better.

[brokenbone]

for some reason, i always got attracted to woman

roughly my own age, (perhaps -5 years) regardless what stage in life.

but i suspect that is about to change,

as i havnt seen anyone above 50 attractive.

 

anyway imo if you havnt got passion, then you havnt got anything at all,

it would be senseless to live with someone that you havnt got lust for.

goes both ways so i really dont see any point innnit if any partner is 50+

Edited September 8, 2019 by brokenbone

[Puchaiyank]

This question reveals a lot about  the mindset of the poster...you do not discard a loyal companion of many years like a pair of old shoes!...????

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, sidjameson said:

Do looks become unimportant? Can you magine being with a menopausal women?

Had one in the UK, at 50 she was completely insane, mood swings between 'unbearable', 'depressed' and 'screaming mad'.

And she would go crazy over the slightest things, like I hadn't dried the dishes correctly (I'll always remember that one).

The newer Thai one is so much younger, I'm expecting to be dead before I encounter that problem again.

Maybe the new one would go bonkers at the same thing, but I'm not required to do the washing up here.

 

I expect some of you will say it was all my fault, but I haven't changed, and the new lady is so much nicer to be with.

I didn't discard No.1, she started banging the gardener, and accusing me of all sorts, then discarded me.

 

But would admit that I wouldn't put up with that sort of crazy behaviour again, I'd be off after a week now.

If you haven't experienced it for yourself, you can't imagine how hard it was.

Edited September 8, 2019 by BritManToo

[colinneil]

3 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Had one in the UK, at 50 she was completely insane, mood swings between 'unbearable', 'depressed' and 'screaming mad'.

And she would go crazy over the slightest things, like I hadn't dried the dishes correctly (I'll always remember that one).

The newer Thai one is so much younger, I'm expecting to be dead before I encounter that problem again.

Maybe the new one would go bonkers at the same thing, but I'm not required to do the washing up here.

 

I expect some of you will say it was all my fault, but I haven't changed, and the new lady is so much nicer to be with.

I didn't discard No.1, she started banging the gardener, and accusing me of all sorts, then discarded me.

 

But would admit that I wouldn't put up with that sort of crazy behaviour again, I'd be off after a week now.

Your lady in the UK was in your words..... Insane mood swings, unbearable..... Well with your attitude towards woman, her behaviour was to be expected.

[sirineou]

1 hour ago, bkk6060 said:

I personally do not understand those that come here and marry someone about their same age.

God, if that is your goal why not stay home.

For me, 30 years younger is the minimum.  More then that is better.

 There is something to be said about growing old together.

I am now married for over ten years, wife is significantly younger than me., as i get older I find physical attraction to be less important to me, but realise that the wife is not in that stage yet and make an effort to perform. Also in the time together we have developed a jenuine love , and dependance for each other. The thought of me dying  and living her along to fend for herself , distresses me greatly.  I wish we were closer in age so that I might not have to wory about some of the above things.

[CharlieH]

No one can know what another relationship was, or entails. "walk a mile in another mans shoes" springs to mind.

 

All I know is that ANY relationship of any real length of time, say 10 yrs plus, is bloody painful when it ends, regardless of fault or blame, it damn painful as it all seems such a waste of a chunk of your life that you invested in.

 

To discard someone you have had a meaningful lengthy relationship just because they got old and no longer look as attractive as they once did, is just cruel ! and shows little regard and she would be better off without such a person.Loving someone goes beyond the physical, pretty damn shallow if that's all one cares about.

 

[Tagged]

1 hour ago, bkk6060 said:

I personally do not understand those that come here and marry someone about their same age.

God, if that is your goal why not stay home.

For me, 30 years younger is the minimum.  More then that is better.

You do not choose who to love, love choose you! So a 30 year younger choosed you, must be true love ????

[Bruce Aussie Chiang Mai]

31 minutes ago, brokenbone said:

for some reason, i always got attracted to woman

roughly my own age, (perhaps -5 years) regardless what stage in life.

but i suspect that is about to change,

as i havnt seen anyone above 50 attractive.

 

anyway imo if you havnt got passion, then you havnt got anything at all,

it would be senseless to live with someone that you havnt got lust for.

goes both ways so i really dont see any point innnit if any partner is 50+

Sad to see so many guys in Thailand that don't have love in their marriage. Yep I agree a 30year younger woman unlikely to have lost for a pot belly beer drinking farang, except  the lusting for his wallet.

