Genuine friendships in Thailand.

[WineOh]

2 minutes ago, seajae said:

. Mates/friends to me are people you would do anything for, they are like family, you do tend to chose them wisely and not everyone you meet is up to it

well said mate.

true friends are hard to come by, and living out here I suppose that gets magnified ten fold.

[BritManToo]

1 minute ago, ivor bigun said:

My best mate here is my wife ,she was when we lived in the UK as well, i know a few other ex pats ,they like me are family men ,if your here as a single guy ,going to bars etc ,its a different life ,you will never meet people like us who have family here .

Never trust the woman who shares your bed.

It'll bite you in the bum in the end.

[rumak]

47 minutes ago, Ventenio said:

First, ask yourself, "why are these guys going to Thailand?"

 

1.  women

2.  escape

3.  forget

4.  money problems

5.  start over

6.  not think

7.  die

I think that should be asked for in a poll.

 

personally I only tick  3 of those boxes   ????????????

[CharlieH]

3 minutes ago, seajae said:

I know a few farangs in Thailand and I do consider a couple of them to be friends, same with a few thais. I dont go out of my way looking for friends, luckily most of my wife's friends are genuine people, she grew up with them in the south and they keep close contact with each other, they actually have made me very welcome and include me in everything when we all get together. Farangs are a different story, I dont know/meet a real lot(many you say hi too when out tend to ignore you, too up themselves) and while I have come across a couple of genuine ones I have also come across those that are drinkers, womanizers or as stated, too up themselves. I dont keep close contact with people and some farangs want to be in contact a lot,  I do tend to do my own thing with my wife and her family and dont have the need to be around others constantly. While it is great to have someone to talk to etc at times I dont have the need to do so all the time, I am fine doing my own thing. Mates/friends to me are people you would do anything for, they are like family, you do tend to chose them wisely and not everyone you meet is up to it

 

Slight variation on that "family" comment. I dont agree that friends are like family. The best saying I heard on that score was "you can choose your friends but not your family" and in my case, if they werent family I wouldnt want to know them at all !!

 

So no, being family is not necessarily a good thing, cos you are kinda stuck with them. Friends to me are better because you choose them, not stuck with them. ????

[BritManToo]

Just now, rumak said:

I think that should be asked for in a poll.

 

personally I only tick  3 of those boxes   ????????????

Me too ........ I've scored the top 3, woman, escape, forget .............. haven't died so far.

Edited April 20, 2020 by BritManToo

[rumak]

Just now, BritManToo said:

Never trust the woman who shares your bed.

It'll bite you in the bum in the end.

i thought you pay extra for that ?    or was that the whip and chains ?

[Curt1591]

1 hour ago, Liverpoolfan said:

Friendship with Thais I would say is impossible.

Although I haven't met a foreigner I would trust near my house, I have made plenty of Thai friends over the years. 

[rumak]

Just now, CharlieH said:

 

Slight variation on that "family" comment. I dont agree that friends are like family. The best saying I heard on that score was "you can choose your friends but not your family" and in my case, if they werent family I wouldnt want to know them at all !!

 

So no, being family is not necessarily a good thing, cos you are kinda stuck with them. Friends to me are better because you choose them, not stuck with them. ????

well Charlie......  you are like family to me   5555555555555

 

[CharlieH]

1 minute ago, rumak said:

well Charlie......  you are like family to me   5555555555555

 

Why, because I give you a hard time, and I am always there ?....lol...55555

[rumak]

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

Me too ........ woman, escape, forget .............. haven't died so far.

haha   great.    i chose start over instead of forget.    the other two same same  ????

[1FinickyOne]

1 hour ago, Liverpoolfan said:

living in various parts of the country over the years

like Pattaya? have you been to any places that are not tourist traps? have you made any Thai friends? 

 

my guess is that if you hang out in lady bars, the clients are there because they are looking for something different than a Liverpool fan... 

[rumak]

Just now, CharlieH said:

Why, because I give you a hard time, and I am always there ?....lol...55555

YEEEEP .   lol

[finnsk]

To find honest friends can be difficicult in Thailand.

 

I think first of all you must be in a place where there are other people with the same interests as you. If you do not like to much barlife and "p...y" then find a life outside tourist areas.

 

I live on the countryside, a quiet life with vife, animals and a little farm, I have had the luck to find a few good friends in builders merchant, also farrangs, we have most of the same interest and have some good time together. Yes and also using each other when we need a hand or a good advice about the lifes big questions, thats also a part of a good friendship I think.

 

 

Edited April 20, 2020 by finnsk

[1FinickyOne]

35 minutes ago, Liverpoolfan said:

my level of selfishness pales in comparison to the many people

you mean they complain too much about their lives when you want to be complaining about yours? 

[rumak]

I demand 100 percent sincerity and integrity..... and an IQ  over 75.

 

 all three in one person hard to find .   usually takes me about half hour to see which

traits are missing

 

more seriously:   casual friendships with some thais,  and some farangs, I have.

There is a reason that even thai people do not want to get "too friendly" with

neighbors, etc.    Maybe the same reason that farangs have with other farangs.