Glad in our marriage we actually love each other. Yep she just turned 50 and not going out to pasture.

I hope I lucky enough to see my Bella turn 60 knowing she will be beautiful to me.

 

 

 

 

[Tagged]

13 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Had one in the UK, at 50 she was completely insane, mood swings between 'unbearable', 'depressed' and 'screaming mad'.

And she would go crazy over the slightest things, like I hadn't dried the dishes correctly (I'll always remember that one).

The newer Thai one is so much younger, I'm expecting to be dead before I encounter that problem again.

Maybe the new one would go bonkers at the same thing, but I'm not required to do the washing up here.

 

I expect some of you will say it was all my fault, but I haven't changed, and the new lady is so much nicer to be with.

I didn't discard No.1, she started banging the gardener, and accusing me of all sorts, then discarded me.

 

But would admit that I wouldn't put up with that sort of crazy behaviour again, I'd be off after a week now.

If you haven't experienced it for yourself, you can't imagine how hard it was.

How is your mood? 

[Bruce Aussie Chiang Mai]

19 minutes ago, Puchaiyank said:

This question reveals a lot about  the mindset of the poster...you do not discard a loyal companion of many years like a pair of old shoes!...????

Thank you well said

[sidjameson]

Puchiakyak and Bruce, whats the age gap in your relationships? 

Im addressing my fears not exoressing my stance.

Do you play around?

[emptypockets]

2 minutes ago, sidjameson said:

Puchiakyak and Bruce, whats the age gap in your relationships? 

Im addressing my fears not exoressing my stance.

Do you play around?

N0, I've never liked golf.

[Beggar]

I never understood why you need to marry especially if you don't want kids. I have never been married and my relationships were always great. And if you didn't want anymore you could stop it at any time without legal consequences. It always was an honest relationship. And all my ex girlfriends are still good friends.

[CharlieH]

Just now, Beggar said:

I never understood why you need to marry especially if you don't want kids. I have never been married and my relationships were always great. And if you didn't want anymore you could stop it at any time without legal consequences. It always was an honest relationship. And all my ex girlfriends are still good friends.

Different attitudes ideas culture etc.

 

Most I suspect want commitment,a way of demonstrating that you have found "the one" to family and friends and that you dont want or need anyone else.

The partner can get comfort from that, knowing that that they are not being used until something else/better comes along, some cant and wont live like that with the possibility of being discarded, which is not quite so easy when you are married and all that it entails legally.

The kids aspect and family is whole new aspect and has different meaning fr different people depending again on their values and culture.

[ThaiPauly]

My Wife is 53 and I'm 65

She was 37 when I met her and I was 48.

 

She is as beautiful to me now as she was when she was 37 and I expect her to be beautiful to me till the day I die...

 

I am a very lucky man...I made a lot of sacrifices to move here to be with her, but it's all been very worthwhile.

[sirineou]

12 minutes ago, Beggar said:

I never understood why you need to marry especially if you don't want kids. I have never been married and my relationships were always great. And if you didn't want anymore you could stop it at any time without legal consequences. It always was an honest relationship. And all my ex girlfriends are still good friends.

Very difficult for one to understand ,if you don't understand

But simply explained without placing value judgments. 

Different personalities with different priorities require different systems. 

Everything is a system , that has certain parts.

Inout: what you need done

Process: how it is done

Monitoring: is what you want done being done?

Adjustment: to cold , turn the heater on

Output: things are going swimmingly 

Unforeseen consequences:Oh <deleted> I did not think of that, better call a lawyer and revisit Input.

Edited September 8, 2019 by sirineou

[BritManToo]

3 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

Different attitudes ideas culture etc.

 

Most I suspect want commitment,a way of demonstrating that you have found "the one" to family and friends and that you dont want or need anyone else.

The partner can get comfort from that, knowing that that they are not being used until something else/better comes along, some cant and wont live like that with the possibility of being discarded, which is not quite so easy when you are married and all that it entails legally.

The kids aspect and family is whole new aspect and has different meaning fr different people depending again on their values and culture.

I only ever got married to have kids.