The initial friendliness somehow changes as we get to know each other better.

"familiarity breeds contempt"   .    BTW:  this saying originated in the 1300's !!

 

Edited April 20, 2020 by rumak

[WalkingOrders]

I have NO friends in Thailand short of my own family.

 

I have acquaintences met from playing football a bit ago...but not people I hang out with. 

 

When I travel about Thailand I roll solo, and like it that way.

 

Never one to enjoy sitting on a barstool. 

 

I am 61 maybe that has something to do with it. I never meet or feel the need to know more people as friends. I occassionally talk to other foreigners in Thailand, but rarely.

 

There are few Americans here. I live last stop of the MRT Bangkok.

Edited April 20, 2020 by WalkingOrders
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[WineOh]

20 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

 

 

So no, being family is not necessarily a good thing, cos you are kinda stuck with them. Friends to me are better because you choose them, not stuck with them. ????

I could not agree more! ???? 

[Ron jeremy]

I have a few but mostly roll solo myself, too many sketchy dudes in Asia period, myself included.  I'm like George thurogood, 

[shy coconut]

39 minutes ago, Liverpoolfan said:

I took a trial at a gym in a very reputable 5 star hotel a few months back.

Never had I seen such a miserable looking bunch of expats in all my li

 

 

I don't think you're going to make genuine friends in a hotel gym, especially

if you make instant judgements on their personalities during a trial.

 

Maybe they all took one look at you and decided for whatever reason they didn't

like you.

[OneMoreFarang]

I have a couple of real farang friends. Most of the time I know them through work.

I met some of them in bars having a drink together. But they only became my "real" friends after I worked with them.

 

And about Thai friends: I am friendly with a couple of Thais. But I don't have any real Thai friends. I think the reason is that most of us are just too different from each other. What do we rally have in common and to talk about?

 

With pretty Thai girls that is a different story. That is not so much about talking...

 

[WineOh]

4 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

 

 

With pretty Thai girls that is a different story. That is not so much about talking...

 

You a keen Chess player as well mate? ???? 

Edited April 20, 2020 by Liverpoolfan

[Matzzon]

1 hour ago, Liverpoolfan said:

Most of the people I meet are either tourists or what most people would consider 'undesirables.'

I guess no one can be same perfect like you. Maybe you just have to consider lowering your expectations regarding what you seem to see like trash under your high and mighty feets.
 

1 hour ago, Liverpoolfan said:

Friendship with Thais I would say is impossible.

To make friends with people, you would probably have to engage in talking to them. Have you tried that, or have you never bothered to learn their language? If the latter, then it looks like you are the one making yourself impossible.

[Lacessit]

41 minutes ago, EricTh said:

@Liverpoolfan

 

 

 

Unless you look like Tom Cruise or have body like Arnold Schwarzeneggar, the chances of Thai girl marrying a much older men for love and not money is near zero.

Women are attracted to power, intellect, physical good looks, and money. Score 50%.

[OneMoreFarang]

4 minutes ago, Liverpoolfan said:

You a keen Chess player as well mate? ???? 

 

[Matzzon]

18 minutes ago, WalkingOrders said:

I have NO friends in Thailand short of my own family

That explained a lot. I just guess you have to go out more. 

[Matzzon]

5 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

Women are attracted to power, intellect, physical good looks, and money. Score 50%.

Only 50%???? You surely need to expand you cash stash.

[WineOh]

7 minutes ago, Matzzon said:

I guess no one can be same perfect like you.

Yes, agreed.

it is pretty hard ????

[Kwasaki]

1 hour ago, Liverpoolfan said:

I don't know about you lot but i struggle to make any meaningful, worthwhile friends in Thailand.

Me's been here 15 years. 

Thai Friends :-

Maybe you should move I have never had a problem finding a good Thai friend I have many in fact and have found Thais like to have a falangie friend they seem quite proud to announce to other Thais that I am their friend.

 

Tourist Friends :-

Quite a few tourists get to ask me info and have 4 still in touch by facebook and 2 have come back to visit me again.

 

Falangie Friends :-

I had an Oz friend for years who lived a while in Thailand whose more like my bro and he had to cancel this year to visit me.

Have another good English motorcycle friend who lives Thailand 6 months then goes back UK to work.

A motorbike ride aways have another UK friend who comes Thailand for 4 months, also 2 German, 2 Swiss, 1 Finn, who live in Thailand, I visit them and they visit me.

[northsouthdevide]

You're living in a foreign country, and maybe don't entirely understand the culture or the language. 

The foreign population is very transient by nature, and bars in every country in the world are full of drunks. 

My advice would be for you to join a gym, or a golf club, or a running club, or a local round table. 

Even though I'm not a member of any of those places myself, I imagine you would at least meet some people who are not just here for short time, and it will give you a better pool from which to find the type of friendship that you're looking for. 

For now though, you will just have to suck it up... 

Stay home and stay safe ????

[2 is 1]

I have notice that many farang almost scared when see other farang! Want to change other side of street.

Stare at they shoe when walk bye.

Or maybe im just so F ugly dude lol

Edited April 20, 2020 by 2 is 1