I've no use for an infertile (or barren) woman.

Edited September 8, 2019 by BritManToo

[wotsdermatter]

51 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Had one in the UK, at 50 she was completely insane, mood swings between 'unbearable', 'depressed' and 'screaming mad'.

Di you ever think that she was going through menopause and needed to should have been seen by a doctor for hormone therapy?

'nuf sed.

[BritManToo]

delete.

No point in replying to previously banned posters.

Edited September 8, 2019 by BritManToo

[pgrahmm]

11 minutes ago, wotsdermatter said:

Di you ever think that she was going through menopause and needed to should have been seen by a doctor for hormone therapy?

'nuf sed.

Not 'nuf said, unless you've been there....

[ivor bigun]

I have lived with and been married to women younger than me in the UK,20 odd yrs ago i married my Thai wife in the UK ,after meeting her through business,she is 23 yrs younger than me ,now 50 and just gone through the menopouse with no problems,she runs and is very fit with a nice body .
But if she was fat and looked like the back of a bus i would still love her to bits,she is my soulmate and my friend and we laugh all the time .

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[timendres]

35 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

Different attitudes ideas culture etc.

 

Most I suspect want commitment,a way of demonstrating that you have found "the one" to family and friends and that you dont want or need anyone else.

The partner can get comfort from that, knowing that that they are not being used until something else/better comes along, some cant and wont live like that with the possibility of being discarded, which is not quite so easy when you are married and all that it entails legally.

The kids aspect and family is whole new aspect and has different meaning fr different people depending again on their values and culture.

"which is not quite so easy when you are married and all that it entails legally." - in other words, a hostage situation. The purpose of a marriage is to deal with the legal aspects of a relationship involving children. Without the children, it is really unnecessary.

[GinBoy2]

This is a terrible thread, that expose some of the worst of the male species.

 

Maybe I'm just an idealist, but I married my wife for love, we weren't in Thailand at the time, and are roughly the same age, she's 6 years younger than me.

 

But the idea that you treat your 'wife' like you would a car, or a TV and when it gets too old you dump it for a new model, is in my mind is morally repugnant 

[CharlieH]

16 minutes ago, timendres said:

"which is not quite so easy when you are married and all that it entails legally." - in other words, a hostage situation. The purpose of a marriage is to deal with the legal aspects of a relationship involving children. Without the children, it is really unnecessary.

And there was me thinking "the purpose"was for love and wanting to spend the rest of your lives lives together, a future together,hopefully building a family together ! Oh well, each to their own.

[bkk6060]

1 hour ago, Tagged said:

You do not choose who to love, love choose you! So a 30 year younger choosed you, must be true love ????

Well, it is truly thank you and actually almost 40 years.

Very untainted and pure. Most of the good ones are not working in a bar.

And the sex everyday is so wonderful keeps me so young.

She has the heart, mind and strength to take very good care of me.

It is true love to the utmost but do not be jealous there is someone for everyone so maybe true love is out there for you.

 

 

Edited September 8, 2019 by bkk6060

[faraday]

My lovely wife is 8 years younger than me; we are growing old together. We can moan about our aches & pains, & understand how it makes us feel. This closeness makes us love each other more.

 

Couldn't have any of that with a young 'un, & I certainly wouldn't want it.

[bkk6060]

2 minutes ago, faraday said:

My lovely wife is 8 years younger than me; we are growing old together. We can moan about our aches & pains, & understand how it makes us feel. This closeness makes us love each other more.

 

Couldn't have any of that with a young 'un, & I certainly wouldn't want it.

Sorry, actually sounds kind of depressing.

Sitting around complaining about things.

Being with someone who is young, positive and vibrant is so much better.

Keeps me thinking positive and makes me much more active.

A positive healthy attitude and support by your significant other sure goes a long way.

[Tagged]

10 minutes ago, bkk6060 said:

Well, it is truly thank you and actually almost 40 years.

Very untainted and pure. Most of the good ones are not working in a bar.

And the sex everyday is so wonderful keeps me so young.

She has the heart, mind and strength to take very good care of me.

It is true love to the utmost but do not be jealous there is someone for everyone so maybe true love is out there for you.

 

 

I have not said anything about me and my preferences, so you just assuming I do not have found love yet, or love have found me ????